Marcelle
03-30-2014, 07:03 AM
Hi all,
I just started watching the show "House of Card" (love it BTW) and in one episode the main character "Frank Underwood" was giving a speech to dedicate a library at a school he attended in his youth. He talked about "harmony" in reference to a group of choral friends he had when attending school. Individual single voices all contributing to one beautiful sound.
I thought what a beautiful concept, individual voices coming together to weave a tapestry of sound for all to enjoy. Remove one voice and the harmony is no more. So where am I going with this you may ask? :confused: Well, harmony is important and it can be singular like brining harmony to your life when you are confused. It can include many like bringing harmony to your workplace when things are going bad. The end result is harmony centers us and like a beautiful harmonized song, makes us feel happy at our core.
Okay does this mean Isha wants to start a TG choir? Not exactly.
Let's face it, we (TG) are an eclectic group. However it takes everyone to harmonize who we are to the world. I am not talking about the individual "you" or "me" but the concept of what we each of us do. I have been reading the posts and have lived some of this through a local TG group and I can state and I believe we can all agree . . . "A TG hierarchy does exist". It can't be helped as human nature demands that we somehow minimalize some parts of society in an effort to raise our own standing. I have seen CDers who go out complete "en femme" feel they have a higher standing because they are out and about while closeted gals stay home and hide. A recent thread discussed the "dude in skirts phenomenon" with some less than stellar comments about "why would you do such a thing". In my social group, I had a young TS gal tell me that CDers are not truly TG because we are too afraid to commit to one gender and that we should not even be going out in public because it is an embarrassment to her and other TS gals. In a similar vain I have had a CD friend say to me, that TS gals don't get us because they have drank the pink Kool-Aid and think they are better than us. None of these statements have an iota of truth but they still do damage to harmony nonetheless. :sad:
Now before the collective chorus goes "Hey Isha, I have never said or done such a thing" I want to say ... "This is not directed at any individual but the collective community." There are a lot of implied statements in posts and threads which may have not been meant the way they are perceived but one person's perception is their reality regardless of the messaging intent. If I read a comment and think "What a b&*$%" my kneejerk reaction is to respond in kind regardless if the comment was not meant to be mean or not. :bitchslap: The unfortunate thing about emotion is that it can lead us to some irrational actions . . .hence the runaway threads which have nothing to do with the OP's intent.
"Okay Isha . . . will you just bottle the genie" :blah: :)
My point is we all contribute to this beautiful song of ours. Some may sing louder, some may sing at different pitch or tone. Some may come to singing practice more than others. However, in the end without all of us singing together, harmony will suffer and the song we provide to the world will sound like chatter vice melody. I for one prefer harmony so let's all remember "to each her own" because we need each other's differences for true harmony. :daydreaming:
Hugs
Isha
I just started watching the show "House of Card" (love it BTW) and in one episode the main character "Frank Underwood" was giving a speech to dedicate a library at a school he attended in his youth. He talked about "harmony" in reference to a group of choral friends he had when attending school. Individual single voices all contributing to one beautiful sound.
I thought what a beautiful concept, individual voices coming together to weave a tapestry of sound for all to enjoy. Remove one voice and the harmony is no more. So where am I going with this you may ask? :confused: Well, harmony is important and it can be singular like brining harmony to your life when you are confused. It can include many like bringing harmony to your workplace when things are going bad. The end result is harmony centers us and like a beautiful harmonized song, makes us feel happy at our core.
Okay does this mean Isha wants to start a TG choir? Not exactly.
Let's face it, we (TG) are an eclectic group. However it takes everyone to harmonize who we are to the world. I am not talking about the individual "you" or "me" but the concept of what we each of us do. I have been reading the posts and have lived some of this through a local TG group and I can state and I believe we can all agree . . . "A TG hierarchy does exist". It can't be helped as human nature demands that we somehow minimalize some parts of society in an effort to raise our own standing. I have seen CDers who go out complete "en femme" feel they have a higher standing because they are out and about while closeted gals stay home and hide. A recent thread discussed the "dude in skirts phenomenon" with some less than stellar comments about "why would you do such a thing". In my social group, I had a young TS gal tell me that CDers are not truly TG because we are too afraid to commit to one gender and that we should not even be going out in public because it is an embarrassment to her and other TS gals. In a similar vain I have had a CD friend say to me, that TS gals don't get us because they have drank the pink Kool-Aid and think they are better than us. None of these statements have an iota of truth but they still do damage to harmony nonetheless. :sad:
Now before the collective chorus goes "Hey Isha, I have never said or done such a thing" I want to say ... "This is not directed at any individual but the collective community." There are a lot of implied statements in posts and threads which may have not been meant the way they are perceived but one person's perception is their reality regardless of the messaging intent. If I read a comment and think "What a b&*$%" my kneejerk reaction is to respond in kind regardless if the comment was not meant to be mean or not. :bitchslap: The unfortunate thing about emotion is that it can lead us to some irrational actions . . .hence the runaway threads which have nothing to do with the OP's intent.
"Okay Isha . . . will you just bottle the genie" :blah: :)
My point is we all contribute to this beautiful song of ours. Some may sing louder, some may sing at different pitch or tone. Some may come to singing practice more than others. However, in the end without all of us singing together, harmony will suffer and the song we provide to the world will sound like chatter vice melody. I for one prefer harmony so let's all remember "to each her own" because we need each other's differences for true harmony. :daydreaming:
Hugs
Isha