When you're CDing out in public, and nature calls, which bathroom do you go in?

[FemmeElastique]

When you're CDing out in public, and nature calls, which bathroom do you go in?

Men or Women?

This has probably been asked 1000 times, but in the future I plan to go out and CD more, and I just wanna know which one. Most of the time when I go out in public as a CD, I go to bars or clubs, and there's usually no separate toilet for men and women. But what about when you go to public places?

[gautier_nikolai]

I would go to the ladies' here in the UK here.I'm not sure how much gender discrimination legislation we have here (I'm not out en femme enough-i should check it out really!) but if I am in a safe daytime environment I would use the ladies'.

I would also use the disabled/unisex facility if I was only going to be very quick and no disabled person was around.I know that's slightly naughty.I would never use a disabled parking bay!

[Suzanne F]

Women's of course!
Suzanne

[PretzelGirl]

Hmmm... I am not sure of the laws and acceptance level of Poland. So remember, you are seeing posts here mostly of the US, England, Canada, and Australia. Is the Polish society roughly accepting?

But the easier answer if you are not sure is to prepare yourself before leaving, don't drink a lot, and find unisex restrooms so you can't be wrong. I have been using the ladies room myself, but I don't know that it work in Poland. So maybe you are about to educate us (well at least me) some.

[Cynthia Anne]

Ladies room it is for me!

[Nicole_]

I've only been dressed in public a few times that were outside of a LGBT bar/ club or resort. In those places it's whichever bathroom is closest, lol. I have looked for the unisex or family bathrooms, but won't go in if someone's in the family bathroom. If in doubt I peek in the men's room (I really don't think I'm fooling a lot of people when I'm dressed) if no one's inside I will go to a stall.

[Candice Mae]

I think it would cause more problems for me if I used the mens room, so I have always used the ladies. Have gotten a few weird looks in my earlier days but nothing came of it.

[Eryn]

Yes, the question is asked often and the answer depends upon your situation. Here in California I'd never dream of using anything other than the Women's room when dressed. An apparent woman in the Men's room would be stranger than a slightly mannish woman using the Womens'.

That said, I try to be as unobtrusive as possible. If there is anyone else in the room I just walk in, do my business, wash my hands, and leave. Even if they suspect that I'm not a GG, if I'm leaving they aren't likely to object.

[Genny B]

The one time I did this I don't think going in the mens room was the mistake. I thing the problem was that I used a urinal...

;^P
Genny B

[Janet Bern]

When dressed I will always use the ladies room, wash my hands and leave.
I am tall but I feel like I blend in as a woman.

[carhill2mn]

If I am presenting as a woman I use the women's room.

[Vickie_CDTV]

If at all possible, a unisex or single user restroom, and if it is not possible only then a multi-user female restroom. I really do not want to use a multi-user female restroom, if I can avoid it.

Check out safe2pee.org, I believe they have safe restrooms listed for Poland.

[Rachelakld]

always the ladies, reckon using the mens might be like asking for trouble

[Desirae]

It's definitely a state by state thing. Most states haven't addressed this, yet. They can't even come to a consensus on gay marriage. You could try emailing your state's Attorney General and see what they say. It's easier if you only frequent "trans-friendly" or gay-friendly places as those establishments have usually made accommodations of some sort.

A LONG time ago I was out drinking in a bar and I was really, really buzzed. So much that I couldn't see straight. I was with my girlfriend at the time and had to go to the bathroom. My vision was so blurry that I somehow wandered into the woman's bathroom. And no it didn't phase me that there were no urinals in there. When I exited, there was a guy waiting for me and he was going to whip my ass. Evidently, his girlfriend had been in there and saw me and had said something to him when she came out. Now, I can take care of myself, but I was really blitzed and I probably would have lost any altercation with just about anyone at that time. I did some fast talking and got out of it.

All I'm saying is that if you use a woman's bathroom in a public place, there are other things to consider besides the GG women who use them. Their husbands or boyfriends may not take too kindly to a man being in the woman's bathroom with their wives or girlfriends. And if its in a drinking venue, then we all know what a little alcohol can do to some people, don't we (makes some want to fight)?

[FemmeElastique]

When I go out dressed up here in Poland, it's always to a bar, club, or private party. The vast majority of bars here have unisex bathrooms, so it was never a problem. Also, at LGBT venues it doesn't matter which one you go in! I do remember being out somewhere, a bar or club, and I went to use the ladies room.
People tell me that Poland is a conservative country, and in some ways, it is. But I find the liberal elements here and I surround myself with liberal people and for me it's more liberal. In fact, it's more liberal here than anywhere that I've been in America. So, this is "conservative" for Europe, but more liberal than the US.
Sue, I drink a lot. I can't not do it! LOL

What I wanted to get from your answers is your experience in establishments without unisex bathrooms. So, from what I get, I should probably just opt to use the ladies room when I'm presented with the choice.



Hmmm... I am not sure of the laws and acceptance level of Poland. So remember, you are seeing posts here mostly of the US, England, Canada, and Australia. Is the Polish society roughly accepting?

