how many people know you are a crossdresser?

[Princess29]

Other than people in the cd/tg world that you may know, how many people in your life know you crossdress and what was their reaction when they found out?


Melissa

[Violet-13]

my gf, a friend and her girlfriend. So three, it was no big problem

[AmandaJ]

I have lost count. Maybe 30-40 people know now. I haven't gotten a single negative response. Though, I will say, that everyone I have told were people that I trusted and sort of expected to support me. By doing this, I have built a safety net, or support network. There are a few hurdles I still need to cross though. For example, I have not told my Dad or Brother. I don't expect them to react with love and support considering they way they treat me/think of me as is, much less as a CDer. It's scary to think about and maybe I need to finally have a negative reaction so I can learn to cope. I am very lucky to have encountered as much support as I have.

[RenneB]

Aside from those here on this site and the ones that have seen my page, no one. In person and a long way away from town, I'm going to say about 20 or so. No one in the family or local friends though. I'm out and about but still in the closet. Does that make sense?

Renne.....

[JackieMilton]

Before Christmas may be 4 or 5. At Christmas I come out in church so add 40 or so there. then today on Facebook I come completely out. I have not any negative responses that I know of, some won't express their opinion or will cease to be my friend. since I did come completely and not hiding in the closet but going to the mall I feel like a weight has been lifted off me and I am free to be whomever I am that day.

[MzVanessa]

For me only one... I don't know that I am ready to fully open up to the world yet. I wish it was more but it isn't.

[Rachael Leigh]

If I had to count I would say 6, but only my wife prob knows Im an active CD and of course she wishes I wasn't

[AmandaJ]

I just want to add that a picture of me en femme from halloween found it's way to my facebook page, so really anyone I have friended and friends of friends have potentially seen me en femme. Obviously, some will have just passed it off as a halloween get-up, but it was taken pretty far, so some might wonder about things. I posted it actually to test the waters and gauge reactions of people in my network if I were to completely come out of the closet. I didn't get any negative responses. I've also been slowly adding CD/TG/femme related interests and liking pages. Maybe if I just slowly meld into this publicly, nobody will ever bat an eyelash.

[Gigi]

Before Christmas may be 4 or 5. At Christmas I come out in church so add 40 or so there. then today on Facebook I come completely out. I have not any negative responses that I know of, some won't express their opinion or will cease to be my friend. since I did come completely and not hiding in the closet but going to the mall I feel like a weight has been lifted off me and I am free to be whomever I am that day.

wow, that must be a really great feeling!

[lingerieLiz]

All my close friends, mother, wife, daughters, sisters, ... aunts ... etc., neighbors, shopping click (all women) and I'm sure their husbands, and the list goes on. Oh, police since I know personally several of them as friends, fire and some city staffers. I guess I'm out if you include all the SAs I come in contact with. Before we purchased here about the same people at the previous half dozen locations. Then there are all the locations where I worked.

I've been out or caught so many times that I've lost count. A few hundred is a good guess.

[Connie.Marie]

Melissa,
This is a good question.
My initial thought was... only one person knows, my wife, who had a really hostile reaction. Which has led to our dadt relationship concerning this.

As I thought more about it, it gets "iffy".
My siblings saw me dressed as young teenagers but probably believe that it stopped back then (40+ years ago). Just a "kids foolin' around" thing.
I think my Mom could guess but does not know for sure+.
Then I also remembered Brenda, a gg friend who I met at a drag show. She took me under her wing & helped me with makeup, took me out to buy the right shades, taught me how to apply it, helped me pick out clothes & shoes, showed me how they should fit.... Unfortunately she moved away after a couple months together. I wouldn't call her part of the CD/TG world but she is definitely a supporter.
Strangers I meet when I'm out clock me, but then again, they are not really in my life..
Everyone else who knows is a CDer.

Hugs, Connie Marie

[Barbara Dugan]

Only my doctor and my therapist

[Tabitha Storm]

I think about 4 or 5 people I have trusted with knowing.

Tab

[KayleeTaylor]

7 billion...

[t-girlxsophie]

A cpl dozen,mainly due to co-workers finding out by accident rather than design,my wife and stepsons,her parents,and two of her siblings.some of my family knew of it in the past but are unaware of the extent of it now.a cpl colleagues aside (sneaky,behind my back ones) everyone's Been supportive.

[Beverley Sims]

The people I knew when I was twenty all encouraged me to dress or wanted to see this guy that looked like a girl.
I was often star billing when I went out and never bought meals or drinks for myself.
So there was no reaction other than surprise that a guy could look so good.

Since leaving that circle of friends. No one other than SA's and acquaintances around the world.
They don't care they have seen it all before.

[KristinTX]

Only 1 in person for me, my psychologist and she's been great helping me sort through the growth process. Very torn with sharing with my wife and close friends, don't want to put a burden of choice on them but also know I'm potentially preventing some extra support from those who would approve and help me grow.

For now though, I'm happy to have my one :) because up until 2 years ago, it was 0.........flickr and this site are such a help to learn, share and grow.

