Just an update

[Billiejosehine]

This past month has been quite interesting when it comes to my relationship with my SO. But it seems that with all that she knows about me now; she has backed off a bit and is in a more loving mood then before. Despite the fact that I would like to transition in the near future; I am happy that things are getting better between us. Though that can change in a heartbeat. So for now, I am going to take things slowly and see what transpires as I continue to dress en feminine.
The great thing is that I go work later then my SO and she takes the kids to school. So I get a couple hours of private time to fully dress before I go off to work. Although as of right now when I go out in public the only male attire I have on is a shirt and jacket. I have worn some women's pants around my SO and she has not made a comment, which is good. I did dress in male mode for a couple of days during Christmas and I felt quite odd wearing my mans clothes.

[RADER]

I have been wearing women's jeans for about 3 years now. They are the only pants I wear
on a regular basis. Yes I have man's pants I must wear with my suit jacket, but thank God
that is only a few times a year.
Rader

[Beverley Sims]

Billie,
You are just getting your SO to accept what you do now.
Transitioning is not something you fling around and say well that's the next step.
If you wish to continue a relationship with your SO and have a life together consider the next step carefully.
For now just continue your slow advancement at dressing.

I just read, there are children involved, so consider their future also.

[Marcelle]

Hi Billejo,

When you say you want to transition do you mean gender reassignment? If so, this is a big step and while your SO may be beginning to accept your CDing ways, coming down the line later with "oh by the way I want to be a woman" is quite a tangent from your current path. I get that some gals may start off CD then realize they are TS but this happens over time, but you are saying you know right now that you are TS (if I read your post correctly). Have you discussed this revelation with a Gender Identity therapist to ensure this is the right path for you . . . specifically how do you know you are TS?

If you are positive you are TS, I would say this is a conversation you need to have with your SO sooner than later. She is preparing to invest in your future together with you as a "guy" who dresses occasionally as a "girl" . . . TS is whole different playing field IMHO.

Hugs

Isha

[kimdl93]

I have to echo Isha's comments. Billie Jo, from what you've posted here, I think you're a long ways from being able to decide if transition is right for you... You see to have a bit of a fantasy about transition and being TS. Its not a walk in the park and its not about getting to dress pretty. And if you feel comfortable in your old male clothes, then its unlikely that you are TS. Its ok. You can be transgendered. You can incorporate dressing and even living as a woman into your life. If that proves unsatisfactory, the other more extreme and difficult path is still available to you.

I do strongly advise therapy. To borrow from Dr Phil, you gotta get real.