So... Just how straight of a guy are you??

[Rhonda Jean]

This is a bit of an introspective, seeing as how I've recently discovered that I may have been playing for the wrong team my whole life. Or not.

A while back I read about a study done on homophobic and non-homophobic men that analyzed what kind of porn turned them on. I'm not going to site it here. Just Google it. Basically they put a strain gauge on their penis and showed them porn; Hetero, gay, lesbian, and recorded their erectile reactions. Turns out the homophobes were turned on by gay porn! Who'd a thunk it!

Ya' know, you really can't help what turns you on, and if someone straps a strain gauge on your penis, you can't hide it. Kind of a penile lie detector.

Now the introspection... I was exposed to zero porn as a teenager. As a young adult I'd sometimes visit the book store and step through the door that said "No one under 21". My selections there were pretty telling. I really never got anything out of typical straight porn. I don't think I ever bought a Playboy. I'd look at them, but none of them ever did enough for me to spend money on them. The gay porn magazines were even worse. I didn't get that at all. I'd always go straight for the Penthouse Letters or Variations. There was always something with a tranny theme in those. That's what I spent my money on. Sometimes I'd find a Tapestry (a tranny mag.) or some obscure publication that would have a picture of a crossdresser or Tgirl of some sort. Those were like gold!

Now, porn of all kinds is a click away. For me, I don't know that I've ever clicked on a straight porn category. I suspect that an analysis of my frequency of clicks on various categories would be pretty psychologically revealing.

I was at one time a straight, married, father. I loudly claimed that I was straight, totally committed to my wife and children, would always be this way and never that way. You know the drill.

But, what was I hiding? What if someone put a strain gauge on my penis and showed me various categories of porn? Was I as straight as I claimed? In the most important way, if I wasn't acting on it, I'm not sure it made much difference. I can see that it could be argued that it did, in a less-than-obvious way.

I'm sure I claimed somewhere along the way that it was just clothes. Hummm. It turned me on to see other "guys" dressed in girl's clothes. Is it still about the clothes then?

Those homophobes in the study group would never admit to being turned on by gay porn. They couldn't control or deny what turned them on, though. How about you? Behind that "over 21" door or alone with your computer... Just how straight a boy are ya?

[Adriana Moretti]

not so straight here......LOL......Bi....yes !!!!!

[Madilyn A.]

When I see an amazing looking girl, I always hope she has that little something extra. I wonder what the penile lie detector has to say about that ?

[Jesse Six]

I've questioned myself over that endlessly as a teenager. Yep, used porn as a test, and the outcome: attracted to many women, some trans women, and a few effeminate men.

Lately I've moved to the attitude that "gay, straight, meh, they're just two labels. If you meet a person that you gel with, that's what matters."

IMHO, at some point the 'mechanics' of how you have sex are less important than the quality of the relationship. But I do understand why for some folks it absolutely must be a certain 'set of equipment'.

[Erica Marie]

Prefer women, also very bi, but not to the genetic male form. I am very attracted to other cds and transgirls.

[Barbara Dugan]

I only look straight...or I don't:D

[kimdl93]

In my younger years, my fear, deep and abiding, was that because I was a CDr I might be gay...I bought into the stereotype. I even had the obligatory bi experience in college, and because of that I've always characterized myself as bi. But when it comes down to it, I'm really not interested in the male anatomy, my own or other males. Or maybe I'm just getting old!

[Rachelakld]

Visited a gay club, men in the tub, men in the sauna, men on love swing, I had a cup of tea, biscuits and good chats with some of them and invited to participate which I kindly declined - a zero on the stain gauge.
Yes I was wearing a slinky nighty while there (early days of CDing - to find out if I was gay or not)

But funny thing, add an attractive female anywhere in the mix and I probably would have been up for play on both sides.
Maybe one day I'll meet such a group?

[Laura28]

I guess I would say Bi curious. Haven't done it but curious about trying. But who know if I will ever act as I love woman way to much.

[KaceyR]

I have a big qualifier...as technically I can claim the same as that movie..."48 year old virgin"...
That being said I have been a moderate porn connoseuur....
And my claim results-wise is BI... To a degree. I figure maybe a 70/30 attraction to F/M... But that's based on porn.
As it is, right now it comes down more to the attraction or romantic side anymore for me.
I can enjoy female porn but if there's a good story and loving side to male porn then I can get going just as strongly with that. the plumbing just isn't mattering as much to me anymore.

Now for the technical/logic side on the testing... as far as the strain gague thing...
I wonder how this was done. Mainly because I can see varying "stresses" depending on when it was done. I mean, longer into porn sessions there's more of a buildup. So what of fem porn was shown, and then as a finisher male porn was shown. You've already built up an amount, then the further porn somewhat 'adds' onto that for a stronger response.
As well, even if there was breaks,etc.. There's still a bit of mechanical...er..stretching that has occurred. Making subsequent sessions potentially more potent as far as solidness, how much blood flowed in, etc. Thats a common thing thought of for various...enlarging excersizes.
So I wonder how much was considered with these factors.

[Sometimes Steffi]

On my first session, one of the (less reputable) therapists told me I was gay, but that was nothing to be ashamed of.

I was shaken. As a scientist, I conducted an experiment. I was in the men's locker room every other day, so I took a peek every once in a while to see if there was an attraction. Not a bit.

I would have found another therapist sooner, but she always encouraged me to come to the session dressed. As if i really needed my arm twisted.

[Rhonda Jean]

Now for the technical/logic side on the testing... as far as the strain gague thing...
I wonder how this was done. Mainly because I can see varying "stresses" depending on when it was done. I mean, longer into porn sessions there's more of a buildup. So what of fem porn was shown, and then as a finisher male porn was shown. You've already built up an amount, then the further porn somewhat 'adds' onto that for a stronger response.
As well, even if there was breaks,etc.. There's still a bit of mechanical...er..stretching that has occurred. Making subsequent sessions potentially more potent as far as solidness, how much blood flowed in, etc. Thats a common thing thought of for various...enlarging excersizes.
So I wonder how much was considered with these factors.[/QUOTE]

You're thinking way too hard about this, Kacey!

[kimdl93]

I'm reminded of a line from an episode of Will and Grace, the one where Jack refers to gay porn as the ultimate heterosexual aphrodisiac.

[KaceyR]

You're thinking way too hard about this, Kacey!
Yeah I know. It's what I do best I guess. (overanalyze)
I just wonder the viability of the physical response of this as a qualified indicator due to many factors.
And even if they showed one side of porn and was having the person come back later to isolate this physical change...
there should be the mental side where the person coming back would know already they're about to be shown "the other version" and that mental aspect may inhibit, (or enhance in a way for others :)) the response.

Oh well..I'll shut up now. (not good to try to think logically after a few margaritas...(just got back from a bar :))

[shawnablack77]

I am bi. I've known since my teenage years but only recently found I like cding. If it wasn't for my wife I'd be dressed 95℅ of the time. And I'm attracted to other CDs and trans girls very strongly, more then women. So its been a long journey finding myself, but I'm happy now more then ever :)

[Vanessa Rose]

Never a thought about bi or gay when I was young and CD'ing. I must say there is blurring of the lines as I get older but I think that is mostly fantasy. In reality, I would not act on this today. My lady knows and we have great fun agreeing the lines are drawn, us two only, at least for now. The other day she said (sigh) who knows what I will do in the future, I am too spontaneous.

Lord help me. I love the way we are as just us two...it is beautiful..

Vanny

[Tracii G]

Not into porn of any kind and yes I have looked at all kinds of magazines with porn growing up as a kid.None did anything for me.
My first bi encounter was around 12-13 years old and I can't say I hated it. Had another encounter at 17 and it was very nice.
These days I find myself checking guys out when they are more feminine looking.
Last summer I dated a gay guy for a few months both in girl mode and guy mode.Very handsome and quite a nice guy but it didn't work out.I wasn't "gay enough" for him.
I love women too so call me bi.

[Jenniferathome]

Rhonda, are you asking this to make yourself feel better about admitting you are bi or gay? It doesn't matter what others are only what you are. I'm just a straight cross dresser (a strain gauge would prove that) but it doesn't matter to you. Whether you are alone in your feelings or on a large team, it matters not.

[JennyMarie]

What I do know:
I am attracted to the feminine form. Whether that be GG, Trans, CD....
I am, however, not attracted to the male equipment.

What I'm not sure on, is if I'd enjoy it anyway. When I am dressed, I become curious. Still, the equipment is a turn off, but I begin to fantasize on being a woman with a guy.... I have... self experimented, but so far have found nothing in that regard that does anything for me.

I think, personally, though, that I'm still caught in a kind of "between levels" CD'ing. I know I'm the type that likes fully dressing and, if I weren't so paranoid about it, would like to go out into public as such. However, I often find myself wondering if I want to go that extra distance and be Trans. But there I catch into the crux of the issue, I think. I don't want to be strictly one or other... I want to be both, at will.

[Vanessa Rose]

Very insightful JennyMarie... This struck a bullseye for me... Although some may not care, perhaps others do

Vanny

[KristyE]

Bi from childhood, married for 35 years to a woman ( no cheating ) but if this married thing doesn't work out what the hell...
Love KristyE

[Beverley Sims]

Nothing really interests me except an attractive woman.
I have seen muscle men as pinups and it actually turns me off.
I will interact with gay people socially and share their jokes and can see the funny side.
I also abhor sex jokes about women. Some seem insulting to me.
If I see a large breasted woman, I would feel sorry for her more than joke about it.

[Amanda M]

Beverley - for me you are right on the money!

[countrygirl]

Dressed or drab I am gay.

[Shari]

Interesting topic Rhonda.
My "normal" life tells me I am hetero but my fantasies are full of being with other cds and men.
I often wonder how I would react if ever presented with an opportunity to test the waters.

[Marissa M]

I've never been homophobic. I have just recently started thinking about my femme self. Sorry this got away from me. Thanks for the three Rhonda Jean.

[melanie206]

Accepted myself as bi before I discovered how much I love being fem. Now I feel more gay than anything else but other CDs are what mostly attract me. And, personally, I am always skeptical about the large number of CDs who say they are straight but I love you all anyway.

[Caden Lane]

Skeptical you may have to be Melanie. Because strictly hetero is what I am. Although in retrospect, threads like this and commentary like that are why I was worried about my SO coming here.

[Sarasometimes]

I think the strain gauge would indicate hetero all the way. Two reasons, never look at gay porn and not homophobic. Interesting post! Also I am amazed and extremely happy that women find males attractive because I can't figure out why?

[Katey888]

Interesting thread (sometimes it's nice that they develop through the night while I'm getting my beauty sleep.. :)).

I've questioned this of myself, probably more since discussing things about myself on this forum but... nope. Men of any shape, form or vestment do nothing for me. In fairness, 'classic' porn of the sort I came across as a teenager also didn't do very much. As it turned out, I had another type of... let's call it 'fetish' - not relevant for discussion here - but that doesn't involve anything gay. I'll occasionally come across some gay fetish stuff on the web accidentally and it just makes me cringe. No offence to anyone - I'm completely tolerant of lifestyles, sexual choices, etc. but it's clearly something that switches me off completely. It's always women - even the sexy girls I chat with here (and I can be a flirt... I know... but isn't that just girly fun..?) I know that I can appreciate what goes into how they look, but that's it.

I suppose acid test for all of us closeted types would be meeting another CD... and there's another thread opportunity... :D

Katey x

[Rhonda Jean]

Rhonda, are you asking this to make yourself feel better about admitting you are bi or gay? It doesn't matter what others are only what you are. I'm just a straight cross dresser (a strain gauge would prove that) but it doesn't matter to you. Whether you are alone in your feelings or on a large team, it matters not.

Not to make me feel better, just to understand better. It seems I should have at least had some idea before now that I had these tendencies lurking within me. At this point I'm looking back thinking, "what about this", and "what about that." I think there's something telling about the porn. Mostly the fact that I never seemed to get as much out of typical straight porn as other males. Notice I said that I wasn't into gay porn, either.

The crux of the matter, to me, is that when I stated on this board, to my wife, to anyone I happened to make some statement about my sexual orientation to that I was absolutely straight... Was I really? And I wondered if this was a common tranny thing. You think you're straight, you live your life as straight, but behind the curtain is there some seed of something lurking?

As far as whether or not it matters whether I'm alone or on a large team, for the most part I agree with you. I think most of us who've spent a lifetime wearing women's clothes are quite used to being alone to one degree or another. Where it matters to me is that I've arrived at kind of a sexual/relationship no man's land. That's what matters.

