Validation . . . Sort of

[Marcelle]

Hi all,

So Isha had an interesting experience yesterday. I had the afternoon off and decided to run some errands "en femme". I got dressed in jeans, sweater, boots and coat and went out. Typical afternoon, no issues, no torches or angry mobs just a gal going about her business. My wife had sent me a text and asked if Isha would mind picking up her prescription and some "lady specific hygiene products" from the drug store. No issue there as I was dressed "en femme" and have done so "en boy" before. Now I know you think you know where this is heading but . . . WRONG . . . this is not the story. It takes place in the parking lot.

I got to the strip mall where the drug store was and parking lot was packed. I managed to get a parking spot which I call a "drive right through". You know the kind where there are two parking spots in a row. I like to drive right through so I don't have to back out . . . but I digress :) Anyway I went in to the store and as I was walking across the parking lot I noticed a large double axel behemoth truck driving slowly behind me. Wasn't sure if the guy at the wheel was checking me out just driving slow but I got to the store, got the items and prescription and left - no issues BTW.

So I get back out to the parking lot and the truck is still doing the slow circuit around the parking lot looking for a spot - I guess. I get back into my car and decide to check my phone in case my wife texted me with anything else we need. Now "truck guy" had seen me enter my car as he drove slowly past while I was getting in and low and behold he parks in the spot directly behind me while I am checking my texts. He has his lights and is sitting there idling. Then it dawns on me . . . he wants my drive right through. So I get ready to leave and my wife calls. I answer the call and begin to chat but tell her I have to get moving as I am blocking a parking spot in a crowed lot. Just as those words leave my lips "truck guy" begins flicking his lights on and off and laying on the horn. What a jerk. So I decide to keep having my conversation . . . heck he has a parking spot so what is the issue. All the while he is flicking his lights on an off until he finally shuts them off and exits the truck.

Now, I am not a big guy but this this guy made me look big and I am surprised he doesn't need a step ladder to get in an out of his truck . . . okay that is just me being a mean girl . . . sorry :battingeyelashes: So, I am getting ready to leave when I see him approach my side of the car and he knocks on the window . . . Hmm I think to myself this should be interesting. I roll down the window and ask (in my femme voice) "is there a problem". He then goes on a tirade (kind of like watching a spider monkey high on Mountain Dew . . . oops mean girl again :)) and says "Listen you stupid f*&%ing b&*ch stop checking your make-up or talking to your boyfriend when someone is looking for a parking spot"

I'm sorry, did he just call me what I thought he did? :eek: Now normally Isha is not one to provoke a confrontation if she has been read and gets a rude comment. But this was not about being read, "truck guy" was in his mind yelling at a woman and being very rude if I might add. If I were in guy mode I would have ripped someone like that a new one if I heard them doing that to anyone. However, I was going to take a deep breath and just move on until the next thing came out of "truck guys" mouth "Well b*&ch got anything else to say or are you saving your mouth for your boyfriend's (fill in the blank yourself)."

Okay, now the time for flying low under the radar is over this guy is just a jerk on all levels. So (using my best guy voice) I say "Be careful who you are calling a b&%ch sunshine because this b*&ch might get out of her car and kick your a##." I then add in my femme voice "And sweetie, the truck, seriously it is glaringly obvious you are overcompensating for something". He stood there for a few seconds then responded with "fag" . . . So still in my femme voice I said "Good comeback sweetie, I am sure you would win a debate against any preschooler hands down" then back to boy voice "now back the f$%# away from my car or I will get out". He did, I rolled up my window and drove away.

Now before anyone jumps on me for not taking the high ground and giving CDers a bad reputation. This guy was being a jerk . . . would he have done that to another guy . . . highly unlikely. It was only because he did not see me as threat (he thought I was a woman) that he did that. I hate people like that.

So that is my story. On one hand it was quite odd but on the other it did provide some weird validation of my presentation en femme.

Hugs

Isha

[Giselle(Oshawa)]

well done sis!!

