What brought you to this forum?

[Michelle789]

What made you decide to become a member on this forum? Here's my story.

Last year, I was suffering a long series of nervous breakdowns over gender. I was extremely depressed, I hated being male, wanted to die and be reincarnated as a girl. I had also done some research on transgender people. I read a lot of articles, forum posts, and even saw youtube videos on transgender people and MTF TS transitions.

At that time I was very much waivering whether I was a CD or a TS (or even possibly something else). I just wasn't sure. I related to most everything I read on being transgender (and specifically transsexual) on the internet. I related to most of what I had seen in videos about transgender people (and specifically transitioning MTS transsexuals), and their childhood and adult pre-transition TS feelings.

I still wasn't sure. I thought even though I identify with all the TS feelings, maybe I'm just a cross-dresser. By this point, it was August, and I had just fired the psychic whom is number 1 on my resentment list, and for her mistreatment of me and failing to see that I had any GD issues. I started doing Google searches on "crossdresser vs transsexual". A number of links came up all coming from one place, crossdressers.com. I found at least four old CD vs TS threads.

Come September, I decided to become a member here and that I should post my own CD vs. TS thread. I got a lot of responses very quickly. Some telling me I was a TS, some telling me I was a CD, but most telling me that I should see a therapist. I was unemployed at the time, and I could not afford to see a therapist (or so I thought - I found out the other night that the therapists in L.A. work on a sliding scale). I was also terrified of the thought of trusting a therapist given my experience with the psychic. I know what you're thinking of most or all psychics being con artists, but the fact is I had trusted her to help me and she failed me.

I started posting on the CD forums and eventually I bought a new wig and got a makeup lesson. I also started PMing some of you about my gender issues and the psychic, and by the start of 2014 I felt comfortable posting on the TS forum (and also posting about the psychic). On Friday night, I went to my first transgender support group, and I hope to finally start seeing a therapist soon. I will keep you posted with my journey and everything that happens along the way.

So, to everyone else here, and I mean everyone, regardless of your gender identity. What propelled you to join this forum? Was it a cross-dressing issue you didn't understand? Fashion advice? Makeup? Wanting to learn more about gender dysphoria? Contemplating transition? Your SO is a cross-dresser? Acceptance of being a CD? Unsure if you're CD or TS? Or it could be a million things I haven't thought of in this paragraph? Please share your stories.

[Adriana Moretti]

my story is simple.......google...LOL..I just stumpled on it through research....i joined though to make friends

[Angela Campbell]

I initially came here seeking information to help me enhance my presentation. Makeup, clothes and deportment. I was pretty successful in finding that kind of information. Met a lot of really cool people while I was at it.

[AllieSF]

I had just started dressing, actually dressed with a complete stranger for the first time, liked what I saw when there was a woman looking back at me in the mirror, joined urnotalone.com (also recommended as a decent site with an in house chat feature) and someone recommended this site. I came here looked at a few posts and I think I signed up that first time. As you can see by my post total I must really like it here. My reason besides the recommendation is that I had just started dressing completely from zero in 2006 at a young over 55 and didn't know anything about crossdressing nor crossdressers. I didn't know what I was, didn't care nor worry about it then and fortunately still feel the same now. I came here to see what it was all about and I have, and then some!

[PretzelGirl]

I searched for another forum when the one I was reading was shutdown. It was quite an upgrade actually. The rest is history....

[FoxxxyBri]

I wanted to find a message board where TG/CD people had discussions and maybe find somebody to hang out with in real life.

So I went to Google and came across this site. I barely say anything here but I like the place.

[Alice_2014_B]

My main reason joining was to meet CD's in my local area.
But also for advice and support.
I've only been a member here for a few days and have already learned so much and gained much support.

[S. Lisa Smith]

I think I was on the same forum as Sue. It closed down because it was based on the EU and certain laws about internet disclosure changed. It was recommended to come here and I did. As was said, the rest is history...

[dana digs sweaters]

Yes Google for me also. Joined to see what was offered here for a crossdresser like me.
Very surprised at all the other sub-forums. Quite the range. And glad that there is.
How my story compared to others & learning about those that do not identify as CD.