Here's another thing. There was not another person on the planet who knew I crossdressed who ever believed I was completely straight. I believed it. I believed the whole "crossdressing has nothing to do with sexual orientation" thing. I was living it, and I believed it. Nobody else did. And they were right. Outside of this community, nobody believes that. But I wasn't lying. I was just a connect-the-dots picture. For all my life the dots had been connected to show me as I'd been for my whole life. Erase a line here and there and reconnect those same lines in a different way and you get what I am today.

[Kate Simmons]

My feelings for other people have nothing to do with plumbing. I can love another person regardless of that. I don't classify myself really. Simple as that.:battingeyelashes::)

[Lynn Marie]

As strange as it may seem I'm disgustingly straight! I frequent gay clubs when dressed, value my gay friends, and no longer have any fear of my own sexuality not measuring up. It's women's anatomy that puts stress on my strain guage. You know, T&A, hourglass figures, long legs in heels, soft skin, and gentle caresses. With that said, I must admit to a certain fascination when dressed with an erection pointed in my direction!

[robindee36]

I suppose acid test for all of us closeted types would be meeting another CD... and there's another thread opportunity... :D

Katey x

Its all theater of the mind, which is not entirely bad, until this test. Having taken the test, not sure if I got a passing grade. Being with another CD/Tgirl is an amazing adventure in sensuality unequaled with any GG experiences of the past. Not sure if this attraction extends to men, but class is over where other Tgirls are concerned ;)

Not sure if this qualifies for the 'gay' box but others here have said it is definitely in the homosexual one. But, the boxes and attempts at categorizing our 'orientation' have been examined at length in other threads.

Katey might be on to something with this new thread idea. Go for it girl.

Hugs, Robin :bunny:

[Stephanie Julianna]

Straight as a guy. Bi as a girl or is that the other straight?

[Vanessa Rose]

Stephanie Julianna

yes this...kinda. There truly are some great people here with delightful insight... you are one...Your post made me chuckle.

Vanny

[Laicee]

I did get a chuckly out of this question, recalling as a young'un hanging with my buds and talking theoreticals... and I recall declaring, If I was a girl I'd be gay! haha.. I just like girls too much I suppose. but I am also more of the curious, and recall seeing in Playboy about a beautiful gurl and her story and recall thinking to myself, as well as questioning the whole thing, but I declared right then and there to me, I'd marry her too1 Now I am still very attracted to real girls, but also, though I've never met one in person (that I know of), I am indeed attracted to those that bring something extra to under the table. so I would check bi-curious if I had to.. but as for men, being emotionally atracted.. nah, been that, can change my own brake, what do I need one of them for? ;) nothing personal against 'em though..but some of them..now I know whay some women think men are dogs... haha..

[Lorileah]

A stress test on many men, especially when they get older would show many just don't care (even if they care...nothing happens). Does that mean they are asexual? No mentally they may be aroused but physically no response. A genital response could be from fear too. Has happened before. When we get to the measurement of mental stimulation that would be more accurate. I have seen studies where they take blood pressure, heart rate, measure pupillary response and breathing. Putting the whole study on your genitals would be a weak study. Remember young men get excited at a lot of things that are not even sexual.


My feelings for other people have nothing to do with plumbing. I can love another person regardless of that.

I am in this camp, but I am older and sexual stimulation has gone the way of wanting companionship and caring. If intimacy happens, I am all for it.



Yes I was wearing a slinky nighty while there (early days of CDing - to find out if I was gay or not)

Interesting, most gay places like that forbid cross dressing. It shows that Australia is far more open than the US. The gay swim club here actually posts on their website "if you wear make up, don't come here"

I'm reminded of a line from an episode of Will and Grace, the one where Jack refers to gay porn as the ultimate heterosexual aphrodisiac.
forbidden fruit

What I do know:
I am attracted to the feminine form. Whether that be GG, Trans, CD....
I am, however, not attracted to the male equipment.

so...if you met a CD and things got intimate and...? The equipment is there, you know it before you met. I have met people like that, not fun when you think you met the right person and they run out after a few minutes.


I suppose acid test for all of us closeted types would be meeting another CD... and there's another thread opportunity... :yt: It's all fun and games until you get your eye poked out

[LilSissyStevie]

You might be interested in this talk given by Oli Ogas co-author of A Billion Wicked Thoughts.

(link removed. You can look it up on YouTube)

[CONSUELO]

Not at all straight. I have been with men but only when I present as a female. As for porn I find that I do not like heterosexual porn in part because I don't like the way the male dominates. I enjoy lesbian porn to some degree. I like CD porn a little but don't like it when they are with a hairy masculine guy. I prefer just CDers together. Some gay porn is OK but so much of it is outrageously macho and sinister. That said I don't like most porn because it is rather boring and predictable.


Visited a gay club, men in the tub, men in the sauna, men on love swing, I had a cup of tea, biscuits and good chats with some of them and invited to participate which I kindly declined - a zero on the stain gauge.
Yes I was wearing a slinky nighty while there (early days of CDing - to find out if I was gay or not)

Interesting that the club allowed you to dress like that in public areas. I don't know of any club here in US that would be OK with that. Being dressed in the privacy of your room is OK and leaving the door open a little to attract those who are interested is also acceptable.

[paulaprimo]

i guess like livory soap, im 99 and 44/100's straight, so yes i am bi. i was a very late bloomer too.
and porn has nothing to do with it as i was never exposed to it and do not care for it at all. :)

[Michelle_Phoenix]

Never been in a relationship, but I would say that I am bi-curious atleast. I find girls attractive, and effeminate men(like J-Rockers). I've come to terms that I like the female look(a lot), but if they're a good person, gender wouldn't matter.

[suchacutie]

I don't buy the premise that a certain type of erotic scene determines my sexual preference. I am not interested in being intimate with a male. Period. That said, I can appreciate any kind of eroticism. What I wish to participate in is a different matter.

[Shananigans]

Lol a strain gauge on your penis...you're thinking way too much about it. Maybe you like fantasizing about penis. The homophobic men that got erections at gay porn are still not "gay"...in my belief. Sexuality is pretty complex...I don't really believe in the way we classify ourselves. And, so publicly! It's a little weird to go around proclaiming what kind of people you will and will not have sex with...even when it's irrelevant to anything going on in the situation...but, we do it anyway.

Either way, fantasy and reality are different worlds. Anal prolapse porn is the new "in" thing right now. People are all like, "Well, if they want to have their insides fall out of them, that's their choice...they're porn stars, I'm sure they know what they're doing."

Imagine being that nurse. With the anal prolapse patient.

Anyway, it gets a tight gauge right now on the penile erectile functioning. People are really into it. I am willing to get though that they may feel differently about it if they experienced it IRL.

So, in other words, don't worry about what your porn habits say about you. I'm not sure it says a whole lot about sexuality, which is already too messy for our neat little categories. Very rarely do people fit into the nice little title that they walk around, yelling out to everyone.

I'm sure that the very loudly proclaiming straight dudes aren't willing to admit they like watching people turn inside out.

Porn is weirder and weirder...if I think too much about what it says about our society, I'll lock my doors and never leave my apartment again.

So, again, I wouldn't think too hard about it.

[Mink]

sometimes... i feel like i am (beyond) scared straight!

oh GOD!

[JennyMarie]

so...if you met a CD and things got intimate and...? The equipment is there, you know it before you met. I have met people like that, not fun when you think you met the right person and they run out after a few minutes.
Valid question. As I said, though, I'm not sure if I might just enjoy it, anyway.

As something to throw out there, I was married to a woman for a short while that (generally) did not like the look of the male equipment. It was "disgusting and ugly" to her. But she certainly enjoyed it. She just generally did not look at it.

But in honesty, if I was to meet a CD and I noticed things were starting to progress down that road, I would immediately make it clear... this is new territory for me. I don't know what, if anything, will come from it. I don't know if this is what I would want. It's still something I am mentally unsure of.

But then again, I'm not going to go out and actively seek out a CD to experiment with, either. It would have to be a chance happening that started progressing that way. I also couldn't tell you with any certainty that if I found myself really liking this person, that I just wouldn't care anyway or would work something out with them to where it all works. *shrug*

[MissTee]

I figure I'm a closet podiatrist. Show me a shoe sale advertisement and I'm swooning . . .

[Rhonda Jean]

Lol a strain gauge on your penis...you're thinking way too much about it. Maybe you like fantasizing about penis. The homophobic men that got erections at gay porn are still not "gay"...in my belief. Sexuality is pretty complex...I don't really believe in the way we classify ourselves. And, so publicly! It's a little weird to go around proclaiming what kind of people you will and will not have sex with...even when it's irrelevant to anything going on in the situation...but, we do it anyway.

Either way, fantasy and reality are different worlds. Anal prolapse porn is the new "in" thing right now. People are all like, "Well, if they want to have their insides fall out of them, that's their choice...they're porn stars, I'm sure they know what they're doing."

Imagine being that nurse. With the anal prolapse patient.

Anyway, it gets a tight gauge right now on the penile erectile functioning. People are really into it. I am willing to get though that they may feel differently about it if they experienced it IRL.

So, in other words, don't worry about what your porn habits say about you. I'm not sure it says a whole lot about sexuality, which is already too messy for our neat little categories. Very rarely do people fit into the nice little title that they walk around, yelling out to everyone.

I'm sure that the very loudly proclaiming straight dudes aren't willing to admit they like watching people turn inside out.

Porn is weirder and weirder...if I think too much about what it says about our society, I'll lock my doors and never leave my apartment again.

So, again, I wouldn't think too hard about it.

I didn't think it up! It was a real study!

Up until recently I led a pretty sheltered life. I was over 50 before I looked at internet porn. Unbelievable.

[Xandra]

Not so straight here. Attracted to crossdreesers. Probably bi-curious to boot!

[LadyInRed]

I'll go with this, I am Bi, but I am married, and in the past I've had no luck with men, the drama that can be stirred up is amazing

[Dana L]

My first reaction is defiantly straight. Then I started thinking about it and the idea of a man finding me attractive as a woman is quite the turn on. The question is at what point would it stop being a turn on, 1st base, 2nd, 3rd, or maybe all the way? So maybe I'm not as straight as I might have thought. Don't get me wrong I'm married and love the female body so much I'd like to have one myself.

[Shananigans]

I didn't think it up! It was a real study!

Up until recently I led a pretty sheltered life. I was over 50 before I looked at internet porn. Unbelievable.

I mean, I'm sure it's a real study...I'm just saying it isn't that useful. The men in question probably wouldn't act out IRL on what they see in porn. More importantly, they identified as straight...that's the lifestyle they have. When forced to watch things they aren't comfortable with, they got an erection. I'm just not sure what that shows.

On the other hand, I knew I was bisexual from a pretty young age. No one strapped anything to my clitoris or had to show me any porn for me to have that one figured out. It's sort of irrelevant though because I'm committed to a man. So, really, he's my sexual orientation. People get all hung up on their sexuality and ruin things for themselves for the craziest things. People that are bi, feeling like they need to ruin their marriages to go "explore" their sexuality. And, I'm just like, "How are you all of a sudden bi?" "Oh, well, I saw it in a porno." So, they saw something that was meant to turn them on, were turned on, thought about it too much, and went down the drainpipe in a final plunge of selfish stupidity. Sometimes people are just that repressed, but if you're gay...I bet you knew about it around the time puberty hit (if not earlier)...it wasn't dreamt up on a porno. If it dawned on your after you saw people going at it on a glowing screen, I'd chalk that up to fantasy.

Personally, if the racy porn you watch is just gay porn, then you're a lot tamer than the rest of the Internet. The last time I watched porn, I just wanted good lesbo porn. Somehow, I stumbled upon people dressed up as pterodactyls going after some chick. Then, it was the anal prolapse porn. I can't click twice before there's a huge tentacle monster raping some cartoon chick. Seriously. It's all screwed up...what's the sexuality of those people. Hope to God it's just fantasy! Which I'm sure it is...hopefully.

Gay/lesbian porn is old hat. It's boring. No one cares about it anymore. Your insides fall out of you or you dress like a dinosaur...if you aren't willing to do that, then it's not interesting enough to keep people going.

I'm just saying porn turning you on means nothing now because it takes weirder and weirder stuff to get people off.

I stick to erotic fiction, but even that has a tentacle monster making its way in every now and then.

