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[GloriaF]

As far as cding goes. What place has it taken up in your life. Ive been dressing up for years, but its never been more than a secret. I feel maybe i need more than just that. I know some things you have to pace, but there maybe somthing i haven't tried yet. What place does your femine side play in your life?

[Caden Lane]

Its the yin to my yang. Its yet another facet of who I am like scuba or cave diving or my writing. Like everything else in my life, it partially defines me. It has certainly played a part in sculpting my life, its done its own damage. But I would not change who I am or who I've become by wishing it away. Its made me a better man, father, Lover, and person.

[NatalieMN]

Right now it doesn't really have a place in my life. That is, I have other things going on and I never really think of making time to dress up. Every so often I will get the urge to dress up, and I will sometimes go out and buy some new clothes, but I usually don't spend too much time thinking about it.

Right now it is a secret for me as well, but I don't really have any desire for it to become more than that at this point. When I meet the right woman, I will share this with her, but for now I am fine with it being a small part of me that no one else knows about.

[MissTee]

It hasn't taken up anything. It simply completes me.

[Adriana Moretti]

yay to Miss Tee.....I think its just part of who we are....

[Beverley Sims]

A very private part I would say.

There were some very public parts with a different circle of friends when I was younger.

Occasionally my past does come by and there is a bit of shhh! when that happens.

It has always been pleasant meeting my past though.

We all share the same secrets and fears.

Never the twain shall meet. )

[Jaylah414]

I only dress in the evenings and at home. I've been doing that on and off for years. I feel much more comfortable and happier the more I dress as a woman or become more feminine. I'd like to start pushing the boundaries a bit, but that will come with time. As for my feminine side playing a role, of course it does, but I don't usually think about like that. My feminine side's there, but it's just a part of me that I love to express. Maybe I'm weird, but I just don't dwell on that aspect too much. I know who and what I am, and I love it! I'm more concerned with the societal aspects.

[Katey888]

Gloria -I don't think there's anything wrong with a secret of this type.

Some choose to be open - others not, and sometimes for very valid reasons - we each have to find our own way through.

Katey only gets an opportunity to express herself once or twice a week (other than this forum, where she's a mad post writing gal! :heehee:) but that expression fills a hole for me - MissTee said it right - without Katey there'd be something missing and now that I've begun to realise that, I'm becoming a better person.

Katey x

[Marcelle]

Hi Gloria,

I agree with the others, CDing is part of me. I dress relaxed at home at night on occasion - my wife and I refer to her as Isha "au natural" (girl shorts, camisole, wig - no make-up) and I will go out "en femme" two or three times a month. But that is me and that is what I do integrate Isha into my life. Being private is fine if that is what gives you happiness. However, if you do plan to go out, then it is something you have to be prepared for . . . there are lots of posts on this forum talking about going out, I would start there if that truly interests you.

Hugs

Isha

[kimdl93]

It's close to the core of my identity. Perhaps it is the core. In a practical manner, I spend most workdays as a male, but compensate by spending most of my off duty hours as a woman. It works for now.

[BLUE ORCHID]

Hi Gloria, It's just who I am and it's just what I do .

To me a day without dressing is like a day with out sunshine.

[Karren H]

It takes up a huge part of who I am..... but manifests itself in a much smaller part of what I do.... mainly because of time constraints and what I have to do that's more important at this stage of my life.... but priorities change over time... and so have I...

[GloriaF]

Well right now its sort of a hobby for me, and ive even began to see sport in it (as far as makeup, clothes, and skill). I think all of you made a good point though. This is me; part of who i am. Sometimes i just feel this wave of loneliness wash over me though, and i cant figure out whay to do with my self. I cant lie though, just makeing an account here as helped me alot with those emotions.

[ShelbyDawn]

Dressing is as much a part of me as hazel eyes and male pattern baldness. I enjoy it more than the baldness though. :)

:hugs:

Shelby

[Anna H]

I get by with what I can. Women's jeans, t-shirts...(they're cut differently...cinched
in at the waist)...and women's work shoes. Which BTW, are amazingly comfortable.

I can go out and not be noticed. It makes a difference to me and keeps me happy
enough. The right kind of jeans/tops just 'feel' different in the right ways...

And of course I Love all the fancier stuff, but i don't always have the time I
want for it, but I do get by with at least something as often as I can.

:) - Kate

[Janine cd]

Dressing has always been a part of me, since I was 11years old. I have never found a more relaxing activity when burdened by stress.

[JenniferLynn0370]

I apparently let my femininity show more often and more strongly at work than I realize. I am routinely spoken to and treated like one of the girls and I love that. I was telling one of the girls in the office that I thought I needed a new battery in my car and was going to replace it myself and she said I needed to let the guys at the auto parts store do it because that's what we girls do! I also have some clothes from dress barn that I wear at home for pjs because they are so soft, as well as a brightly colored comfy top that is clearly a fem cut. My daughters snickered a bit at first but now it's as accepted as anything! So, to answer the question, my femininity is just about front and center in my life and I'm definitely OK with that!