[Caden Lane]

High five for you Is a. You showed great restraint. Id have gone guy mode on him in a heartbeat. He obviously sees women as inferior beings, if he is willing to talk to one like that based solely on a parking space. Can you imagine what he'd do if his wife burnt dinner?!?

Loved the overcompensating bit though...lol

[Marcia Blue]

Well done, Isha. He was obviously picking a fight with who he thought was a GG. He really sounds like an abuser of the opposite sex.

[S. Lisa Smith]

Wow, road rage....in a parking lot. What a jerk!!!

[MsVal]

It isn't necessary to be polite to someone that is being rude.

Best wishes

[KayleeTaylor]

This does not sound like you at all, but I get it, those of us that are out have real world problems. I am very glad that the confrontation didn't escalate any further, I am glad that you are okay. Please be careful out there :)

:hugs:

Kaylee :)

[Marcelle]

Hi Kaylee,

I normally like to fly low under the radar and won't get confrontational "en femme" unless I am threatened personally. But this guy was just being a jerk and only doing so because he thought I was a girl and on some level figured he could push me around. Mind you given his size he would have had a hard time pushing anyone around IHMO . . . oops mean girl again.


Hugs

Isha

[Laura M]

Way to go, "mean girl"! Sometimes you just have to stand up to the jerks of the world. I think you handles it well.

[UNDERDRESSER]

Nice one! And a good validation. Love the bit where you switched back and forth with the voice, I can imagine his face going blank as the brain cells lock up.:)

[Dawn Gurl]

He got what he deserved!!! And good for you for standing up to him !!

[GretchenJ]

All I can say is wow, I don't expect that type of behavior from you miss!
Are you sure it wasn't "your time of the month"

I am sorry, you threw me up a softball. Lmao
(Actually I am surprised you last the first comment go by without going ballistic. I am the type of person that hates confrontation, unless it towards my wife or kids, then it get real ugly.. Once again, I totally admire your courage Isha!!)

GOOD FOR YOU
Gretch

[reb.femme]

... . . So still in my femme voice I said "Good comeback sweetie, I am sure you would win a debate against any preschooler hands down" then back to boy voice "now back the f$%# away from my car or I will get out". .....

Well, I have to confess I was laughing at your voice change overs. I think you described the situation such that I was there in person. You should hear the language from some of the 'ladies'? around my way. Colourful is the standard description. :heehee:

I'd like to think he has something to think about when he next feels irate, over very little.

Rebecca

[Jamie Lynn]

Well done, Isha! Hopefully he didn't take out his probably now increased frustrations on the next GG he had contact with. WOW! He deserved to get popped!

[Alexis.j]

You handled that situation well I would say.
I think a face full of mace would also have been appropriate. ..

Lol, if it was me, I would probably went back into the store and got myself some coffee.

[kimdl93]

You gave him exactly what he deserved. Of course I doubt that he learned anything enduring from the experience.

[PretzelGirl]

I am with you too. I don't think anyone cares what his opinions of transgenders are. And maybe he just might back off the next lady if he got some level of the message that his attitude is not wanted.

[Deedee Skyblue]

I always figure that it is not my job to worry about other people's parking spots. I wouldn't be out dressed, but if someone honked at me because I wasn't getting out of a parking spot quick enough for them, I would get out of the car and go back into a store, or get something out of the trunk or back seat. On the other hand, I never cruise and look for a spot, I always park far out in the parking lot where there are only a few cars. I'd rather walk a little farther than go through the hassle of backing out of a spot in a crowded, busy lot.

But I also agree with you, if that had been me or any other guy, he wouldn't have honked at me or flashed his lights, or knocked on the window and started yelling. He was picking on you because he thought you were female, and would probably act sorry and gratify his ego. And there should be some penalty for being an asshole, especially for an asshole who is also a bigoted bully.

Good for you!

Deedee

[Tina B.]

Nice! Isha, you acted just the way a lady should act, you let him spew a little, and when it got really abusive you laid into him, maybe next time he wants to treat a lady like that, he will remember his meeting with you, and keep his trap shut.

