Who is in charge of your body hair?

[Nadine Spirit]

I consider some of my first acts of cross dressing, to not be dressing at all, but rather shaving my body hair. I started it due to swimming, but kept at it, because I liked it.

Once I met my now wife, I explained to her that I occasionally like to shave. She did not mind, but once I began to do it regularly she let me know that she really liked my hairy bod and she kind of complained about me shaving it. Not vehemently, but politely. I in turn asked her to try growing out her body hair and seeing what it felt like. She got to about 2-3 weeks, was terribly annoyed by it, and shaved it all off. From that point forward she has understood that how I choose to keep my own body hair is my own choice.

I feel the same way about telling her how to keep her hair. I once had a good friend tell his wife in front of me that she was not allowed to cut her hair shorter than it was at that time. She said "okay." I was shocked by this. My wife can keep her hair however she wants to, in fact she shaved it all off once, from her head, and I encouraged her to give it a go and was thrilled she went for it!

My point is, shouldn't how anyone keeps their hair be their own choice? If you don't care, and do it to make some else happy, obviously that is different. But to be told how one has to keep their body hair, wow, I personally would revolt pretty quickly from that. What say you?

[Aylineira]

I think everybody has a right to their own body. Surely the significant other can have an effective opinion but I don't know if it's right to say that they are in charge.

[michellekhoo]

Totally agree with you on this Nadine. You have a nice blog by the way.

[PaulaQ]

My wife hated me smooth. She couldn't look at me or touch me after I initially waxed off all of my body hair. It was a serious issue for her until we separated.

She had a hard time dealing with any changes I might have made - not just the obvious ones, really anything.

[ReineD]

I enjoy presenting in a way that my SO finds attractive ... I like to be attractive to my SO. This means making an effort with my presentation, keeping the longer hair, etc, as opposed to just hanging out all the time in sweats or comfy pants, loose Tshirts, sneakers, and no makeup, whether we go out or not. :p

[Nadine Spirit]

You have a nice blog by the way.

Thanks Michelle


I enjoy presenting in a way that my SO finds attractive ... I like to be attractive to my SO.

Good point Reine, but what if your SO would like for you to shave off all of your hair on your head? Or some other such thing that you might not like? Would you still do it, just because they find it to be attractive?

[Wildaboutheels]

Your post makes perfect sense. The trouble with it is that we are all different and we like what we like. In your case your wife already knew...

On Dating sites there are some women who ask for and insist on hairy chested men. Or bald men. Or men at least 6' tall even if they might only be 5' tall themselves...

I know men who insist that ALL women with very short hair are "dykes". Or "gay". Or lesbian. And would never date one. Or so they claim.

I imagine for most GGs, if it were only body hair, they might not have such an issue, but coupled with all the other stuff, it's an easy one to pick on?

It is well documented that a lot of what we desire in a mate goes back to our Relationships with our parents. Many women have a desire for a man with "big strong hands" and it likely goes back to their Relationships with their dads when little. When little, at their height, it's what thy are easily able to notice. Not to mention be picked up by. Not a giant leap of the imagination, at least for SOME men that when THEY were wittle, their moms often wore skirts, pantyhose and heels. Quite noticeable when one is only 2 feet tall.

AND highly impressionable.

[ReineD]

Good point Reine, but what if your SO would like for you to shave off all of your hair on your head? Or some other such thing that you might not like? Would you still do it, just because they find it to be attractive?

IF bald heads were considered beautiful and were in fashion, and if I had a nice scalp, I'd consider it. I am motivated by what is deemed attractive in our society, like everyone else, right? How many of us are willing to go out and look like something that society deems to be ugly? Right now, people with bald heads are stared at, so under those circumstances I wouldn't want all the negative attention.

Back to male body shaving ... society does NOT think that men with body hair are ugly. If it were considered ugly, then I wouldn't blame a guy if he was unwilling to grow his body hair just to please his SO. He wouldn't want to be made a laughing stock.

Do you see the disparity in both those arguments? :)

So maybe a better analogy would be if my SO wanted me to wear my hair in a way that IS socially acceptable for women, but opposite of the way I wear it now, which is a pixie cut. And the answer is yes, I would definitely consider it, in fact I did have my hair cut quite short for a large part of my adult life.