[KaceyR]

3 outright know. Parent (mom),2 friends. Would've added 2 more friends last weekend but they were away-likely they'll be added Sat.
The friends were already tolerant/accepting of such so didn't think it'd be an issue to tell. And it wasn't. Parent was understanding.
(she's great like that :)
No coworkers.
Small social group (and only the 1 parent is direct family) so don't have a lot to really "tell" to...maybe only a couple others.
Might let one friend know..(she's part of the GL community) but she has ties to coworkers so kind of unsure on her.
and letssee... Active Members 5,960 (according to current board stats :D )
so... 5,963 at the moment? :)

Addendum (edit)
Ok...1 of the other friends also now told. So 3... The 3rd will likely tell the 4th.
And 2 more will likely be told later.

[Talisker]

SO and some of her friends who i only see a few times a year... and lots of random people all over the world, SA, hotel staff, people on street etc but will never see them again so who cares.

[jaye_cd]

Almost everyone I know on a personal level knows. A handful of coworkers do as well. While I don't blurt it out to everyone, I'm sure it's not a well hidden secret.

[Joanne f]

Every one knows , at first most people that I knew and use to speak to just cut me off ,crossed the road or just blanked me out , a lot still do that now but it was just people I knew not friends so it does not bother me , I had not spoken to my side of the family for 25 years so that was no problem, my wife's side of the family said that it would make no difference to them but then I noticed that on the odd occasion when they needed to come over you would get a phone call warning that they were coming ( never use to happen before ) the odd thing is my wife's side of the family never comes over now yet my brother who I had not spoken to for 25 yrs comes over most weeks but that is because of another story, I have a few new friends that I chat to when I see them out so things are not all bad and I keep it to androgynous looking so not to make them feel uncomfortable with me .

[Ellie52]

Me and my wife, Oh and did I tell you I'm schizophrenic so does that count as 3? Im bipolar as well so maybe 4. Actually just two me and my wife as Im not Schizophrenic or bipolar. My wife is OK with it which I thank god for as it makes it much more fun and easier to deal with. Ellie

[Laicee]

2. One friend I nervously came out to immediately replied: you look cute.
the other friend was a bit more hostile, but has since accepted Lacey, but prefers him.

[Amanda_P]

I would have to say about 10. Now out of that 10 only 3 approve and don't give me a bad time about it. Even though my wife knows and buys me things she doesn't like it. 1 of my daughters can't stop telling everyone she knows and friends have an idea but never says anything about it.

[Persephone]

Pretty much all of the people who knew me as a guy now know me as a woman, many family, nearly all of my friends from that previous period. No problems, no lost friends so far.

My spouse and I told most of our friends over dinners with the other couples, one on one, using a sort of pre-prepared template. Many had the same unexpected reaction when we told them, they would listen carefully, ask some questions, and then say, "But we're still friends, right?" Completely took us by surprise since we expected to be the ones asking that question!

Hugs,
Persephone.

[Carla_68]

The first people to find out were the locals in my very supportive LGBT bar (including 3 friends i hadn't seen for a while who were there for their own different reasons)

I let my best friend know when sat in the middle of a heavy metal festival by putting a very black dress on and saying hi to him and 3 other friends we were camping with

Let the wife know (which still hasn't gone down well 2 years later)

last 4 months I seem to have ramped up the number of people mainly my female friends first as they were cottoning on and I wanted someone to go out with this idea did end up with me being in a nightclub on New Years Eve with about 500 people

I was a bit naughty as I like to get them to meet me rather than be told about me it works fairly well but can take a few attempts (which you blame on them for not finding out sooner)

I did have 3 friends find out on my Birthday we decided it would be a good idea to go to a local wine bar (in our school disco uniforms(yes we had been preloading)) I ordered the drinks and as I was turning to pass back to my friend the 3 of them were stood there chatting to her

I'd say about 25 of my friends know now and have all been really supportive

I would classify them as my level 1's friends who would be supportive similar to strangers who have met me as I am

I haven't approached any level 2's on the subject, those that I don't see so much for socialising or that have strong opinions on various subjects and they could go either way

And I don't want to let level 3's find out, family members, work colleagues (male especially), religious moralistic types, school dads quiz team, camra guys, metal heads etc

[jennloves55]

However many members there are here.

[Kate Simmons]

Not counting CDers, probably about a dozen. Counting other CDers, more like over 1000. The reaction of the dozen ranged from "No way" to "Really Dude? " to "Cool!" :)

[Katey888]

Zero - unless you include my cat :) - oh, and obviously all you ladies here :o
In some ways I wish it was more - in other ways... I'm not sure... :thinking:
Closet Katey x

[gina bennett]

For me it's a zero, I'm not sure if I want to reveal it to friends or family.

[Bima]

What I am aware about, only one person knows for sure. I had set up a non-photo profile on Match.com as an occasional CDer. Got a couple of responses and went on a date with one woman who had nothing against it and thought I should CD more often :-). However, we were not a match in most other aspects. So I never saw her again.

I've done shopping irl, so the sales assistants could possibly guess, but they don't know for sure.

/Bima

[FeliciaCDSNJ]

Counting family and friends......three people, a friend of mine from my old job, my wife, and another friend of mine that moved to Florida. Though I think some family members suspect that there is something up with me. I try not to hide it to hard after all.

[Princess29]

I guess to answer my own question, its 12 for me in the non cd/tg world and nobody has had a problem with it (at least that they have told me)

[tylia]

My wife and everyone here for sure....maybe my neighbour across the back yard. She saw Tylia leave the house one day and she did a double take.

[CarlaWestin]

My wife, her therapist, a psychiatrist from many years ago, maybe my daughter, two divorce attorneys, the tweener (girlfriend between marriages), the ex and whoever she blabbed to.

