The best words you can say

[Michelle789]

A couple of months ago I posted a thread about the worst words you can say. There are many words that someone who we entrusted to help us can say that can be downright poisonous. Words like "man up" and "gender confusion comes from the devil" and "I see more male [future reincarnations]" are three awful things the psychic told me. The first phrase sent me into a seven month downward spiral, and the second and third sent me into a three-hour frozen daze staring into my living room window.

Now I'm going to write about the best words someone who we entrust to help us can say. Words that are empowering, life-changing, and can help us navigate through the confusion and mess of sorting out gender issues.

Last week I saw a therapist for the first time. We talked extensively about the psychic and her role in my gender confusion. My therapist told me that "she [that psychic] should have her psychic license revoked" - these were very powerful words. This helps me to break down the poisonous ideas the psychic put into my head. This helps me to validate that I am not crazy and that I don't have to believe what the psychic tells me. It empowers me to move on to dealing with things that really do matter, and tackling this gender stuff in a constructive manner, and taking steps towards living an authentic life, whatever that may mean for me. It helps me to begin accepting myself, and not the lies the psychic told me.

So my question for you is, what are some very inspirational, powerful words, that someone has told you, with regards to your gender journey? Something that a therapist or someone from a support group told you that really touched your heart. Words that began to steer you in the right direction. Anyone who has seen a therapist or has gone to a support group for gender issues may reply.

[Donna Joanne]

When I was in therapy last year, my therapist asked me "Who do you see when you look in the mirror? When the person on both sides of the mirror match, true happiness begins". I always remember that, especially when having a rough day!

[I Am Paula]

My therapist handed me my HRT letter. I said, half jokingly, I guess I'm on my way to being a real woman. She said 'You have always been a real woman, don't let anybody tell you differently'.

[Dianne S]

The most inspirational words to me were spoken by someone who never knew I was transgender: My father. He always told me and my sisters: "Be true to yourself and be who you are. Don't worry about what society thinks."

Although my dad is no longer here, I truly believe he would support me 100% in my journey.

[anaissa]

A therapist paraphrased Frederick Douglass: "Be true to yourself, even at the hazard of incurring the ridicule of others, rather than be false, and to incur your own abhorrance."

[Angela Campbell]

for me a very simple sentence. From my first therapist visit.

"It's ok to be a girl."

[EnglishRose]

I was having trouble believing I'd ever be able to even go out in public, let alone go full time. My therapist said, "you pass more than you think you do." I know this is horribly subjective but it was a big step in me allowing myself to be Me, as it were.

[DebbieL]

I went to visit my dad. We both knew he had only days left to live. He said "I don't know how much longer I'll be able to talk to you, or if I'll make any sense, so I want to tell you this now, while I still can".
He held my hands, looked into my eyes, and said "If I can give you nothing else, I want to give you this -- BE YOURSELF, EVEN IF THAT'S Debbie". That's what I did. I put on my shorts, my femme top, and my pink sneakers, and my wig. He quickly realized that he was finally meeting the real me, that I really was being myself. I was more authentic with him than I had ever been. He loved it. At one point, I was scratching his back (morphine made him itch), and he asked "How did you learn to take such good care of me?" In my most femme voice, I said "From you daddy, from you!". Later, as he was in his final days, he saw me and thought I was my mother, coming to take him home. When he realized it was me, he told me I looked so much like my mother, very beautiful.

The best words of all "I love you Debbie".
The next morning, he was gone.

[gonegirl]

It was from my soon to be ex-wife a couple of months ago just before I went full time. She said you have a nice figure. She has since asked for a divorce. (I don't think our divorce is because of my figure)

The best words that I wish that I had heard would have been spoken 18 months ago by my therapist. They are it's my clinical diagnosis that you are not a transsexual.

I apologize for sounding negative. Hey, it is what it is.