People are literally turned on by anything and everything. The weirder the better now. So, that study just shows what we already knew...people who said they'd never be into dudes got a little excited when they saw some strange on the screen. But, since they live a straight life, I'd say they're straight. If the porn made them "realize" that they're gay, I'd say they probably knew that long before the porn. If they aren't into guys that they see beyond the "silver screen," I'd say it's a fantasy that they thought too much about.

Porn literally can't say much about sexuality, else 99% of people are just freaks. They would check "other" next to their sexuality.

I know a dude that is into people furniture...no, he's not Jeffrey Dahmer...he just saw it on a porno and thought that was the end all be all of erotica. A few months later, it was a foot fetish. Did he do any of this outside of his computer world? No. People tell me way too much about themselves. You won't believe the number of "Furry" friends that I have. But, they just saw it on porno. Only one of them dresses up with it, but he was into being an animal before he discovered porn. The rest of them...heck, I don't even know. I think they just spend too much time watching it and not enough time watching the people around them/getting laid. While they were out watching gay furry porn, I was doing their girlfriends. Jk... There's also a study though about how erectile dysfunction is rampant in young men. They watch too much porn to be able to get it up when they have someone flesh and blood in front of them. It's sad. I'd say lay off the porn and get laid. You stayed away from it for 50 years, so you can go another 50. Real people are better anyway. The only good thing about porn is it gives you ideas for the bedroom...but, they ran out of ideas and had to start going with prolapse and dinosaurs. Your imagination is better.

[kelly10]

Bi curious but probably with other cders only. I don't find males attractive. At all.

[Stephanie47]

I grew up in the 1950's and became a teenager in the 1960's. I had the raging hormones. I was definitely feeling like a male teenager. There was the puppy love crushes on some girls. BUT, on occasion I did don a slip and later more. I questioned my sexuality. There was no Internet. The Kinsey report was hidden behind the librarians desk. There was no accessible porn. Play Boy was it. Very tame. Because I like wearing some of my mother's garments I thought I must have been homosexual. BUT, the term gay had not been co-opted yet. There was no delineation in society. In the terms of the day (historical now, don't jump on me for using it) I thought I was a 'queer' or a 'faggot.'

Along time ago I gave up trying to psychoanalyze myself. I am totally straight. I never felt threatened by being in the presence of gays or lesbians. In my younger days I had been approached by a gay man or two (once in the presence of my very pregnant wife) and just declined their invitations. I never got mad at them. I considered them harmless.

[Talisker]

I like the image of a beautiful woman. Doesnt matter how much behind the image is real or not :)
Stick whatever label you want on that !

[mmandy31]

I look straight feel straight but I am not straight in my eyes

[Marcelle]

Hi Rhonda,

To quote a somewhat famous literature line "Me think thou dost protest too much" . . . not directed at you though. The homophobes in the study are most likely the product of men who have not admitted to themselves they are indeed gay hence the reaction to gay porn.

As for myself . . . straight.

Hugs

Isha

[Jenni Yumiko]

I have had a couple experiences. The reality does not live up to the fantasy by any means, to the point I was so embarrassed after "the act" I beat the other person up. This was twenty years ago. I was scared and confused and like a guy thinking with my thing.
I have also had experiences with women with strap ons and still played the role of a woman. That IMO was the best. The softness and parts of a female mixed with the additional member plus the fact that she was still a woman made it work out very well.
As for relationships I would have no interest in being with a guy unless he was super rich and move me to a secluded island in the South Pacific :-) seriously though 0 interest in an actual relationship.
We tend to do things we normally wouldn't do when our stuff is up there, I equate it to just that.
So not sure what that qualifies me as.

[Rogina B]

Shananigans has it right! People become so twisted over time that nothing gets them off...Oh,and when they die,they get screwed into the ground! lol

[Ellie52]

I think threads like this give credence to the community to think we are all gay and deviant. I dont see the point in discussing this sort of thing as its not productive and only goes to show any passing traffic (Non members can view the MtF part of this site) that guys who are xdressers are gay and only validates their already incorrect perception. Though I was of the misguided opinion that most CDers (not transitioning or TS) were truly heterosexual males.
If you wish to partake of the hairier species please keep it to yourself as I am confused enough already....Ellie

[natcrys]

I've never been attracted to the male form, so when I'm hanging out with my female friends in a bar or club, they might check out the men.. while I'm looking at and admiring the women. Mind you.. there's absolutely nothing wrong with crossdressers being attracted to men .. sometimes I wish I was attracted to men, it would have made my life much easier. :)

I do know I'm attracted to the female form.. and in the early days of my crossdressing I called myself straight. These days, however, I've realised that if the person is femininely attractive, funny and intelligent.. I most likely wouldn't care if that person is GG, CD or TS.

Life is too short and too precious to be squabbling about such trivialities.

[AndreaCD1963]

The only thing straight around me is the 4 1/2 foot aluminum piece in my workshop that I use to mark straight lines on large boards & plywood!
First experience as a teenager was with another guy - and I've played for both teams ever since.
Definitely BI.

[Krististeph]

I'm boring, truly female oriented only. Woe is me. Considered what it would be like a few times, with a guy, and of course my wife and i have a few toys and we have played around a bit, but no desire to try anything with a guy. C'est la vie.

[Rhonda Jean]

Shananigans, Don't get me wrong. I don't think porn made me anything, and it's certainly not a big thing for me now. What I find unbelievable is some of the weird stuff you mentioned. I'm amazed at what turns some people on.

Other than being a tranny, I've led such a vanilla life. I, too, think I must have had bi or gay tendencies before now. Literally, about the only evidence I can see is that I didn't get anything out of straight porn. Gay porn either, for that matter.

Like the artist says about his sculpture from a block of stone, "It was always in there. It just needed someone to bring it out!" Yea, that's me! (Ha!)

[XemmaX]

not at all into dudes not even when xdressed.

[MarciManseau]

My first experiences were with boys, and I was always totally dressed as a girl. Later on, I learned how wonderful making love with a woman could be, so I have to call myself totally bisexual, and delighted that I am. I look at the avatar in Shananigans's post here and wonder how anyone could not be attracted to that world-class beauty :) Mostly now though I'm with Julie and our very close friend who is a pre-op TG, like me.

[Lena]

Maybe a little bi curious but I don't find anything attractive, intriguing or sexy about a hairy ass, belly or legs. I think even if I tried, I wouldn't go all the way....foreplay would be my only fantasy.

[sweetshauna]

Totally Bi! Love sex with both genders, tried both, really enjoyed both. In my family there's me and a late sister-Bi. A brother and 1 sister-gay. and 1 VERY homophobe brother, might he be the most gay of us all? Hope so, He's a real a**hole. HAHAHA!

[Rhonda Jean]

I think threads like this give credence to the community to think we are all gay and deviant. I dont see the point in discussing this sort of thing as its not productive and only goes to show any passing traffic (Non members can view the MtF part of this site) that guys who are xdressers are gay and only validates their already incorrect perception. Though I was of the misguided opinion that most CDers (not transitioning or TS) were truly heterosexual males.
If you wish to partake of the hairier species please keep it to yourself as I am confused enough already....Ellie

Ellie, you're right. I was very hesitant to post on the open forum about this for a long time for just that reason. I just really wanted to know what others experiences were like. Should have kept it to myself or pm. I won't do it again!

[MarciManseau]

Hiding who we are has caused us all LOTS of problems. There will always be small minded homophobes and we can't let them dictate to us how to talk or act! If you are too ashamed of who you are or how you dress, how can you expect anyone else to accept you?

[Paulacder]

I've ben crossdressing all my life, being a member of a large Crossdressing Support group and meeting many Sisters along the way. I don't think I have ever met a "Straight" crossdresser. This has always ben fine with me because I would never judge a person based on their sexual preference.

[MarciManseau]

Just like anything else, I'm sure there are a variety of preferences with us, a total spectrum. Isn't that nice? :) I sure think so.

[Rhonda Jean]

Hiding who we are has caused us all LOTS of problems. There will always be small minded homophobes and we can't let them dictate to us how to talk or act! If you are too ashamed of who you are or how you dress, how can you expect anyone else to accept you?

It's not that I'm ashamed, Marci. It's just that this is a public forum, and there's not telling how often a wife who just found out happens on to this site. She probably already thinks that any male who puts on a dress is gay, anyway. Then when she finds "evidence" like this, she's going to think her husband is gay (no matter what he says) and that life as she knows it is over. It's just a fact that conclusions like that will be reached because of what we say on this forum. Shouldn't be, but will be.

Just about every time we read on here about someone coming out to their wife or SO, the wife's first question is, "Are you gay?" Every time I've heard of this playing out, the answer was "NO!" What we don't know is how many times the wife's next step is to go to the internet, and how many times does she end up here. Threads like this make her think her husband is lying, and she'll spend the rest of her marriage expecting the other shoe to drop. I can't help but feel a twinge of responsibility for that.

Maybe I'm overplaying the importance of forums like this. And, it's not that I think we should conspire to hide the issue. We'd all agree that no wife or SO should judge her husband by what she reads on here, but I think that's just human nature. I think it's also human nature for everyone outside this community to think that any male who wears women's clothes is gay. Guilty until proven innocent, unfortunately.

[natcrys]

Ellie, you're right. I was very hesitant to post on the open forum about this for a long time for just that reason. I just really wanted to know what others experiences were like. Should have kept it to myself or pm. I won't do it again!

Perhaps I missed something, but why is this a topic that shouldn't be discussed openly? The topic question is relatively straight-(no pun intended)-forward, and I think it's very interesting to read all the different answers. It shows there are some nuances and fluidity to the orientation of crossdressers, which IMHO is a good thing to talk about.

And why should we be worried if non-members read this? If they're genuinely interested in this topic, they will conclude that every CD is different, though most identify with being straight (for whatever that actually means). And if they're just here to get their preconceived notions confirmed, they will cherry-pick the posts that suit their notion anyway.

Is it a bad thing if some members actually express having ambiguous feelings, not caring about gender and/or outright state that they're bi/gay?

[docrobbysherry]

Can't discuss my sexual fantasies here. Way too weird, anyway. Let me just say they always involve adult females. And, don't ever involve pain or scat!

[Dawna Ellen Bays]

This thread has some of the most interesting answers and interpretations of any I've ever read, and I'd hate myself forever if I didn't add my two cents:

I think I'm as "straight" as they come. I just don't find the male form attractive. The "strain gauge," as it was mentioned, points solely toward women. But I admit that I feel very flattered when men in other CD forums tell me how attractive they think I am...until the conversation invariably "goes south" and all the flattery washes away. The only situation I think I'd like to experience with a man is to have him escort me to some fancy dance that required me to wear a long, sparkling evening gown. I'd let him treat me like a lady, but with the understanding that there was going to be nothing more to the evening. Then I think, what the hell would we talk about all night?

Any attraction I have to other "gurls" only stems from the fact that they look like gorgeous women. It's the transformation that I love; the strain gauge points exactly the same way when I see a GG get all dolled up, too. I have no desire to have sex with another CD.

As for porn, I've seen more than my fair share, but I was always in it mostly for the shoes, believe it or not. Heels, hose, and miniskirts. I'm much more attracted to women in full dress than nudity; if that's a fetish, so be it...



I'd always go straight for the Penthouse Letters or Variations. There was always something with a tranny theme in those. That's what I spent my money on. Sometimes I'd find a Tapestry (a tranny mag.) or some obscure publication that would have a picture of a crossdresser or Tgirl of some sort. Those were like gold!


I read my first issue of Variations at a friend's house on the last day of senior year of high school. There were two "letters" that put me over the edge: one where two female roommates dressed a guy up and they all had sex, and another where a husband dolls up as a high-class callgirl who gets seduced by his androgynous wife . When she mentioned how she "slipped in to my black sheath," I almost lost my mind. It was the exact moment I realized I was a "transvestite," and I was fine with it, as long as no one else knew. About a year later I discovered the "Transvestian" newspaper on a stand in NYC, and somehow mustered up the nerve to buy it (and all subsequent issues). It opened up a whole new world to me: men who were just like me, and many who could make themselves GORGEOUS. And speaking of gorgeous


Straight as a guy. Bi as a girl or is that the other straight?
I think it's the "other straight", as you put it, if you adopt a female mindset. That's my two cents, and if I was attracted to men, it would be my mantra. I wouldn't care how "society" sees or labels it. It's what's in your own head that counts...