But the easier answer if you are not sure is to prepare yourself before leaving, don't drink a lot, and find unisex restrooms so you can't be wrong. I have been using the ladies room myself, but I don't know that it work in Poland. So maybe you are about to educate us (well at least me) some.

[DebbieL]

Use the Ladies!

If you are presenting as female, and you are passing at all, then using the ladies might lead to a few seconds of awkwardness, but at worst, only one or two women would even notice.
Obviously, you need to be sensitive - no peeping, no flashing, and no flirting. When you enter, look for the first available stall, enter it, lock the door, SIT DOWN, and do your business.
When done, ALWAYS wash your hands, and leave as quickly as you can. Do NOT spent time doing make-up or primping, especially in the public area.
And if you must look at a woman, ALWAYS look at her eyes, never at her breasts or legs. If you get a compliment, then you can return one, complement a choice she has made.

The problem with using the men's room is not what might happen while you are in the restroom, the problem is what happens when you are seen coming out. Prior to entering, you might have passed as a woman, but when you leave the boy's room, anyone who sees you will realize what you are, and may be less than discreet about it. You might as well well wear a neon sign. The second problem is that once they have figured out that you are a guy in a dress, they make make a bunch of other incorrect assumptions as well as becoming offended.

Obviously, it's best if you don't wait until you are in crisis. When you enter a new venue, see if you can locate a restroom that is further away from the crowd. You might even want to see if there are genderless restrooms such as family or handicapped if you are really concerned. You should also try to plan when you go. Waiting until intermission of a play or the end of a movie or similar event, when there will be long lines is probably a bad idea. Either do your business before the "big break" or make sure you can hold it long enough for the line to clear out.

After a while, you will gain experience and confidence and will even be comfortable waiting in lines if necessary. These suggestions are for those who are relatively new to public cross-dressing.

[Ceri Anne]

I am in the US, and laws vary by state, but I always use the restroom for the gender I am presenting in.

[PaulaQ]

I use the ladies room. But that's as it should be - I'm a girl.

[Marcelle]

I am from Canada and use the rest room of the gender I am presenting. While I do not pass I do blend and a woman entering the men's restroom will most likely draw a few curious onlookers.

Now I do exercise discretion and will opt for a unisex restroom if one is available. In addition, I would most likely not use the ladies restroom in a crowded food court or highway rest sotp where I am most likely to run into errand teen girls who may complain to angry fathers, brothers, or boyfriends. However, if I am in a restaurant I will enter the restroom, do my business and move on. The advice that DebbieL provided is spot on when it comes to using the ladies.

Hugs

Isha

[Karen__Starr]

Like the majority of replies, I always use the woman's restroom and have not used a male restroom in over five years. I think it would call more attention using the men's restroom if you are presenting yourself as female.

[josrphine]

Hi Ponye, Yes i am Polish too Kapusta last name. Being that I look like a women I do us the women's rm

Hi also I dress so much as a women that I some times for get an walk into a ladies rm as a male, a real about face fast
JO

[stephNE]

When presenting as a woman, I always use the women's room.

[Lexi Moralas]

I try to avoid using the restroom , but if needed and there is no unisex available , I use the ladies room.
Just make sure you sit ! Lol

[Marcelle]

LOL . . . Good point Lexi . . . if you are going to use the ladies room, it will definitely help if you make sure your feet are pointing the correct direction as viewed from below the stall door. :)

[Jillian Faith]

Definitely the Ladies

[wanagione]

always the gender i'm presenting, so always the ladies room

[BillieJoEllen]

I don't go out much anymore but when I do I use the restroom as the sex I am presenting as.

[Beverley Sims]

The ladies or unisex, that is how I am presenting.

[Jaymees22]

Depends!

[Being Paige]

definately the ladies room.

[AmyGaleRT]

Here in Colorado, we have laws stating that anyone providing gender-segregated facilities such as restrooms or dressing rooms must allow people to use them based on their presented gender. When I am dressed as Amy, then, I have the right to use the ladies' room, and that's what I do.

(Of course, I use common sense...I go in, sit down to do my business, and leave. When in the territory of ladies, be a lady. :) )

- Amy

[Helen Grandeis]

I have always used the ladies room when presenting as a lady; however, I would avoid lines and always look for a single occupancy option. The best advice is to walk in, go straight to the stall, clean the seat, SIT DOWN, do you business, wash your hands and leave. Recently I entered an empty ladies rest stop, as I sat down it filled up, by the time I was done it was empty again. Later, I lost my nerve and stopped at a totally empty motel (2 pm) walked across the empty lobby to the locking restroom. I never saw the desk clerk.

[Leslie Langford]

I find that many of the members here agonize waaaay too much over this issue when the obvious answer is to just use the restroom that corresponds to the way you are presenting yourself as. I am, of course, assuming here that those of us who are going out en femme are trying to look and act as lady-like as possible so as not to draw any unwanted attention to themselves. And yes, even if one does display somewhat manly features, people will still likely give you the benefit of the doubt and probably assume that you are either a mannish-looking woman or else a "butch" lesbian. It is very unlikely that someone is actually going to take the chance of lifting up your skirt or dress to find out for themselves what really lies beneath ;).