[kimdl93]

Come to think of it, I'm not sure. My ex outed me to an indeterminate number of family, friends, coworkers and neighbors during our breakup. I'm not sure how many took it as spitefulness, but of close family members it simply confirms what several already suspected. Oddly, I didn't lose any friends or become estranged from any family members as a result.

Today I'm more open about my CDing, and am out to my wife, step daughter, several neighbors, several of my best friends and a few business associates.

[audreyinalbany]

my wife. Brother and sister. A husband and wife who we are good friends with. I think that's it.

[Dianne S]

My wife, my mother, a family counsellor and a friend of my wife's. So 4.

[Lexi Moralas]

Just 1 but I wish it was 0

[Hellen]

Only my wife.

[Dianne S]

Addendum: I forgot to answer the "What was the reaction" part:

My wife: When I told her, surprise then acceptance. Acceptance has been waning over the years as other problems in our marriage have cropped up. She resents the pleasure I get from CDing.

My mother: Surprise and a bit of shock. She's accepting but does not like to talk/think about it and gets embarrassed or nervous if I bring it up.

The family counsellor: Tried very very hard to conceal her reaction, but was clearly surprised. Does not think it's a problem.

My wife's friend: I haven't seen her since my wife told her. I think she was a bit freaked out and will likely feel uncomfortable around me. :(

[Alice Torn]

I guess about 14 people. Two have died. No family. I better leave Dodge when any of them find out, because an already troubled nightmare would have gasoline spilled on it, if they find out, or see heel marks in the linoleum, and find out. Only a few people have been real accepting. Most have been not too pleased, or downright told me to stop, because it is wrong. I am very hesitant to tell , unless i sense they are live and let live people.

[Vicky Peters]

Just my wife.

[steeve]

my SO,all my work colleagues (their all female), postman,and a few of my neighbours . My SO is fully accepting,my work colleagues also, I enjoy the meal breaks at work when we discuss female issues and other things, the postman I dont care lol ,neighbours same .

[Suzanne F]

My wife, mother and sister as far as family. My wife is supportive but we struggle with the enormity of me being transgendered. My mother and sister were surprised but loving. I am out to a lot of my close friends probably around a dozen. Everyone has been great about it except my former minister and his wife. They love me but it bothers them and is against their principles. My Friday night 12 step group only knows me as Suzanne which is great. Everyone there has been very loving. Finally, I recently went to a Saturday 12 step meeting in the city as Suzanne. There were at least 100 people at that meeting. Of course I know many ladies from here and have attended River City Gems events.
Suzanne

[NicoleScott]

Three women, friends, nothing romantic, none of whom I am in contact with any longer (we all scattered as we took jobs). My wife, she accepts. No men.

[Tina_gm]

That I am aware of, 4. Two therapists, my wife and one friend of hers.

[Jordan]

Only 2 that I have told but I think a lot more know

[S. Lisa Smith]

About 20 or so all women except for one of my sons. Two of the women finally got tired of the pink fog and have distanced themselves, but the rest it's surprised, but made no difference.

[Vanessa5]

My wife and you ladies. That is all I am comforatable with so far.

[Lacey New]

Only my friends here and maybe a few suspicious sales associates

[geek]

As far as I know, no one knows. Not sure if anyone suspects it either. I won't deny it if asked though.

[MissJoanne]

In terms of people who know my male self: therapist (only one who has seen me as both), personal trainer and one GG at work. Probably a couple of dozen others who have only ever met me as Joanne, but know that there's another me.

[beatrixmarie]

Well, wife, sister, all my friends (almost) and a good chunk of acquaintances. and 1 co-worker. Only negative reaction was my wife. I want to tell my mom but I think she's too much of a gossip to make that a good idea. I don't really talk with my extended family, but you never know...

[Nadine Spirit]

Wife, sister, & about 3 friends. My neighbors probably know by now, but I have never spoken to them about it. Oh and everyone in my life knows I do femme things like paint my nails, but they don't know the extent of it all.

No negative reactions by anyone.

[dana digs sweaters]

19, All family

[Requal Jo]

My wife is the only person who knows. She was a little taken aback and apprehensive at first but is now mellowing to and more accepting when Requal is in the house.

[bomba]

my wife knows, much to my dismay,and karen an old friend who i opened up to.she has been so great.she is the only one to see me dressed.she has helped so much.i can say that now i can truly pass as a woman.we plan on having a girls night out,i cant wait.its funny that it only takes one person who will support you to change everything.i now actually feel pretty good about myself,after years of anguish.

[MaryAnn40c]

Way too many to count...and most are fine with my crossdressing some are shocked while others are not really surprized.

[Jonithan]

So far, just my wife. She's been accepting my habits ever since our first date. CDing is low on her list of things she puts up with. BTW, she said "I do" on her own. I wish I could tell my cousin. After all it was her clothes that got me here.

Joni

[LauraOTN]

My wife. Just about all my friends. Everyone who works at my second job. Everyone who's been by my second job for about a year... I guess I'm pretty much out of the wardrobe to everyone buy my parents and extended family.

[Sissy_Michelle]

People I know personally? I would have to say about six, my best friend and his wife, a girlfriend from long ago and her best friend, we still chat about my dressing, no it wasn't the cause of our breakup, my wife's best friend and my wife.

And of course all the wonderful people here on this site.