Never been in a relationship, but I would say that I am bi-curious atleast. I find girls attractive, and effeminate men(like J-Rockers). I've come to terms that I like the female look(a lot), but if they're a good person, gender wouldn't matter.
Are you familiar with the J-Rocker metal band Versailles and their guitarist Hizaki? Do a Google Image Search for "Versailles Hizaki" and get ready to be blown away by beauty!

[BethanyCross]

As a teenager I was frightened that because I crossdressed, I might be homosexual. Back in the 60's that was totally taboo, though now it is better understood and accepted. In 8th grade, I confessed my fears to my mother. That got me to a therapist who, at least, convinced me that I was not gay. I now realize I am definitely not attracted to men. On the other hand, I still can't say for certain if I am attracted to women or simply attracted to the idea of looking like one. For sure I am turned on by their dresses, hair, etc. I admire boobs, but is it just that I wish I had some of my own?

[Ellie52]

Perhaps I missed something, but why is this a topic that shouldn't be discussed openly? The topic question is relatively straight-(no pun intended)-forward, and I think it's very interesting to read all the different answers. It shows there are some nuances and fluidity to the orientation of crossdressers, which IMHO is a good thing to talk about.

And why should we be worried if non-members read this? If they're genuinely interested in this topic, they will conclude that every CD is different, though most identify with being straight (for whatever that actually means). And if they're just here to get their preconceived notions confirmed, they will cherry-pick the posts that suit their notion anyway.

Is it a bad thing if some members actually express having ambiguous feelings, not caring about gender and/or outright state that they're bi/gay?
Thats a typically selfish attitude. What if a CD's GG came here looking for answers and see some of thd replies to this thread. What is she going to think about her husband/BF and their relationship together..
We CDers are so selfish .......
Threads like this shouldnt be in the open forum. Members only......

[natcrys]

I have a hard time understanding what part of my attitude is selfish, so many CD's.. so many opinions and varieties. I actually welcome that diversity of opinions.

And you still haven't explained what exactly would be so troubling. Like I said, if a CD's GG genuinely comes here looking for answers, I hope that GG is smart enough after having read ALL the replies that she cannot jump to any conclusions about her own spouse's sexual orientation.

I, for one, think it's more irresponsible to feverishly maintain this image that 99% of the CD's are as straight as x=y because it's just not true.

(little math humour right there, thank you, thank you.. I'll be here all night)

[Vanessa5]

When I first started to dress the shame drove me to believe I was gay. Deep down I was never was attracted to men. Most porn I prefer now is stories. Just can't picture myself dressed or drab with a man. Just doesn't work for me.

[lesli]

en femme, i am so bent, but when in drab--i'm so not into guys. i think the lipstick does something to my head, it hits the lips and poof--i'm fem.
hugs,
lesli

[Alexaduggal]

When I'm dressed Im comfortable with men or other CDs. When Im not dressed I'm more comfortable with women or CDs.

[Ellie52]

I have a hard time understanding what part of my attitude is selfish, so many CD's.. so many opinions and varieties. I actually welcome that diversity of opinions.

And you still haven't explained what exactly would be so troubling. Like I said, if a CD's GG genuinely comes here looking for answers, I hope that GG is smart enough after having read ALL the replies that she cannot jump to any conclusions about her own spouse's sexual orientation.

I, for one, think it's more irresponsible to feverishly maintain this image that 99% of the CD's are as straight as x=y because it's just not true.

(little math humour right there, thank you, thank you.. I'll be here all night)
Nat - I apologise if I offended you. I dicnt mean to. What I was trying to say was that we need to promote ourselves as valid members of society. Not some weird schizophrenic type person who is quite happy to be married to a lovely woman but as soon as Janice and Deidre from CD's R us phone up he puts on a dress and goes man hunting for a few hours then returns home to his lovely wife and kids, and wants to be dad again
If your single - go to it , but if your married have a little respect for your partner and family.
If this is how you want to live your life by all means do it, but its not something to brag about.
i come here for threads like Tracii's recent post about going to the mailbox, and the interaction with the girls in the neighborhood.

Maybe Im just too old..but I think we shouldbe aiming to promote acceptance in the community not giving people an excuse to ridicule us....Getting off my bandwagon now....Ellie

[Rosabella]

All of my life I have been very much only into adoring the female form. I have tried in this last year to be attracted to males. Nope. I can't do it. I am hopelessly only attracted to females. So I guess if I became a female I would be a lesbian.

[natcrys]

Nat - I apologise if I offended you. I dicnt mean to.

I'm Dutch, I rarely get offended, so don't worry about that.. :)


What I was trying to say was that we need to promote ourselves as valid members of society. Not some weird schizophrenic type person who is quite happy to be married to a lovely woman but as soon as Janice and Deidre from CD's R us phone up he puts on a dress and goes man hunting for a few hours then returns home to his lovely wife and kids, and wants to be dad again
If your single - go to it , but if your married have a little respect for your partner and family.

Are you saying that non-straight CD's are not valid members of society? I saw you using the word "deviant" in a previous post.. which I find a bit troubling.

Anyway, what you describe here is cheating, and I don't think I saw any evidence here that anyone was advocating that. And to make it absolutely clear.. cheating is bad no matter which partner is doing it to the other partner regardless of gender.


If this is how you want to live your life by all means do it, but its not something to brag about.
i come here for threads like Tracii's recent post about going to the mailbox, and the interaction with the girls in the neighborhood.

Maybe Im just too old..but I think we shouldbe aiming to promote acceptance in the community not giving people an excuse to ridicule us....Getting off my bandwagon now....Ellie

I have so many issues with how you are describing things (deviant, schizophrenic, bragging,..) , it's turning into a subscription. What is this bragging you're talking about?

Anyhoo, I agree with you on one thing, we should promote acceptance for all.

[Kristy 56]

Straight all my life and just love everything about. them.However, as I 've gotten older I've become more and more bi curious,but I'd still have to be dressed and have A GG in the mix. Maybe I' m just afraid of missing out on something good.

[LydiaG]

Straight! I was only ever attracted to female on female porn, I refused to even watch regular porn... I always wanted to be with a girl who likes to dress me up on occasion but who also wants me to be their man in day to day life.

[Prissy Linda]

I'm not straight, I am very attracted to TG's(umbrella term) but since I'm married to a wonderful woman who I adore I live a straight lifestyle. Before marriage I had a few encounters with other CD's, I enjoyed them very much, my first kiss at age 12 was with boy the same age who loved being a girl as much as I did.

[Joyce S.]

Being fairly new to xdressing I wondered the same thing about myself. Am I gay? My sister is gay. Is it a genetic thing? Is it ingrained or learned?
I am also fortunate to live in Hawaii and every Sunday morning I go for a run at a park in town called Ala Moana. First, I normally sit on a bench and just watch and (sorry to rub it in for those enduring the 'polar vortex'...) enjoy the sun. One morning, the morning after I had told my wife I wanted to dress, I was sitting on the bench thinking. My wife, bless her heart, told me if makes me happy to dress then to go for it. So, I'm sitting there thinking and I am still confused about myself dressing. Not unhappy, just confused. I'm looking around and I see many very good looking women. I do look at their clothes. Athletic fem attire does not do anything for me. I like the dresses and the lingerie. Usually they are with some guy. I realized after a while, that if someone had asked me afterwards what the woman looked like I could describe her pretty well. If someone asked me what the guy looked like I'd only be able to say... oh, yeah, there was a guy wasn't there. I don't know what he looks like. I guess I'm not gay.

There is one other thing my eyes are glued to though. Young Japanese couples travel to Hawaii for their package weddings. The guy gets a (probably rental) tux and the girl get (also probably rental) bridal gown. They are very beautiful fluffy, lacy. You know. They come to Ala Moana park to take pictures I suppose after their wedding. I cannot take my eyes off the wedding dresses. I would love to have one. It is part of my week that I always look forward to. I sit and watch. If I happen to catch their eye I always give them a thumbs up and big smile. I am happy for them and hope they have a good and loving life. Sorry... I stray from topic.

[EarringGirl]

I love women and all things feminine but i'm also super attracted to more effete men, which makes me sorta bi I guess lol. my wife totally knows and doesn't care, thank god.

[jessiejess112]

I rather not watch porn, I have better things to do. But the kind of porn I always liked, ever since I can remember is lesbian porn lol.

[Jaylah414]

This thread started out fairly interesting until it began to break down into the appropriateness of discussing human sexuality publicly and on this board. I’m sorry, I really don’t want to step on anyone’s toes because you’re all so wonderful, but what in the world is inappropriate about discussing who we’re attracted to and who we’re more likely to fall in love with?

I can understand wanting to keep certain, specific acts or practices more secret. After all, this isn’t a porn site, and if it was, I wouldn’t be here. However, human sexuality is a very important issue that I believe should be addressed out in the open and for all to see. A lack of knowledge and understanding does no one any good.

There’s absolutely nothing lascivious about our interest in who we prefer to be with.

For me, this subject is especially interesting. I’ve inundated myself with one scientific study after the next concerning how our brains are constructed and how the make-up of the brain affects our behavior, our belief systems and our sexual identity. Unfortunately, I’ve had very little experience with learning how everyday people feel about their desires. I’m interested in how people think about themselves and how they feel about more personal issues that we don’t discuss in ‘polite society’.

Incidentally, who we are more likely to fall in love with seems to have been pushed aside in favor of physical attraction. For most, I think it would be the same, but for some, it may be surprising.

Finally…

Shenanigans, I really appreciated your view of phallometry. There’s too many reasons a man may exhibit arousal to simply say that certain, dated studies can predict sexual preference.

The plethysmograph appears to be about as popular as the lie detector in modern science. Just like the lie detector can record skin galvanic response, the plethysmograph can detect blood flow into the penis. Unfortunately, neither are capable of explaining human responses or associating those responses with how our brains are wired. A lot more study would be required to have any significant insight.

Okay now… I believe that the original question was to inquire about how we would self-identify in our gender attraction. I say self-identify only because that’s the only model that I’m worried about. I really don’t care what Roger Redneck, or one’s favorite talk show host, or even my therapist (if I could afford to hire one) thinks about what folks are or should be.

As for me, there’s a lot of words that I might feel comfortable accepting as personal labels. They might include bisexual, poly-amorous or even queer. I’m not too worried about the actual tag.

What is important is that I love my wife very much, and she loves me. We have no secrets and share a number of lifestyle attractions. (But, hers really are secret – Unless she chooses to reveal them) We share almost every aspect of our lives. Some aspects we share only emotionally, and others we share both emotionally and physically, but we are together always.

As for the juicy stuff, I don’t mind admitting I’m attracted to both men and women. I might check out women on the streets more avidly, but they dress to accentuate their form. Men dress to hide their form.

When it comes down to it, I’m initially and most frequently attracted to a petite woman with what would be called exotic features here in the US. Just a little shyness and a bubbly personality really captivates me.

I’m also very much attracted to a tall, somewhat heavyset man with dark hair and dark skin. However, if they’re not very masculine and self-confident, the originally attraction quickly fades away.

So, does that make me sexually bi-polar? But, one common, uniting characteristic – I fall in love with that strange little thing that happens when I look into another’s eyes, and I can’t explain that one.

[chrissietoo]

I have ambiguous feelings, and they are certainly evolving. I love and admire women, and love to look at them. I'm not particularly attracted to men, but I have had 'encounters'. I find myself more and more physically attracted to men; perhaps my inhibitions are falling like veils, I don't know. I'm thrilled to wear some women's clothing, but I've never gone overboard; even just imagining is enough for me. When I do dress, or underdress, a transformation occurs...I've suddenly acutely, their thoughts, feelings, expressions, gestures. It's a wonderful feeling. Though I don't want to date men, or kiss and cuddle, I do like to invite them to my place for a nicely satisfying visit. When I'm with them like this I certainly FEEL feminine, but I've never dressed in front of a man, and although I might feel like an accommodating girlfriend inside, they see me as a man. That's more convenient, less distracting, and seems ok all round, as some men would not want to receive the same treatment from me if I were in en femme. It's my little secret, you could say. Sometimes I'll dress before they come over, and then go into drab before they arrive. I'll watch videos of women with men as tutorials, always identifying with the woman.