[Adriana Moretti]

wow...that was awesome...especially the pre-scooler debate comment. Good for you.

[Kate Simmons]

I would probably have said to him:" Are you a natural a$$h**e or do you have to practice?":)

[Teresa Monsivais]

Loved the preschooler debate commnet...way to go!

[Melissa in SE Tn]

Isha... In all things , you never fail to amaze us. If nothing else, your female validation was a good fact from such an unpleasant experience..You are such a trip !! Peace, melissa

[Beverley Sims]

Isha,
I'd reckon you made a great fag. :)
Very hard to come back on that one.
Did he go away like a bitch yelping after just being kicked in the nuts?

Oh! bitches don't have nuts do they? :)

You seem to have had command of that one all the way along.

[CarlaWestin]

Good job, Hon! I would have stepped out, and challenged the moron while thrusting big Carla sized boobs at him. Hard to argue with 38K's!

[Marcelle]

Thanks all for your comments . . . it was a bit of surreal moment and one I hope I never have to repeat.

Bev,

Did he go scurrying afterwards . . . not sure but as I looked back he was still standing there holding his somewhat bruised ego and I am sure looking for step ladder to get back in his truck :)

Hugs all

Isha

[stephNE]

Isha, I think you were great!

[Katey888]

Well, another really amusing anecdote, Isha :) - do you think there is something ethereally magnetic about CDers just trying to do normal things? As if the great 'thingy' that controls fate and destiny follows you around with their own FLIR display and crosshairs and says:"Right - Isha's at the drugstore with nothing exciting going on... press button marked "Chauvinistic, foul-mouthed, short-*rsed truck driver in a hurry." Let's see how she deals with that.."

You did handle it well - but even small guys can use their big trucks as weapons :eek: I'm glad you're safe... that's a good outcome.

He's probably still sitting in his truck cab wondering if he dreamed it... :D

Be safe!

Katey x

[Lorileah]

You done good. I would have also put the phone to my ear and said "Yes Officer, he is here right now, I think he may attack me. Yes large pickup...he's wearing a blue shirt....He might I don't know but I will defend myself if he does..." to a dead line :)

[Rachael Leigh]

If that would have been me I would have peed myself and left Oh my Isha your so brave

[Lori Kurtz]

Now before anyone jumps on me for not taking the high ground ...

Ya know what ... sometimes the high ground is just not the way to go.

I never use "b!#ch" to refer to a woman, and I just hate it when I hear women call each other by that name. But I loved the way you found some validation in that jerk's use of it. What he wanted was to verbally rape you, but you took his weapon and used it against him. Well done.

[CarlaWestin]

You done good. I would have also put the phone to my ear and said "Yes Officer, he is here right now, I think he may attack me. Yes large pickup...he's wearing a blue shirt....He might I don't know but I will defend myself if he does..." to a dead line :)
If I might add, "Sure, I'll take pictures and throw my phone on the roof of the building. OK, bye-bye." -click--click--click--click--click--click--click--click--click--click--click-

[Anna H]

Wow, Isha, That's some serious restraint on your part.

After the first "bitch" out of his mouth to me, he'd have been
back in his truck and driving around looking for a dentist.
(and surely less particular about his 'new' parking space.)

:happy: ♥

[Kristy 56]

Wow! What an adventure,and you sure handled it well. I wonder if he tells the story to his friends. If he does I'm sure he tells it just a " little " differently.

[Ms. Laura]

Are you a drama magnet? You have the most interesting stories. I cringe at the thought of being out after reading your posts! (I'm chuckling while writing this)

Well, of course you were perfectly justified in your course of action. I mean, what an absolutely a-hole. Little man syndrome.

On the other hand, do you want to end up on the evening news after an altercation? My rule of thumb is, unless forced to, do not interact with wack-jobs, in guy or girl mode, nothing good can come from it. You never know what some fruitloop is going to do, especially if he's concealing a .380 or something. Just the voice of caution here.

