Men and mothers

[Milou]

Hello everyone,

I was wondering what your relation is with your mother. The reason I'm asking this is that my crossdressing tendencies might be the result of my relationship with my mother. In general, she's a very dominant woman who unconsciously makes every decision for me. I basically became a passive child with no own opinion or will. Someone that did everything what others asked me to do. I think this might be the cause of my crossdressing and perversion behaviour. My father on the other hand was a sweet man who was often proud of me, but he mainly remained on the background.

[Beverley Sims]

I know a number of "Mummy's boys", and they have never shown a tendency to cross-dress.

[Annaliese]

I think it good to try to figure out your relationship with your mother.

In my opinion the cause of Crossdressing tendencies is, we are born this way it's not strong mother, or father it just how we born.

[Lorileah]

My father on the other hand was a sweet man who was often proud of me, but he mainly remained on the background.

So maybe you idolized your father who was more nurturing? The clothing isn't even associated with it

[Milou]

I know a number of "Mummy's boys", and they have never shown a tendency to cross-dress.

Could be, never implied all men would turn into crossdressers.


So maybe you idolized your father who was more nurturing? The clothing isn't even associated with it

No, probably the other way around. Maybe due to the lack of a strong father role model, I idolized/overidentified my mother.

[PaulaQ]

Its not because of your mom. We don't know what causes this.

[Lorileah]

No, probably the other way around. Maybe due to the lack of a strong father role model, I idolized/overidentified my mother.
So your mother wore feminine outfits and makeup all the time while she ruled the household? When you are dressed you are a dominant personality?

I know some here are. I am just that. I am more demanding and independent now. But the flaw here is that many if not most TGs tend to be more submissive at least early on. So a domineering or strong mother would be opposite of what they present.

Trying to assign this to a parental personality doesn't work. Just like saying that it was totally nurture that made you a TG.

[Katey888]

Milou,

I think there may be many things that the relationship with your mother could be responsible for, but CDing is not likely to be one of them... :)

My feeling is something much deeper and innate... not a nurture or experiential development.

Katey x

[BLUE ORCHID]

Hi Milou, I think that my mother may be the cause of my dressing,
I think that it all started when I was a couple days old when she dressed me
in that little white receiving gown to bring me home from the hospital.

[Milou]

...

Okay, never mind :/

J-j-just close/remove this thread...

[Wildaboutheels]

You are in your early twenties. Undoubtedly, Nurture - YOUR own path - to this point in your life has played a part in the person you are now. As it is with everyone. Whether it's 5%, 10% or 50%, it's irrelevant.

The Forums are full of such reports from others and I have no reason to believe all of them or ANY of those folks are Lying. Of course a man raised by a single mom with 4 sisters is going to be a different man at 20 than a male raised by a single dad with 4 brothers. To categorically and flatly deny Nurture in the equation of WHO we each are is simply not realistic.

"The reason I'm asking this is that my crossdressing tendencies might be the result of my relationship with my mother."

MIGHT? Yes, of course.

[Milou]

Yes, you're right.

Sorry, there are probably tons of reasons why people crossdress and everyone is different.