@--}-----

[Anita122]

Nobody as far as I know, I'd like to keep it like that.

[Michelle V]

My wife, my mother in law, two of our best friends. Wish all of the people I know accepted our lifestyle so that I could come out to all but many people are critical and mean.

[Cynthia Anne]

I can name 38 people! One brother didn't like it at first, but has come around now! This does not count nurses nor nurses aids nor neighbors that drive by each day!

[Elisa Lace]

Hmmm... quite a few really. My girlfriend knows and so do 2 of my exes. Then there's a couple of female friends, a couple of male friends and I think that's about it. In total there are about 15 or so persons who know... Except for my gf and my exes, I've only received positive reactions.

[JenniferMBlack]

Good Question. Can't give an exact number or even a really good guess. Since I don't really hide it any more Anyone of my neighbors 3 I know for sure My Dad, Brother, Sister, Wife, Her sister a few friends of ours and anyone any of them have told. Plus I went to work dressed one Halloween years ago so they at least all suspected Any number of sales associates. I really don't have a clue what the number is but have had no negative reactions from anyone I know and only a few from strangers out and about mostly odd stares and some laughing.

[Princess29]

I guess I should have added to my question, what percentage of those people have seen you dressed? For me, as it stands now, 0% of those mentioned in my post have seen me dressed. Of those that are family members (4), I don't want to dress around them anyway

[grace7777]

Outside of the cd/tg community there is one person who knows that I cd, who I have more than a business relatioship with. She is a life coach who I knew before I started CDing.

There is a hotel that I have stayed at multiple times where they know me in both male and female mode. There are business's that I go to that know me as Grace, but do not know me in male mode.

[JocelynJames]

My wife is the only one that knows -I think! Oops- she told a friend so it could be a lot more!

[dandy]

Zero; unfortunately, I've tried to soft-pedal around with an extremely limited number of friends, and it just leads to negativity.

[Eryn]

My wife, who went though the turmoil experienced by most spouses when they found out.

My daughters, who were told after they had gone to college. One is tolerant but not completely comfortable and I respect her feelings. The other's reaction was more like "Cool, let's go shopping!"

My electrologist and her office manager, whose reactions were probably "We get to buy new cars!"

There are other non-CDers that I know, but my link to them is through activities that I only do dressed. They never see me in male mode and may or may not perceive me as a GG.

[Cheryl T]

2 in my life. My wife who was shocked at first but is fully supportive and a former gf who was quite "matter of fact" about it.

[chrissy111]

My wife, best friend and his wife. Also the girl who does my pedicures, and the girl who cuts my hair.

[SandraV]

Outside of the TG community, only my wife and therapist.
Starting to go out to support groups. Though not intending to come out to people, I suspect someone is bound to find out sooner or later....

[Stephanie Julianna]

MY wife, My three adult children and one son-in-law. A bunch of guys in a Gay car club I used to belong to and a few GG friends.

[Lady Catherine]

My wife, Daughter and her husband, Son, 2 of my wife's sons and 1 of her daughters. All good with it. More to follow soon. I hope.

[RebeccaLynne]

Other than people in the cd/tg world that you may know, how many people in your life know you crossdress and what was their reaction when they found out?
Melissa

My former wife, my two daughters, my current GF, my next-door neighbor, and my GF's best friend. Six total.

My ex introduced me to make-up, leg and underarm shaving, and bought me my first pair of heels. She styled my long hair prior to my military enlistment, and bought me my first (and only) wig while I was serving in that capacity. She was extremely supportive, and we had a terrific relationship as man and wife (and girlfriends) during our thirteen year marriage. Still love her for that!
My daughters have seen me dressed for Halloween: hair, make-up, shaved legs, nail polish... the whole nine yards. I've never told them I do it a lot more often than just Halloween... but I'm fairly sure they know it's more than just then..
My GF is uncomfortable with me en femme in her presence; she knows I do it a lot in my own home, and accepts that I'm going to do it there, anyway.
My neighbor has come over twice when I was dressed, and takes it in stride... a little surprised, I guess, but totally non-judgmental. We're friends, and he's cool.
My GF's best friend hasn't seen me dressed as a woman... she's said she'd be fine with it, but the opportunity has yet to present itself... I will if it does, but it's not really a priority.


I gues I should have added to my question, what percentage of those people have seen you dressed? For me, as it stands now, 0% of those mentioned in my post have seen me dressed. Of those that are family members (4), I don't want to dress around them anyway

Rough calculation, 83.325% have seen me dressed of those that know for sure that I do. I'm pretty sure they all accept me for who I am as person, regardless of how I'm attired at the moment...:)

[alwayshave]

Beside those on this forum, my SO, there are various bartenders and cab driver in my local area, and everyone at the NSA...

[Jilmac]

My Gf knows and so do some of my friends. several family members know and others suspect. I don't really what their reaction is or was, it only effects their lives and not mine.

[~Joanne~]

One, My SO. She has been nothing short of amazing about all of this. She accepts it, supports it, and not much has changed at all other than now she likes to say "I thought you were doing your thing today" lol It really wasn't much of a surprise to her at all. She knew I wore hosiery all the time, openly (to her anyways), and I had done the "female" look twice before for Halloween. So when I told her it really was no shock and wasn't as big of a deal as I thought it would be.

[Krosstina]

Just my wife so far. Reaction was she will accept it but doesnt want to see it..

