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Inna
04-17-2014, 01:03 PM
another post had made me think of the label becoming ingrained in the psyche, as they often do.

For my self, such drastic moment happened 4 years ago!

Nearly 40 years before, when I eventually deciphered that the term used at the time would define who I was and at the same time would had broken my spirit and sense of purity I associated with being who I made everyone think of me.

Such dreadful word was Transvestite, still, to this day resonates dreadfulness, disease, perversion!

Then another layer of the onion had fallen and uncovered yet another dreaded word, Transsexual. It literally took me 20 years to be able to perceive even the slightest of possibility of such term describing "I''

When I let go and for the first time allowed transsexual being pointed at me, I felt sense of cleansing, but nevertheless, it was very tried and uncomfortable, as I truly, underneath all the scholastic wealth of definition, felt as though I simply was a woman.

Hanging onto the term transsexual gave me a Permission to venture into the realm of discovery, into reality which for decades seemed otherworldly.
It helped to intensify my spiritual seeking of self, and gave hope to the possibilities of bringing the dream into reality of present.

But after all that was and all which built me, I wasn't a transsexual after all, but was given such term for me to understand of the path awaiting my resolve.
It was useful, but now, just as a plane ticket to the flight already flown, it is useless.

I have arrived in the city of my new reality, I love it here, and even though I just arrived, I feel home here. I have tossed this ticket away, I am here, the woman who traveled the path, who still shall walk towards truth, yet who know that the only defining qualities I will accept are those I carry in my heart!

kimdl93
04-17-2014, 02:54 PM
I am glad you've reached the point where you can identify yourself as a woman. How you got to this point is an experience unique to you, but with enough common elements to be meaningful for many of us.

Persephone
04-17-2014, 02:58 PM
Great post, Inna! Quite a journey!

Hugs,
Persephone.

Jorja
04-17-2014, 06:30 PM
You know they just passed a law that says you have to take the journey back in 150 years, right? ;)

Rianna Humble
04-18-2014, 12:26 AM
after all that was and all which built me, I wasn't a transsexual after all

Yes you are a woman, no-one should dispute that, but to say that you were never transsexual is a distortion of truth that I cannot accept.

Inna
04-18-2014, 08:30 PM
Rianna, I do not think you understand the context of what was said?