I don't have a big urge to dress fully, go out, or come out as a cd. Perhaps I'm just so full of inhibitions it's squashed, and I'm sure many of my sisters here probably think that I'm fooling myself or something, but that's were I am.... I've dressed and been with girls, and really loved it in an uncomplicated way. Perhaps if I met the right guy or gurl, my feelings would quickly evolve...(that's a hint for anyone in the Bay Area, lol)

[renee elizabeth]

I'm straight. There has never been any doubt in my mind. I've known it since I was 4 that I was interested in girls. As a cder I can find other t girls attractive but my mind always tells me that underneath the dress, wig and makeup. It's a male.

[Taylor Ray]

My first experiences of sexual intimacy were with other males. In high school I had to repress that part of myself to survive socially. Once in college I was able to be intimate with men again but I always had girlfriends too. The main difference between me and my gay friends is that they wouldn't want to be with a woman, which I thoroughly enjoy.

So I do believe there is an element of repression that can and does happen as a result of familial and cultural influences. As we get older perhaps we can begin to peel back some of the conditioning and become more fully who we are.

Anyone who attempts to generalize this phenomenon to all cross dressers, however, is making a narrow-minded judgement.

[Lygophilia]

I don't know what my sexuality is and don't have a desire to explore it, because I don't like the idea of experiencing those lonely feelings from the majority of humanity wanting to be with someone. I've never been a sexual person, but I have been aroused from various things that would probably be offensive and vile to the public's morality. I didn't think much of it. I don't think it can be defined with simple terms. Love, as far as the personality, was always hard to contemplate of not seeing it as inconvenient, which was never just confined to partnership.

[TrishaMarie]

As a man I am only attracted to females, not attracted to cds or other men. As Trisha, I am still very attracted to women, but have a fantasy to share a man with my wife and when I say share I mean every way possible a woman would please a man. Has to be a manly man, not effeminate. I do not get turned on by men, but I get turned on by being a woman. When I watch porn I will watch straight porn or CD porn to imagine me being her, I especially like CD/GG porn. But the best is a GG, a CD and a man, where the ladies are taking care of each other and the man. Don't think this makes me Bi, probably will never happen, just a fantasy I will go to my grave with. I guess maybe I am a straight man and Bi woman.

I love my wife more than anything. Probably the most important thing to me is that she is satisfied. I can't say I don't want to be satisfied as well, but if she is than typically I am too.

[MaryBeth29]

I guess you could say I'm as straight as they come, in that I don't think I would ever be able to actually go through with and do anything with a man, no matter how much I fantasize about it. I said this in another thread, but while I'm dressed, I'm attracted to the "unit." However, what comes with the unit isn't attractive to me at all.

[TrishaMarie]

MaryBeth, I feel the same way, like the unit, not what it is attached to.

[MissAmy]

I love women, but would also (but never have) have relations with other t-girls. A guy would have to be very feminine to consider it.

[Ivy Lee]

I dont know how to answer this because when i am Ivy i adopt a female mindset. When I am in guy mode I am straight and the thought of guys is pretty gross. That might seem hypocritical however because as Ivy not only do I think about men but I have had sex with men. So i guess I am straight in male mode and straight in female mode?

[sonialexis]

hmmm...i wanted to ask you gals that question about me, lol...definitely not straight as an arrow..just bent like a cute curtsy.

[anaissa]

Thought I'd weigh in on this thread. I've really enjoyed most of the responses and really appreciate the honest and frank discussion. Protestations to the contrary, we should embrace universal acceptance and love for one another. Labels mean nothing. It is so important to simply be true to oneself--as long as you are doing no harm to anyone.

So who am I? I imagine the most accurate description would be bisexual. I am reluctant to use the term as those of us who have sexual encounters with both males and females are often rejected by both "teams."

I have to admit that I prefer the company of men but I seldom have sex while crossdressed. I adore the rituals of femininization and transformation, and I thrill to the thought of turning heads, but when a guy tries to simplify satisfy some kinky urge with a guy in a skirt, I have to question his sincerity. If he wants to get with me, he had better accept me sans clothes and makeup.

I love hanging out with my girlfriends and sister crossdressers, but I won't quit the gay lifestyle. Nor can I deny my attraction to beautiful women.

So there. Have I confused you yet. Thanks for the opportunity to share. XO

[MonctonGirl]

arrow in drab - lesbian en femme

[Nadina]

I cannot say that I am 100% straight but just how far over that straight line I may fall? I don't know. I am attracted to women of all kinds, I love the female body, the lines, the curves all of it but you get a CD who is not quite 100% passable but passable enough and I am equally attracted to that, maybe more so in some cases. IF I look at porn when I am "alone with my computer" it is typically a mix of about 50/50 straight/CD but almost always includes oral.

I have kissed a CD before and that kiss sticks with me to this day, very memorable and I could describe it in full detail (and I relive it sometimes for the thrill of it) I would consider myself bi maybe? even though I have had very limited experiences with a CD/TS (never a straight up guy but I think about it a lot) I feel that to my friends etc my answer would be "I'm straight" if I have to be 100% honest, I would have to say that I am Bi though because I am attracted to CD's as much as a genetic females a lot of times.

Still really new to the whole idea of being able to admit some of this stuff so sorry if any of that came off random.

[Barbie Anne]

Faithfully married non-practicing bisexual. Wouldn't cheat on her with a woman or a man.
Not saying I don't look at both female and male beauty.......I've watched the movie Magic Mike 3 times in the past week, and I don't know who's hotter; Channing Tatum or Olivia Munn.

[Milou]

Straight, but slowly becoming bi-curious. Might due to some weird shit porn I'm watching.

[FemPossible]

Bi-curious definitely. One aspect of crossdressing that I often think about is flirting with men.

[Isa]

Late to the party, I know.. I'd say I'm 100% A-Sexual. :daydreaming:

[princessheather86]

Personally, I like girls. To quote one of my personal heroes, Ed Wood; "I love women. Wearing their clothing makes me feel closer to them." (Okay, it was from the movie, but he probably said something similar at one point. :heehee:)

[samantha rogers]

Meh...the equipment doesnt matter. Its all in the eyes and in the moment. :battingeyelashes:
Though frankly, I expect those days are behind me. Married faithfully to the same woman for more than twenty years, and my boy bits now largely useless (between age and hormonal additives) I don't expect to be involved in much again anyway. I think it odd that I always thought dressing was associated with sex but apparently not. My libido may be finished but my love of dressing is stronger than ever.
Now in my younger years...well...Sammie got around quite a bit....my track record was long and about 99% with females. But I always had an open ...mind. tee hee.

[Michelle_NY]

when dressed I am bi otherwise in drab very straight if thats any clearer. I confuse myself too

[Gypsy Sam]

Would never be the initiator, but known to go with flow.

[Saikotsu]

Totally straight (or at least as straight as a lesbian in a man's body can be) . If I watch porn, I can't get turned on if there is a guy in it. Men are a major turn off for me.

[Annaliese2010]

Welllll...I totally like GG's. And totally disinterested in normal males. But totally turned on by M2F CD's. So...conventionally bi or more accurately M2F lez I guess?

[BLUE ORCHID]

I have to agree with Beverly and Amanda.

[Brea Lynn]

I'm most definitely bi (or pan or omni...and "omni-sexual" just sounds cooler, IMHO), but the male form doesn't really do a thing for me (at least, above the waist...). I was recently afforded the opportunity to "experiment" and found it enjoyable, but at the same time, it was lacking something to the effect of "I'm not that attracted to the rest of you," if that makes any sense.

[Julia Welch]

Definitely straight ... I'm cool with other peoples sexuality but I'm only attracted to GGs

[CarlaWestin]

Interesting thread (sometimes it's nice that they develop through the night while I'm getting my beauty sleep.. :)).

I've questioned this of myself, probably more since discussing things about myself on this forum but... nope. Men of any shape, form or vestment do nothing for me. In fairness, 'classic' porn of the sort I came across as a teenager also didn't do very much. As it turned out, I had another type of... let's call it 'fetish' - not relevant for discussion here - but that doesn't involve anything gay. I'll occasionally come across some gay fetish stuff on the web accidentally and it just makes me cringe. No offence to anyone - I'm completely tolerant of lifestyles, sexual choices, etc. but it's clearly something that switches me off completely. It's always women - even the sexy girls I chat with here (and I can be a flirt... I know... but isn't that just girly fun..?) I know that I can appreciate what goes into how they look, but that's it.

I suppose acid test for all of us closeted types would be meeting another CD... and there's another thread opportunity... :D

Katey x

My story is exactly in alignment with Kate's so I won't repeat anything.

This got me thinking, which is always dangerous. Imagine all of us, with professional makeovers and dressed to the nines in a club or party setting. A fabulous, memorable ladies night of the highest degree. Dancing, drinking, laughing it up. Then, the next night, we all meet in male mode at the same club.
Would there still be the same energy and vibe?

Whoops! Back on topic. I'm definitely not gay.

[BillieAnneJean]

I am another who got in to this late. I have never ever been attracted to guys. Over the years I have been approached a few times by gay men and politely and kindly declined. If I was them, I would be hurt by an unkind refusal so how could I be unkind?
I am turned on by one woman, just one, the one I first met 47 years ago. Only her. She is more than enough.
I look at other women. It is more an appreciation of the beauty of the female form. Like looking at an airplane designed in the 30s and 40s when it had to operate good but also look good. Same with the early Jaguars, drive good, look good. Designers today use computer models instead of paper, pencil, and a French curve. Everything works better today, it just doesn't have the look of the flow. Women still have that svelte look even after all these years. Their bodies are one of the reasons I like being a guy. And after decades of marriage, I am still totally faithful.
When dressed a compliment from a woman means WAY more than a compliment from a man. After all, the woman knows what to look for, how much work it is.
So even when I am dressed, men, either straight or gay, even dressed, do nothing sexual for me. Except just being fellow travelers on spaceship earth and deserving of my friendship, compassion, and kindness, like all people.
So no, I am not gay, bi, or attracted to men in any way.
Always woman, one. If you knew her you would understand.

[JeanVigo1905]

I'm mostly straight. But occasionally, I will see a guy and think about what it would be like to be in bed with him. Sometimes my wife will put on a guy's large flannel shirt, and I'll slip into sheer stockings, we'll get under the covers in bed, and the role-reversal is amazing...

[Kristyn Hill]

Always consider myself straight until 2012 when I joined here. Now the lines are blurred because I love GG, CD, TV, TG & TS. I am not attracted to men but thinking about being dressed with another gurl like me is a real turn on. I have never experienced it but want to badly. I just don't care what my label is anymore. I do not want to go through the next 40 years being confined to what society dictated me to be until now. I have a high class girl inside and she wants to shop at Neiman Marcus in her Louboutin's with a Michael Kors or LV hanging off of her arm. I guess outsiders looking into our world here would say I am Bi and so be it. I am bi.

[Dawn cd]

First of all, it's possible to be aroused by gay porn without being gay yourself. You may simply be aroused by the sexuality of the scene without wanting it for yourself. So I question the premise of the study.

Secondly, I do agree with Vanessa that sexual impulses may change as one gets older. When childrearing is finished, when married sex loses some of its allure, as one becomes more tolerant, sexual tastes may broaden.

[PhillyGuy2Girl]

I always considered myself pretty straight always been attracted to woman all shapes and sizes. With my wife being bi she really loves my femme side. We sometimes look at lesbian porn and I wish I could be one of the women in it. Sometimes I'm attracted to very passable m to f cd's and every once in awhile when my wife is looking at her nude men magazines I'll see a nice looking guy who I'm somewhat attracted to but that is far and few in between. So I guess I'm 99.5 percent straight.

[VeronicaBea]

I am bi even though I have never been with a man. I am married to a wonderful woman, and one of our favorite fantasies is sharing a guy.

[Tina_gm]

I know this is a fear of my wife, that eventually enough time will pass, and I will become comfortable enough with the feminine side that the feminine side will want what most feminine people want. I can only say that I have never had any type of male interest, CD or otherwise. Yes, there are some CD's who do a wonderful job at looking feminine, even gorgeous perhaps. But, they are men. I simply prefer anything feminine and female when it comes to sexuality.

[Gracey]

Only ever been attracted to women. I've had two long term relationships in my life, and neither knew about my CDing. I was actually very worried about the chance one of them may find out.

[Aeslyn]

Umm, definitely not straight though my sexual experiences with guys are limited. I would describe myself as bi though I am leaning more towards guys lately. I still find females as attractive as ever I just have not had an desires for such involvements with them for a few years now. I have never actually be in a relationship as such with a guy but really want to. Just not easy to find truth to tell.

