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Erica Anne
01-29-2014, 12:32 PM
I have remained close friends with my ex-sister-in law since my divorce from her sister some 14 years ago. We had gone out to a club together just to hang out and hopefully meet someone perhaps. Along came this thin and frail looking guy who sat in my chair when I went up to get more beer for the table. I did not mind at all that he was trying to pick up my friend. It was quite amusing when I returned to the table with the pitcher of beer when I got a glimps of the look on his face. You have to picture this, I am 6ft tall, at that time I was still working out with weights, jets just say I had the physic in appearance not to be messed with, I would not say muscle bound but intimidating enough. This guy was almost 5 ft tall, very thin, and the look of fear on his face when I returned to the table was funny. I said politely to him, please do not get up, you are fine, let me get another chair. My sister in law started dating this person. I was happy for her that she met someone. As time went on, I was getting irritated that he was trying to be my best buddy and always wanting to come over. Mostly to use my garage to work on his car and I would not have anything to do with it. I did not mind him most of the time and he did become a good friend but he got irritating with the phone calls. I was irritated the one day when he kept calling me over and over again. Every 5 minutes the phone rang. I was working on one of my vehicles at the time. I did answer the phone once, but did not want to tell him I was changing my oil since he would want to come over and work on his car too. He asked me "what are you doing" I responded "nothing, just working on work stuff doing research on my own time". He had to ask me again, I gave him the same answer, the did it the third time, come on, what is wrong with this person, so I gave him a reply he did not expect (it was out of fun mind you).. I said "If you really want to know what I am doing, and my other reply was unsatisfactory, and you seem to be prying into my personal life too much, this is what I am doing, I am standing here in the kitchen in my pink high heels, pink maids dress, nail polish while talking to you on the phone and I need to get back to my chores cleaning the house, what is so important? " He did not respond to that.. Instead there was some silence and I heard him say "here, he wants to talk to you", he handed the phone over to his girlfriend (my ex-sister in law). What is this I hear about you ? Is this for real? I told her not really what I am wearing at the moment but I was wearing just that this morning, at the moment I am changing the oil in the mustang. Later on that evening they came over with some beer to celebrate coming out. I did not expect that at all. They were both supportive which surprised me to no end. They even offered if you want to come over to our place, wear what you want, just be yourself, you do not need to hide. That was the beginning of going out as I wanted too. Just simple things like a skirt, heels and tee shirt, more casual and comfortable.

Kim_Bitzflick
01-29-2014, 01:11 PM
WOW! Great story. So how long has it been since this happened? And more importantly "What are you doing? Nothing? REALLY?"

ArleneRaquel
01-29-2014, 01:13 PM
A very touching story. Thank you for sharing your experiences. Best Wishes !

traci_k
01-29-2014, 01:41 PM
What a great story. thanks for sharing.

Hugs,

Erica Marie
01-29-2014, 01:41 PM
It would have kicked it up a notch if you would have told him you were changing your oil in a maids dress and you wanted to get finished so you couldnt talk.

Beverley Sims
01-29-2014, 02:05 PM
Erica,
One of the best I have heard lately.
Just keep doing it your way.

Marcelle
01-29-2014, 02:14 PM
What a great story Erica. One question . . . Does he still want to come over and work on his car all the time? :)

Hugs

Isha

Jaymees22
01-29-2014, 02:27 PM
Nice story and it's really nice that they both support you. Hugs Jaymee

Katey888
01-29-2014, 04:44 PM
Nice story indeed, Erica - truth can be stranger than fiction sometimes... :)