[Vanessa Rose]

Isha,

F'k the high ground.. You know, I am not a violent person, but a good old fashioned punch in the face for some folks for a month or so a year would quiet their sorry redneck asses for the next year.

The problem is these small dicked cowards can spout off with virtually no risk of reprisal. Except if their missus were to see the little pecker behind the facade.

I loved your story.. if you had been wearing heels, you may have been able to tap that little pecker head right in the middle of his forehead. With your pinky finger raised of course

Vanny

[LenGray]

Good for you for standing up for yourself! People like that are horrible and the fact that you kept your cool so well is really inspiring! Applause and kudos to you, my dear! :)

[deebra]

Isha, I,ve been on this forum a long time and read a lot of threads, your's is the best, you handled the situation beautifully. Getting out of your car and kicking his a** would be what a lot of us would have loved to have done but you were smarter, more controlled and did great. That might have lead to the police showing up and even more trouble for you. I like threads 29 and 33, if you had faked a phone call to the police and taken a pic of him and his truck he would have been worried for several days the sheriff would show up at his door or job with a warrant for his arrest. Being in girl mode you handled it much better than the guy you sometimes are. See there are a lot more benefits to wearing a bra and panties than most straights and CDs realize.

[JessMe]

I wish we had a "like" button so I could like this a few hundred times!!! You are AWESOME. :)

[Bria]

Way to go Isha!!!! He got his just deserts!!

Hugs Bria

[sensui]

Story totally got me "fired-up", but hey, great work both on handling the situation without resorting to belittlement or physical violence and double points for your "passing" en femme! so happy for ya'!

[Cheryl T]

Bravo!! Bravo!! Encore!!
I'd have done the same thing if I encountered a jerk like that. There's no reason for being a Neanderthal with anyone, let alone a lady.
If I had encountered a Homunculous (thanks Big Bang Theory) I would have exited the car and being 5'12" sans heels I would have looked down and given him reason to worry.

[Vanessa Rose]

Ok...

so hitting the little redneck pecker head is not a good idea... but girls.... this method will not always work. lets say he rode up on a horse... or a smart car? Would you laugh or treat him any different?

My bet is you would. Ahh.. the sweet smell of justice. I tell you Isha... you do get extra points today. the only thing that would have been funnier if you would have gotten out in heals and been looking down at wiffle dick. Where I come from, the bigger the truck, the more the compensation...

made me wonder though about the guys driving all those tiny cars... what was their story... (wink).

[Julie Gaum]

Wish I could have seen his face when you did the voice switch. Hypothetically, what would have been your response if he had been 6-foot 4? Discretion is what? Nevertheless --- good job.
Julie

[Anita S]

LMAO this story just made my day, I can just picture the surprise on the guys face, good job ;)

[Leslie Langford]

Great story, Isha, and awesome they way you handled it - and especially since "truck guy" didn't end up flattening your car with his monster truck, as these types of road rage morons are apt to do when they totally lose it.

I had a similar thing happen to me when I went shopping en femme to a large designer shoe warehouse sale that was being held in a nearby community last year. I, too, did the "two back-to-back empty parking spot" drive through routine, only in my case - and unbeknownst to me - this dude was trying to back up his large SUV into the same spot at the same time, but from the other side of the row of cars that I was approaching, and from where I couldn't immediatly see him. Needless to say, Mr. "Entitlement" also flipped out at me, and I was equally astonished that someone could be so rude (and try to be so intimidating) to a lady - especially to a well-dressed, refined one of "a certain age", as I typically try to present myself as.

I just played dumb and mouthed "what's the problem?" as I emerged from my car, stretching to my full 6'+ size (includling 3" killer heels ;)) in the process. Being a short, skinny - albeit mouthy - Asian guy, he presumably thought the better of tangling with this Amazon at that particular moment, and just ended up slinking away unceremoniously while letting loose with what I presumed was a string of expletives in his native tongue. And so, the victory was mine by default - as was this particularly choice parking spot right near the entrance, B.T.W...:heehee: :thumbsup:

But Isha, all that said - you left out the best part of your story. What was your wife's reaction to all this from a GG's perspective when you told her of your experience? :eek:

[JenniferYager]

I nearly choked on my water reading your story. Isha, you're my hero! Well done!