[Vanessa Rose]

Google of course dear!

Also a need to make changes and to reach out and to...

You get what I am talking about. And a place to air out the girls (wink).

Vanny

[Anna H]

I came here via a site I stumbled onto called mycdlife -via Flickr...(i think)

I tried a few groups/sites but some were primarily dating...(dropped out of those
very quickly)...or had bunches of guys in the mix...(not interested) Or other
reasons.

What I *Really* wanted to find was an active discussion board, so I'm
still a little stunned at how Perfect this one is. I DO love pictures, but I
Love being able to converse with others like me more than anything.

I'm just in awe at how Super Nice...Accepting...and Friendly you all are.
I was very scared up til about 3 months ago to ever join Any group.
But I'm So Happy to have found this one.

ALL you girls are Stars as far as I'm concerned, and I'm Thrilled to be
in your company.

♥♥ Kate ♥♥

[chelyann]

Google (duh) :)
the information found here explained some questions i was having with my and helped me come out some :)

[Caden Lane]

I belong to several different forums, but this one I prefer to be active on.

Michelle: there is no reason to fear or distrust a therapist or psychologist. Especially because of a psychic. A psychic is not a medical professional, nor is there an aspect of what a psychic supposedly does, that would be any benefit to you. Whereas a therapist or psychologist can diagnose you, and take away that guessing game you are going through. Which will end some of that emotional drain you are presently enduring because you just aren't sure what you are or what you want. I suspect that psychic only made that inner turmoil worse...

[Hell on Heels]

Much Like you Michelle, I was searching for answers to my gender identity. I searched for all the info I could find. Not knowing what was going on in my head. Could I be on the path to becoming TS? or am I CD? Never could visit a therapist, thats what the motorcycle is for. Anyway came across the forum, joined immediately, and the motorcycle has been parked a lot more often.
Much Love,
Kristyn

[KaceyR]

Mine was a bit of a technical quest...
I'd underessed for a while, looked into CDing aspect more heh.. I was starting with the Halloween maid outfit.
In digging up info on another site (maybe was Janet's closet forum..) someone referred over to the infamous tucking thread here and I found this place way more informative, busy, and with a lot more info about others who was experiencing what I also was experiencing. A month after (was making sure my own interest wasn't just a passing fad) I registered and Kacey was now born.

[PaulaQ]

I joined this site for a simple reason - I was just a cross dresser and wanted to look more like a woman. Be careful what you ask for I guess...

[VictoriaT.]

Much Like you Michelle, I was searching for answers to my gender identity. I searched for all the info I could find. Not knowing what was going on in my head. Could I be on the path to becoming TS? or am I CD? Never could visit a therapist, thats what the motorcycle is for. Anyway came across the forum, joined immediately, and the motorcycle has been parked a lot more often.
Much Love,
Kristyn

Much like Hell on Heels and Michelle, Who I share some similarities with but as I can only speak for myself, I have always known that I am bisexual however, I am gender confused when it comes to men, not because I am submissive, rather because I generally feel like a woman when it that role. So I guess in the end I am here to learn how to be better woman.

P.S, I've been told that I over share. :battingeyelashes:

[erickka]

I Googled, surfed a lot of different forums, mostly full of bull$#!t, came across this one and found out how non judgmental the others were, how "clean" the forum was (no perverse or gross sexual crap etc.) then joined. the rest is just ...history!
I was only looking for somewhere to help me better understand myself....Thanks to everyone here for the last 7 great years!

[Lynn Marie]

Don't remember exactly how I got started here. Probably just looking for the closet key. I found it here and the rest is history.

[CD Husband]

I had googled something and found an archived thread from here, so I decided it was time to join a forum and discuss what I have going on. After my cardiac incident, I feel I should be sharing more of myself with others. This seemed like a good place to start.

[Dawna Ellen Bays]

Don't remember how I found this wonderful forum, but I had been searching for a site like this where our community could "meet" and not be perturbed by "admirers" trawling for sex. I was a member for over two years before I even dared to post!

[Trish]

When I first got on the internet, I googled 'crossdresser' and found this forum. It's nice to know I wasn't the only one with a fem clothing habbit.