So far as porn, I had very limited exposure to this as a teen. I had seen a few mags and nothing too hard core really. When I first saw porn videos as a young adult I automatically felt more like I wanted to be the woman. This lead to some confusion as I hadn't really had desires towards guys before this.

As far as what porn interests me - I have only two requirements, it must contain penises and it must have at least one person dressed as and playing the female role (and a big bonus if she keeps some of the clothing on).

[Wanttodress]

Aeslyn, you hit the nail right on the head. Fully agree on that!

[susan jackson]

How straight am I?

Straight as an arrow, honey!

[Mona]

I get turned on when I wear a strain gauge!

[Steffani]

Ok... So here goes. Love women and love their bodies so much. Guys bodies do nothing for me. That would be too easy of answer though and you know how everything is much more complicated for us... So... Whenever I watch porn I fantasize about being the girl. I imagine I'm her being taken by the guy, etc., When I dress up I also feel that way. I want to be like a girl and meet a guy and taken but then I realize I don't have a V. That saddens me at times.

Anyways..I've never been with a guy and don't want to. I'm not into that, but when I am dressed I would only want to do one thing to a guy. I don't know what to take from it. I don't think I'm bi. My drab side definitely doesn't want a guy but my girl side wants to do things. So complicated!

[Kellie79]

Anyways..I've never been with a guy and don't want to. I'm not into that, but when I am dressed I would only want to do one thing to a guy. I don't know what to take from it. I don't think I'm bi. My drab side definitely doesn't want a guy but my girl side wants to do things. So complicated!

Exactly the way I think... I love women sooo much and everything about them. I am soo attracted to them that, if I were a girl, I would be a lesbian. However, as a CD, I sometimes fantasize about being with a man to explore the very feminine side I have in me. I really don't know how to handle that feeling though. As Steffani said it: so complicated!

[Ms. Jennifer]

I guess this makes 3 of us lol............im very straight and been with my wife for 11 years now (she supports my CD habit ) never attracted to men in the least bit. however something is just so sexy about getting with a hot TS/ TG....even if it is only for 1 time! It is definitely a fantasy for me. problem I have is the face and body has to look like the "real thing" its not the "equipment" or below the waist that bothers me but just the part above lol.........ugggg why am I even thinking these toughts ???? sooooo complicated

[Jordan]

When I'm dressed I have to say that cross dressers drive me nuts as I think they are sexy as hell. I am not attracted to men but a cross dresser is another story I have never been with one but it is something I hope will happen in the future.

[TomboyBecca]

Totally Straight.

[Jaime77]

I second Jordan's statement, but find that attraction to CDs or traps even when I am not in female mode...

[AndreaSCd]

For myself I would say its hard to label. As a man I am straight, have no desire to be with any other man. My CD self well that is where things get a little shaddy. I'm still attracted to women, but I would also say if I was ever out with other gg I would flirt with men just as I was one of them. Same goes towards other CD's/TS/TG. I am attracted to all of those and would openly flirt with them and see what happens.

[mechamoose]

I'm Pansexual. If I like you, I like YOU. Gender/wiggly bits aside.

Healthy, active & self aware turn me on.

[Rachel75]

Ok... So here goes. Love women and love their bodies so much. Guys bodies do nothing for me. That would be too easy of answer though and you know how everything is much more complicated for us... So... Whenever I watch porn I fantasize about being the girl. I imagine I'm her being taken by the guy, etc., When I dress up I also feel that way. I want to be like a girl and meet a guy and taken but then I realize I don't have a V. That saddens me at times.

Anyways..I've never been with a guy and don't want to. I'm not into that, but when I am dressed I would only want to do one thing to a guy. I don't know what to take from it. I don't think I'm bi. My drab side definitely doesn't want a guy but my girl side wants to do things. So complicated!

I feel the exact same way, Steffani. I consider myself straight, and the porn I watch is primarily girl-on-girl. I always fantasize that I'm one of the girls! Sometimes I like gangbang videos and pretend that my "reward" for becoming a girl is getting mercilessly violated over and over again.

In my mind though, I'm a women who loves other women. If I were a GG, I definitely wouldn't mind sex with men on occasion (what a waste if not!), but it wouldn't be intimate or anything that lasts more than one night at a time. In reality, I have no interest in that whatsoever.

I do fantasize about being the girls in the bukkae videos, and would absolutely love to play a submissive role in guy-on-girl sex, so long as I was the girl. :)

I have to admit though, if I see a video with a gorgous CD that passes really well, I'll occasionally watch those. I figure she's just like me, so why not?

[cathie pantyhose]

I am definitely bi. I love woman but I do love the whole man thing as well. I've been with only one guy and that has been so long ago but it was still wonderful and it lasted a year. Since being married to my second wife (ex not because of the guy thing) I haven't ever strayed but I would not mind with the right guy again. I would of course only if I could dress fem. That's the best part as well. To have a mans hands other than my own (lol) on my legs, back and arms is great.

[Valarie]

On the Kinsey scale I would be a 3 lol.

[mechamoose]

I have been with my wife for over 20 years, and when we were first together we were both bisexually active. We have been faithful to each other, and I have just coped with the lack of males in my bed. One of my long term friends (also in a relationship) recently started hinting that he kinda, wanted to get naked with me. He had never been with a guy. So I talked to my wife, and she gave me permission to bed him. He apparently likes the idea of me dressing up for him too, so another excuse to wear a skirt..

I'm a lucky person.

[Karencd37]

I second Jordan's statement, but find that attraction to CDs or traps even when I am not in female mode...

Traps?? What does that mean?

[Lorileah]

Traps?? What does that mean?

if you use the search feature you would get this
http://www.crossdressers.com/forums/showthread.php?208287-Traps!-What-s-all-this-then&highlight=traps

[Anna Abwaerts]

I can imagine being with a man sexually. But I can not imagine having a heartfelt emotional conversation with a man. I feel like this is a serious key element. I am arrogant in my relations to other men.

Yeah and I only thought about females in puberty.

[Jorja]

Even back in the days before SRS etc.... I had more curves and kinks than a 50' water hose strung about a rocky hillside.

[Jessica EnFemme]

I've always considered myself "straight" -- as a man I'm attracted to everything woman, and as a woman I guess I do want to attract men. Not so much sexually, just romantically -- I'd love the attention, the romance, the being taken-care-of, the romantic dinner, a man in a tux, dancing together... but when the fantasy gets to sex, I want to look down and see breasts (not rubber forms), and see a penis in a vagina. That's where it falls apart for me. i don't want to be a man with a man, and I can't be a woman with a man sexually. So I guess I avoid those thoughts, and just be myself as a woman with some level of sexual tension I suppose, but I simply enjoy it without making it pornographic.

[Gina04]

I am most def a bi CD'er. I have been with the same woman for over 20 years. But I do have one guy that has me dress for him and he treats me like an innocent little girl sometimes. Kinda creepy I know but its a lot of fun when we get together.

[imnskirts]

The older you get, the ore confused it gets... at 52 all is sort of blurry.. Those low T comercials make me think two ways... try raising it, or go with wat nature maybe intended for me

[Felicia Dee]

Honestly, I'll have to get back to you on that... ;P

[Krisi]

Straight male crossdresser here. When I told my wife I liked to wear women's clothes the first thing she asked was "Are you gay?" (This was after more than thirty years of marriage). I think it's a mistake many folks make thinking crossdressers are gay. I think most are straight.

I've never been sexually attracted to men and I can't think of a single one that I would want to get that close to even if I was dressed as a female at the time.

[Felicia Dee]

I've never been sexually attracted to men and I can't think of a single one that I would want to get that close to even if I was dressed as a female at the time.

I agree with you, but MUST add the following exception... And after a great deal of careful thought and consideration, that exception would be Johnny Depp. If the opportunity ever presented itself, I feel I would be more than willing to "take one for the team."

[Lucy Lou]

I definitely consider myself bi as I still like women but when I am dressed all I want is to be with a man but i am very fussy and don't find many men attractive. I sometimes see someone and think 'wow' but that doesn't happen very often.

There is also a nervous aspect to it but I know that one day I will find a guy who likes me dressed and we can be intimate. I do also feel that when I am dressed I want to act like a women, especially in bed. The trouble is I cannot stop thinking about it. My experiences with women, i.e. 3 divorces have left me not really wanting to be involved with a women again even though i do find them attractive.

So .......... straight, 'not at all'. Bi 'probably'....... Gay 'definitely'. Bit of a contradiction but when dressed I am 100% gay and feel cool about it.

The day I do eventually get my dream I know I will be a great girly lover to my man and he will feel like he wants more of me, which will be good.

Lucy Lou xx

[Shadeauxmarie]

I definitely consider myself bi as I still like women but when I am dressed all I want is to be with a man but i am very fussy and don't find many men attractive. I sometimes see someone and think 'wow' but that doesn't happen very often.

Wow. Lucy Lou get out of my head. That's EXACTLY how I feel.

[Lucy Lou]

Thanks Shadeauxmarie. I love it when someone answers one of my comments, especially a comment like that. We will get there. Kisses Lucy Lou.xx

[melanie206]

I'm not going to read all 157 posts on this thread just to put in my two cents. I get the idea. My thought: If you have only been with women up till now and only fantasize about men or other gurls then you may say you are straight. If you get physical with another gurl or man AND want to do it again you are bi or gay. Now doesn't that simplify matters.

[Karmen]

Prefer women, also very bi, but not to the genetic male form. I am very attracted to other cds and transgirls.

It's the same with me. I consider myself a little bi, because I can get easily turned on by cds and transgirls.

[GeminaRenee]

Put it this way: I always chuckle when people refer to me as "the straightest guy I know," or things of that ilk.

In general, I'm far more attracted to femininity than masculinity. But I'll take a lover as my heart and mind and the butterflies in my belly see fit.

Fair enough?

[traci_k]

Haven't played outside this marriage, but definitely Bi. Au femme, could definitely see myself in the arms of some gentleman, and maybe more.

[Jorja]

Careful there Traci, that "maybe more" will get you in trouble every time.

[LoriFlores]

Pan-sexual here... :D

[Truth]

Pansexual here, I fall in love with the person regardless of gender.

[SusanMoore]

Well I enjoy dressing up and like to feel girly, but although I consider myself straight I do think about what it would be like to be with a man... actually another cross dresser, so I think that if I were ever in a situation where I had the chance to explore being bi then if I were brave enough at the time I'd very much like to think I'd go for it and see.

[yyc_panties]

I've always thought of things just "evolving" or shifting, as some of you have pointed out. What does it matter, as long as one's happy?

[stellatoo]

Pansexual and quite happy at the moment to be on my own. If something happens with someone then I'll be happy with that too. My day's of labeling people are long gone. "There's one life and there's no return and no deposit, one life and it's time to open up your closet". I think one limits oneself by limiting others. I don't care what anyone does with their genitals as long as it's consensual. Have fun ladies and gentlemen.

[opaquetights09]

I have wondered at times if my crossdressing meant that I might be gay. I have never had the desire to be with a man. Recently though, I have had dreams of being with another CD. I am caught up with the look of a beautiful figure in skirts/dresses, heels or boots and hosiery. I've seen on the internet pictures of CD's who are to me very attractive dressing this way and I have fantasies about being with them. Not sure what that makes me. I definitely love the site of a beautiful woman but there's always a chance I could be attracted to a CD as well.

[leeann_360]

I will admit that I am 100% Bi...... When I was younger, I enjoyed both guys and girls. Since I have been married, that has stopped and I am completely faithful to my wife of 30+ years. Don't get me wrong, there have ben times I thought about dressing up and straying, my wife would help to handle that desire to stray. It is funny that we both can look at guys or woman and comment on their looks, if they are hot or not.

[PamelaMiller]

I'm straight but bi-curious, mostly in fantasy. In femme mode, I fantasize about being with men, usually with a woman present. I've had a couple of real life bi experiences but they have never lived up to the fantasy.

[Kristy 56]

What Pamela said,but no real life experiences,only the fantasy. :(

[vago487]

I would say im bi-curious, never had the guts to go through with anything tho.

[lovetobedani]

Personally I'm not nor have I ever been attracted to a male whether dressed fem or not. I am attrated to females and think about them all the time looking like them or being with a female as well.

I think that I must be a lesbian....................

[SierraTsuki]

I've never spent to much time worrying about exactly what box I fit in but I do consider myself bi with more of a preference for women. I never really questioned my sexuality too much and no matter what it is, I'm not going to be ashamed of it.

