confused

[junemay]

A crossdresser friend of mine is confused whether she had to transition (SRS etc), coz she is scared about coming out open , She is married and got a child ...any advice I can give her?

[Taylor186]

When it comes to transition, no one makes you do it.

[Stephanie Miller]

I assume the "had" was a typo and meant to be "has". That being the case then No there is no rules in the CD manual that say's one must transition. There is also a sub-paragraph that states nobody has to bring it out in the open either. She can enjoy being herself as secluded or as open as one wishes. Travel life at their own speed with this and enjoy.
She might find it helpful as well as enjoyable to be a member on this forum as well. Invite her in.

[junemay]

yes its a typo :) sorry

[Jenniferathome]

cross dressers don't transition, they are cross dressers. Transgendered people may choose to transition because they are in the wrong physical body. Is that your friend's case?

[Barbra P]

I agree with Jennifer here. Transsexuals transition not cross dressers. There are undoubtedly cross dressers who are also TS but most cross dressers are just cross dressers and have absolutely no desire to transition. Even men who are TS may not fully transition they may begin HRT (Hormone Replacement Therapy) but never have SRS (Sex Reassignment Surgery). In some cases they may not even do HRT, deciding instead to just live and dress as a woman full time without any medical intervention at all.

As for coming out, there is no reason why a cross dresser would need to transition. There are hundreds, if not thousands, od cross dressers here on the forum who are “out” to varying degrees who have not transitioned and have absolutely no intention of ever transitioning. But out can mean different things to different people, it might mean that their Wife or SO knows about their cross dressing, or it might mean that they go out in public while cross dressing. Some of us are out and about and feel comfortable out in public dressed as a woman. For others cross dressing is a private affair with no intention of ever going out of the safety of the home.

If your friend has thoughts of transitioning then there may be underlying feelings other than simply cross dressing. Your friend may be having feelings that they are trapped in the wrong body, that they born with a male body but they should have been born female and their life will never be right until that oversight is corrected. Your friend may benefit from talking to a Therapist or Doctor (Psychiatrist) trained to deal with gender issues who might be able to help your friend determine just where they belong under the Transgender Umbrella.

[arbon]

Tell her to get out more, a lot, as much as she can to see if it really feels right for her to live as a woman. And go to TS support group to see if she could really stomach what transition would do to her life.

[Lorileah]

there are no requirements to transition. Only TSs would even consider it, so if your friend is a crossdresse4r...then the answer is 100% NO