[Jane Doe]

I used google. I needed clarity on definitions. Found a few other sites but this one is certainly the most friendly, informative and non judgemental. Hope to know you all better on here.

[MsVal]

Similar to KaceyR, I found this site while I was researching my interest in crossdressing. I too wasn't sure whether it was real and permanent. I guess it is; I better make the best of it.

As others have said and I discovered, there are a lot of sites with some pretty gross things going on, things that may be right for someone else, not MsVal. This site has the right balance of maturity with just a touch of cheekiness. The moderators here do a great job and deserve a big ol' pat-on-the-back for their work. They keep things well focused and quite to MsVal's liking.

I lurked in the shadows for just a little while, reading all that time would allow, before making my first post. There will be more. Thank you all for the collective advice and wisdom.

[Kristy 56]

I stumbled into it,liked what I saw and stayed. Was so surprised so many with the same experiences as myself.

[Kate Simmons]

My friend Karren Hutton basically.:battingeyelashes::)

[donnalee]

I was trying to get information at a rather late stage in my life, but everything I ran across was either a porn site or a dating site for what appeared to be hookers and wanted to be paid. As I had been with the same woman for 40 years and had no intention of making any changes. I quickly disassociated myself (I'm still getting come-ons from one of them [another good reason for having several email addresses]). Believe it or not it took 2 years to locate this site. I was able to find for the first time some information from those who spoke from personal experience and who were believable, honest (mostly) and sincere. I read for the most part (God gives you 2 ears and 1 mouth for a reason). A few members were kind enough to lend me a hand after I started posting; by now (going on 6 years) I am on here each day.

[Beverley Sims]

I came upon this forum completely by an accident of the internet.
Search engines pointed me in the wrong direction.

[Cheryl T]

I was just about to come out to my wife (for the second time and for good) and was searching for somewhere to discuss all the aspects of this without all the porn that's so prevalent on the rest of the web.
Found my way here, found nice people and good discussion and tips and called it home. It also helped tremendously when I did come out as my wife joined also and was able to find answers from others that confirmed things I was saying validating my feelings and thoughts.
Nice to be here and be home.

[natcrys]

I have known this forum for quite a while, but it has only been recently that I signed up. I used to hang out at Flickr all the time, but the recent changes just make it harder for the social interaction to take place. Flickr has become all about photo consumption.

So basically for me.. I went looking for other places and I ended up with this forum and Reddit. Different flavours, different crowds.. but both highly interesting and entertaining.

[Tina B.]

Many years ago, when the internet was still young, there was a pay site for TG's that I joined, but after a couple of years I quit, I got tired of being told we where all TS and it was just a matter of time, While I did enjoy a few of the girls I met there, for the most part it was a job to defending CD's for not wanting to go all the way over.
So I gave it up. A few years later, I wanted to talk to someone again, I missed it. I went to google, and checked out dozens of sites, and then I found this place, I checked it out for a couple of days, and joined, I've never looked back, or looked for anything else, anywhere else.

[Sandra]

I had a run in with the mods from another site, knew about this one from Tamara Croft and took a peek and joined. Didn't join for help or advise but to help others if I could. That was 2006 and I'm still here :D

[Di]

Came here in 2005 I had an ex that was tg but mostly I came here when looking for help for a friend who was trying to get the courage to come out to his wife.
STAYED
Met some wonderful people alot of friends and also met the love of my life here. We are now married.

[Jane G]

I can't remember. I just know this forum has always seemed a supportive, positive and safe place to be.

[Katey888]

By this point, it was August, and I had just fired the psychic whom is number 1 on my resentment list, and for her mistreatment of me and failing to see that I had any GD issues.

Fired the psychic? I'll bet she didn't see that coming... :heehee:

What propelled me to join the forum? For reasons largely to do with my dear wife's disability I was beginning to explore more extensive CDing through 2013, until in late November I had decided enough was enough - everything was going to be purged on the 31st December or soon after, and that was that. I had never really researched our shared passion, so I did, and came across CD.com. Read a bit, signed up almost immediately, and here I am. HA!!!

