Best Birthday Gift Ever

[Emma Beth]

Over this past week, my sister has been going through some tough stuff and she's been having a hard time with things.

First of all, she had a bad breakup with her boyfriend and on top of that, Thursday was her 41st Birthday.

I have been there for her and have been helping her deal with what has been going on in her life.

Yesterday I gave her a phone call and we talked longer than we ever had before.

During our conversation, I came out to her about being trans.

Her reaction was just the best. She assured me that she loved me, no matter what, and we talked a lot about what will eventually have to happen.

The level of support she gave me, in her own darkness, really amazed me.

One thing she mentioned is, that I had totally forgotten about is that when I was younger, I had regularly raided our Mothers clothing. That was something I had completely forgotten about.

The biggest thing she told me was that she had always wanted a Big Sister. When she told me that, I cried.

I shed tears of happiness, relief, joy, and release. She commented that she hadn't heard me cry in years and that she was happy to hear it after all this time.

After I stopped crying, I began to giggle. Yes, I actually giggled! She asked me what was so funny. I said, "Yesterday was your Birthday and you just told me that you always wanted a Big Sister. Well then, Happy Birthday!"

We both giggled together and we began to bond as only sisters can.

I had to share this as I am still smiling about this conversation.

Love and Hugs,
Liz

[I Am Paula]

Thanks for a lovely post. A sister's acceptance seems so important.
My sister and I were 'friendly distant' until I came out to her. Now she has the little sister she always wanted, and I have a best friend, and confidante.

[Emma Beth]

No, Paula, thank you.

Thank you for being you and helping me learn more and more about myself. Your story and the stories of others giving me the courage to look deeper into myself and to come out about what I am going through to those that matter most in my life. The courage to move forward and grow, blossom, and bloom; instead of the alternative.

I still have a long way to go. But at least I am making progress to becoming the graceful Woman that I now know I am. With the good and the bad.

[Alice B]

That really is a great story and the end result is that you did cheer her up and made a great new sister/girlfriend. Should be interesting in the future.

[Emma Beth]

Thank you Alice.

I don't think I was very convincing when I told her that in some ways, she would be the big Sister also.

I think that now matter what, she will always be my baby sister, especially in her mind; and nothing will ever change that fact.

I don't mind so much. Althoough she did understand that I might need her advice on things that, for her, are ordinary issues of living that she never gave much thought to.

[Leah Lynn]

I told my older sister in September. She kind of said that, as usual, I was the last to know. She has been the most accepting. Glad to hear it went well for you.

Big Sisters Rock!!!!

Leah

[Emma Beth]

Thank you Leah.

It feels kind of strange, this change. In some ways things feel the same as they always have been between us, but they are completely different at the same time. I love the feeling of how things are now, though, and everything looks like they are continuing to grow like they should.

The best thing about coming out to her is if I need to get away from everything and be my true self, I now have a safe haven I can go to.

Although it might be interesting to see my youngest Nephews reaction if he doesn't know before then why I'm dressed in one of my favorite night gowns, my hair is up; and why his Mom, his Sister, and I are doing our nails together with Steel Magnolias playing, one of my favorite movies by the way.

[Leah Lynn]

Although it might be interesting to see my youngest Nephews reaction if he doesn't know before then why I'm dressed in one of my favorite night gowns, my hair is up; and why his Mom, his Sister, and I are doing our nails together with Steel Magnolias playing, one of my favorite movies by the way.

Now that sounds like a fun Saturday night!

Hugs,

Leah

[Emma Beth]

Yeah, it does sound like the best Saturday night.

I almost forgot about the wine and or the Ben & Jerry's.

[Penny2325]

Such a lovely story! I am so happy for you :)

[Rachel Smith]

It is refreshing to hear about acceptance from our family members.

[Emma Beth]

Thank you Penny and Rachel.

So far I'm batting 100. I have my fingers crossed that the trend continues.

One of the things that still has me floored is that the news really didn't shock or surprise her in any way, and she also surprised me by turning to the internet to help her understand some of it, while we were on the phone. As a result I really didn't have to answer too many questions of the usual variety. Of course she had some, mostly they were about how I felt and my wife. She also told me to not think about things that are too far away and focus on the here and now for the time being.

In the short time I have been out to my Baby Sister, she has become my anchor.

[gennee]

Thank you for sharing a wonderful and positive story, Elizabeth. Support from family members is so important. Your sister and you were touched immensely, I'm sure.

:thumbsup:

[Emma Beth]

Genee you're welcome and thank you.

You make an important point. The support of family is so important, and yes we both were touched deeper than we both probably realize at this time.

The funny thing is; at first we were the typical brother and sister, we bickered, and fought when we were growing up. Then when I left home for the military, our relationship grew and we discovered that we could talk like adults and actually get along and trust each other. Now our relationship will grow in a different direction than we could have imagined when we were growing up. Into the relationship of sisters.

It feels kind of strange to say that at the moment. I can see my self as a sister, and I can see my sister as the same sister I have always had, but it feels different now at the same time.

I hope I'm making sense with this.