[TomboyBecca]

Totally straight. However wanting to experiment with a MtF or FtM. Thanks porn. lol.

[PaulaQ]

So apparently I'm not only not a guy, but I am not straight either, I am a big ol' trans lesbian. A really big trans lesbian...

[paigecd]

i love my wife, but when I'm dressed i think about being with another cd. so curious bi

[hazelm]

I had doubts when I was a teenager, but then I fell in love with a girl. It didn't work out in the end, but I realized that I was definitely into girls and definitely not into dudes.

[Tanya+]

Always ben straight..but…

6 years of being a girl in Second Life i went from lesbian to slave to bi curious, my default preference became pleasing anyone who liked me, and really enjoying pleasing them who ever they were, however they present. And so, now i am XDressing and imagining getting together socially, i am a little nervous/excited about what i might be willing to do. Can i be a straight guy with an inner bi girl? And how would i react if i were dressed en femme and someone treated me like a lady? Its a heady fantasy. kisses to you all

[Karen kc]

Not into men ,never have never will, jus women fem or drab

[Lacyfem]

I've pretty much dressed on and off my whole life and considered myself straight though a few encounters when quite young. Now being majorly into dressing and with wife not knowing and having had several affairs with men who loved me dressed and enjoying my fem side I am questioning straight, bi or gay. I no longer have sex with the wife and it's mostly by my choice so I'm lean towards the gay side but that side is only prevelant when I'm dressed. I do love to look at pretty women but mostly admiring how they are dressed, wondering what lingerie they have on, checking their makeup if done nicely and how their female persona comes through for me to emmulate. So I'm gay fem I guess though honestly I've beeing in bed with a man in which we were both unclothed. Ok... gay I guess!

[laura.lapinski]

I've always been drawn to dressing, and turned on by it, with all the normal fantasies included. Lately, I've felt I might be converting more into somewhat of an admirer of CD/TG's. Dressing still intrigues me, but I wouldn't need to be dressed to imagine myself with another Cd/TG/TS. I still have not done it in real life......yet.

[jsunic_1978]

i am more into WOMENS SHOES love dressing and latley i am more drawn to passable cross dressers and male to female TG i like women genetig, just feminneniety

[ClaraKent]

I am as straight as I need to be, I would rather get the best of both worlds but I am very picky with what kind of guys I like. Only drawback is that I've never had the chance to really take it anywhere so most people see me as straight.

[JessMe]

For the most part I am attracted solely to women, and all of my relationship experiences have been with women. ...I won't deny that the occasional, few and far between, guy strikes my fancy... and I also won't deny having "experimented" a bit a few years ago...

[Janine cd]

I'm with Shari. I have fantasies about being with women and at the same time, I fantasize about being a submissive to men.

[Alexaduggal]

I don't think I need a label for what I am. I love whoever I love whatever they may be. I will have sex with anyone I care for and find attractive.

[loyal]

I have no real life experience , buy have fantasies about cds and tgs, but in real I have been straight.

[Alice-n-wonderland]

Well dressed as a woman I dream of having a boyfriend to take me out, do stuff with. It would be like the last step in being a woman. I think it might also be fun to find a lesbian who might be into a guy all dressed up in fem. You know I would be her girl.

[GroovyChristy]

It seems to be an ongoing journey of self-discovery. I've been with cisgender women, cisgender men, and transmen. I'm also attracted to transwomen and gender-fluid people and others. I love men who are feminine and women who are masculine.

Just so I don't seem, ahem, prolific (not that there's anything wrong with that), I've only had five sexual partners: two were straight girls, two were gay guys, and one was a transman. I'm actually very picky, but I can be attracted to people of various sex and gender identities. I suppose that makes me pansexual? :strugglin

I'm still confused about my own identity, but the more I accept myself and the fact that I'm attracted to all sorts of people, the more fabulous things become!

[Kassandra56]

I've only ever loved women. I have had one night flings with Cross-dressers but when I do I see it as more of a lesbian oriented relationship, I don't see cross-dressers as male/female, I guess it's the third sex that has been written about in many forums.

[Jentay1958]

Lol a strain gauge on your penis...you're thinking way too much about it. Maybe you like fantasizing about penis. The homophobic men that got erections at gay porn are still not "gay"...in my belief. Sexuality is pretty complex...I don't really believe in the way we classify ourselves. And, so publicly! It's a little weird to go around proclaiming what kind of people you will and will not have sex with...even when it's irrelevant to anything going on in the situation...but, we do it anyway.

Either way, fantasy and reality are different worlds. Anal prolapse porn is the new "in" thing right now. People are all like, "Well, if they want to have their insides fall out of them, that's their choice...they're porn stars, I'm sure they know what they're doing."

Imagine being that nurse. With the anal prolapse patient.

Anyway, it gets a tight gauge right now on the penile erectile functioning. People are really into it. I am willing to get though that they may feel differently about it if they experienced it IRL.

So, in other words, don't worry about what your porn habits say about you. I'm not sure it says a whole lot about sexuality, which is already too messy for our neat little categories. Very rarely do people fit into the nice little title that they walk around, yelling out to everyone.

I'm sure that the very loudly proclaiming straight dudes aren't willing to admit they like watching people turn inside out.

Porn is weirder and weirder...if I think too much about what it says about our society, I'll lock my doors and never leave my apartment again.

So, again, I wouldn't think too hard about it.


You rock in so many ways I don't even know where to begin. Thanks!

[Candy Cox]

recently the lies are blurry: I always thought I was straight, but now that I dress:
I fantasize about being a girl ALL the WAY. I dream about having a handsome guy, strong and masculine, making love to me.
Never had any occasion to even come close to that, since in the closet.
Candy in a pink fog, thick and pink.

[MarcellaMcNul]

After much reflection I am forced to conclude that....the guys who actually volunteered to have "strain gauges" attached to them while watching porn selected by others are way weirder than me.

[CassieD]

I used to attach strain gauges to things. I can't imagine how you'd do it to a penis and get a worthwhile result. It never came up in conversation at work either.

[femaletrouble]

ive not had realy any proper relationship with a woman longer than a month or so an it was realy because of social anxiety which still plagues me to this day... on to how straight i am well.... i often fantazie of what it would be like to be taken out on dates by a man an treated as a woman and then doin as what all g,g's do. i often visit ******* sites an this is a great turn on, but out of my female clothes i would be disgusted with my self

[Kelly Greene]

I find women attractive regardless of how I am dressed, but also regardless of how I am dressed I find men just window dressing.

[biggirlsarah]

I must be bi , if I want sex I've got to buy it.

[mechamoose]

I like Big Strong Boys. I like Big Strong Girls. I like girly males. I like butch girls. I like mixes of both.

Be an interesting person and I'm Interested. Those other details don't matter.

- MM

[GenieGirl]

I find men repulsive. Body hair is a huge turnoff personally. I prefer to be smooth as a guy or girl. I love women as a guy or girl. Guess you can call me a straight male or lesbian as a female. But that doesn't mean I can't have platonic female friends because I have had many of those since I was a kid. I don't want acgirl to think we can't be gfs because I'm not interested in every girl I meat like some guys. I do enjoy the friendship of some girls without getting inside their panties...I just want to know where they got them from so I can get a pair for myself :)

[Diana81]

I'm just starting my journey. I'm not interested in men except as a complement to my feminine self. I don't know where I will end. I don't care either...

[Josette_Laroc]

Outwardly, I'm about as straight as can be.

I do have a Bi past that my wife is scared of and would rather have me keep it in the past.
I have my fantasies. But I will remain faithful to my wife and live my life straight.

[PinkieM]

Totally straight.

[DreamRin]

Im pretty much bi-curious while in guy mode. But im a straight person by core, i like to be dominated and protected but can't imagine myself having a long lasting relationship with men while in guy mode.

[sillycdlover]

I consider myself BI, but with that said, I am only attracted to fem bois, CD/TGs, and women. Never could I be with a manly type of man, just doesn't do it for me.

[maya1love]

I am a (somewhat) softer, feminine gay man who likes masculine men! I like hairy chests and deep voices ...sorry, that's just how I'm programmed!

[sillycdlover]

I am a (somewhat) softer, feminine gay man who likes masculine men! I like hairy chests and deep voices ...sorry, that's just how I'm programmed!

Please don't be sorry, think of all those big hairy men and how disapointed they would be knowing you weren't into them! The wailing would be heard worldwide!:heehee:

[Tami]

Been with one woman for ten years up until a couple of years ago but before that although mostly women there was the odd exception. These days my take on it is that anyone can fall in love or lust with anyone regardless. You never know what's around the corner. At the moment it's definitely girls for me be that gg or cd xx

[CD Stephanie]

Sexually, I'm only attracted to women. I've played with another CD or two, but just some light touching and exploring my curiosities. As for porn, I've gotten some good times from watching TS/She-male stuff. I especially like when a she-male is having sex with a woman. One of my big sexual attractions though is to women with large natural breasts. Only one place to find those.

[tina 1103]

totally bi for me, sexually male or female, or both.....
emotionally, could never have a love affair with a male..., just sex
most erotic experience in my life was with a female to male transgender...
he was totally passable as male, had breasts removed, was bald on top, and covered with hair,
was an awesome kisser !!! and one of the best partners I have ever experienced, not to mention he was just a real nice guy

[Talisker]

This type of question doesnt make much sense to me as people change. Homo become hetero and vice versa and many just lose interest when they get older.

At the moment im not interested in people who look male apart from a CD accessory.
Like people who look female - could be Talisker, a GG or another CD.

[Erica Grace]

Definitely straight here, nothing about men's bodies is attractive to me. But when I'm dressed I think about doing kinky stuff with the GF.. one day! :daydreaming: The idea of putting people into one of 2 buckets confuses me, everyone is different and there is a wide spectrum where you can feel most comfortable.

[Talisker]

Totally straight.
For now ;)

[Kiltie]

I likewise always acted straight and went through all the usual phases. I started wearing a kilt here in Scotland when i was a boy of 6 and in my teens i knew I really liked it and i also liked to be in the company of other guys wearing kilts
It wasnt until recent years that I found that I got quite a few nice comments from gay guys who obviously liked to see me in my kilts and it surprised me that I was 'turned on' by this whether i liked it or not. The fact that I wear kilts most of the time now accounts for the fact that i get more interest from people who like a man in a kilt and its really nice.
I now have an open mind about what is sexually attractive to me and believe its the right way to be.
I have a few crossdresser friends here who love to go out with me in my kilts because they can dress as they wish and feel confident they arnt being stared at all the time.

[KatieGG]

I know I'm not a man but I wanted to add my two cents on this topic, as it's something I have questioned since I was a teen and have gone from thinking a was straight to maybe I am a lesbian, maybe bi, to this day I am still not 100 on it.
I met my future husband while I was a junior in high school and knew he was a cross dresser before we started dating. In the back of my mind I always questioned if being with a cd is my way of being "straight" while still having a relationship with a "girl. I don't know if I would say I am attracted to him when he is dressed but I do think he looks cute, and I sometimes find my self getting turned on watching him getting dressed.
I also like looking at pictures of cross dressers but I don't know on what level I like it if that makes sense lol. I don't know maybe I am bi or maybe just a straight girl who likes cds.

[laura.lapinski]

KatieGG,

Well, it sounds like maybe you both have the best of both worlds. Its no big deal to have the thoughts you have. I think it kind of spices things up. You and hubby are very lucky to have each other.

Cheers!
Laura

[Penny M]

As the GG SO of a CD'er I am reading this thread with great interest! This really is my question regarding my SO. I know he is turned on by other CD'ers although he claims to be straight. I guess it is just confusing to me because I have only ever been attracted to males. I just don't understand; I am trying really hard to though. Thanks for your honesty.

[Christyheely]

I'm into feminine people and more open to exploring in girl mode.

[MustangGirl]

I have never gave much thought to the straight/gay thing. I watch all kinds of porn, and by being on this forum, I am very much into crossdressing, although not as much as I used to be. I did have one experience with a guy in college. He was my roommate, and I knew from the beginning he was gay. He told me one night he had a crush on me, and tried to kiss me. That was crossing a line, and I told him so. He said he was sorry, and could he just lay beside me and hug me. I don't know why, but I said ok. To make a long story short, he ended up sucking and licking my nipples, and in the end preformed oral on me. I did nothing in return, and for the last 45 years, I have always wondered if I missed out on something. I consider myself straight, but there is that .5% that still wonders.