[Alice B]

About two dozen and all were very open and accepting. Four have seen me dressed and six others have seen photos

[Courtney Ramona]

Just my mom, dad I'm really thinking about telling a few friends.

[Ellie52]

MY wife, My three adult children and one son-in-law. A bunch of guys in a Gay car club I used to belong to and a few GG friends.
Whats a gay car club? I often hear my son say look at that car, its gay. Is that what you mean? Or is it a car that goes the wrong way up a one way street (very deep)...Ellie

[Phydelia]

My Wife, the NSA, and anyone on Fetlife who's come across my profile, i guess... But aside from my family and some former and current co-workers, i don't really know anyone, and i certainly wouldn't tell any of them!

[Valarie]

My wife, my therapist, my best male friend, and two really cool female co-workers at my university.

[Maria in heels]

My wife knows and supports, my father, 2 stepmothers, grandparents, and my sisters all know about Maria

[Alexis.j]

Besides everyone on the internet, I think 4 people, 2 female friends, mom & therapist.
I think many more will find out this year, if they want to know or not.
Responses were generally OK. Mom doesnt fully understand, or want to understand though, I think it upsets her a bit, so I dont talk to her bout it anymore.

[Marcelle]

Currently:

1. My wife
2. My sisters
3. Some gals in my support group
4. 5 male friends
6. 8 female friends

However as I continue to grow and explore, more will know either by the secret getting out or by self-disclosure.

Hugs

Isha

[Dawn Gurl]

A GG co-worker and a GG who works for one of my companies suppliers, both have been extremely supportive, and I'm so thankful for them !!

[Brandy9]

4 My ex wife, who would have me back in a heartbeat if I agreed, my very long time lady friend, although she won't participate at all, a friend of hers, who I never see and one of my sisters who has never mentioned it since I told her six years ago

[Nicole_]

My wife and one friend who is not out about being bisexual. They are the only two who I felt safe enough to let know. I have only dressed in public when we have been far away from my hometown.

[Jaylyn]

Just my wife and ever how many there are on here. Oh the nice lady at Glamour Boutique, I ordered my forms from and heels and for some reason I just flat out told her on the phone that I love cd and needed help. She assured me she could help me and she did. It was exciting telling her I guess because she wouldn't know me from any other customer so I just felt safe with her.....

[kimmy p]

Officially there are 4 or 5 people I have told including my wife. Unofficially... well if my friends, family, and anyone who has seen my year after year Halloween costumes have any brains at all then many. Dozens in fact. Nothing but a bit of friendly teasing and a few questions come from it though.

[Laura28]

Well not counting this site , i would say about three, my wife and GG friend and once i met a another crossdresser.

[5150 Girl]

I'd say 90% of the people who know me. Of that remaining 10%, I'd have to say 75% have to at lest suspect something. I'm mostly "out" and when in drab, there are still some pretty obvious clues......

[flatlander_48]

Besides my wife, the count is 2 former co-workers, a friend and my makeover consultant. All are women. One of my former co-workers passed away last year, so the count is 4. Then again, you could add anyone who read me last Sunday at Toucan's...

[ClaireClark]

Loads - but 80% are CDs too. Those that don't know, mainly at work, probably suspect, or assume that I am gay.

Claire x

[Shirley Anne]

To my knowledge only my wife who is fully supportive.

[Allison Chaynes]

My wife, my best friend (who is male), and my therapist. The wife decided to tell a friend of hers, her sister and sister's girlfriend (who is TG).

[JessMe]

I have a half dozen friends and family members that know... with only one or two that haven't been overwhelmingly supportive.

[Sallee]

Not very many. Maybe 5 to 7. I have told others but some refused to believe it and I just didn't push the subject with a picture. Of course lots of folks know me in the CD world some know both sides

[ms.rita]

A few. Went through a "tell some people" phase. One or two I shouldn't have but most people are cool(ish).

[Rachel_B]

I know my parents have known for awhile but they really don't say anything about it.
The list for people that I have told or know: 4 psychologists(ok... one was a intern, one was a professional and the other 2 are students going to school to become a psychologist), a few SA at Victoria's Secret and some salon employees know I CD. That's all I can remember because I honestly didn't write down all the people that know

[Helen Grandeis]

My wife (unaccepting, forbidding) my encouraging therapist, an accepting surrogate daughter GG, a full time TG banker in FL, four members of this forum know my male identity.
...
Total of eight.
...
My deceased parents knew that I had worn and soiled my mother's undies at the age of ~14

[Leslie Iz]

I have been cding since I was 9 years old and the desire has never left me in the 35+ years since. It has been daunting because of the time, money, and work involved yet satisfying in ways that make me absorb whatever cost. I will say no one but the wonderful members on this forum know my secret and yet it is a secret I will take to my grave. Knowing that I can never fully be the woman inside I will continue being the man I am.

[Trish]

As far as I know, just my wife knows.

[stellatoo]

My close family, some folk I used to work with, and a few I work with now. The folk I go to Whitby with for Goth w/w. There's only 2 or 3 I wouldn't want to know though I'm not really fussed. It's not like I'm doing something strange:D

[Julie1123]

Just my girlfriend. Unless my neighbors have happened to look through certain windows at certain times. Not all the windows have drapes that I can close and some have semi-translucent drapes. Makes me worry.

