Girlfriends panties off limits or not?

[kaylyn]

The other day I was at my girlfriends place because I needed to borrow her washer. However while I was washing clothes her washer decided to quit working. So I didn't have any clean underwear or bras. So she let me borrow a pair of panties and a bra. Is this weird that I wore her panties and bra or no? I have heard people say that that is a big no no but I have also heard people say it's fine. What do y'all think?

[Krististeph]

Okay to borrow with permission- but you do need your own of course. Underwear is personal, body odors, sweat, etc.-
Sans permission, maybe in an emergency, but not as a regularly.

Think of it this way, would you let your brother or dad borrow underwear or would you mind? probably not if it was an emergency.

[UNDERDRESSER]

If she offered, then no problem! I would love it if that happened to me, but it won't, I wouldn't fit hers!

[sanderlay]

My personal opinion is...

... unless they're given to you my answer is Yes, they are off limits. That situation is very weird.

Panties are a very personal piece of clothing. They can be cheap to buy, but not always. I personally keep spare clothes in my car just in case I get stuck somewhere. And No, I would not lend mine. They would be a gift. I would not want them back!

Bras are much more expensive and again very personal. They can be stretched out of shape or washed incorrectly, and have a short life. So No, I would not lend a good bra to someone. I would not want it back!

[Amanda M]

For goodness sake! Ask her, not me!

[nikkid]

No problem...It's NOT weird...she's your girlfriend, not a stranger. I would love to have my girlfriend share my panties.

[Connief]

okay, only with her permission. Never sneak her intimates.

[reshma]

I feel its okay to borrow, as long as she is okay with it. gift her a new pair in return ;)

[Hell on Heels]

Hell-o Kaylyn, Did you ask her to borrow the panties and bra, or did she offer them?
In general I would agree with everyone here, if she's not ok with you wearing her panties, no amount of washing can erase the memory that you wore them. Sorry, but going commando might be the better option.
Much Love,
Kristyn

[noeleena]

Hi,

I have loned to a friend of ours one of my skirts , Jos asked me if i would mind i said of cause not and if needed knickers as well.. all women here, for us we dont have an issue, other wise no i dont lone my clothes to others unless theres a need,

to just take and wear others clothes = knickers and under's with out asking is a no no . to me those are very personal ,

...noeleena...

[Anna H]

How about that. Spend a lifetime trying to get into a
girlfriends panties and look how it turns out.

CDer's get the cake --and the icing too!

LOL!

[Deedee Skyblue]

i agree with many who say it's OK as long as it is OK with her. To me, it is never OK to use someone else's clothes without permission.

In the case of underwear, there are some people who would never wear underwear that has been worn by someone else, so they would never borrow or loan underwear. To me, once something has been through the wash, the other person has been washed off it and it is as neutral as if it hasn't been worn before.

Deedee

[kimdl93]

Of she offered them, its not a problem.

[Jordan]

As long as she is okay with it I wouldn't see a problem

[mariehart]

Well she's your girlfriends so presumably you are intimate with her and she offered them. So no big deal. I think it's fair to say we all started off wearing someone else's panties. So it's hardly an issue. It's really common for sisters to wear each other's underwear. Mine did anyway and they wore mine without knowing. I wore theirs of course without their permission. Unless you are particularly squeamish about the whole issue it's not a problem.

[Beverley Sims]

Girls mix nd match and swap as a normal course of events when living together.
There is a lot of share, share alike.

[texasm31]

Since she lent both bra and panties, I must assume she is ok with the OPs choice in underwear, and since she lent them its not weird. Wearing her undies behind her back should be a no-no, but I am quite sure a few of us have been there. I wish I had had a girlfriend that would have offered me to wear her bra and panties.

[Lacy PJs]

I'm with the majority here... if she offered them to you then that sounds like she's OK with the whole idea. But... I do have to ask... if you didn't have anything else to wear when the washer broke, just what were you wearing while you were washing clothes?!?!?!?!?!!! :o

[Tracii G]

I'm with the majority here... if she offered them to you then that sounds like she's OK with the whole idea. But... I do have to ask... if you didn't have anything else to wear when the washer broke, just what were you wearing while you were washing clothes?!?!?!?!?!!! :o

Kind of what I was thinking.

[Lorileah]

:facepalm: She gave them to you to wear, I assume they were new or clean...would you question is she lent you a sweater? (Besides you did wear them...you cannot undo that)

[sillycdlover]

I'm with the majority here... if she offered them to you then that sounds like she's OK with the whole idea. But... I do have to ask... if you didn't have anything else to wear when the washer broke, just what were you wearing while you were washing clothes?!?!?!?!?!!! :o


Kind of what I was thinking.

