Tina_gm
01-20-2014, 03:55 PM
I read on here quite often of a lot of stereotypes of men and women. Especially of men, how they lumber along, the drab boring way of dressing, emotionless, cold narrow minded.
While there are men out there like this, the ones who only have food, sex and cars on the brain, the portrayal of men other than ourselves is a bit of a stretch to put it mildly.
Certainly there are differences between men and women. IMO other than dressing styles, far more subtle than what is so often portrayed here. Not all men lumber along. Many just walk with one foot in front of the other. Many have plenty of passion and emotion, and do cry when there is great sadness. I do think that too often there is a disservice to men in general when it comes to how some of us think of them and portray them.
When it comes to women, again, as if women were all or should be so elegant and classy at all times. Certainly there are times where both men and women should be. And yes, women to a degree more often then men to exude more elegance and class. But for the everyday situation, far too high of an expectation of that, and of the femininity some of us attempt, sometimes far too hard and too much so, for everyday situations.
I am more feminine than the average guy, and dressing in women's clothing is a pleasant experience for me. The farther I travel on my journey through gender variance and just living my life, the more I am now seeing how there is not this vast canyon of difference between men and women. There are those who are ultra masculine and ultra feminine who are the stereotype. They are on the extreme sides. Most people do lie within these opposite ends. We as CDers obviously lie somewhere in the middle if not on the opposite side, and that is fine. We are human. I just want to express how I am seeing the extreme looked upon and stereotyped as the normal. For a group which desperately fights stereotypes to gain acceptance, we as a group should be better at not stereotyping and judging others.
While there are men out there like this, the ones who only have food, sex and cars on the brain, the portrayal of men other than ourselves is a bit of a stretch to put it mildly.
Certainly there are differences between men and women. IMO other than dressing styles, far more subtle than what is so often portrayed here. Not all men lumber along. Many just walk with one foot in front of the other. Many have plenty of passion and emotion, and do cry when there is great sadness. I do think that too often there is a disservice to men in general when it comes to how some of us think of them and portray them.
When it comes to women, again, as if women were all or should be so elegant and classy at all times. Certainly there are times where both men and women should be. And yes, women to a degree more often then men to exude more elegance and class. But for the everyday situation, far too high of an expectation of that, and of the femininity some of us attempt, sometimes far too hard and too much so, for everyday situations.
I am more feminine than the average guy, and dressing in women's clothing is a pleasant experience for me. The farther I travel on my journey through gender variance and just living my life, the more I am now seeing how there is not this vast canyon of difference between men and women. There are those who are ultra masculine and ultra feminine who are the stereotype. They are on the extreme sides. Most people do lie within these opposite ends. We as CDers obviously lie somewhere in the middle if not on the opposite side, and that is fine. We are human. I just want to express how I am seeing the extreme looked upon and stereotyped as the normal. For a group which desperately fights stereotypes to gain acceptance, we as a group should be better at not stereotyping and judging others.