[mykell]

first congratulations on the validation,
just wish we could have seen the mugshot when you came out to him.....

[donnalee]

You definitely did the right thing, but may have been in more danger than you realized. Sometimes that kind of road rage can turn fatal. Leaving your car is definitely a bad idea, as, at minimum, you would have found your car keyed when you returned. Staying in the car and driving away was the best thing to do. It's similar to someone's erratic driving on the freeway; put as much space as you can between their car and yours (best way is to let them pass, then you can monitor them without worrying that they're coming up from behind). As long as there's room, get out of there as quickly as you can and get far away as soon as possible.
Jerks like that deserve public humiliation, but it is a lot safer (and more effective) to do so when many others are present. Please, be careful out there.
-Donna

[trisha kobichenko]

I can imagine his thoughts...holy xxxx! What if she gets out of her car and kicks my xxx in public!

[Marcelle]

Hi everyone thanks for your kind comments and support . . . I hope this story brought a bit of a smile to your day . . . it still gives me a little chuckle. :)


. . . I wonder if he tells his friends . . . If he does I'm sure he tells it just a " little " differently.

Hi Kristy. I work with a lot of these types of guys . . . all blow no bluster. Yeah, I suspect the story went a bit different. I was definitely not a guy in a dress, a lot hotter and probably after his verbal dressing down threw myself shamelessly at his macho manliness.


... On the other hand, do you want to end up on the evening news after an altercation? ... You never know what some fruitloop is going to do, especially if he's concealing a .380 or something. Just the voice of caution here.

Hi Laura. Yeah, given hindsight it could have gone bad and sometimes that lizard brain of mine just acts before thinking. On a good note this is Canada, so I am not overly concerned about concealed weaponry, I do have to watch out for anyone carrying a super hot Tim Horton's coffee :).


Wish I could have seen his face when you did the voice switch. Hypothetically, what would have been your response if he had been 6-foot 4? Discretion is what? Nevertheless --- good job.
Julie

Hi Julie . . . "Better part of valour". If he had been 6'4" would most likely have done the same thing . . . may have gone a bit different but still I really hate morons like that who think they have the right to hack on people they don't see as a threat.


... What was your wife's reaction to all this from a GG's perspective when you told her of your experience? :eek:

Hi Leslie. She literally almost fell over laughing. She particularly liked the voice change and wondered if the guy might have thought I was possessed by some demon. However, she does worry about my safety when out dressed "en femme" and reminds me of how different a fight may go dressed "en femme" than if I was "en boy".

Hugs all

Isha

[Dana_Drake]

Isha, you played that perfectly. Not many people are as quick thinking, particularly when they are a little nervous to start with-- well, I sure would be! You rock!

[Kate's at home]

Bravo Isha!

Nothing like stricking the right balance of energies.

I'm picturing Meryl Streep in your role...

Kate

[larry]

Thanks. Nice to see there is still a girl that has ba---.

[Jaymees22]

Isha, I think you've proven once again it takes a real man to wear a dress. I admire your bravery and your quick thinking! I'm sure there getting a different version of this story over at "Redneckers.com". Hugs Jaymee

PS: I'm the proud driver of a Honda Civic.

[FairyLink]

That is an awesome story!

[Stephanie47]

I really dislike drivers who spend countless time crawling through a lot looking for THE spot closest to the store. I have my fun as the person slowly follows me down the aisle only to find me cut across to another aisle where I am parked. I usually pick the first reasonable spot so I can get some needed exercise. My wife does not drive so I always have reading material in the car or just slump against the door for a catnap. Over the last fifty years I haven't encountered a person as rude as he was. Frankly, a-holes like that end up getting keyed.