So glad I wasn't the only one to ponder this question! LOL
But I think in your particular case, you are OK borrowing some undies

[GinaM]

My wife wears my underwear all the time without asking. She wears them over her own almost as if she's wearing them as a pair of shorts. I could care less.

[texasm31]

So glad I wasn't the only to ponder this question! LOL
But I think in your particular case, you are OK borrowing some undies

It did sound very suspicious, but I went ahead and answered. I have not heard the exact question phrased similarly, but I have heard about guys that went on vacation and forgot undies or ran out of clean undies and their SO suggested they wear panties. Unless your SO knew you wore bras/panties regularly and was ok with it, I have no idea why they would lend a bra too. I wish my wife would suggest that I wear her undies, but she is hung up on stereotypes. And if by some miracle she suggested I wear her panties, she would never in a million years offer a bra.

[Chari]

Turning that thread question around - would you lend her YOUR panties and bra? Another solution would be hand wash your undies and wait until they are dry. Personally, none of my lingerie will ever be on loan! Enjoy.

[Annaliese]

Not at all, now if you took them with out her knowing that is a no no

[BLUE ORCHID]

Hi Kaylyn, As long as she is ok with it no problem.

[Emily43]

My other half borrows mine..very rare i wear hers

[Momarie]

Girls mix nd match and swap as a normal course of events when living together.
There is a lot of share, share alike.



It might qualify as a fantasy for some of you, but I think you would find that Women don't swap underwear with other Women as a normal course of events .

[Diedre]

My wife informed me women do not share panties nor pantyhose. Now what her and I do is another story.

[Rachell Carter]

I can't see it being a problem if you both happy with it . My ex would lend my clothes to go out in some times

[Kate T]

I've washed my wife's underwear and seen what is on them sometimes. Eew!! I stick with my own underwear, I don't borrow anyone else's, male or female.

[Eryn]

If she offered them you may accept them. Be sure she gets a lot of positive attention, she's a keeper!

[cathie pantyhose]

yea if she offered go for it. You a lucky man

[Jocelyn Quivers]

My wife wears my underwear all the time without asking. She wears them over her own almost as if she's wearing them as a pair of shorts. I could care less.

Mine does this as well. When I was younger I used to fantasize about that a lot, now it's more of "where did those new pairs of panties I bought disappear to?????

[Rachaelb64]

With permission it's ok but not on a regular basis.
Without permission is a very big NO!

[Finally Happy]

Our blouses and tops are interchangeable and we share that freely. Her bras just wouldn't fit me anyway. We do wear the same style and type panties, but we both consider it a no-no to wear each other's, but that is strictly based on hygiene, and no other reason.

Holly

[BrittanyI]

I think as long as she offered them then go for it otherwise ya they are off limits unless you two have a pre-agreed upon arrangement.

[tiffany_ann]

it is always very tempting for me

[darla_g]

Are you both exactly the same size? I wouldn't be thrilled if I were her and you stretched them out! On the other hand it is a bit kinky and if she is into it...................ask her.

Is there a reason you can't buy your own?

[NathalieX66]

Hey , if she's cool with it, then fine.

I'm from the school of "Buy your own damn panties!"

I don't even share my toothbrush.

[prene]

I am envious.
You have a gf who lets you wear her bra and panties.
Yes ... for me no problem.

[Daphne Renee]

If its ok with Her i dont see any problem at all.

[Mollyanne]

If they are offered then it's OK, you just can't "borrow something without asking first!!!!! BTW, did her panties and bra fit???????

Molly

[Andrea Chenowith]

I won't lie, I'm kinda jealous.

The only time I've ever swapped clothes with my wife is my loaning her a pair of Athleta leggings to use when it got brutally cold here. I bought them for yard work because I hate wearing jeans but hate flying rocks and other lawn debris from our mower more.

[Ressie]

I don't understand. Do you have to wear panties and bra 24/7? Is this even a true story?

[Krisi]

It's fine to wear your girlfriend's (or wife's) clothes with their knowledge and permission as long as they fit and you don't damage them. It's not any weirder than you owning your own bra and panties.

[AndreaCD1963]

If offered or with permission, then fine. Otherwise, totally off limits IMHO

[Millie]

Well I wouldn't borrow my wifes panties.. Think about it, would you ask one of your male buddies to borrow a pair of their underwear..probably not.

[5150 Girl]

Again, I would echo the key to the whole thing is summed up in one word... PERMISSION.... When you hear/see all the posts calling this a "big no no" They are speaking in reference to taking things without permission, which is a kin to stealing.
If she gives you the green light, then it's all good

[Cheryl T]

If she knew about it and offered then fine...if you were to do it on the sly then it's a big no no.

[JoiFemm]

"Borrowing" is definitely off limits. If you want to wear lingerie, go buy some of your own. Victoria's Secret and Macy's are two stores that are open to cross dressers and will help you find want you need.