[michelleddg]

Just my wife, beauty service providers (nails, hair, makeup) and the ladies here. Never had any desire at all to be out to friends, coworkers or family. Hugs, Michelle

[Ginger Jameson]

Just my wife and one friend. The friend is also CD, so coming out to her was easy.

[Margaret]

My wife with limited acceptance; my former secretary who thought it was fun and envious of my legs when she saw some photos; and one other dear GG friend who was not only accepting but provided dressing tips and shared a photo session.

[LaraPeterson]

Hi Melissa, I just ran across your thread and I had to do some thinking. . .a few months ago only a handful of people knew, maybe a dozen or so. Now, since my wife (who absolutely does not approve) knows and I told my sister (my parents are both deceased), I've been a little more forthcoming with some close friends. A few trusted coworkers have known for some time since we've traveled together with me en femme. So, I'd say of those who know me well enough to call my name and recognize me, maybe 50 or 60 people that I am aware of right now. But I'm sure since word is spreading, there are certainly more that I don't know about.

[Sometimes Steffi]

My initial answer was going to be only one -- my wife.

But then I thought about it a little longer. Two doctors know, at least three others may suspect. The three therapists I've seen know. My tailor knows. My nail techs suspect, but probably know. The MAC MA knows. All the wig ladies know. The SAs at Dress Barn know. And dozens of eBay sellers and SAs probably suspect.

Oh, my minister knows, and our marriage councelor.

[njcddresser]

Outside of a cd group I belong to, only two.

My wife and her bff

[Meg East]

My wife and my deceased mother. There was one nosey checker at Walmart who tried to make a big thing over me buying a skirt but she doesn't count.

[Erica_xox]

Everyone at work, now that I come to work dressed sometimes. My wife knows and one friend.

[Tharu]

my best friend and my wife

[stepanie]

I have no idea. There are some I've told. There are some that have "been" told. So I have no clue as to how many "know" for sure.

[FemmeElastique]

How many people know I'm a CD?

Hmmmm...let's see: All my close friends, at least one of my sisters, my niece, probably my entire program (I'm a student) as I've been to house parties with them dressed up.

[Donna Jean GA]

The only people (that I am aware of) who know outside of the CD/TG world are friends that I initially met online and then met and got to know in person. I guess I am still hesitant enough to feel like I need to "confirm" as best I can the tolerance and reliability of somebody I am considering telling while still fairly anonymous before I meet them. I know this will sound silly to many, but hopefully this will change one day and I am trying to make progress in being more open.

Donna Jean

[AmandaCDFL]

Three for me, my wife, a female friend and another male friend.

[ossian]

Therapist and my wife. And I kind of need keep it that way.

[Jenn Monk]

When I was 25 I told a girl that I had known for 10 years (that I was interested in) that I dressed. She took it pretty well, she told me that by the way I was acting she was thinking I was going to telling her something really bad. She did go on to add that our dating potential went from probably not to no way. But hey, she did end up giving me some of her old clothes so that worked out well. She did go on to tell a few people that she knew a crossdresser but she never gave a name. I was cool with that because it seemed like a pretty big secret to keep without talking about it (I couldn't do it). We lost touch for a while and 7 years later we were dating and briefly lived together, she was cool with the dressing and made me up and took me out for my only Halloween. The relationship fell apart for unrelated reasons. Fast forward 18 years and for the last couple of years we are back in touch with each other and try to meet for coffee once a month or so. In one of our talks she mentioned that she was "totally okay with the dressing" and that of all the people she had told through the years that she knows a crossdresser, none of them had seriously negative reaction, but apparently it's not a major selling point when it comes to dating.

[Adriana Moretti]

only a few people know....all girls.....maybe 5,6....maybe more ....

[cdjess]

Oh, a handful.

[Heather W]

Only 3, well maybe 4. My one sister knows and has for years, it was her stuff I started with when I was about 9 and she was 12. One of the women I work with knows as she saw me in a store buying some panties and se point blank asked me. The 3rd one is a girl I have known since junior high and is a good friend and perhaps my biggest supporter and mentor.

I said maybe 4 because the other night I was out for a drive as Heather and I swung though the drive thru at my local Starbucks. The girl working the window I have seen many times going though the drive thru in drab and when she saw me, well actually my car, she smiled and rather than saying have a nice day as she always does she said "You have fun tonight." :o

[mariehart]

Interesting question. I'm not sure how many know. For sure my brother because I told him and two of my sisters. Three women friends and a male friend whom I also told. I know he told someone else. There are others who met me as a crossdresser. But they don't count. So officially six.

But I have to assume more do know. I have four sisters, it's quite possible the other two were told and likely one of more of them told their husbands. It hasn't been mentioned so I don't know. My male friend did out me to someone else that he admits so I would find it quite possible he told others who worked with me. But as I see him rarely and the others not at all so I have no idea. In fact most of them thought me gay anyway because of my feminine ways. They always make that mistake.

My Mother might know but never mentioned it. She doesn't miss much though and it's possible.

My wife is another matter. I'm not sure. I vary back and forth with the idea she suspects and says nothing or has simply missed all the signs. I haven't told her and the issue isn't raised. One of my sisters in law may know. For one thing I wear a women's casual hoodie top quite a lot. She threw a significant glance at it and I wondered what that was about. Then one day she turned up wearing the same top. She's too intelligent not to put two and two together. But again she hasn't mentioned other than as a throwaway joke.

So the answer is I don't know for sure.

