What type of male are you... Alpha... passive... or somewhere in between?

[MzVanessa]

I have started to wonder if the fact that I naturally am not an Alpha male makes it more natural to become a cross dresse and I can easily assume the girly girl feminine role. If I had to rate myself from 1 to 10 with 10 being a total alpha... I would give myself a 4... While I'm not a complete pushover... I am definitely not a take charge kind of guy and I do have an attraction to that kind of man. What about you other ladies? Do you feel the same or is dressing up an escape from your Alpha ways?

[AlanaG]

Yup I'm right there with you.

[Annaliese]

1 to 10 I am about a 8

[Rachael Leigh]

I think Im a 5 I enjoy my manhood but in many ways I do sit in the background. Now my true maleness does come out in my love for sports, football, baseball and golf mostly.
My girly side is very much on display at the mall lol and in really liking chick flicks

[ShelbyDawn]

While I am fairly conflict averse, I am not in any way a push-over and I frequently step up and take charge when needed. Probably a 7 on your alpha scale. There is also real no difference in my personality when I dress from when I do not.

[Kate Simmons]

Personally, I don't believe in such ratings based on supposed evolutionary development. We are higher beings to begin with , so our individual evolutions don't necessarily follow animal patterns. The ultimate being that you don't need to be a follower or a leader, just your own person.:)

[secretcd1]

Without hesitation I'd say a 10 which is why my urge to dress sometimes just makes no sense at all to me.

[Michelle V]

I range between 3 and 5, most of the time life is easier when you are not so Alpha. At home if I want my way I step it up to a 5 but most of the time I live at 3.

[Nadine Spirit]

From what I hear, those around me think I am pretty high on that scale. I don't think I am, but then again I do take charge in most projects and situations. I can't stand sitting around and waiting for others to get their stuff together. But then again with sports things, I am possibly the lowest rating on that scale.

So what exactly makes an alpha male with humans?

[Alice B]

I'm an Aries. Apply any number fits.

[MzVanessa]

Thanks for the reply Nadine. Interestingly... I'm probably the opposite. When it comes to sports I think I naturally probably bump up to an 8. At work... Because I tend to work in a tradionally masculine field... I tend to act...big emphasis on act... Like a 6 or 7. If just left alone in a natural state I'm truely believe I am a 4. When end femme... I probably tend to act more like a 2 or 3. Wow... I'm a wreck... Lol

[RADER]

I am an Aries also, and when U was working in construction, I was an Alpha Male.
Now I am just what I am, an old retired CDers.
Rader

[Beverley Sims]

Me?
I think I am an E-mail. :)

Everyone tells me I was a "good Saturday night wasted".

[Laura912]

What Kate said...

[Dana3]

In male mode? 1 to 10 scale? Probably am 8 to 10. Retired US Marine Gunnery Sergeant.

Cross dressing isn't a counter to that IMHO? Just an rxptession of the duality of myself and the person I am ~ that is me.

[Teresa]

I'm Aries, are we special ? I'm tagging along with Rader on this one after thirty years of being self employed someone else can take the lead and prove they've got what it takes, been there and got the drab Tshirt now I'm happy with a pink Tshirt besides who wants to rush about in heels !

[Katey888]

What in the name of anything that is holy is a 'total alpha' anyway...?? Oh - hang on - Jason Bourne, right... :)

Vanessa - I'd agree that for me it has elements of escapism, FWIW...

If someone can come up with some loopy scale in hexadecimal let me know, then I can be one BADA55 GA1 :D

Katey x

[laura.lapinski]

I think I'm a 7. If nobody is doing a good job leading, I will step up and get it done right. I tend to be an introvert, but I will speak out. Sexually, I think I am more submissive, or I'd like to experience that. Maybe that is because it is in contrast to the way I normally am (a get it done type of person) in every day life.

Women don't usually like the guy to be a submissive in bed, so I haven't been.

[Stephanie Julianna]

On a scale of 1-10 I guess I'm a five either way, in male or female mode. I work with women so I would not survive long if I was a 10 Alpha.

[Tina G]

Aries here as well so jumping on this bandwagon.. I've been the person in charge enough already. someone else can take lead and i'll be support.. 4 or 5 nowadays

[Tina_gm]

My alpha rating is all over the map. Even as a guy, I am so varied. I am pathetic when it comes to any type of DIY, I can barely hammer a nail. I don't actually mind doing this stuff, I am just pathetic at it no matter how hard I try to do it. I do seem to excel at more traditionally female oriented tasks. And I am by nature very talkative, with a lot of effort put into emotional issues of myself and others. I am very sympathetic and empathetic..... but then....