[kaylyn]

I don't understand. Do you have to wear panties and bra 24/7? Is this even a true story?

Yes. I don't own men's underwear so when I was without I wanted to borrow panties.

[kaylyn]

If they are offered then it's OK, you just can't "borrow something without asking first!!!!! BTW, did her panties and bra fit???????

Molly

Yes, we're the same size panties and her bra fort on the loosest fit lol.

[kaylyn]

Are you both exactly the same size? I wouldn't be thrilled if I were her and you stretched them out! On the other hand it is a bit kinky and if she is into it...................ask her.

Is there a reason you can't buy your own?

I was washing my own when I needed to borrow them

[cdkateinboston]

With permission is ok but the common theme is right , panties and a bra are personal items for a woman, and need permission

[mmdallas]

Well my fiancé doesn't know yet but even if I wanted to borrow her panties, it wouldn't work bc she's so small and they wouldn't come close to fitting haha. I did notice she had an exact same pair of panties that I bought at target last year, that made me laugh. Even if we were the same size I wouldn't want to borrow her stuff.

[Beverley Sims]

For sure!!!!

Unless there is a specific request placed on you.

Get your own.

[Richelle423]

I would stick with my own.

[pantyguysb]

No desire to wear hers, I have plenty of my own!

[scarlett wineshed]

hers don't fit, so, i have to have my own.

[Audrey Sis]

Depends on the girlfriend ;)

Now if she asks me to wear her panties then of Course I will do so gladly. But I have plenty of my own, so it's not necessary..

[NathalieX66]

I'm in the camp of "go buy your own damn panties!"

[mechamoose]

Yes, off limits. Buy your own!

[Kristencdct]

I agree. They should be off limits unless offered.

[Billiejosehine]

As others have already said, if your GF allowed u wear her clothes, then it's okay. But it's always better to have enough clothes, that if you are doing laundry, you still have clean bras and panties in the dresser instead of waiting for the laundry to be done.

[Vickie_CDTV]

She may have felt obligated to let you, and said yes even if she really didn't want to. I wouldn't even ask.

[Ozark]

Maybe 40 years ago, I worked for my future wife's father--but at the time I didn't know that she was my future wife. She and I had to move a couple of pieces of equipment back to her parent's farm, drop them off and bring back another piece.. We each drove a piece of equipment down there. We figured the trip would take about a day there and back. Remember, this was before cell phones.

Her Dad, my boss, gave me some cash for fuel and expenses and we took off down the highway.

Maybe 30 miles from the farm, we had tire trouble. Well I fixed the flats and off we went. When we got to the farm, parked everything and hooked up what we needed to bring back, we went into the house. She went into her bedroom, grabbed some clean clothes, and told me she was going to take a shower.

After she came out of the bathroom, wearing a clean pair of jeans and a blue Adidas tee shirt, combing her hair with one hand while holding the towel around her neck with the other, she told me it was ok to go in and get cleaned up. I hesitated, and said, no, I'm ok. She said, go on, you'll feel better after you take a shower and finally I told her that I didn't want to take a shower and have to put on 'dirty' underwear when I got out.

She asked, "well do you want to wear a pair of mine?" I stammered, no, no that will be all right and I went into the bathroom to shower. As I was showering, she came in the bathroom and said she would talk all my dirty clothes and run a load of wash. I said, "Ok" and continued shampooing my hair.

When I got finished, I turned off the shower and opened the shower curtain, grabbed a towel and, as I was toweling off my head, I hear the washing machine in its spin cycle. Then I saw, there on the wash stand, a pair of white cotton panties.

I knew then this was the girl I wanted to marry.

And yes, I've worn her panties, but never without her consent.

[renees]

My SO and I share panties all the time. We even shop for them together.

[Maria 60]

I believe as long as you don't wear them without the other person knowing. I don't see a problem if they were offered and she knew you wore them. It's not like you went into her drawer took her panties wore them and put them back without her knowing you wore them. All good in my opinion.

[texasm31]

Maybe 40 years ago, I worked for my future wife's father--but at the time I didn't know that she was my future wife. She and I had to move a couple of pieces of equipment back to her parent's farm, drop them off and bring back another piece.. We each drove a piece of equipment down there. We figured the trip would take about a day there and back. Remember, this was before cell phones.

Her Dad, my boss, gave me some cash for fuel and expenses and we took off down the highway.

Maybe 30 miles from the farm, we had tire trouble. Well I fixed the flats and off we went. When we got to the farm, parked everything and hooked up what we needed to bring back, we went into the house. She went into her bedroom, grabbed some clean clothes, and told me she was going to take a shower.

After she came out of the bathroom, wearing a clean pair of jeans and a blue Adidas tee shirt, combing her hair with one hand while holding the towel around her neck with the other, she told me it was ok to go in and get cleaned up. I hesitated, and said, no, I'm ok. She said, go on, you'll feel better after you take a shower and finally I told her that I didn't want to take a shower and have to put on 'dirty' underwear when I got out.

