new experience

[GabbiSophia]

I am sure you have been there. At a party and you are jealous of a friends outfit or the way she looks. Whenever I get these feelings I have a sense of uneasiness and I am tense around them. Just figured out why over this last year. Though this is not the new exp. My wife who can read me like a book realized something was off and when I told her I was jealous of the friend she got pissed. Not that I was jealous of a girl but because I am not jealous of her. She said "what your not jealous of me?? You don't want to be me??" ... I am not sure where to go with this one...

[Jorja]

Don't let it go anywhere. Ooooo and ahaaaa over your wife once in a while and all will be good.

[sweetshauna]

ya, you kinda messed up there. lol. but not TOO bad. you should be able to smooth things over and be okay. main thing is to learn from this and not do it again.

[jules]

That's bad. Not going to sugar coat it. Sorry.
here's what you do and never tell her someone told you to do it. A friend of mind pissed off his
wife so bad she would not talk to him for a week.

Make plans for supper just the two of you. Pick her up some flowers (her favorite ones) or something
eles if she don't like flowers. And woo her.
the reason for the flowers. Just because that's what I say. When you go out listen to her about her day
or what ever eles she wants to talk about.
that's what I do every couple of weeks. Been married over 20 years. It works.

I gave this advice to a friend and it worked utill she asked him why he did it?
He replyed I told him what to do.
try getting home from work and having your neighbours wife asking you ( did you tell my
husband to buy me flowers and take me out to supper?)
don't do that:)
When I seen him again I called him a idiot :)

Just my two cents worth.

Hugs
jules

[Nicole Erin]

Pfft. There is no right answer.
If you had said, "yes dear, I want to be you" then she might have found it creepy. If you said "No", she would have thought she wasn't woman enough. Kind of like that old example of a woman asking if she looks fat. Nothing you say is going to be the right answer.

Believe it or not, women are also sometimes insecure in their femininity, just like some men are insecure in their masculinity.

[TrishaMarie]

Last year my wife finally agreed to go out on Halloween with me, I was so excited I did everything to be ready, went and got waxed, mani and pedi, new lingerie to wear under my costume. She did my makeup and I thought I looked great. Then we went to leave to go to the party, I could tell she was not in a good place. She wouldn't tell me what was wrong. Got in the car to head to the party and it all came flying out. I had done everything to make me look good and left it up to her for herself. Well I have learned over the last year, I try and remember that she needs to be made to feel good too.

I tell her all the time I wish I had her hips (she thinks they are too big) and I wish I had her breasts (she thinks they are too saggy). Basically I think she is beautiful and try to make sure she knows I am love her and I try to show her that she is important to me too. I think it has helped. She has been more responsive to my needs and overall I am much happier in our relationship and I think she is too.

[UNDERDRESSER]

I doubt that my SO would react that way, but if she did, this is what I would tell her ( It's the truth! )

I don't want to be a woman. I don't want to look like a woman. But sometimes, I see the way a particular woman is dressed, and I wish I could come up with, or have the nerve to wear, as a male, an outfit that has the same qualities. Specifically one that accentuates, and enhances certain physical features. My butt, legs, thighs, for the most part. And do it in a way that is acceptable, and isn't too crass. Example, I don't mind showing an outline that confirms I am male, but I'm not keen on too much definition. To my mind, that's crude, not stylish, TMI. It's the same with looking at females. One with a good figure, showing a little hint, yes, showing off that lovely sweep from the thigh to the buttock, oh yes! Camel toe? Err, no.

[Marleena]

She said "what your not jealous of me?? You don't want to be me??" ...

Steph I think that was your que to compliment her.:)

[Katie7]

I've been in a similar situation a few days ago. word of advice, complement and love your wife always. I learned even if I'm jealous of someone else, I keep it to myself.

Katie x

[Donna Joanne]

Steph,

This may sound cliche and corny, but next time say " Darling, I could never in a thousand years be as beautiful as you" and see what her response is? ;)

[MsVal]

It is common among women to have doubts about how they look and to be sensitive to things that imply they are not as good as they could be (heard by them as "should be"). My wife is no exception and I have learned to be careful when talking about women's appearances.

Best wishes
MsVal