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kaylyn
03-16-2014, 09:31 PM
So my mom found all of my clothes underwear and makeup and wigged out and left my apartment. I told my girlfriend about it who is new to me crossdressing as well and she said she wanted me to come over dressed to the nines as a woman and to have a girls night out. How awesome is that. My mother freaked out on me and my girlfriend fully accepts me. I don't understand but I'm sure glad that's what happened.

Hell on Heels
03-16-2014, 09:38 PM
Sounds like there is an interesting talk with mom coming soon. Thank goodness for the accepting girlfriend or you would be a wreck right now. Good luck with mom, I'm sure in time she'll understand.
Much Love,
Kristyn

Anna H
03-16-2014, 09:43 PM
Yep, That's Awe-Some! Great girlfriend...you're so lucky! :)

I wish you the Very Best with your mom!

:happy: ♥

Rachel Morley
03-16-2014, 09:54 PM
You don't say how old you and your girlfriend are, but perhaps the generation gap is coming into play here. They say that younger folks are more open and more tolerant of variances (?) It's a shame your mom is not accepting of you but it is common. For the record I haven't told my parents because of my fears.

Michelle789
03-16-2014, 10:25 PM
I'm really happy to hear that your girlfriend is accepting and that you're having a good time tonight. I do think the younger generation is more accepting.

Jenniferathome
03-16-2014, 10:29 PM
The girlfriend is a keeper! But don't sweep your Mom's innovation under the rug.

As a father of three twenty-something's, I want to know everything going on in their lives but it is their lives so I can only know what they tell me. I have to respect them as independent people. Talk to your Mom. The secret is out. Don't let her tell your story!

Jaylyn
03-16-2014, 10:40 PM
Kaylyn sounds like your GF is very interested in you and who you are doesn't matter to her. I know my mom would have been happy if I had been born a girl but now she might be a little freaked out after all this time. Treat your GF right and y'all have some fun. My wife is very accepting also and helps me as she tells me it just who I am. You may have found a gold mine also in a CD'ers dream.

GenieGirl
03-16-2014, 11:02 PM
Hi Kaylyn,

Still hoping things go over well with your mom as I can relate to that experience.

It is great that you told your gf. I told my gf from the start and she is the only one who knows outside of my tg network. My gf also insisted that I dress up for her fully the first time which I did. Some things to maybe expect in the future from this. Believe it or not, your gf might express being jealous of your body in women's clothes and how they fit you....especially the butt and legs. Take things slow with her as this is very new to her, she might be accepting but still don't want to frealk her out by doing too much too fast for her. Also, remind her that she is the girl and the prettier one in the relationship no matter what. And thank her for any help or tips she might give her even if you already knew them. She will feel greatly appreciated. And a rule of thumb I have is don't wear anything your gf wouldn't wear (if she would feel self conscious wearing it). Don't try to show her up as a woman. This can be a big problem, and I know I've been guilty of it before. If you do want to wear something too sexy don't do it aroundcher unless she insists. A good first time outing would be going tovulta shopping for makeup and maybe some clothing stores followed up by going out to dinner. Hope you and your gf enjoy your newly revealed secret. PM me if you may have any questions or advice coming out to my gf.

Also very important to remember. Your gf might have highs and lows with her interest in your cross dressing. She might love having another gf at times, other times she might resent it and wished that you were not. Don't get discouraged asctghjis is normal. Stay positive and tresat her like the guycyou've always been. And that means you can still pay for dinner whether you are a girl or guy and it is ok to sometimes split the check as well :). Good luck

Ginger

Beverley Sims
03-17-2014, 12:20 AM
Kaylyn,
You win some you lose some.
Do make an effort as you don't need to lose your mum.
You may get her to come around some day.
Meanwhile enjoy the support of your girlfriend.

mykell
03-17-2014, 05:24 AM
great news about your girl, maybe she will join someday,
you mom still needs time to accept what has become the new you in her eyes,
be patient, it may take more time than you would think,
hope it works out for you.....

Majella St Gerard
03-17-2014, 05:40 AM
How did she find all your girly things?

Diana81
03-17-2014, 05:41 AM
I am new to the site and coincidentally your original post was one of the first I read. I am really glad you got some good news. You were very brave to tell your girlfriend about it with all you had on you with your mother. Best wishes to you, I'm sure someone who loves you like that will help you to get through this all.

Karren H
03-17-2014, 05:46 AM
Moms always hate what girlfriends like... doesn't matter what it is they don't like...... it just the way they are!

cdyoung114
03-17-2014, 05:55 AM
So awesome about your girlfriend! Sounds like you've got a keeper! Hopefully over a little bit of time your mother will accept the fact and love you for who you are

kimdl93
03-17-2014, 05:13 PM
Sounds like a great new gf, but don't be too hard on y our mother. Knowing nothing about her background, I can't judge, but she may simply not have been emotionally or intellectually prepared for what she learned. That is your job now.

Kate Simmons
03-17-2014, 06:07 PM
Sounds good but it looks like the issue between you and you Mom will still need to be addressed sometime. Better sooner than later. :)

BLUE ORCHID
03-17-2014, 08:14 PM
It remains to be seen whether Mom will come around on this one.

Please keep us advised.

Ashleygirl
03-17-2014, 08:18 PM
yOUR A LUCKY GIRL.

Robin777
03-17-2014, 08:21 PM
I hope your mother comes around. Give her a little time to process it. Then have a talk with her. Maybe she will understand. You better treat you girlfriend well, as she is a keeper.

Eryn
03-17-2014, 09:15 PM
While it is good news about your girlfriend, you really should pay some attention to the issue of your mother. Unless addressed, that issue will fester. The longer you wait, the harder it will be to address it. Have a talk with her soon. Keep calm and civil even if she doesn't. Even if you don't resolve the issue with this conversation it will keep lines of communications open.

You can have many girlfriends, but there are a limited number of Moms in our lives.