She asked, "well do you want to wear a pair of mine?" I stammered, no, no that will be all right and I went into the bathroom to shower. As I was showering, she came in the bathroom and said she would talk all my dirty clothes and run a load of wash. I said, "Ok" and continued shampooing my hair.

When I got finished, I turned off the shower and opened the shower curtain, grabbed a towel and, as I was toweling off my head, I hear the washing machine in its spin cycle. Then I saw, there on the wash stand, a pair of white cotton panties.

I knew then this was the girl I wanted to marry.

And yes, I've worn her panties, but never without her consent.

That is a fantastic story, and made me smile. You are very lucky.

[Cheryl Ann Owens]

I haven't read the entire thread because I think I know what many responses were. ONLY with permission and NO! means NO! and under special circumstances like not having a clean pair to put on. As long as she suggests it, fine. I'm fortunate that my wife buys them for me or I can order online. We sometimes get them mixed up in the laundry and it's no big deal.

Cheryl

[Julia B]

With permission its ok

[IdahoPanty]

Only with her permission. I have more panties than she does anyways.

[Jenni Yumiko]

no. gross.

[Farrah]

I think its okay to borrow if she's given you permission.

[CrossJess]

Only if she says you can, girls stuff is pretty private and more so with underwear, my best friend jojo will let me barrows hers as shes a uk size 12 - 14 and so am i so we share, i dont mind her taking mine with out asking but i would never dream of just taking hers with out asking first

[madi22rope]

I would say not without consent. But then again I've only had 2 gfs let me wear theirs. They're pretty inexpensive so I would always just buy my own

[alexakennard]

Maybe if you're sneaking them away, but I don't see any harm in it (especially if that have panties overload like my fiancé).

[Vala]

Partners share lot of stuff so that ain't weird. And if she told you it was ok then it's all good as far I know.

[Confucius]

If you want to keep the peace in your relationship then do NOT borrow your girlfriend's clothing without her permission.

Do not assume that because she gave you permission ONCE, that she allows you to use your clothing anytime you feel like it.

It is always much better to use your own things. Most females consider their clothing as "personal", and she will consider your free use of her stuff as a sign of disrespect.

[Sc0rp10N]

I would say it depends on your girlfriend... I don't wear panties, but I have tried my wife's on. They don't fit very well, things are "out"... So I stick to male thongs.

[EllenJo]

I am in the never without permission camp. However it was never a problem with my wife because for years she wore size 7 and I was a size 8. About a year and a half ago she had lost weight due to her health and I had gone on a diet and lost 40 pounds. We bought her some new size 5's and by that time I had passed through size 7 and needed some smaller ones also. She went through her lingere drawer and gave me all of her size 6's. It actually felt a litte weird at first but they were fairly new and very pretty. She had me try them on and yes I am still wearing them. I would never wear any of her things with out her permission but for us the size difference has always took care of the issue.
Hugs
Ellen Jo

[Richelle423]

It's a good thing that she knows you xdress. It's all right then.If she didn't know abiut your xdressing and you put on a pair of panties to be kinky that's OK ( I've been there) but to wear any undies full or part time Get your own!!!!

[wanda66]

Ture, if you're gonna wear panties get your own. Thats like borrower ing someones tooth brush !

[Jillian Kate]

At this point I have no choice since I have nowhere to hide anything. I make sure I wash them though. :o

[Desirae]

That's nonsense. Washing? That's not good enough. It's a HUGE violation of her privacy. ESPECIALLY, panties and other undergarments. That's worse than dresses or other "outer" clothing. PERIOD!. Even if she is your GF. I used to "borrow" my sister's stuff when I was younger. I used to babysit for my cousin's, wife's sisters and I'd play in their stuff too, while the kids were in bed. Then, one day, I had a thought pop into my head about how big of a violation of their privacy this really was. That was the last time I ever did that. I started buying my own stuff. That was a big moment of personal growth when I realized that.

As far as I'm concerned, it would me MORE ETHICAL for you to go to a nearby apartment complex with a "common" laundry facility, find an unattended dryer with some woman's undergarments, and STEAL them, and in place of the clothing you stole, leave a crisp $50 or $100 bill. Some here may disagree, but that's how I see it.

[janetcgtv]

If you are a teenager, then it is OK. However once you do it several more times. Then please buy your own.
My cousin went ballistic(didn't throw anything just was irate), when she caught me in her clothes when I was 11

[giuseppina]

As others have mentioned, wearing a loved one's things is a privacy breach. Obtaining your own things is likely to increase domestic harmony, unless she's totally opposed to you wearing women's clothes. If that is the case, you may not be right for each other.