[RADER]

My Wife who I loved and respected, loved the hair on my chest.
I have quite abet of it.
Even in bed, with me wearing a bra, she would run her hands through it.
Out of respect to her, I still do not shave even with her passing.
Rader

[Nadine Spirit]

society does NOT think that men with body hair are ugly.

I have never heard of any male with back hair being described as good looking, but then again I am a guy, and married, and most women don't talk to me about what they find attractive.

My point is still the same. If it is your body, you should be free to do with it as you will. If you want do what your partner finds attractive, that is your choice, but you should be allowed to choose.

[ReineD]

If you want do what your partner finds attractive, that is your choice, but you should be allowed to choose.

Yes, I'll agree with you 100% there! :)

[Cheryl T]

I shaved completely about 10 years ago and won't go back to being hairy.
My wife doesn't mind and after we took a "girl's only" vacation a few years ago she even suggested that I might want to consider laser for my face as she saw how much trouble shaving each day was.

[Beverley Sims]

I think God looks after mine, it is a form of revenge. :)

[Alice B]

There re three people. Me, myself and I. Have no problems from my wife. She kidded me at first, but is now used to me being totally shaved and carries on a normal conversation with me when in the bathroom and watching me shave.

[Jenniferathome]

I'm with you Nadine. My wife prefers that I have leg hair and prefers that I let the hair on my head grow a little longer. I prefer a buzz cut on my head because it's easy t manage and I prefer no leg hair for a multitude of reasons, cross dressing being only a small factor. I respect my wife's preferences but it is only that, a preference. Not fighting material.

[Kate Simmons]

All I know is that on myself hair grows in places I don't want it to and not on places I want it to. Therefore, by default, I feel I'm in charge of what hair I want and don't want. Works for me.:battingeyelashes::)

[alwayshave]

My fiancee likes me to have chest hair. It has nothing to do with her disliking my crossdressing, she just liked chest hair. When I had it, she would run her fingers through it for hours. That being said it has been a few years since I have had any body hair.

[Princess Grandpa]

Some time back, long before I came to understand I was a cross dresser I surprised my wife. I shaved my bikini region thinking, she does it for me, I should repay the favor. She hated it! Wouldn't come near me until it grew back out. Sure it was my choice. I could have continued shaving, but at what cost. Fortunately it was done for her so I didn't mind letting it grow back.

Last year last year when we came to understand my need, hair removal was going to be off the table. It didn't really last that way. As my dressing progressed we both found a desire for me to be clean shaven. First went the beard, then the legs. At this point if I suddenly got over my desire to dress I would still remain clean shaven. We both prefer it that way.

Hug
Rita

[mechamoose]

I have always been furry, and my keeping my fur is one of the few 'lines' my wife has drawn. When I met her, she had hair half way down her back... and I had short hair and a rat-tail that went past my waist. Years later she started wearing it neck length. I hated it, but it was her hair and her appearance, so I let it go.

I know that I mentioned over the course of time that I liked how she looked with long hair... and she started growing it for me. She has long hair now.. because of my likes.

When doing a lot of cycling, I tended to get it *really* short. But she has mentioned more than once that she wished I had long hair (Think Mel Gibson in 'Braveheart') So, I have started to grow it out.

So out of respect for her 'likes', I keep my fur, even though I'm intensely curious what I would look like fully made up.

So to answer the original question, We share control of each other's hair.

- MM

[shawnsheila]

My wife is not very fond of me shaving / waxing but I love the feel of being smooth. But I still shave and wax when I feel in the girly mood. I got my beared lasered off and am workig on the chest / stomach hair for laser removal now too.

[Marcelle]

Ah the body hair conundrum. My wife and I talked about this at length when I came out last year. With the exception of a few times when access to shaving was not possible, I have always been smooth but genetically I am a furry guy. My wife asked did I wax and shave because of CDing and I responded no. I always kept smooth as I used to engage in MMA style fighting and body hair is a major hindrance. That being said, the times I was furry, she did not mind nor does she mind me smooth. So I guess in response to your question, I am in charge of my body hair. However, if my wife suddenly came out and said I wish you would let your body hair grow out I would have to ask her why? I doubt it would be a show stopper if I said "no way" as our relationship has weathered a lot of issues and body hair is minimal in comparison to some of the real issues we have faced.

Hugs

Isha

[Tanya+]

Given that my wife makes few demands on me, i would love to give her what she wants, maybe not all the time, but i wouldn't begrudge something that made me more attractive to her. I am still quite shy about my smooth skin, waiting for winter to come properly so i can take it all off, so far she likes it.