[Christine Andrews]

Within my circle, only my Mother.

A few years ago I told her but I thought I would be able to stop. I became increasingly unhappy and started again. I would be astounded if she didn't know this and part of me is afraid to wonder how much she suspects or has pieced together. She is very intelligent and she knows me too well. Don't Ask, Don't Tell I think.

I wish I had the nerve to be honest but alas I don't. I don't want to lose my friendship with her so I won't rock the boat. I always consider that unless I am coming out full time or wanting to go out in public, out would be unfair to drop this on her - I would be making myself feel better but hurting her. The closet is sufficient for now.

Outside my circle, some store staff where I shop from time to time may suspect or have me sussed - as I am not out I shop masculine - but as they know neither me nor my friends and family I am not really concerned with what they may think/suspect/know.

[Monica cd]

only girlfriend...

[Ceri Anne]

In my normal life, only my wife, son, daughter (both in 20's) brother and his wife know. Coming out was recent and not well received. I have a number of people who met me as Ceri though.

[Trishpdxcd2]

None in my daily life, only online friends.

[bethcgy]

No one yet, although I think my other half suspects and wonders. Still not quite ready to come out.
Its funny that no one has yet asked me why I'm buying female clothing and items, I've been hoping someone does.
Funnily enough although I live in a place that quite progressive for transgender acceptance most of the people around me are not quite ready for the big announcement as yet as I've been testing the waters for their views.

[Karmen]

No one of the people I know personally. At least I think so or they found out somewhere along the way and never told me that.

[Princess29]

A week or so ago, "boy me" made a post on facebook about "making 2014 my bitch" and the first step along that path took place today when I added another person to my list of people who know I am a crossdresser. This is a guy that I work with (well, he works in another area now but we work for the same company and he knows a lot of people that I know).

[MsJoann]

I've received a couple "clandestine" comments from business associates. Funny how stories get around. My gig is well under wraps..sometimes I wonder who's watching me. Be careful out there.

[Stephanie47]

Only my wife or so I believe. I may be wrong, but, nobody has come up and said "Hey, I hear you wear dresses." My wife found I was a cross dresser when I found out I was a cross dresser. When we were first married and adventurous, I wore one of her floor length nylon gowns one night. I told her I liked the feel of the fabric, which is true. n occasion we incorporated nylon gowns, garter belts and stockings into the bedroom. It was not a controlling thing in our lives. We both accepted my "fetish" to the extent we did shop together for a nightgown or two for me. Slowly I was graduating to buying a slip or two for myself. Again for the feel. When I decided to buy a sexy red Vanity Fair bra to go with the red slip, that brought on a reevaluation of things. Neither she nor I could understand why a man would wear a bra if he had nothing to stuff into it, and, that did not mean socks or tissues. :)

So, we learned together I was a cross dresser. That abruptly ended any bedroom play and brought on THAT conversation we all have at the point of discovery.

[Lygophilia]

A few associates from shopping without having to tell them. The other one but from Walgreens, even though it wasn't about clothes, just more in the womens section for beauty products. She found it interesting to where she was very helpful to where her aim was to show that there was no shame in having a feminine side.

[lovetobedani]

I'm pretty much closeted so only my online friends know.

[Jilly]

Two ex girlfriends know about my femme side, which was over 20 years ago.

One current GG (best friend) knows. I told her about Jilly about two years ago. I have worked with her for the last 15 years, in an office. We were on a works function, when after a few glasses of wine, she said to me, "Why are you always looking at at my shoes?". Call it Dutch Courage or simple drunkenness, but I just replied, "I think they're gorgeous".

The conversation then developed, and I confessed all. She texted me the day after, saying that we needed to talk, and I feared the worst.

We went for a coffee, and she told me that she wasn't bothered about Jilly, and was a little relieved that I was not an office sex pest (her words!!).

To this day, we have a monthly girls night in. She is married and her husband works shifts, so we can easily accommodate it.

[Kristy 56]

As far as I know,only my SO, a few SAs and girls at a salon.Andof course everyone herr.

[laciewhite]

everyone on this board and everyone on tvchix and tgplaymates knows i'm a cross dresser. but none of them know the 'male' version of me.

no one else (ie. people who i actually physically interact with in my daily life as a man) has the slightest clue.

[Caden Lane]

Let's see... my first wife shortly after the wedding. She was ambivilent. Uninterested. Non-participatory. That marriage ended due to an affair on her part. Second wife resented it. But we parted ways for reasons other than my dressing. There were several high school girlfriends that I told about it...but only in adulthood. They were surprised to find out that I did it while dating them in high school, although through most of high school I was in "remission" from dressing. My present girlfriend knows, but she has a wait and see attitude about it, wanting to experiment, and get a feel for it. Remains to be seen how accepting she turns out to be or how far I'll be able to get into my dream of dressing freedom.

[Glenda58]

Mother, sisters, wifes (Exes), xGF, daughters and a few friends

[erica12b]

Of the people in my life 0,

now i have had 2 or 3 gf that have been ok with it but they are not around anymore .

[Nancie64]

Not a very tough question. My SO, her sister, and my Ex. All are very or were very supportive. Oh the people in Vegas at the clubs we went to.. But they didn't really care.

[joan47]

my doctor, sister in laws, brother and sisters, everyone in my hS class (went enfeme toi reunion), several female co-workers, SA's all over, some women in my gated community (after I went to three halloween parties in a row enfemme)

[Trisha91]

No one. Not yet. Well except you all.