So much for another purge :cry: - now I've never had a bigger wardrobe. And it still haunts me - I still go through phases (mere moments... ) of feeling it's wrong - but I can live with it, and on here I can share with and hopefully help others, whatever that means.

And perhaps one day I'll find the rabbit hole out of here... :daydreaming:

Katey x

[RebeccaLynne]

Michelle, if this particular question has been asked previously, it escaped my attention. I'm glad you asked...

I was 51 years old, and had no prior experience with computers. My new form of employment was made much easier by having home access to one, rather than driving to the closest terminal in order to see my options when "bumped", place myself on a job based on seniority, arrange vacations, personal leave days, or any other "layoff" event. So it was a new world for me, and I adapted accordingly.

Being a lifelong crossdresser, I naturally googled the term, and logged onto the site... joined right away, and have been fascinated ever since... really glad I bought that desktop! :heehee:

[lovetobedani]

I happened upon this site while researching CD/TG. I read some of the posts and thought that this was the perfect place to join to chat with and make friends with others who are like me. It was great to know that so many of us have similar beginings.

[aly01]

Was just researching about cross dressers, found this site. Looked at a few posts and decided it would be a great place to get information. Since there are so many of us here.

[Christina Kay]

When the feminine feelings and a lot of self gender confusion came upon me like a tsunami . Found the forum quite by accident. so joined looking for answers. Well found there is more to it than I ever thought( gender identity) . But have also never regretted joining. Just love all the great girls here . :) Hugs:battingeyelashes:

[Eryn]

Same as most, I found the site while researching CDing and trying to get a handle on what I was feeling. Most of the folks here are welcoming and supportive, enough so that I got my spouse involved as well.

[Lorileah]

I was getting bored with online poker (had $6 million in fake cyber dollars...wish I had the nerve to try it in real life and do that well), wife was in home hospice so I could not go anywhere...got off the tables...decided to surf the net...must have Googled Crossdresser. Made some remark, got chastised by a Mod (I can tell you exactly which mod and what I said still..who knew you were supposed to call a FtM TS "he"????)...the rest is history. Still remember an argument with an Admin not too long after that too...

[Dawn Gurl]

While researching my feelings and desires I luckily came across this wonderful and fantastic site. No porn, no selling and no stupidity.... just honest, sincere girls like myself... it's made the world of difference for me, and I cannot thank the originator enough !!!!

[chrissietoo]

I don't exactly remember, but I started to search bras and panties and lingerie because I loved to look at all the beautiful pictures....somewhere along the line I found the term "crossdressing" and a bell went off--"hey, THAT's what I am!" So then I searched for "crossdressing"....

The reason I return is because I love to hear all the words that could have been spoken by me....

[Stephanie Julianna]

Joined to reconnect with the CD scene after some years inthe closet.

[Jaylah414]

In short, an internet search engine brought me here. But, this was exactly what I was looking for. I was looking for a web site in which all aspects of cross dressing were addressed in a more personal venue.

I'm such a nerd sometimes. My struggles to come to terms with my gender issues always led me from one scientific study to the next. I've never really had anyone to talk to and learn from that wasn't published anonymously in a PDF or a text book.

I haven't been registered on this site for very long, but I already feel much closer to the ladies here than I do with the friends I've had for years. Isn't that sad?

[ArleneRaquel]

I needed a site to express my feelings. This site is perfect for my needs.

[Glenda58]

I came looking for some place to be where I wasn't the only on planet earth that like dressing up. I found some bad places then here and have never left. I have friends here that I can talk to. And when I was going out they give me places to go and meet with girls like me.

[JenniferYager]

Google brought me here, mainly because I wanted to find people to talk to, chat with and possibly meet. So far, have done all three!

[SamanthaAnne]

google search and found people like me!

[heatherdress]

Google - who brings me everywhere good and everywhere bad.