But i take your point, if i was told in a bossy way, i might not respond quite so positively.

Seriously though, i wish my wife did have a fetish for something that i could give her, just so i could reward her patient understanding and love.

[Lynn Marie]

My ex had me pretty well domesticated. Wives are fabulous for making families and having kids. Girlfriends are a much better deal for older gentlemen with cool cars and two wardrobes! They don't make "demands", and if they do, moving on is so much easier to do. Don't let anybody "own" you.

[noeleena]

Hi,

Reine, Your in the wrong county, over here we have a lot of men who shave thier heads we dont look at them any different than any one else many i know are shaved, no big deal.

some reasons are because they have hair issues of male baldness so what looks better an unkeeped or army style short back and sides or shaved , I did our sons hair when they were army .

My self 40 years ago i should have done my legs, as i rode our horse's a lot, and when i told Jos she said i should have, no drama there,

Plus my body hair is about 8 % and none up top. yes a bit strange for a woman maybe, some i know who have had cemo lost all thier hair, and a few asked if i had had cemo. answer was no .

For myself no hair no headaches and no wigs only for our Edwardian group other wise no way,

...noeleena...

[GingerLeigh]

Hairless IS better. I haven't had to replace my deodorant stick for over 7 months now. The dry air in the winter causing static cling of leg hair....yuck! I see some hairy dudes out there and think how ugly it really is. However since it is predominantly women that shave, any man that does it automatically enters the "suspicion" category. It's not about what's practical, it's about what people perceive to be your reasons for doing it. You are right of course. It is your body so do what you want. Just understand that some people will think you're gay or a crossdress. I do it anyway since I no longer care as much.

[Ineke Vashon]

Nobody remembers my hairy arms and legs from a year ago. I am a clean shaven, divorced, retired senior, often in shorts in summer. If someone would ask, my "stock" answer would have been: "I have dry skin and use lotion every day. Gets kind of messy with the hair so I shaved it off." I have not had a reason to use that 'excuse'. I don't think anyone cares.

Yesterday, at Wally World, I inspected a man groomer with an extra handle, for shaving the back. The front of the box showed a totally shaved bare chested male, with shaved armpits. Yet, in the fashion of today, he had a two day beard. Go figure.:eek:

Ineke

[Krisi]

I don't hink anyoue should be telling his/her spouse how to wear their hair but in a good, loving marriage, each will try to please the other.

My wife wouldn't tell me I could not shave my body hair but I know she would rather that I not. Instead, I use a trimmer to keep it short enough to where it's not really obvious but still there. Excuses like bicycling or swimming aren't going to work, I do neither.

[Annaliese]

Great thread, yes one should decide on there own body hair, or hair cut.

[Heather-Hill]

In short I am, I have been lucky in life (depends how you view it) as I have always had very little body hair. None on my chest and feint hair on my arms, legs etc. I am in my latter 60's with even less and only have to shave my face every three days!
My wife wanted me to grow a beard and I didn't object and kept it for several years until it too went grey to match my head. I have shaved it off as my cd'ing desire grew much to my wife's displeasure.

I would love to remove facial hair altogether but unfortunately Laser treatment will not work with grey so I am lead to believe. If anyone can advise or know differently I would love to hear from you.

In short I do not impose restrictions on my wife and I hope she have the same view about me. I do, however, take an interest in her and will compliment accordingly. If she asks my opinion I will give an honest (diplomatic) answer, Lol!

Love to all
Hugs Heather

[Suzanne F]

This was certainly a big topic at my house. I wanted everything shaved but my wife has struggled with it. I started shaving bikini area first and progressed from there. She has acquiesced a little at a time. Most recently she conceded on my lower stomach. The only area left is my lower arms. I agree that we should be in charge of our own grooming but I also know it is best to let our spouses catch up with us. It does often occur to me that I never tell her how and where to shave. Love and tolerance are my guides so I am trying to be patient.
Suzanne

[MsVal]

One of the sage pieces of advice we often read here is to progress no faster and no further than your wife/SO/girlfriend's comfort.
Another piece of advice is to keep the communications channels open.

In this context, it may be "my" body, and I may modify it in a way of my choosing, but "we" have a marriage, and the body plays a significant role.