Katey x

Erica Anne
01-29-2014, 04:52 PM
It continued..... about a year or so in their relationship, there was an incident involving my niece. He was drunk while watching football, his team lost so he went to bed. My friend was at work. My niece wanted attention ( she was 6 years of age at the time) so she went in to the master bedroom and annoyed him. Not sure what really happened but his story was she was jumping on the bed and he pushed her off, apparently she scratched her cheek in the process. Shortly there after she went running out of the home and into the next door neighbors residence which that was converted into two apartments. It just so happened that my ex-sister in law actually dated this person and they remained friends for many years. My friend's boyfriend did not like this person one iota because he was bi-sexual and mainly preferred men. I was also friends with him too. Probably why I felt comfortable coming out to my ex-sister in law, I assumed that she would be open minded and I was correct. Well back to the juicy parts...... while my niece was in safety (in the custody of this person), the boyfriend of my sister-in law went ballistic and called the police claiming the neighbor kidnapped his girl friends daughter and he had intentions of molesting her. Take a guess what happened next... (this person was not very bright by any means, the light on the top floor grew even dimmer ). While the police were on the way, my sister-in law's friend called her at work and mentioned the incident and she needs to come home to straighten things out. She arrived home at the same time the police were there, even her parents came. Her friend from next door came out with my niece, police were there, and my sister-in law asked her daughter about the scratch on her cheek, "did your kitten scratch you?" , "no" she replied, "he choked me" while saying his name. He got slammed against the wall and cuffed and arrested on the spot.

To answer the question, did he still call after coming out, yes, that did not change.

While he was in jail, had a pretrial, his lawyer told him we can fight this so plead not guilty, there is no case. The light on the top floor must have burned out at this point, he pleaded guilty on charges of molestation (not sexual in nature but same rules apply). His reasoning, if he pleads guilty he only has to be in jail for 3 to 6 months, if he fights it and gets committed it could be years.

Sorry for the long story, but here is where I come in....

When he got out of jail, he was not permitted to go back to the place he was living due to probation and court issued restraining order. He was staying in a local hotel for a short time and kept calling me for help. I refused but his nature was to harass until you give in. He promised that it would only be for 3 months. I also gave him some rules, absolutely no illegal drugs in my home, and I will do as I please and dress any way I want to regardless if you find it acceptable or not.

I put up with him for 3 months, money was beginning to disappear, then he almost burned the house down so I kicked him out.

Shortly there after, I get a call from my ex-mother in law, " I hear you are into cross dressing, is this true?, I just wanted to let you know that who you call your friends are spreading rumors about you". She was referring to my friend and her boyfriend. "I said, that is fine with me, she can say what ever she want too, I would make up stories too if I got kicked out of a place I was no longer welcome and had lack of common sense and intelligence".

Things got worse, my ex-sister -in law remained friends, even her boyfriend. he was able to move back in after the restraining order was released. The relationship did not last long after that..... he got committed again for some other dumb thing.

Here ends that story. I am still good friends with my ex-sister in law. She was not the one who broke my trust, but her boyfriend.

kimdl93
01-29-2014, 06:39 PM
Well, that is quite a coming out story.

Erica Anne
01-29-2014, 07:36 PM
I believe part of it was the joy I felt after receipt of a new outfit and matching garter belt. You may wonder why it was important and how it relates to the story. At the time I was frustrated with what was available. I was getting board with what I was finding as mush as while men's shopping. It was summer time and I am a winter shopping girl (love fall and winter fashions). I decided to create and outfit, multi tiered satin skirt with each tier there was a hanging satin ruffle. Royal blue, cream and mauve ( it almost looked patriotic), on the flip side of the skirt (it was reversible) was all crème satin with shorter and more ruffles. The matching jacket was all crème with royal blue and mauve accents, same with the garter belt. I sent it out to the person I was dealing with at the time, and it was beyond my expectations. Perfectly tailored. I did not expect the jacket to be lined either. I was so happy about what I created and when I got it I was overjoyed, but know one would ever know..... I really did not plan on coming out, it really was a joke just to embarrass my ex-sister in law's boyfriend. If I had to say the same thing in person (the obvious as to what I was wearing was not what I said) I would not have been able to keep a straight face. I was convincing over the phone, however, most would have challenged my comment before it escalated. Actually I was glad I did it. It took more to convince my biological sister, she thought I was pulling her leg even after showing her a picture of me en-femme. She was cool with it too.

pretty boy
01-30-2014, 03:45 AM
Quite the interesting coming out story, Erica.