By the way, I joined out of curiosity. I was a new crossdresser. I had just crossdressed for the first time in my life, so this forum was fascinating. I looked at pictures and could not believe the guts people had to post their images on the internet. I read heartwarming stories. I saw amazing transformations. I read about tucking and hair removal and breast forms and - my favorite new fascination - high heels. I also saw that some members had hundreds of posts, some even a few thousand. I had no intention of participating being a coward at heart, so I reluctantly made the 10 mandatory posts so I could explore more fascinating places. Somewhere, inspired by the terrific stories and people I found here, night after night, I got hooked. I enjoy this site. I like the people here - all of you - I admire you for contributing your thoughts and for trying to help others and for helping me understand me. I have recently discovered that I have made over 1000 posts. Sorry - that was never my intention and I am surprised - but this site can grow on you. Thanks again to everyone - for being who you are. Love - Heather

[CynthiaD]

I found this site on Google. The minute I saw it, I knew it was for me.

[Leelou]

Cool thread. Like most, I found this site on Google. That was almost five years ago. I've enjoyed reading everyone's experiences and stories. I haven't been very active but always lurk around. I'm actually at a point in my life where I can crossdress more now and will be more active on the site--maybe even posting some more pics! I know that participation drives boards like this, and I've felt kind of bad about my lack of input to this great site.

[Erica Anne]

I had belonged to other forums long ago. Some were great, others were a bit in the wrong direction.
I want a place to discuss my feelings. Express my femininity. And of course talk about what to wear.

what brought me here, I am sure it was not BING. Perhaps Google

[Mistyjo]

I was searching for makeup tip and this fourm came up so i started reading some of the post and then i joined

[mandysmiles]

:bg:Bluebeard sent me. :bg:

I had only tried using makeup to fully cover up my male features a few times and it was a pretty miserable failure. Usually it's just a little lipstick and move along so I don't make myself look silly. Last week, I was searching some makeup tips and found myself here. In the past week, I've found answers to so many questions I've had all my life. I've shed several tears of happiness since finding this place and pulled off a pretty smashing makeup job last night.

[bethcgy]

I wanted to see if I could learn more about CDing and seeing what experiences people had. I found this place on google.

[Jenniferpl]

My wife was finally able to convince me I was indeed a crossdresser and went search online for answers and or support.

[susan jackson]

Without mentioning any names...

I have been a member of a number of TG forums in England, but they seemed to fall into either sleazy sites, with lots of explicit pictures (which I am not interested in), or places that degenerated into childish members filling up the forum with stupid comments

Because of this, and the fact that I am a serious T*girl who is transitioning, I looked a bit further on the internet, hoping to find somewhere where I could get proper help, advice and friendship, and I ended up here

[Claire Cook]

Don't remember exactly how I got started here. Probably just looking for the closet key. I found it here and the rest is history.

I guess Lynn said it for me.....

[sissy2_amberlee]

Katey,

The purges, oh yes, I keep them in fine old casks, like fine wine, and remember them with fondness, trying to escape from Amberlee, like the time I ripped off my dress and angrily wrapped up the whole mess and tossed them in the nearest dumpster, only to return a mere hour later to retrieve them and they were gone! Some bum must have thought it was a stash, I wonder still how he looked in my pageboy! Then there was the time I conducted a burial up in the Cascades, on business coming back from Newport on the Oregon coast, put the dirt carefully over my favorite panty and bra, the whole full monty, in a shallow grave shoes and all and went on my way, FREE AT LAST!! LOL. Of course, she disagreed and demanded her panties and bra, and I went scurrying to obey her wishes.
(No, I'm not crazy, just a little weird, you see).

[Lygophilia]

Partial curiosity and boredom from previous forums. I always knew about this site from lurking every once in a while. Google.

[Kit]

A desire to find like minded people. So far, so good :)

[chrissietoo]

My wife was finally able to convince me I was indeed a crossdresser and went search online for answers and or support.

hmmmm....you weren't convinced but she was? Just how did this happen, if you don't mind telling?

[JennyLynn]

I guess, for me, it was lonliness. I felt so guilty and alone and I just needed a bit of validation and friendship and understanding. I still haven't totally come to terms with my "need". But, I do feel a bit comforted by being here. I'm not sure where it will all end up with me. Sometimes I dream of just meeting another crossdresser and making a life change and forming a partnership. Other times, I just slap myself into "reality" and say... "I'm married, things are ok, but not perfect (no sex) and maybe it's too much for me to handle". Who the heck knows! We all have our dilemmas and we all just seem to feel our way along as we go.

