Relationship reset

[kimdl93]

I thought I would provide a follow up from my post of two weeks ago, regarding my wife's recently revealed concerns about my CDing. As you may recall, she sought out a gender therapist for herself and subsequently expressed her concerns to me and offered some compromises. One request was that I attend the next counseling session, which I did.

Last weeks therapy session was somewhat repetitive of my wife's solo session of two weeks earlier, but helpful all the same because I did open up a bit more than I had expected about how I my life began, progressed and led to who I am today. My wife and I had never really talked about this and she gained a much more complete understanding of this part of me. In a nutshell, she knows its more-much more and deeper than clothes... she now knows I am TG. She seems genuinely sympathetic to both my life struggles and needs as a transgendered person.

After the session we talked much longer over at a favorite restaurant. She genuinely wants to accommodate my needs but asked for a little break from seeing me dressed while she tries to readjust her attitudes somewhat. I understand and I am doing my best to give her just that. I have to admit, its a bit of a struggle after dressing routinely for so long. I am trying to look at this as a reset, hoping that the process will play out better for both of us after this pause. How long the pause might be is anyones guess. I would like her to tell me when she is ready to start over.

[Katey888]

Sounds like progress of sorts for the two of you, Kim.. :hugs:

Any development of understanding has to be a positive step and perhaps incremental understanding after so long just takes that little bit more time and patience..?

I hope your perspective of a reset is what you finally achieve, however long it may take... I also hope it's not too long for you, and that patience and a degree of sacrifice on your part will help towards that accommodation. :)

No good thing comes without at least a little sacrifice somewhere, I think...

Katey x

[Annaliese]

I hope everything goes well with the reset. hugs

[Maria 60]

Sounds like there is some improvement and hope she comes around sooner then later, we crossdressers aren't the most patient people, and I don't think we want frustration to come into play. Well pretty much the ball is in her court now and I guess you will have to see how she plays it. Don't leave us in the dark, let's us know what's going so maybe we can help you through this.

[Beverley Sims]

Kim,
I certainly hope normal programming will resume quite soon.
Sometimes it does need a third party to offer an opinion.

[Kate Simmons]

Sometimes it tales awhile. I consider myself a fortunate man to have found my GF. She has no problem with the dressing whatsoever, as, at the end of the day, she knows she has her man.:)

[MsVal]

People tend to worry more about unknowns than knowns. It sounds like a lot of your wife's questions and uncertainty have been answered Kim. That has to be a big relief for her.

Best wishes
MsVal