Of course, if you're the type who likes to be "in your face" with respect to John Q. Public and deliberately dresses as a woman from the neck down but is "all man" from the neck up (bonus points if you are sporting a full beard or a moustache as well), then all bets are off.

What we often forget is that the general public usually doesn't have the same hang-ups that we have when it comes to gendered restrooms. How often have you seen a mother take her young son into the ladies' room when she had no other option, or a father take his young daughter into his restroom? No one ever bats an eye.

And we all know that when it comes to sporting events, rock concerts, or the like, as soon as it is time for the intermission, the line-up for the ladies' washroom quickly extends around the block. It is then not uncommon to see one of them make a bee-line for the men's restroom in total desperation, 'cuz when ya gotta go, ya gotta go... ;) :doh: :heehee:

[NathalieX66]

Never had a problem with the ladies room......ever.

[Cheryl T]

When in Rome as the saying goes.
I'd much prefer to be read by the ladies and risk a few screams than be taunted or worse by some testosterone laden lad looking to get on YouTube...

[Lynn Marie]

Here we go to the restroom applicable to how we are presenting. It is only courteous to try to be as low key as possible so as to not embarrass the ladies unfamiliar with the custom. No one wants some poor woman running out of the restroom screaming "there's a man in there"!

[Karmen]

I don't go out that often and when I go, it's late in the evening, so I avoid using the restroom, unless it is really necessary. In those cases, I used the ladies room at the train station or at car park houses. I never enter bars or night clubs dressed as a woman, because I don't pass when seen from close distance and there are too many people that can see me there.

[sabrinaedwards]

I always use the bathroom that is appropriate for the clothes I am wearing. Of course I really enjoy using the "Ladies Room" while crossdressed. I have never had an issue where this is concerned.
Love, Sabrina

[Diane Edwards]

I really haven't thought about it much, but I have always used the Ladies room. Then again when I'm out I am usually with one of my GG friends and when one of us needs to use the loo we all go together. I can't recall any time when I've been out as Diane that I haven't used it when the need was there.

[natcrys]

When I first started going out.. I was quite hesitant.. but I figured I would get more funny looks going into the men's room than vice versa. So, these days, I don't even pay attention to it.. somehow, it goes automatically. If I'm dressed in boy-mode.. I will go the room marked with an M.

If I'm in heels.. I'll head toward the F (or V or W depending on the country). :P

[candykowal]

Girls room! Having said that...I make sure I have no fluids for 2 hours before I dress, and both tanks are empty before I leave.
If I am in public and in female mode, I feel I am dressed appropriately for the door posting a skirted figure!

[Tracii G]

I'll be blunt here and ask why in the world would you go in the mens room when you are dressed as a woman? Think about it 3 or 4 guys in there and you walk in dressed as a woman.
Talk about a dumb thing to do, come on really?

[Mags]

I have always used the ladies room. Stood in line once, no one paid any attention.

[Rachel Morley]

Here in California I'd never dream of using anything other than the Women's room when dressed. An apparent woman in the Men's room would be stranger than a slightly mannish woman using the Womens'
I agree with Eryn. I always use the womens' restroom.

[Allison_Leslie]

yeah empty your bladder of all liquids and solids.. and dont drink too much or nothing at all 2 hours or so before going out dressed. Just go straight into the women's room and into a stall and do your business.. SITTING DOWN of course.. don't blow that cover for all you're worth! :) Come back out and just act natural.. whatever you do when dressed, do NOT approach that men's room .. they are FAR MORE LIKELY to cause a scene or make a deal out of it than any woman would. . there are bitches and they do exist, but women will cause you far fewer problems in this department then men ever will.

if you have an adam's apple throw that scarf on.

[Rachel_B]

The first time I used the women's restroom was during a semester in college. I'm not going to lie, while I was wearing women's clothes, I didn't look female but one day I was in one drying my hands, a GG walked in and went straight to a stall not saying anything. When I do present myself as female, I head straight to the women's restroom. I believe I have had a few look at me but didn't say anything. The only real issue I have in the women's restroom however is actually using it if there are GG in there or if one comes in before I get the chance to start going. I'll admit that I have a hard time using public restrooms as a male or female and it took me along time to get used to the men's, its like doing it all over again dressed as a female.

[Cheryl T]

The ladies room of course!
I'd prefer to have a difficulty there (hasn't happened yet) then to be surrounded by T-filled homophobes out to show their manliness.

[Rhonda Jean]

Here's a twist. I was at a support group meeting (one of only two I've ever been to) that was held at a gay bar. The owners of the bar had asked that all trannies use the men's room. This group had monthly meetings there and the owners were very nice to us. It's not like they had a problem with us. I have no idea why they had requested that we use them men's room. Actually, I used the ladies room anyway.

I try like heck to not have to use the restroom in public at all. I also try to make a mental note of where the nearest Walmart is. They've always got family restrooms. Just got to leave in time to get there, or home, or to your hotel.

[Kate Simmons]

"Nature" has the uncanny knack of not wanting to wait, so my answer has to be the closest one. :battingeyelashes::)