Get me behind the wheel, especially a sports car and see what happens.... I love most sports, fishing, target practice.... I am also fiercely competitive. I am a graceful loser, but it can eat me up inside. When it comes to family issues and raising kids, I am a very typical father. I am not one to show emotions outwardly, but my brain works from an emotional standpoint moreso than most guys do. I am naturally quick to make decisions. I am not one who seeks out to take control, but if the situation warrants it, I have no problem doing so. My rating is basically from 2-8 lol

[Donnagirl]

Definately a 10.... Weird, I did not think there would be so many who rated themselves that high.

[Adriana Moretti]

I am FAAARRR from Alpha....i am lucky I am a 2 on your scale...I hear what you are saying too...I think THIS is the person I am supposed to be anyway ( a bit of both)..

[Allisa]

I'm an Omega just walk all over me. If you want I'll sell you some beach front property in Arizona.

-10 Lisa

[JennyLynn]

I would say I'm alpha male ...oh 6 but when femme, I'm a total 9 omega? Sweetest girl you would meet!

[marny]

Depends on the day. Some days a ten, other days I have to rule, 1. Right now I want to be a 10, I'm in Las vegas. brought the shoes and the make-up. Forgot a dress!!!Doh!!... Cute though. The Daughter that is here with us is getting very used to my boobs... and she asked me last night,' are your toes painted?' I said only for the last 12 years. lol

[Trinity Sue]

I am an 8 in male mode , I like to see things get done. I like to be part of the action.. Can not sit and watch a race at a track unless it is from the pits.
In girl mode I am submissive to a point . We all are different which makes it that much better. Be who you are comfortable with . :) uhmmm 2

[mechamoose]

I swing around pretty freely between 7 and 2 depending on the circumstances.

[Dana3]

Just to add?

I'm an Aries as well.

Today's my B'Day!

Or I should say the 36th anniversary of my 21st B'Day!

[devida]

I don't identify as male but most alpha males I encounter defer to me. I do mean motorcycle, Special Forces, athletes and other high testosterone prototypical alpha males. Don't know why.

[JenniferYager]

I'd go with a seven in male mode, maybe a 4 in female mode.

[jayme357]

Army Ranger, Harley guy, combat veteran. Definitely a 10 - until someone shows me a new mascara.

[mechamoose]

I have to admit to a certain bias here.

Big ol' gruff biker with an attitude? I could care less.

Big ol' gruff biker with an attitude and rainbow jewelry in his ear? "Well helloooooo!!"


What's a man now? What's a man mean? Is he rough and rugged? Is he cultural and clean?

- Joe Jackson "Where the real men are"

For me, the difference between the two is 'threat'. Am I in danger if I let him know that I think he is hot?


Army Ranger, Harley guy, combat veteran. Definitely a 10 - until someone shows me a new mascara.

I know I shouldn't quote the previous post, but your answer is SO sweet! :)

<3

- MM

[Donnagirl]

Army Ranger, Harley guy, combat veteran. Definitely a 10 - until someone shows me a new mascara.

Brilliant!!! Brought a smile to my face.

[mechamoose]

Don't know why.

Intensity and confidence, sweetie.

<3

- MM

[Michelle789]

I am probably a 2. I have been physically, verbally, mentally, and emotionally abused by lots of men and a few women. I think I'm getting a bit more assertive in recent years, but not by far. I more likely try to get my way by running around people than through them, because I'm terrible at confrontations.

[sandra-leigh]

Scales? I use them to weigh my chocolate.

I learned young that if people don't want to cooperate with me, that I can move on and entertain myself. I mostly can't be bothered telling other people what to do; easier to do it myself. I despise mindless authority, and I have a deserved reputation for disobeying stupid rules.

15-ish years ago, my SO and I realized that a person wandering around the bookstore we were in was a former Canadian Prime Minister. We both "Oh, Wow!"'d and left him alone. But for me it wasn't really because he was former head of the pack: it was because he was one of the few national-level politicians that I truly respected. If it had been the next leader of the same political party, I would have "harumph!"'d and avoided lest I be tempted to give them a piece of my mind. (And if the current leader of that party came knocking on my door as part of campaigning, I'd probably launch into a "How dare you!" tirade.)