[ophelia]

You know you're straight when....This is not to judge gay men. I love exploring my female inside, but together, from attending several gay weddings to being several times inappropriately touched by males, I know I am straight. It has been decades since I've had a man cut my hair. I am trying to make connections with gg's and I wonder what my physical response will be to being with a girl fully dressed.

[Mz Jenna J.]

I am attracted to all things feminine. I love women. I am not attracted to the male form at all. When I am dressed even I am not attracted to guys. However, an attractive cd/tv, I would be turned on. Am I bi? Maybe? I've been able to explore some in the past and I know what I like and what I dont. I just know I dont like regular masculine men.

[ophelia]

I've read several times that the vast majority of crossdressers are straight. But straight while presenting in which gender mode? Where can a girl find statistics to support or to deny this claim?
It is my personal quest to have a GG friend and I wonder what my feelings will be in that scenario. I've had compliments from men while dressed and I liked the notes, but I was not interested beyond that. I've had compliments from other sister CD's, but they weren't particularly feminine or stylish looking so again, thanks for the compliments, but no interest. I wonder if a wonderfully styled CD made a comp.....
I just wonder if it's the image I enjoy or lifestyle..

[Debbie W]

For me, it's all about women, dressed or drab ... except when dressed I occasionally think it'd be nice to be appreciated by a man, held and complimented, but it's not a sexual attraction.

[mariehart]

Interesting thread. I always saw myself as bisexual. When I was younger I was more attracted to girls although in fact my first big crush was on a classmate called Paul. But had many crushes on girls too. Indeed as a young teenager I decided that my crossdressing was some form of attempt to get close to girls by dressing as one. Yet even then I would lay in my bed fervently wishing I would wake up in the morning as a girl. Such was the convoluted logic that existed in my mind at that time in the seventies.

But I was comfortable with my bisexuality and never felt gay. If anything I rationalised that my interest in some guys was down to my lack of any sexual experience. I thought that in all probability I was really straight with a twist.

My first sexual experience was in my thirties with a man and I was dressed as a woman. After that it was sporadic and rare. I did have a short gay affair but when I introduced my female side it ended. I was 42 before I had sex with a woman and she remains the first and probably last. If you went to court with that evidence the jury would have no trouble finding me gay as charged.

But in reality I'm bi. But I do think that if I transitioned I would probably be a straight woman. I'm perfectly comfortable with that.

I was interested in the original post particularly where the homophobes tended to react to gay porn. I've long believed that the majority of homophobes are either gay or bisexual but have repressed it and express homophobic attitudes to protect themselves. As Shakespeare or somebody once said: 'They doth protest too much.' I always believe that anyone who thinks you can choose to be gay or bisexual must have chosen not to be. I didn't choose to be this way and I'm sure most of you out there didn't either.

One of life's ironies

[ChristinaK]

"Is it still about the clothes then?" I think you have hit upon a serious element there. Obsessive Compulsive Disorder can explain that you are more enamored by the clothing than by the gender. If you identify the clothing as the sexual stimulus then the gender remains neutral. We tend to identify the female sex by the way they dress, not necessarily by the way they look. We, as males, are visually stimulated. That manifests itself as dressed vs. non-dressed. If a man dresses as a woman, and commits the same sexual acts, we can identify that man as being feminine, even though he is anatomically a man. Furthermore, I think that fantasy plays a role in gender reversal for us cross-dressers. Whether it be in fantasy or reality depends on how far a person is willing to take it.

[Aylineira]

I'm definitely straight. Sometimes I think how can a woman even want to be with man when women are just so much more attractive.

[Lacy PJs]

There have been lots of interesting responses to the original post, that's for sure. It got me to thinking about exactly what was being tested & measured, especially via penile response. One might say that what turns you on is an indicator of how you feel about your sexuality but I don't think it would include the fantasy vs. reality factor.

If I were to see a very attractive female, I may be very well turned on by her image. If, later I discovered that she had that little something extra, I'm sure that the attraction would diminish considerably. Then there are things that I may or may not think about that might be stimulating that I'd not take part in in reality. So I'm not sure if that would tell the whole story... of if anything could tell it.

I'd think that would be the same thing if one were to judge one's likelihood to cheat on his/her spouse/significant other by checking their reaction to heterosexual porn. A lot of people would react to watching various porn scenes of fantasies that they may have but that doesn't mean that they would actually take part in those same things even if they had the chance.

Me? Not much interest in anything or anyone other than the lady I've shared my life with for all of these years.

Lacy PJs

[withasmile]

I've pretty much dressed on and off my whole life and considered myself straight though a few encounters when quite young. Now being majorly into dressing and with wife not knowing and having had several affairs with men who loved me dressed and enjoying my fem side I am questioning straight, bi or gay. I no longer have sex with the wife and it's mostly by my choice so I'm lean towards the gay side but that side is only prevelant when I'm dressed. I do love to look at pretty women but mostly admiring how they are dressed, wondering what lingerie they have on, checking their makeup if done nicely and how their female persona comes through for me to emmulate. So I'm gay fem I guess though honestly I've beeing in bed with a man in which we were both unclothed. Ok... gay I guess!
Lacyfem - this post is the sum of all married women to CD's nightmares!!! Please leave her so that she can have a relationship that she deserves with honesty and intimacy! So po'd !
Rant over My husband is bi, and I've indulged this side of him by giving him freedom to experiment when away on trips, and other play. Sometimes though this side of him can make me feel less than desirable to be honest. When those doubts surface, my fantasies concern trading him in for a more 'normal' male. But there is the little problem of loving him...

[devida]

Wow, this thread has legs, and hopeful really shapely cute ones! Anyway I've always identified as bi because I loved having sex with men when I was much younger, much more than I did with women. When I was in my twenties that changed and I actually have not had sex with a man in about thirty years. But how else could I identify myself but as bi? Plus I really don't think that what people have between their legs is what makes them attractive. I mean I like genitals but I like the rest of people a great deal more.

[andreapink]

I personally am attracted to femininity, the genitalia doesnt matter to me but the femininity does. Although i have never experimented with anyone other than a GG i would say im open.

[AmandaM]

I consider myself straight. At least 99%. I have had one same sex encounter when I wanted to find out if I was gay at 21. Went all the way. It seemed mechanical, was enjoyable, but just didn't do it for me. Haven't done it again. I do fantasize about it at times but I'm always a woman, never a man with a man. I am also not attracted to men in general. I don't check them out. I check out women all the time, desiring them or wanting to be them interchangeably. But, 2-3 times in my 50 years, I did meet the gaze of a man and was seriously attracted to him. That was mind-boggling. That's why I say 99% and not 100%.

[Paula_Femme]

To quote the wonderful Eddie Izzard... I'm a, "Lesbian trapped in a mans body!" :o

[Melissa in SE Tn]

Sexually I am straight as an arrow , solely heterosexual with a great love & respect for the female body . Maybe that explains why I love to dress as a woman. How crazy are we to love the female body & want to dress en femme ? Peace, mel

[Bryn]

I identify as pansexual. I'm attracted to all sorts of people and my preferences change over time.
I think I prefer other mtf crossdressers but there's a lot of other kinds of people I'm open to.

[mechamoose]

I actually have not had sex with a man in about thirty years. But how else could I identify myself but as bi?

I have been monogamous with my girl for (most of, sorry) 25 years. I recently got permission for a boytoy.

You like what you like. You promise what you promise. What you find hot and who you sleep with are different things.

<3

- MM

[ArleneRaquel]

I'm so straight that I live 24/7 as a female( I've been doing that for about 10 years and have a steady BF.

[Dora]

Since I have started to embrace crossdressing more I have been finding out that things are changing for me, I am mostly attracted to women but also I am finding out I am attracted to other crossdressers.

[Mickey M]

I guess that I am attracted to beautiful CDers, but I think
it's because of how much they succeed at
looking feminine. I'm always wishing I could
be that sexy.
I've been married 42 years and can only fantasize
about sex with anyone else. My wife loves me for who
I am and I return that love.

[MetalGurl]

This a somewhat difficult question. I absolute love women, always have, and always will. When it comes to men, I don't find any of them attractive. However, and this is what I mean when I said difficult, I find what's between their legs attractive. I don't look at any faces or bodies, and get turned on or want to please any of them. But when I see what's being packed, it's a different story. That's probably why I love transsexual porn, which I find the absolute best of both worlds. So if you had to pigeonhole it, I'd guess I'd have to say I'm bi, although I could never date a man, even if I was living fulltime as how I feel inside. Now someone else like me would be perfect.

[Ms. Alexis]

LOL I'm not! I am a Freak! I have to say that after a lot of thought I would have to say that I am a Straight Guy and a BiSexual Woman, depending on which role I am in, though sexually I prefer to be in the female role. Now I do have to put out a disclaimer, and that is that although I have found I love to suck **** and be well, Taken... I am in a monogamous relationship with a woman that I Love so I will gladly forgo the former because I have a wonderful relationship, as for the latter... Well lets just say that my wife finds it a turn on to put me in my place ;-) so we both get the best of both worlds!

[cdkateinboston]

I've reached a point in my dressing where I'm comfortable with who I am. I am attracted to women, not men. But I am also very attracted to crossdressers who are fully dressed up. Where that puts me in the spectrum of straight, who knows.

[StacyLynn]

Well... I don't like this question lol. I don't like labeling myself because I don't know if any of them really fit me. Bi would be the closest, but I am not sexually attracted to men at all. I can appreciate if a man is handsome in a suit or something, but that's more of a respect factor than a "oh, I'd sure like to sleep with that guy." I'm completely attracted to the female form. I looooove boobies :P. I have had a few same sex encounters, mostly due to curiosity and confusion (before I found this forum and found that there were more people like me, my CDing threw me through a loop, it seemed like a "gay" thing to do so I wondered if I was gay... Youthful ignorance). Said encounters were primarily oral, but I did bottom once. It was okay, I didn't dislike it necessarily, but I wasn't in love with it or anything. Bottoming felt good, but many a straight male like their prostates stimulated so... Though I do have to admit, I've never been with a guy dressed and that has always been a fantasy of mine, but I don't think I'll act on it. I'd rather spend my time looking for a GF than same sex one night stand.

[Dana does shopping]

Tough this one. I love all things female. I do know that my first choice would to be in a long term "lesbian" relationship. However there are "those times" when the feminizing is so complete one longs for the "total pictue" to be realised. Tough this one...

[Alice B]

I'm right there with Beverly also

[Jessica86]

I don't consider myself gay. Not at all. BUT, I don't know what I would call myself. To me, straight does not exist. Gay does not exist. No person can safely say they would only be attracted to one's sex. I believe you fall in love with the person instead of what they identify as. Whether that person is a man or woman should not matter. If the feelings float in your heart for them, then go for it.

I will put it this way. I have not seen a man that I have found attractive. I have seen plenty of women I find attractive. I have also seen some women with something extra that I found attractive too. I guess I am a little out of the ordinary.

[Alexand]

-I have never looked at or thought of a guy in an erotic way.
-I wished I was born a woman, but I enjoy being a man too.
-I look at women on the street all the time. Sometimes I want a woman so much it hurts. I have also realized that maybe this happens because I am also jealous of them, of how provocative and sexy they can be in public. I wish I could walk around wearing a semi-transparent spandex, but only if I had a woman's curves. If I did it now, as a guy, I would feel ridiculous.

Confusing? Yes.
Frustrating? No. I don't care what I "kind" am. I am all the above.

[newbiecdmd]

Similar to what others have shared, I am attracted to women, and when I look at a guy, I do not have any sexual attraction. But when I am dressed and imagining myself being a women, I am turned on by sexual thoughts of being with a guy, but it is all centered around the sexual pleasure - I do not even picture the rest of their body! I equally fantasize about being with a women when I am dressed.

[wanda66]

I have no desire for a man, love the ladys. But like so many others I do enjoy the attractive transgender person.

[He_wears_hers]

Pretty damn straight. No interest in men whatsoever! But like you I like to see what other guys look like dressed up. It's a comparison thing and I also like to get ideas of what I might want to wear.

[Pastry]

Being completely honest, I'd say I'm bisexual but homoromantic. I like the physical appearance of females and things, but I'm really only romantically attracted to males.

[antonyio]

i would say i am bi ,but more like the female form and dont care about what there genitals are .like the male body to look at and be sexual with,but the though of kissing a male doesnt do much