Favorite Compliments

[Kimberly Kael]

We have a few threads going with common phrases that don't seem to go over well ("you're so brave" and "if it makes you happy.") What about the converse? Aside from compliments on appearance or fashion sense, what have been your favorite comments from others following your transition?

For me, it came a few months after I had transitioned on the job. A fellow I had previously worked with asked to have a chat with me after lunch, and went into a lot of depth regarding another job he was considering. It was a big life change he was considering, so I asked whether that was why he thought about asking my opinion. He stated simply that "no, it's because you're one of the sanest people I know."

Considering how much I worried about people questioning my judgement when I chose to transition? This meant the world to me and I still remember it fondly.

[Angela Campbell]

It has to be when my Mother told a waitress that her daughter has a really good style in clothes.

[Karen__Starr]

Been told many times I had excellent taste in how I dressed and coordinated clothing.

[Susanna66]

Mine so Far. A friend who is transitioning and I went out for lunch and the waitress told me I had great makeup and clothes, and that I looked stunning. I almost cried. She has actually seen me many times before as a guy with my wife. It really amazing sometimes how wonderful and accepting people can be.

[kimdl93]

Oh gosh, I think the nicest thing anyone has said was from a friend meeting me en femme for the first time. We talked for a coupe of hours and just before I left she said, "you're the same person you always have been, just with nicer outfits!"

[I Am Paula]

Always, my favorite compliment is a variation on:
You look so (pick one) at ease, comfortable, at home, natural, in your new (pick another) skin, persona, self.
I also like it when people say I look just like my sister. I find her very pretty.

[Rianna Humble]

Mine has to be from one of the local papers when they reported my transition
meeting Rianna is almost exactly the same as meeting Robert – she is shy, polite, self-deprecating and quick to smile.

This was definitely intended to be a positive compliment.

My 2nd favourite was when a friend was discussing something that men do that she will never understand then threw in
Of course, you never were a man

[Foxglove]

Once when I met a woman, she asked me my name and then said, "Such a pretty name for such a pretty lady!" That one kept me going for at least a month. As a matter of fact, it still keeps me going whenever I remember it.

[Kaitlyn Michele]

mine was at the market when a woman came up to me and commented that she wished her daughter was here to see me....at first I thought OH CRAP>....

but she went on clasp my hand, and told me that she wants her daughter to see how elegant and tall I am ....that my posture and confidence are so powerful and feminine!!!! LOL!!!!!
she went on and on about me!!!

her daughter is 6'2 as well...and apparently this girl slouches around according to her mom...


and lil old me is mom's role model for her!!!!
to be honest, that made a big impression on me.

[Kimberly Kael]

My 2nd favourite was when a friend was discussing something that men do that she will never understand then threw in "Of course, you never were a man"

That's lovely. Some of the most impactful statements come in unexpected forms.


her daughter is 6'2 as well...and apparently this girl slouches around according to her mom...
and lil old me is mom's role model for her!!!!
to be honest, that made a big impression on me.

I bet! I'm glad you carry yourself with so much confidence. I have a 6'3" friend who obviously feels really self-conscious about her height, but when she stands up straight she's imposingly lovely. I guess growing up as a tall girl has all kinds of social disadvantages, and of course she shares the same challenges buying clothes as many here. Being cisgender is no guarantee of anything being available in her size.

[mary something]

I loved your example Kimberly! When someone in real life asks our opinion it's really the best compliment we can get.

[DeeDee1974]

Probably when my Dad told me he's always been proud of me; especially the past couple of years. "That you are really starting to move your life in a great direction".

I had always felt like a disappointment.

[lingerieLiz]

The first time I was told that I was pretty while dressed. Had been told that I would make a pretty girl, but after my landlady a beautician did my hair and makeup she looked at me and said you are so pretty as a girl. My friend who came to pick me up couldn't believe it either. First time my aunt who was beautiful, saw me she said I was as pretty as any of the women in my family. I started dressing and going out for several years after that.

[BOBBI G.]

Mine,so far, was unspoken. I went to the midnight service where I attend church, looking as good as I ever had, and I sat in the very back. As the church filled a family moved into the roe (pew) in front of me and their overflow in mine. There was a relative new born being passed around, and her ended up next to me. This child had been staring at me ever since they sat down, and he reached his arm out as the young are prone to do. I placed my hand up to give a small wave and he grabbed my finger in a death grip and gave me the biggest smile I had ever seen. His act of total human acceptance almost put tears in my eyes. That is the greatest compliment I could have ever hoped for.

Bobbi

[MarciManseau]

I think the best one I've heard was from a really cute guy when we were in a club. He came over to me, and the first thing he said to me was, "From the waist down, you should be cast in bronze. You have the best ass and legs I've ever seen." That earned him a few kisses after we danced.

[Megan72]

For me, thus far, it was the other day when I was talking to a good GG friend I have known since high school. She asked if she could call me Meg's because she has a strange need to shorten everyone's name. I of coarse told her she could, which has grown to be pretty much what all my friends now call me. It seems so small but after that she told me that she now sees and thinks of me as a woman rather than the guy she has known for 20 years. Her simple act of shortening my name showed so much acceptance of me to me and everyone else I know that I broke down an cried that afternoon.

[Ann Louise]

I was getting my nails done in a small shop by a sweet Vietnamese young lady early last week before returning to work, and she couldn't stop smiling at me and telling me how nice my skin was in very halting English. I told her thank you so much, but do you know I'm 60 years old? She shocked me back by saying "oh no! You look in your 40's." And then she says, "I 37 (she looked 19). I got two kids, you got any babies when you younger?" Oh my, talk about making my day, the ultimate transwoman's compliment.