Using the open lines of communications, one's wife/SO/girlfriend should be aware of the desire, and the crossdresser should be likewise aware of requested limits. This may be revisited and revised limits negotiated as the comfort level permits.

Best wishes
MsVal

[carhill2mn]

The removing of body hair was a big issue between my wife and me. In order to not escalate the disagreement, I did not remove as much hair at that time as I do now. I know this is an issue for many

[Adriana Moretti]

Being Italian..I am constantly waging war on body hair....at least it's not as bad as a Kardashian...

[Avrial]

Body hair isn't any issue anymore. Been doing everything from the waist up for quite a long time... she understood it with no problem. She told me of a time in college when friends were discussing body hair, and she mentioned I shaved. The girls all agreed, long armpit hair clumped together with deodorant is not attractive. On the other hand, the first couple times I shaved my legs, she didn't like it. Every year or so I would try, but it wasn't until last year that I started doing it regularly. Turns out the issue wasn't being smooth, it was being prickly in the days after. Well, that was easy to solve. Bit of a battle with head hair though; she's not crazy about how long it's getting.

As for her hair, she can do as she pleases. She knows my preferences, and luckily shares most of them. She's not as vigilant about shaving her legs as I am, and often not as smooth. That's fine. It's her hair. She also knows I like shorter hairstyles... tried it once and didn't like it. Love her for giving it a shot, but it's not my choice to make.

[Nikki Love]

I have always been intrigued by the concept of hair distribution in us humans. We want it here, but not there. Biologists talk about primary sexual characteristics, such as overies and testicals. Secondary sexual characteristics such as breast enlargement and hip width and terminal hair growth. I take this a step further and consider tertiary sexual characteristics like makeup, jewelry and clothing. It is important for me to be smooth shaved. I enjoy the scorched earth movement. But god, simple shaving is difficult when the hair on legs grow so fast. My wife laughed at me the other week as I was shaving my body and said it's a real bitch to stay smooth. She likes the fact that I appreciate the work she goes through to present herself to me more than ever as a cd. It is most fortunate for me that the issue of hair warfare seems to be of no concern to my wife. She likes me smooth or prickly. But she did have one moment 6 months ago when I plucked my eyebrows beyond her limits and said I went too far. I think my eyebrows looked good, but I backed off the plucking. Overall, I select the landscape for myself, and I enjoy that my wife stays very smooth too. I gotta go now, its been 4 hours since I last weedwacked the forest.

[LICutie]

i like the posts with the idea of an individual's rights for grooming or removing their body hair how they wish, and agree especially with Alice B's "me, myself, and I" post... but also if one's SO is respectful about what they like, it would be good to do for them that. sure!

great replies on how hair is where we don't wish it to be and not where we wish it was for various reasons; reminds me of body-fat distribution...

all the more reason to work with what we got the best we can.

hugs,
Lil

[LICutie]

Ah the body hair conundrum... I always kept smooth as I used to engage in MMA style fighting and body hair is a major hindrance...

Hugs

Isha

Hi Isha.

First of all, i love the word conundrum; i like how it sounds and what it means. imo, it's like a Zen koan. it also reminds of kumquat another interesting sounding word.

anyway i was curious, how was the hair a hindrance with the MMA-style fighting because i notice many fighters do seem to be without body hair?

was it more for sanitary reasons?

hugs,
Lil

[Krististeph]

Who is in charge?

My freaking testosterone, or androgen, or whichever one it is... Too much. :-( I spend about 5 times as much shaving my legs as my wife does.

[Marcelle]

Hi Isha . . . i was curious, how was the hair a hindrance with the MMA-style fighting ... ? Lil

Hi LIC,

When grappling, it is quite common to find a hold that can offset your opponent. Having body hair ripped out of my chest (either by accident or on purpose) was not pleasant. Happened once and from that point forward, shaved. As well, smoother skin is more slick especially once you begin sweating and body hair can cause drag so smooth helps you slip (literally) out of certain holds :)

Hugs

Isha

[Launa]

Isha, I find its still a bit of hard argument to say because your doing some jujitsu to get rid of every stitch of hair you have. Some of the guys cut their hair with clippers a little bit and others I have met flatly refuse to do it. If you go professional then I see it a lot more common with the fighters but remember those guys are ripped and shredded so it looks different than the average girl. :) Even Forrest Griffin had all his hair.....