If someone can come up with some loopy scale in hexadecimal let me know, then I can be one BADA55 GA1 :D


You'd need at least base 17 to get to 'G' :p

[docrobbysherry]

I must agree with Kate. I've never been Alpha or Beta. If there was a, "Self absorbed jerk given 2 choices always takes door #3", sliding scale? I'd fit quite well on that chart!


Personally, I don't believe in such ratings based on supposed evolutionary development. We are higher beings to begin with , so our individual evolutions don't necessarily follow animal patterns. The ultimate being that you don't need to be a follower or a leader, just your own person.:)

[AKKaren]

:battingeyelashes:Hmmmm....4? maybe 5...I am not too assertive at all

[Amanda M]

Depends on the circumstances! Overall, about 5. Out with two guy friends yesterday, and they started talking about cars. Waitress who was passing said "Are you OK? You loof sort of dazed!" I was. Cars, for goodness sake.

[trisha kobichenko]

I am definitely 8-10 alpha in male mode. When 'en femme' I definitely feel more passive, more like a 3. Go figure.
Trish

[Tracii G]

Never really thought about where on the scale I am.
Don't think I can assign a number of any kind.

[sanderlay]

These are some characteristics of an alpha...

An alpha is a defender, persistent, strong, courageous, entertaining, storyteller, laugh at themselves, humble, educated, chooses their words carefully, charts their own course, hard worker, not a worrier, doesn’t pick a fight, has style, knows who they are, respects people, doesn't try to please everyone, has values, generous, leads by example, learns from failures, passionate about what they do.

Now I see these traits in both men and women to varying degrees. So saying only Alpha male sounds more like a stereo type in my opinion.

[trisha kobichenko]

Definitely agree with Sanderlay that alpha is not just a male prerogrative. I know plenty of alpha females, I'm just not one of them. :)

[sandra-leigh]

Hmmm... in Debbie/Steve's list I miss out on "storyteller" and "not a worrier", and sometimes "knows who they are". "Entertaining" is subjective :o

It seems to me that the combination of "defender" and "insufficient resources to ensure defense" would tend to create "worry". For example if I know that someone is driving through a "white-out" (snow storm in which visibility can be a matter of a small number of feet), then a very common "defender" mode would be to worry about their safety.

[noeleena]

Hi,

male only in facial looks ...maybe.

all else is female apart form no womb ,
im a strong woman and do take charge in many details of life, because of my experience and asked to. and i can get stroppy at times,

And what Sanderlay has said so is not just a male perogitive, And im very passionate in much of what i do,

...noeleena...

[Katey888]

You'd need at least base 17 to get to 'G' :p

Took someone 8 hours to spot that... not too many geeks around - Sandra wins the chocolate Easter Bunny! :yahoo:

Katey x

[Marcelle]

What in the name of anything that is holy is a 'total alpha' anyway ...

In hierarchical social animals (humans being one such group), alphas usually gain preferential access to food and other desirable items or activities, though the extent of this social effect varies widely by species. Male and/or female alphas may gain preferential access to sex or mates, and in some species only alphas or an alpha pair is permitted to reproduce (e.g., wolves). Alphas may achieve their status by means of superior physical prowess and/or through social efforts and building alliances within the group.

So being an Alpha is not always about doing manly things although we tend to equate that the term Alpha male (e.g., Jason Bourne Bad A%% types). Alphas can gain the field by alliances, social ease, influence and of course just plain old Bad A%% behavior :devil:

For me . . . I am about an 8 (boy or girl). I prefer to influence my existence vice allow others to do so for me. :)

Hugs

Isha

[BLUE ORCHID]

Hi Vanessa, I'm a guy some where between Alpha & Average that's all guy but loves to dress as a lady.

[Jenniferathome]

I am probably a 9 but I asked my wife and she said I am an 11 on your 10 point scale. I'm a hard core jock, competing in several sports today. I do every thing that one would call manly and none that one would call otherwise, with the exception being cross dressing. A rather large exception, I must add but only my wife knows. I do not think there is any correlation in "manliness" and cross dressing. It's genetic, just like being a musician. Anyone can learn to play music but you can not teach someone to be a musician. THAT is inside you.

[Katey888]

You're our resident 'total alpha' then, Jenny... ;)

[Jenniferathome]

You know Katey, I think cross dressing is like a -4 on the scale so I still have work to do...;-)

[Cheryl T]

8 or 9 for me depending on the situation.
Has no effect on me otherwise...just work.

