i have a big ?

[lori m crawford]

well daughts wont meet me at a bar the go to the is one did het me wen she was young but the rest are ok ther is 4 an a son but not blood I just ras them but I have not seen them in years how do I do this they all know I dress do go dressed or as a a man I as ther dad is batter I thank they need that more

[Tina_gm]

If you have not seen them in a while I would say they would be more comfortable with their dad....

[MsVal]

I will answer your question with a question, Lori. Which is more important? The dressing or the reunion?

Without knowing more about your family situation, I would guess that you MAY be Lori SOME of the time, but you will ALWAYS be Dad ALL of the time.

I recommend having a great time as a dad with HIS kids.

Please let us know how it went.

Best wishes
MsVal

[AllieSF]

Good answers so far. Why not just ask them, one at a time? Start by asking the one that is most accepting of you and how you dress. Ask her how she thinks the others will react. If it is an issue, then maybe going as your male self would be better for this one time event, and you do not need to ask the rest of the kids. Good luck and let us know how it goes.

[Tina_gm]

ok, this response may not be what some want to hear. You see these threads from time to time, and when it comes to situations like this, if you have to ask, the answer is or should be not a good idea. Because they know you dress should not be an auto invite to do so. We should think more about others than ourselves. Maybe, probably after not having seen the kids you raised in quite a while, they would prefer to see the person that raised them. And it is a public get together besides, so you are also putting them into a situation where people may stare or gawk. Remember, this is NOT a normal everyday event.

When we go to a picnic and bring food, we bring enough for everyone, and likely we choose something that everyone or most everyone will like. We don't just bring exactly what we want and only enough for ourselves.

[Beverley Sims]

Lori,
Go as a man.

As Gendermutt says,
"When we go to a picnic and bring food, we bring enough for everyone, and likely we choose something that everyone or most everyone will like. We don't just bring exactly what we want and only enough for ourselves."

[noeleena]

Hi, Lori,

I answered this ? some years ago to you what i do, and did, and this is blood family, one son and his wife, prefer i dont dress like a female and im not bothered because he thinks his son will copy me, so i dress in womens shorts a tee shirt sun hat and normal sneakers no lippy no earing's just try and look like a guy, so one day i dressed like this walked down our street and one of my women friends walks up behind me and says hi noeleena how's you to day, oh you look lovely, i dont have any male clothes,

you see i cant even dress as a guy . let alone look like one, i failed,what im saying is ill do what ever to keep the peace and i dont mind at all. funny as i called in to see Jos after our Renaissance camp end of Jan and Nathan his wife and thier two kid'es were there and i was dressed in my wench outfit and they were not bothered in the least,

for myself as a woman im not bothered what i wear, its just not importaint enough to cause a rift between members of our family, what, just for the sake of an hour or more,

my thinking is whats more importaint your family or the clothes,

...noeleena...