[Jules Spirit]

To me, how one keeps their body hair is a personal thing. It has to do with personal choice and comfort. If you choose to keep your body hair a certain way for your SO, that is still a choice. But someone else dictating how you should keep your body hair seems like an infringement on individual choice, regardless of "societal norms." I never really considered my SO's attitude toward my body hair until reading many posts here ( on this thread and many others). Now I feel blessed that my spouse really does not care what I choose to do. He has supported every hair length I've had, including shaving my head, and every color, and any choice I've made about the rest of my body hair. Overall, to me, this is a personal choice, end of story.

[Marcelle]

Isha, I find its still a bit of hard argument to say because your doing some jujitsu to get rid of every stitch of hair you have. Some of the guys cut their hair with clippers a little bit and others I have met flatly refuse to do it. If you go professional then I see it a lot more common with the fighters but remember those guys are ripped and shredded so it looks different than the average girl. :) Even Forrest Griffin had all his hair.....

I fought semi professional for years and it was personal choice. Some guys kept their body hair others not so much. I still cringe thinking about the match where my opponent came away with a chuck full of my chest hair.

Hugs

Isha

[~Joanne~]

My point is, shouldn't how anyone keeps their hair be their own choice?

Yes. I have never told my SO how to wear her hair, to shave or not, or what to wear or not to wear so I expect the same respect. It's her body, her choices as is my body, my choice.

[wanda66]

Shave , wax my body needs to be smooth.

[Launa]

I fought semi professional for years


The key words here are SEMI PRO, you can get away with it if that's the case. Other than that I think its a harder sell....Just like going into a woman's clothing store and saying, I'm looking around for a Halloween costume.

I say I just do it because I like it and keep it simple.

[Daryl]

There's three people in charge. Me, myself, and I. I shave whenever it needs to be done.

[Jason+]

I am motivated by what is deemed attractive in our society, like everyone else, right? How many of us are willing to go out and look like something that society deems to be ugly?

So maybe a better analogy would be if my SO wanted me to wear my hair in a way that IS socially acceptable for women, but opposite of the way I wear it now, which is a pixie cut. And the answer is yes, I would definitely consider it, in fact I did have my hair cut quite short for a large part of my adult life.

Society for me burned it's input out long before I found my first pair of panties. The key part for me of what has been posted is deciding to wear your hair or any other attribute in a way because you want to make your SO happy whether society likes it or not. Making the choice to follow a style for someone else is worlds different than acquiescing to a demand like "You are not allowed to cut your hair any shorter than it is now."




My point is, shouldn't how anyone keeps their hair be their own choice? If you don't care, and do it to make some else happy, obviously that is different. But to be told how one has to keep their body hair, wow, I personally would revolt pretty quickly from that. What say you?

That's not the way our marriage works. We don't do the ultimatums or you will nots.



Out of respect to her, I still do not shave even with her passing.
Rader

One of my wife's few markers is the arm hair. She wants it left alone so it stays. It wasn't a demand and ultimately it was up to me.

[MaryAnn40c]

Thinking you should get back into swimming and the problem would go away.

[karynspanties]

My body, my decision. Nobody elses.

[karyn2000]

I've lasered my back and arms...so happy. My legs and chest are underway right now, along with arm pits. Im using NO NO on the face. I hate body hair so it under an assault by my friend the laser.

[BLUE ORCHID]

Hi Nadine, My Eppilator is in complete control.

[sara lahna]

the only thing i got from my SO about shaving my legs was to ether keep them shaved or grow them back out due to her not liking the stubble. Now i just need to learn to do it with out all the razor bumps.

[Christina Sevilla]

Iv'e been shaving my legs, arm and underarms since my twenties. Now i have been epilating and also recently bought a Me Smooth IPL. Looks like it's working since my hair now grows thinner and sparser.

[Christina Page]

My wife doesn't mind if I shave my legs or wax my back. But she told me that she likes to run her fingers through my chest hair. So no low-cut dresses for me :(

[Tinkerbell-GG]

Everyone here DOES care what society thinks or you wouldn't be removing your body hair. You remove it because society has randomly decided women shouldn't have any. We do have it, I might add, in varying levels, and we usually only remove it because that's what everyone else does. I doubt little girls even notice their body hair until someone tells them to get rid of it!

