No matter what we do!

[Monique53]

We try and try and try, but, no matter what we do, we can only emulate what most of us want and that is to feel like a woman. Whether we are CD's,TG's, or anything in between, we will never be able to completely achieve this total goal. We are subjected to ridicule, avoidance, and more ignorance than probably any other minority ever in history. It's really depressing, at times, but looking at it from a positive aspect, we have proven that we are strong and resilient. God Bless all of you! Many of us didn't choose this fight, but we will carry on!
Sorry if I hurt anyone's feelings, but, was feeling kind of down and retrospective this evening!

Monique

[RADER]

Very well said. Now if we could convince society we would be in great shape.
Rader

[Monique53]

After rethinking my comment, I wanted to make sure that others realize that I said that we as a group have basically, in my opinion, been subjected to more discrimination, not persecution, as we would never hold a candle to the horrors that the
Jewish people suffered at the hands of Adolph Hitler, during World War II.

Monique

[Anna H]

Well, we're not very high on the list of subcultures as far
as respectability goes. But just looking at our pictures, it's
clear from our smiles and the look in our eyes, that we have
something that brings us Exceptional Happiness.

Exceptional Happiness is Very hard to come by for most people.
We have something they'll rarely understand...

:happy: ♥

[Rachael Leigh]

While I understand your thoughts what some here may deal with it's nothing compared to others around the world, who suffer persecution for their beliefs or political views. I say we have it very easy

[Monique53]

I certainly agree with you, Leigh, but I was only speaking from the perspective of us on the forum. Certainly, there are injustices all over the world, but, my focus was not that broad. If we were to address that, this thread could go on for years!!

Monique

[sanderlay]

For myself... I also may not ever be able to fully achieve being a woman but I'm not really a man either. I'm somewhere in-between and I now know I'm not the only one. All through out history, with many different names, others like myself, or similar, have been around. Going against the gender binary is not an easy path but for myself but it is the right one for me because I'm trying to be my true self. It's worth the effort, joy and hard times.

We are all hurt, as a community and a nation, when we, and others, are disrespected or worse, those who do it and those on the receiving end. But I long for the day when respect will be universal law of the land for every person and living thing on our living planet.

So cheer up, you are in good company. :)

[Rachael Leigh]

I think what's sad for me is I'm harder on myself than others outside of this are. Some weeks it's a daily beat down

[sanderlay]

I think what's sad for me is I'm harder on myself than others outside of this are. Some weeks it's a daily beat down

It's easy to be my own worst enemy, get into just survival mode and then blame myself for the decisions or my circumstances. But what does it accomplish to blame myself or another person? Do I help or hinder my moral and my situation?

I awoke this morning and I'm alive for another day, not to fight another battle but to celebrate the opportunity of the day and my life. How do I make it special, because each day is special and a gift that was given to me.

I have times that I'm very creative and ambitious, very driven. And other times I'm simply just the opposite. But what I have learned along the way is to forgive my own mistakes. I allow myself some me time to watch the grass grow. Think outside the box or think about nothing at all. Sometimes it just being grateful for what I have been given or accomplished.

Life is to short to second guess what I decide to do or not do. If I can't love myself how can I show love and forgiveness to another person?

:)

[noeleena]

Hi.

Yes well i can do better than just emulate another woman and i dont need to or try, i never wonted to be female or male yet i have what i need and its not a wont ether, quess im just one of those who had thier wish granted before i was born,

I have disadvantages plus advantages, im happy content and really for myself its compleat, i have a life well i'll say its fantastic and worth liveing,

If it was only about looks or the look or do i pass or blend in then i would not bother trying because i know i'd never measure up to the standard many dresser's can , for myself its about accepting who you are and of cause acceptance by others for who you are not what your not, and i have that,

You said no matter ...what... we do , and yes to a point i agree, to emulate to be a woman or like one,

yes i am different and i'v never been ashamed sometimes im ashamed of how i look and i work on that in my acceptance of who i am, and thats a day to day detail, yet you know what i wont let that distroy who i am.

well i was born both male female and by default im allready female and you know what that does for myself i have grown into a woman to become that woman , i was able as most of my women friends have done is grow to become women or my case a mature woman in her own right,

I never had a goal to achive becoming a woman i knew i would , now to be compleatly a full funtioning woman in giveing birth to my child that is one detail i'll never be able to, no womb and iv worked through that hard as its been , remember some of us women cant have children though we have our wombs , so im not the only one, other wise im completein other aspects,

Thought you may be interested in some of us are a little different,

...noeleena...

[Monique53]

Thank you for your thoughts, Noleena. Each and everyone of us is different in many ways and this diversity is what makes life challenging and worth living. I know that most of us are okay with who we are and maybe a time will come when others can recognize and accept this diversity. Being different is not an aberration or a sin!

Monique

[Lynn Marie]

Dress up, look good, be classy, and go boldly about your business. Be sure to keep your fog lights on. This pink stuff can be hard to see through at times. Pick your venues so as to minimize your chances of ridicule, and never ever expect the world to embrace you with open arms. It's never going to happen, get over it.

[Kate Simmons]

Most women will tell you that they don't know what it feels like to be a "woman" either, just what it feels like to be themselves.Same here.How we express ourselves is another matter. :)

[Jordan]

Very well said but just to shave and be dressed makes me feel so much like a woman

[Beverley Sims]

Monique,
You cured your own malady....
Yep!
Look in the positive side, it 'aint all that bad.

[Jaylyn]

Monique I learned a long long time ago as one of life's first lessons that your not going to be accepted by every one. I'm not talking about cross dressing. I'm talking about just people in general. There's only one you and in reality no one else is exactly like you. I have a set of twins and they are different as night and day. As for a fight I don't have one inside me. I love dressing at home and probably the only person that will ever be acceptable of me is my wife. She knows what I am and she is always telling me when I get down that I'm the only one that can do something about it. She right.... People will never agree on what's normal or what's right or wrong. We are a goofy people created by God and God made us who we are. He did mean for us to love others as ourselves. Maybe the whole world would be a better place if that was a rule for every one. I really don't want to feel like a woman just dress like one from time to time. I think that there are way too many types of CDs some like me in varying degrees, and some like yourself in varying degrees. There is no fight as I see it. I am a hunter in male mode and I can't see how anyone cannot accept my hobby. I have a friend that races horses for a living I can't see how he enjoys his hobby. I have one friend that is about three hundred pounds I don't understand why he can't lose weight. I'm not ragging on you I'm just telling you we are all different and every one sees the perfect world thru their own perspective of it as their eyes and mind has it pictured.. Sooty if I stepped on more toes than you.....

[tiffany_ann]

Its all in fun. it depends on how you look at it

[BLUE ORCHID]

Hi Monique, I enjoy my life just being a double agent.

[Claire Cook]

Most women will tell you that they don't know what it feels like to be a "woman" either, just what it feels like to be themselves.Same here. :)


Kate,


As usual you echo my thoughts. Male, female ... I'm me.

[CarlaWestin]

From the early beginnings of my CD journey I've been influenced by, of all things, a line from Ricky Nelson's, Garden Party. Yeah, I know, pretty corny. But that line is simple and says it all.
"You can't please everyone, so you have to please yourself."
I celebrate in being me whether I'm Carla or Charles. And anyone with any kind of withering opinion about either one of me, is instantly ruled as a lesser being.
Arrogant? You bet! But, I've always only been open to constructive criticism. Negativity is always repelled. And really. Oppressed? I'm just not feeling it.