Done for awhile

[CD Husband]

It looks like I'm done dressing for at least the next two or three months. Our house has sold and we've bought a new one. All my things are packed up tight after this past weekend, where I had a whole day to myself. I don't even know if I will get time to dress after we move and get everything sorted out, since we're moving about 15 minutes from my wife's family and there will be no more overnight trips.

I might be done for good.:sad:

[Linda E. Woodworth]

I have to ask if your wife knows about your feminine self?

if she does, is there time set aside for you to dress?

As an aside, my wife and I have always had a rule to keep 2 states between us and family. Works wonders!

I work overseas for months at a time and I always bring stuff to dress when I get the chance. Are you able to have a "small" stash of skit & blouse with a few accessories?

I know from experience that the urge to dress is not going to go away.

[Zylia]

So I reckon your wife doesn't know or you have some kind of DADT 'agreement'? Otherwise I do not really understand why you would be done 'for good'. Time to tell and/or reassess your situation.

[Amanda Roberts]

Awwe keep your chin up... no way you are done :) Sit tight for a bit and learn the routine of your new place... you will find the opportunities you need!

And pleeese don't purge :) don't do it!

I know moving is stressful... just recently finished a tough move myself so I know what you're dealing with but you will make it!!!

~Amanda

[Amanda M]

Listen to Amanda who just posted!!!!

Looking back a while, I had a slightly funny situation. I worked in the Kingdom of Saudi Arabia, which, as you probably know, is one of the most strictly traditional Islamic states in the world.

Anyway, checked in at Heathrow on my way to work. Arrived in Dharan, KSA. One suitcase missing. Now then, just by chance, it contained some really lovely ladieswear. Good quality stuff. I mean really gorgeous, packed lovingly by my wife. So here comes the dilemma. Do I report the loss, and risk being hauled up before the religious police for goodness knows what kind of offence. Thought about it, and decided, sod it, it's my stuff! British Airways were great - but they never did find it. So, if there is some poor Beduin sitting on a sand dune in the Empty Quarter trying to find out what to do with a corset and a pair of FF nylons, sorry, old chap.

[sanderlay]

Change can certainly be hard especially when it's hard to see what might be ahead. Perhaps it's human nature that thinks of the worse case situation. Think Grimm's Fairy Tales. But in time, quicker than what might seem possible at the moment, you'll move in... things will get unpacked... and you'll find in life your routines and special times.

But until that happens remember that your inner self is still here. She is not being hidden or ignored. She still has a place in your life even without the clothes. While others may not see her directly she can still shine through to help you be your True Self.

[LICutie]

hmm, this is interesting thread and replies for me as i have made that vow before however i have always returned to the urge and crossdressing, and the actual physical act usually feels like it was preceded by the mental part although maybe i amwrong.

i definitely have been the binger and purger though and more purge than binge (yet maybe fantasy can be more useful than reality, it's tough to say).

i believe a lot of it is in our mind where our complementary opposite gender lives so even if we don't dress in person in our fantasy and subconscious we may keep doing so.

so it is always there no matter what we do. so do we starve it? or feed it?

the talk of free will being an illusion would mean that we cannot help ourselves and any control (or lack of) maybe an illusion.

i hope we all can be at peace with ourselves good and bad like the marriage vow says better or worse and perhaps the marriage within albeit unofficially is a helpful starting point that can set the precedent for a man/woman marriage and other relationships, too?

happy trails

[Teresa]

Well CD H you still have your stuff but if your wife doesn't know, what have you marked on your moving boxes so the wrong person doesn't unpack them ? Why don't you get moved and see how the dust settles, you know if you purge you'll be back. If you're DADT at the moment maybe the move could be the right time to start talking. I hope it all goes well for you.

[Beverley Sims]

There's always a work around.
An electric fence works. :)

Don't purge tho'.

[JamieQ]

I think I would look at this like a temporary setback...so that said, keep the CD stuff as your CD routine/situation may come back around when you least expect it. You just need to reassess and find another routine somehow. As previously stated, we humans most always assume the worst. I am sort of in the same situation...but knowing that its a matter of time, sooner or later. Preferably sooner...

[Karren H]

Things change... shit happens.... you need to get creative off you want to continue... or have to continue.... personally I'm heading in that direction..... with retirement looming closer and closer.... but if I couldn't from today forward.... I'd be happy with the memories of wheat I did and where I went enfemme..... ya got to deal with the cards your dealt best you can....

[Krisi]

I'm guessing your wife doesn't know about your dressing. You say your things are packed up. Are they secured somewhere or are they going with your furniture, etc.? What if your wife unpacks them?

As for dressing in the future, you will have to either give it up or find a way to continue. I hid my dressing for many years but once I told my wife, it was a big burden lifted from me. I don't parade around the neighborhood as Krisi but I dress in the home and around my wife. No more hiding.

[Jaylyn]

Just hope your I laws don't come over to help you unpack like mine would do.