[Wildaboutheels]

Humans worldwide are slowly but surely losing MOST of their body hair... simply because we no longer need it. And there are numerous Nationalities that [for whatever reason] have very little body hair. Most women shave their legs because smooth legs will score them more points than hairy legs. Very few women will shave their arms... because smooth arms won't score them any points and therefor are a waste of time and energy... she could be spending on Makeup or other point producing efforts.

Most CDers w/o question are obviously obsessed about body hair and believe the rest of Society is equally concerned and/or notices.

Just another Forum Myth.

[Majella St Gerard]

My wife likes my body hair, I don't. I've been shaving my head for years, since I started going bald, NO comb-over for me. Then I started to cross dress, the legs were first, not much hair there anyway. I always hated my back hair so she will shave that for me. I shave my arms too. She has asked me to not shave my chest because she really likes it, so I leave it there, besides I don't like the way I look completely shaved, I look like a big baby. Plus I don't try to pass as a woman, I present as a man in a dress so it's not such a big deal. My body my rules, just like hers, I don't tell her how to do her hair or what clothes to wear. I do check all outfits with her though, because of her fashion style is much better than mine. AND I wasn't aware that bald men are stared at in public, now a bald man in a dress I can see that. I 'd rather go out bald than wearing a BAD WIG, like some people.

[ClaraKay]

Who is in charge of my body hair? Well, I try to be, but my DHT has other ideas. :Angry3:

[Eryn]

...I once had a good friend tell his wife in front of me that she was not allowed to cut her hair shorter than it was at that time. She said "okay." I was shocked by this....

This an easy edict to live with if she liked having it that length, and I'm sure that if, later on, she wanted it shorter she would feel perfectly justified in cutting it short. Women see this as their prerogative and it is!

I think that a lot of SOs who are new to CDing see body grooming as a "symptom" and, if they are having trouble with accepting the situation, a way to "nip it in the bud." They are wrong, of course, but that seems to be a fairly common path.

Everybody has the right to groom themselves as they wish. However, in a well-developed relationship it is a good idea to communicate one's plans to alter grooming so that the change won't come as a shock or betrayal. You need not ask permission, but giving some notice is polite.

[sexycindy]

When I first started properly I wore high denier black tights to hide leg hair, long cardigans and jumpers to hide arm hair and always made sure my chest was covered.

My gf basically said to me to try shaving and see what I looked like and how I felt, so did my torso first and after a month kept it shaved then she helped me do the rest of my body. Now I just shave all the time, expect for when it comes to the summer holiday as we spend a week with my folks and they don't know about Cindy.

[rian]

Dear Nadine ...the problem with shaving our bodies ..it become a real joy to keep it shaved .because of the feeling we have when we put on the bra , or wear pantyhose or even shave the lower part and having the lovely G-strings feeling all day long ...and as usual my wife ask me to keep the hair because she likes it very much ....yet to me I became in love with hairless body ...So this became a dilemma to both ...sometimes I grow the hair but most of the times ..I shave ...no matter what is the result .....

[Christy Diane]

I am in charge of my body hair, but I also have a responsibility to my wife and children to thank about the effect of my CDing on them. I live n a small town in southern Ga where men with shaved legs is an oddity. I wish it was not so, but it is. I shaved my legs, chest , stomach, and under arms over thanksgiving(first time), but I let my wife know that I would let it all grow back before spring. She smiled at me, gave me a hug and a kiss and told me she loved me.
I'm lucky to have her, and I'm willing to sacrifice my ability to wear skirts or dresses during the summer for her and my children.

[Jannis]

I have been naturally hairy in all the male places. As I grew older,I started to get back hair, ears etc. my doctor put me on Avodart for a BPH problem and spiro to help control my high BP. After a couple of years, I have zero body hair. All areas are hairless, except my head, face and pubic region. This is just a side effect of the meds, but one that I am very happy with.

[Taylor Ray]

I just recently started shaving my arms the past few months. Before that I would do it every once in a while, but now I feel the need to get rid of all visible hair. Many of my female friends complain about shaving my chest and sideburns, but at this point in my life I am like "oh well!"

[Ellaxo]

Because I live at home, I would worry about what my mom would think about me shaving my body hair. I have secretly been doing it during winter, because I'd wear some sort of sweats/pants around the house. Now that it's getting hot I decided to take a risk and wear shorts exposing my shaved legs. She hasn't mentioned anything about it, which I found weird because she would be the first to mention it and ask why I was doing it. I'm glad she hasn't said anything, I'm gonna keep doing my thing.