[LilSissyStevie]

I don't think I fit on this continuum. I can't lead and I won't follow. I'm a loner and a rebel (http://youtu.be/mKLizztikRk). Most likely a schizoid personality type (http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Schizoid_personality_disorder).

[RayanneA]

If we fit neatly into society's boxes we wouldn't be participating on this site.

[gennee]

I would rate myself a 5. Not the most aggressive person in the world but will stand up for myself when I have to.


:)

[sandra-leigh]

Took someone 8 hours to spot that... not too many geeks around - Sandra wins the chocolate Easter Bunny! :yahoo:


It didn't take me nearly that long to spot it: it took me that long to get around to replying. "Will geek for food" and it was time to fill up on the food. :p

[CassieD]

I'm all over the scale. I prefer a quiet life but can do a fair impression of alpha if the situation requires it. My hearts never really in it though, I just know how to push man buttons to make them behave. Girls are a still a complete mystery to me, I find them hard work. Hobby wise I like big, fast, dangerous things and musical theatre...

[mechamoose]

>Bicameral mode ON<

I'm a big dude who isn't afraid to swish his hips and be girly.

I studied Kung Fu under a Chinese street kid from Chicago (!!) for more than a decade.

I'm a Momma bear who will claw the CRAP out of anyone who even looks sideways at my cubs.

I'm a man in a skirt. Do you have a problem with me? Then *you* have a problem, with *me*.

Do you have something to say about that?

------------------

My wife gives me flowers and I *squee*

She says I'm pretty!

I'm the cook, I'm the decorator. I help her with her outfits.

I kiss it better. I provide the shoulder.

>Bicameral mode OFF<



How do I assign a number to that?

<3

- MultifacetedMooose

[MssHyde]

I'm about the same however I'm dressed. however maybe I'm more aggressive for a woman or somewhat a passive guy. to sum it up I'm more bold as a guy..more aware as a female.

[Tinkerbell-GG]

I do not think there is any correlation in "manliness" and cross dressing.

I completely agree with this. I'm the epitome of femininity in the physical sense, something I'm born with so hardly my choice, and I've been told I'm also very feminine in other ways (though what this means I have no idea) yet if you asked me to place myself on this scale I'd say a 10!

If you're passive that's your personality type and has nothing to do with presenting like a girl. In fact, I should probably be insulted but I know you all mean well :)

[Jenny Gurl]

I am a 1 to 10, as the situation requires. I am perfectly happy to follow someone else who takes the lead and just back them up, and I am perfectly content to lead if it needs to happen. I prefer to avoid conflict or arguments, but if it is important enough I can take it as far as it needs to go. I have diffused numerous situations from escalating by simply not being the alpha male stereotype and simply letting things slide, and I have confronted and shut down a knife wielding attacker who threatened my family. I do not believe being a more submissive person in general makes you more likely to have a feminine side, there seems to be no common denominator.

[Tina L.]

i would say in my early years i was a 10+ extreme, but after i turned 40 the number is declining to around a 5 as of now. an old friend thinks i have turned to a total sub...

[sometimes_miss]

Until about 26, I was pretty quiet and introverted. Then something snapped; I realized that I was getting nowhere like that, and would have to change my ways. I carefully watched the guys who got all the girls, who got promoted, and put two and two together, and got eight; there was so much more going on than I had previously thought. So just as I had learned how to behave as a normal guy, I learned how to behave as an alpha male. Sure, it's all an act. But Ronald Reagen acted himself all the way to the presidency, and I don't think anyone could deny that he was perhaps the most 'presidential' of all the men in that office since TV became such an important tool in campaigning. So if he could do that, I could certainly learn to display the slightly over the top masculine behavior necessary to get the respect, and sometimes fear, that I needed to make life just a bit easier.

[Diane Edwards]

An interesting question and I have to mirror what some of the others have said: it depends on the situation. At work, and particularly at a customer's worksite, I can be a 10 when dealing with work crews. Otherwise I am right around a 5. But in female mode, I can be an 8 or 9 (Alpha female), for the same reasons. (As I have written before, there have been some jobs I did and was en femme for the duration, hence the need to be an Alpha female.)

[JamieTG]

Probably only a 3. I've always been more of a sissy boy; submissive and timid. Tried to act the macho role for awhile but it never felt comfortable.

[Claire Cook]

Dunno, somewhere between 1 and 10. I do know that after I do a really alpha male thing, I hate myself in the morning. [Hey girl ... a little makeup will cure that.... :battingeyelashes:] but there is something to be said for an assertive woman.