[aly01]

All of you. My wife who doesn't care for. SA at a couple of dress shops. Other than that no one. The sa were very open and understanding.

[FairyLink]

7 billion...

That's what I was thinking hehe :p

[Emma.M]

Only one!

[MayaMe]

For me it was 0 6 months ago. Now I am out to one friend and her SO and a relative now. To my knowledge that is all. Plus everyone here of course.

[suspender]

Other than people in the cd/tg world.....

As the thread started out...six people that have saw me dressed and my SO who prefers not to see me dressed..I have not counted the neighbors or people in bars or shops over the years and I don't think they count. My math says that is seven not counting the billion or so mentioned previously... oh crap.. I forgot my trusty K9, she has known from the start and has never outed me!

[JazmyneCD]

Firstly, my wife who is supportive of it. She was hesitant at first but doesn't care now.

There are a few others, like a GG friend with whom I've shared some dressing time with. She is also very supportive of me. There are some with whom I've casually mentioned it to but they don't know the depths of it the way my GG friend does. They have yet to see me en femme.

I'm quite sure my brother and mom know as they cleaned my room when I was living with them and they dumped all of my girly stuff. Not a word was said afterward but what brother doesn't suspect is that I know he is a CD as well. I'm sure if I ever came out to them it would not be shocking.

That's about it, though. With my deep voice and stature, the news of my CDing would probably throw anyone else for a loop.

[Samantha_Smile]

Aside from the internet?
My wife-to-be, my oldest friend, Jen and her husband Andy. Also my fiance's friends Steph and Kelly.
So five.

[Caden Lane]

Only three. Both ex-wives and my current GF.

[alice clair]

If you don't count those on this site there are 5 who know and have seen me dressed.

[natcrys]

I pretty much told all of my friends and some of their friends know.. so I guess around 50 to 60 people. Not yet fully out at my work (only a select few colleagues). And my family.. don't even get me started! :P

[laura.lapinski]

Nobody outside of the TG/CD community, and they only know through emails and some photos.

[TrishaMarie]

Too many and only a few that I wanted to find out. The ones I am ok with are, my wife, two of my wife's friends and my assistant. All are very supportive, even want to go shopping with me. The ones I have trouble with, my father-in-law and my ex-pastor.

[ne11y]

Only a select few friends, as they too say they cd also.. Family don't know. Nor does my gf.

[Daryl]

I think my bldg. suspects it, but has never said anything to me about it. Some of my online friends know, but not my family.

[Kathy Kay]

2, wife and best friend.

[CathyGal]

3. An ex from high school, an ex-coworker, and an online friend.

[Erica Anne]

My ex-sister in law ( which spread to my ex-wife I am sure and the rest of her family and friends which is okay with me). My biological sister and my wife.

Probably my neighbors, and definitely the mail lady (seems that items I buy that come through the mail tend to be opened when I get it.)

[ashley-2501]

I would say 2. thanks to a brake in SOP standard operating procedure and wafer cookies.(funny but long story) my best friend knows and my mom, I am almost 98% sure she knows. Magnificent, Observation, Mentality, ^^ that's got to be why.

[Sharon B.]

I would say six but if the truth was known there is a lot more people that know but don't say anything, mainly because they don't believe here say unless it comes out of the person's mouth.

[Vintage4sarah]

A lot know of Sarah from the Transgendered community and close CD friends. Other than that, I think that only my wife knows.

[Annaliese2010]

3 know.

One GG gf who I purposely came out to because she's beautiful and really cool. She was initially shocked not just about me being transgendered but because of how pretty I looked to her. She is either bisexual or lesbian, I'm not sure which. Anyways after a yelp of unbelieving she very quickly became accepting and even encouraging. It's apparent that she's attracted to me. Treats me more like a girfriend and prefers me this way.

Then there's another GG gf who found out by accident and usually doesn't talk about it - except if we get into an argument about unrelated stuff when she may then use it against me, thinking it's a defect that trumps all else so therefor she wins the argument by default. LOL I find that sooo cute about her. Silly girl. And actually truth be told, I think underneath it all she is turned on by the fact.

And then there's my ex who unexpectedly discovered my wardrobe one day but that's not why we got divorced. In fact for her own reasons which I have yet to fathom I suspect she likes that about me.

[~leanne~]

My wife, her best friend, a GG friend of mine and a GG colleague at work, my male friend knows I dressed for a fancy dress night out and still jokes about it but I dont think h knows as such.

[Jenni Yumiko]

Wife, ex wife, four friends, my general practioner and my boss.
I think my daughter knows too, but I haven't come out and told her, as tempted as I have been.

[BLUE ORCHID]

Hi Princess , Only my wife.

[anaissa]

Currently there are only two people who are supportive of my journey back to dressing. One is a woman with whom I had a brief romantic affair. The other is a dear male friend of mine. Both are very loving and spportive.

[sonialexis]

Had not quite seriously thought of this, I'de say my mom knows, my gf knows, and a good freind caught me and once my brother saw some real risque pictures of me on the cam, wow super awkward and painful both. My dad's suspected, He's caught me fiddling in my mom's closet. The concept of crossdressing is huge, there are so many facets to this side of ours, so if I say how many know I'm a 'crossdresser' I doubt, unless they've googled it, oh yea my gf's done it.