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arbon
01-27-2014, 05:25 PM
So I have had not been posting much here in a while and thought I would check in.

I went to mexico and had my trach shave and orchiectomy. The trach shave - it looks a lot better but I still have a some adams apple and wish the doctor could have done a bit more with it. It used to be huge though, so it is an improvement.

The ochiectomy - you'd think that was a bigger deal to me but it wasn't. Okay they are gone now, no more taking spiro, but really I have not felt much emotion about it either way.

The trip to Mexico was great, really liked where I was staying and met interesting people also there for different surgeries - mostly FFS and retouching. Three of my housemates there have had many surgeries done (and look so beautiful!!!). I felt a little out of place being there for such minor stuff as I was doing. I found myself reflecting a lot on what all I want done - I keep finding myself back to not really wanting much done, not feeling a great need to do anything else. the only thing that I would consider would be breasts - but even that, well I have pretty small ones but I kinda like them the way they are. I don't think SRS is in my future I don't feel a great need for it and I don't wont to go through such surgery. Time will tell though, could always change my mind.

I did a lot of exploring in Guadaljara - enjoyed the city. Walked a pretty good chunk of it by myself and felt very safe there. Felt safer there then I do in Idaho which is weird!

Getting home my wife and I decided it was time to start the separation process, which was inevitable I think. She has supported me through so much (as has my daughter) but as two women neither of us feels like it will work - I mean our relationship has been more of a close friendship / roommates for some time now and both feel we need to get on with our lives now. In a couple months we will both be finding new places to live. I am pretty sad about it, we have been so close for so long.

Other then that not much else, things are going pretty good

PaulaQ
01-27-2014, 05:50 PM
I'm glad your surgeries went well Theresa. I'm glad you are feeling pretty comfortable with yourself.

I'm really sorry to hear about you and your wife. I can relate. I know that's hard for all of you. :(

AllieSF
01-27-2014, 05:52 PM
Congratulations. I am glad you are content with each step taken and question the next ones. I think that is a good attitude for all you have been through and for what is left to tackle, if it even needs tackling. Thanks for sharing your experiences of your trip doing it your own way.

PretzelGirl
01-27-2014, 10:08 PM
I am really believing that being comfortable with what you do at that point in time is very important. I am sorry that is ending your relationship. It sounds like it is ending in a mutually supportive way, so there is a plus there I guess. But it is a pain no one should have to go through. I'm sorry.

Marleena
01-28-2014, 02:46 PM
Sorry to hear about the marriage issues Arbon but you're taking positive steps forward.

LeaP
01-28-2014, 03:26 PM
There's something that bothers me - I can't quite pin it down - about going to Mexico to get my throat cut and my b***s cut off that is disturbing. Hmmm, have to think about that ...

Seriously,where did you go, Cardenas? The trach shave makes sense, but didn't know he could/would do orchies. I empathize with your thinking on BAs.

Congratulations. I glad it all went well.

arbon
01-28-2014, 04:12 PM
lol

Yeah a little crazy I guess.

Dr Cardenas did the trach shave but he does not do the orchi. I did not no he did not do them, just assumed he did because it is listed as a procedure on his site. So another surgeon did the orchi (at the same time Dr Cardenas was doing the trach shave) - I never met that surgeon before or after, never signed consent for it, never was asked for the letter I was stressed about getting before hand that they said I would need. It was kinda weird. And that part of it has been a little problematic healing to, it still hurts and swollen. I contacted Dr Cardenas about it today asking him to ask the urologist that did the surgery some questions about if this is normal or should I start getting worried.