My wife knows!

[Farrah]

Guess what?....Farrah is back!!... My wife knows! She accepted it. I am so happy. I don't have to hide anything anymore. We had a loooong talk and she just wanted to understand more about me. I told her how much that meant to me. I still don't think she reeeallly understands how grateful I am for her understanding. So guess what?!!...TIME TO GO SHOPPING!!!

[GenieGirl]

Congrats Farrah!

[Tina G]

Huge congrats.. just from your post i can tell how good you feel right now.

[Eryn]

That is great news Farrah!

Now, take a deep breath, sweep away some of that pink fog, and think of the situation logically.

Your wife knows and since she loves you she is doing her best to accept the situation. That doesn't mean that she is as thrilled about it internally as you are.

Take it slow and make sure that she is comfortable with each step before you take it. Make sure that she gets some value from your being TG. Your outings (shopping, etc.) should be as much for her benefit as they are for yours.

Do that, and you will find that your relationship will be better than it was before! :)

[Farrah]

THanks for the advice, Eryn. I'm taking it slow. She told me I can start to dress as early as next week. However, I told her that it was too soon. I have to get used to the fact that she knows. I told her, I've dealt with this for over 30 years, but she just began to deal with a few hours ago. I told her that I wanted to take it slow and I will let her know when I'm ready. Yeeessss, I'm very excited. It felt good perusing Lane Bryant, Avenue, Cato, and Catherine's freely!

[Marcelle]

Hi Farrah,

That is great news sweetie. BTW ... Welcome back.

Hugs

Isha

[BLUE ORCHID]

Hi Farrah, Eryn's advice is probably the best you will ever get.

The ball is in her court now , Don't overwhelm your wife with Farrah.

[Giselle(Oshawa)]

fantastic Farrah give your wife a big hug from me and the other gals here

[Melissa in SE Tn]

Farrah , I am so I I credibly happy for you!!! What a relief you must be feeling. Freedom to be Farrah , with the support of & in the company of your wife, is a blessing of the highest degree. Try not to fall off of the cloud that you're walking on . If you can , please update us as to your wife's progress with Farrah . Again , I am very happy for both of you. Peace, mel

[Claire Cook]

Farrah,

This is a BIG step for the two of you. My experience is just like what Eryn and Blue Orchid have said -- take it slow (even 'tho that may be tough!) and let her get used to things. As I've posted before, it's taken years for Sue and me to to get where we are. Always keep her feelings in mind -- and don't forget to give her flowers now and then!

[kimdl93]

It seems you've gotten off to a good new start. Keep talking with your wife, and make an effort to take each step at her pace.

[Beverley Sims]

Farrah,
Good for you, but, slowly and surely, you do not want to overwhelm your wife now that she knows.
She will still be slow in accepting it all.

[Kevyn53]

Congrats! It was such a relief when my wife supported me. My biggest problem was that I thought for YEARS that she wouldn't. We both missed out on lots of girl time.

[Farrah]

Thank you all for your kind words. You all have helped me for a number of years, directly as well as indirectly. So many years I've dealt with this on my own and no one to talk to about it. It was very hard. Now that she knows, it feels that a great weight has been lifted. As you've advised, I'm taking it slow. I'm letting her digest this on her own. I loved and respected her before, but now words cannot explain my feelings for her. I hope and pray that we can grow closer each day we're together. Once again, I just want to say thank you!

[SandraV]

Wow, congrats. Just make sure you take things slow and keep that communication open.

[Rabecca]

Ya it's nice to have every body on board.

[S. Lisa Smith]

The advise above is great and exactly correct. Don't forget to always tell her you love her and appreciate her acceptance!!