Am a B-word, or just upholding justice?

[5150 Girl]

So I'm in Kroger today and this dude jumps the line in front of 3 people. There was an elderly gentleman, me and an elderly woman behind me. So when the a register opened at the exit end, he jumped in. This was at the service desk, and they had someone working at the entrance and exit end of a roped off aria. So, the elderly man got his turn, and then I went. Line jumper was still there as I completed my business, and as I passed, I said, "you know you jumped the line, right"? And he was all, "I've been here", and I was like no, the line starts over there. (I kept walking the whole time BTW) and then he was all rude with "are you a man or a woman" but I was about out of range at this point, so I let it go...
On the one hand I feel as if I was not the "brand ambassador" for the community, but on the other had, I just felt something needed to be said.
I wonder though, if in the car, his friend may have said something to him about me being right, as they had the car windows down and were arguing. I heard him yelling OK,OK, OK!!! to his friend.

[Marcelle]

I think you handled it fine, you said your piece and did not sink to his name calling level.

Hugs

Isha

[ReineD]

I think it was immature of him to comment on your appearance as a justification for his rudeness. But then, so is jumping in front of everyone.

[Joanne f]

:heehee: I must admit that is one thing that does wind me up when someone jumps the queue and I will tell them , usually "excuse me but there is a queue here in a slightly aggressive voice :devil:

[cdinmd206]

Rude people have gotten away with it for too long. It is time for people to stand up and say You are being rude. You don't have to yell at the top of your lungs just a little louder voice than normal. A simple "Excuse me, but you are being terribly rude"is all it takes. I have never done in while dressed but when in drab I will lay it on the line. Shocks the crap out of them when an old fat bald guy call them out. Never hurts to also smile real nice and say " I don't mind going back to jail cause I beat you up" That really gets their attention

[Eryn]

"I'm sorry but the line starts over there and these people are already waiting."

I think that any advice that suggests, even in jest, that one should use violence is very bad. Someone who is jumping the line already has an aggressive attitude and challenging them might escalate the situation to actual violence.

[Tracii G]

I generally say something to the person and usually get the oh I'm sorry line.

[Katey888]

I just don't know what you're describing... we always queue in a completely orderly manner over here, the right order, the right amount of personal space... :D

You did the normal, average person thing - pointed out to someone they were being less than polite and not community-minded... nothing wrong with that.. :cheer:

Katey x

[Eryn]

I just don't know what you're describing... we always queue in a completely orderly manner over here...

Funny, this hilarious article must not be from a UK paper: :lol:

http://www.theguardian.com/lifeandstyle/2010/aug/28/change-your-life-politeness-enforcement

[Stacy Cruz]

You showed mercy on his poor ignorant soul.

[kimdl93]

I just don't know what you're describing... we always queue in a completely orderly manner over here, the right order, the right amount of personal space... :D

Katey x

According to Arthur Dent, you Brits really do know how to queue!

[Beverley Sims]

Nothing wrong about commenting to Queue Jumpers and their shortcomings.

To Kim,
Yep the Brits remind you vociferously if you jump the queue over there.

They tell you to take the far queue. :)

Maybe I misunderstood what they meant!

[sanderlay]

I've seen it when the person is making an honest mistake and did not realize where the end of the line was. When I say something these persons are usually very apologetic and just want to do what's right.

But then there's the person you described who's just being rude by their actions. They usually have a frown on their face and their energy just feels wrong. I refuse to be dragged down to their level and spoil my peace. I just let them go and believe life's Karma (http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Karma) will balance out this wrong in it's own time. :)

[Lillyasia]

I think that any advice that suggests, even in jest, that one should use violence is very bad. Someone who is jumping the line already has an aggressive attitude and challenging them might escalate the situation to actual violence.

Dressed or not, should you not call someone out for doing wrong? I'll bet big man would not have cut the line to a UFC competition. He sized everyone up seeing what he perceived as two elderly people and a woman and he got real brave. If you stand up to these types, they become used toilet paper. A real lowlife; in a hurry to go nowhere important. Don't think women are weak either. You never know who you are messing with. Maybe we should immitate that part of femminity? No one wants to use violence, but we must be prepared to respone with controlled violence when needed.

Last year I was underdressed with bra and forms. I pulled in to a parking lot and saw a guy with a van looking for people to pitch something to. So I parked farther down the row to avoid him. I got out and here he comes. I told him I was not interested. He was stunned because I beat him to the pitch, then he got annoyed and the cursing began. Then the tough talk began and the threat to kick my ass. I gave thought to the embarassment of having to fight with the breasts and all, but training and reasoning outweighed that thought. Just like big man in the op's post, this guy was a pussycat. I went in and got security to deal with him.

[Vickie_CDTV]

You have to pick and choose your battles in life. Pointing out his rudeness was sufficient. There are plenty of people in this day and age with no self control, no empathy, no guilt... and are nuts to boot. You never know when someone is going to pull out a knife or other weapon and turn things ugly because someone challenged his manhood or whatever.

[Krisi]

I agree wwith Vickie. It is a waste of your time and sometimes a risk to your safety to try to control other people's behavior unless you have the authority to do so (police, etc.).

[sometimes_miss]

"I'm sorry but the line starts over there and these people are already waiting."

I think that any advice that suggests, even in jest, that one should use violence is very bad. Someone who is jumping the line already has an aggressive attitude and challenging them might escalate the situation to actual violence.

This. You never know who you are challenging. Impatience is it's own curse, those people are usually miserable throughout the day, always being unhappy with their situation in life. That is their punishment.

[DonnaT]

Avoiding violence is the best option, when it is an option.

One day in the mall there was a special event happening in one of the stores, and a number of ladies had lined up early to enter once the store opened. My wife noticed some guy pacing and getting himself positioned closer to the door, trying to time the opening.

I eased over to the door, and when it was opened, the ladies in line went behind me while I stood unmoving in front of the guy, with my hands in my pockets, until he grabbed me to try and move me. I just picked him up and deposited him on his butt. Security showed, and escorted him out of the mall and I got a round of applause.

[Kate Simmons]

It's obvious to me you were the bigger person 51. Good for you. :)

[Cheryl T]

Surprising he had the nerve in public.
Around here people only do that from the comfort and protection of their cars as they are too afraid of being confronted.


I think a well placed stiletto heel on the instep would have been warranted, followed of course by a heartfelt "I'm so sorry".