[SandraV]

Don’t really remember how I ended up finding this site. Google I suppose. :strugglin

The reason I came here was to find answers to my questions, learn more about CDing, answer countless “how to” questions I had, and more importantly, to find out more about myself. I came here in an attempt to learn more about why I am this way (I now know this is irrelevant), to figure out what I am (Transgender, half way between a here and there), figure out what I can do about this (accept it and embrace it), learn to live with myself (can’t quite get over the guilt and shame), and learn from others who feel what I feel. I came here looking for answers, and though I still have important unresolved questions, this site and the wonderful people that are generally here have helped a lot.

[Laura28]

For me it was google. I was searching the urge to dress and take further then i ever have was over whelming and i guess i was looking for answers. In the past i could always control my urges and underdressing was enough, but over the past few years the urge to be fully dressed, and more feminie was becoming more and more. I was confussed and needed reassurances that i wasnt a freak. I am so glad i found this place it is like a second home to me.

[Stephanie47]

My introduction to computers was with a government agency. I never surfed the web on the government computer for cross dressing. I'm sure the filter would have blocked access based on its perimeters. And, I would wanted to have a meeting with management to explain repetitive attempts to access off limits sites. When we got our first home computer and Internet access I 'Googled" cross dressing and plodded through tooooooo many sites that would cause further damage to one's interest in wearing women's clothing. I found this one and lurked for a couple of years and thought "What the heck! I'm retired! Nobody's going to know since I always used Mozilla Firefox." Ultimately, I figured I'd join and put my two cents in. I also decided and increasing so, to put my two cents in based on my longevity on this planet to offer some advice.

[Glenda58]

What bought me here was a PC and the internet. In my younger days you were by yourself you didn't tell anyone you like to dress up. The internet search on CD bought up many sites I pick this one.

[Greenie]

What brought me here is that my SO told me that he was a CDer. lol. In reality I had no idea what that meant. I actually joined two forums for wives of CDers before this. Which I shall not name being its against the rules, but you should trust me, you don't want your wives or SO's finding those ones instead of this one. :/ Anyhoo. After those forums I was discouraged. And then I found this one. And look at me now. :) Lol.

[Peta-Downunder]

The hope to find like minded people :)

[JenX]

The girl I was dating actually found this site doing research after I told her. Thanks to those of you who answered her questions.

[LilSissyStevie]

This was a crossdressing forum and I cross dress.....it made sense:D

[Felicia Dee]

I need an entourage... ;) No. It's much simpler than that... friends!

[Davina4587]

Searching on Google advice for what I perceived at the time as a problem with me, I found the site which showed me I wasn't alone, it isn't a problem and that I am not weird. It has given me the opportunity to finally share my secret in a friendly and understanding environment

x

[Tami]

Looking for like minded people and info and luckily this was my first port of call.x

[Milou]

Looking for like minded people, but even here I feel like a freak. I guess it can't be helped, then :').

[BLUE ORCHID]

Hi Michelle, Looking for like mined people to be friends with .

[Cynthia Satin]

I guess, for me, it was lonliness. I felt so guilty and alone and I just needed a bit of validation and friendship and understanding. I still haven't totally come to terms with my "need". But, I do feel a bit comforted by being here. I'm not sure where it will all end up with me. Sometimes I dream of just meeting another crossdresser and making a life change and forming a partnership. Other times, I just slap myself into "reality" and say... "I'm married, things are ok, but not perfect (no sex) and maybe it's too much for me to handle". Who the heck knows! We all have our dilemmas and we all just seem to feel our way along as we go.

This is so me! I was googling and found it, after visiting a couple of other spots. But this place seems to have such a collection of real people!

[Deanna11]

I have been crossdressing for oh gosh on and off for around 20 years, my how time flies! I've stopped many times but the desire keeps coming back even stronger. I am in a fairly new relationship and i decided a few months ago to come clean with my girlfriend about all of this. Lucky for me she is quite accepting of it but I am careful that I suppress my desire to dress (which is everyday) to keep our relationship strong. Nervously I seeked out this site because I wanted to correspond with like minded people and have some fun and fully embrace the wonderful feeling I get when I am a woman!