Funny Little Conversation

[AndreaCD1963]

Last night, my SO, her 19 y/o daughter (my step daughter) and I were watching TV together, when I starting scratching an itch on my neck ... the ensuing brief conversation I thought was interesting ...

HER : What are you doing?
ME : I'm scratching an itch, what did you think I was doing?
HER : I thought maybe you were looking for your non-existent adams apple - the one that disappeared when you turned into a girl.

Hmmm ... maybe she knows more than my SO and I think she does.

She's made other comments recently along the same lines - most noticeably when she was cutting my hair (she's an apprentice stylist), and she asked if I wanted it all off or should she leave it looking like girls hair (it's not really all that long).

[DanielleLee]

I think your secret is out. Probably time for you and your SO to sit down and speak with her about it. Good Luck!

[Jamie Lynn]

I agree with Danielle. At least you'll know where she stands.

[Krististeph]

Kids, especially teen girls, notice way more about your appearance than you think, period. And teenagers (girls more so than boys based on info gathered from numerous sources) will snoop! Toss in the stepdaughter thing, and she might even be more inclined.

You don't necessarily need to come out to her, but you can respond to her comments and such neutrally in a way that says you know that she knows. Being nice and relaxed about it will make her more comfortable too.
But do not think for a second she has not picked up on it, I'll give you 10:1 odds she does.

[Jorja]

So be honest with your step daughter and tell her next time to leave you hair girly. She knows, get over it.

[Gillian Gigs]

If there is anyone in this world outside of my wife, who knows, the first person to figure out my CDing, would be my daughter. Nothing, and I mean nothing gets past her. Detail just doesn't get missed with her. By way of example, I was once wearing a cami, a t-shirt and a shirt, and she noticed the cami lines through both of the other tops. If I make any changes, she is the first to notice, so I would be prone to think that your step daughter already has her suspicions. The question is, "do you leave sleeping dog to sleep", I would wait for more evidence to confirm, or deny the whole thing.

[Karren H]

Time for a talk! Your all adults....

[Chickhe]

She has no idea...she is making what she believes to be a sarcastic comment on the observation that you look different than she does...They may have talked about CDer where she works and just referencing that... funny part is she got it right probably without knowing!

[Rachelakld]

My (step) daughters know as does mine (all teens), the problem now is trying to find who's room makeup and clothes are in.
They are cool with it and help select new tops and dresses for me.
So ya, think maybe it's time to share your life with those you love?

[Beverley Sims]

Andrea,
She is digging and in a pleasant way.
Maybe she get's the big reveal one day.:)

[Teresa]

If your partner is Ok with your cding why should her daughter have a problem besides in her occupation she will come across blurred lines which she will have to deal with. You never know you may gain far more than you think you could lose.

[Marcelle]

Yup . . . cat is out of the bag on this one. My nieces are all intelligent young women and they guessed about aunt Isha before I told them based solely on slight changes to appearance, mannerisms and speech.

I suspect she knows and is just fishing for either "you caught me" or perhaps she believes her mom doesn't know and she is trying to out you. If you have a good relationship with your stepdaughter I suspect it is the first, if not then most likely the second. It might be time to think about having that talk if you and your wife are comfortable with it.

Hugs ... BTW hello from another Canadian gal.

Isha

[AndreaCD1963]

Thanks for all the suggestions / advice ladies. Oh, and sorry for the delayed response - haven't been able to get on here much over the holidays.

My SO and I talked about it over the holidays - and decided to let things lay for a while. Thinking she's probably just being a "smart ass" teen. Personally, I'm not too worried even if she HAS figured it out, or thinks she has. But my SO is still concerned about her 13 yr old son - not so much about him finding out BUT more about the potential (in her mind) issues with her ex (who is always looking for an excuse/reason to say she's a bad mom and the kids should be with him).

So for now, I'm staying in the closet as far as both kids are concerned.

Hi Isha! :-)