GG friends?

[JenniferYager]

Has anyone come out as a crossdresser to a GG that wasn't their spouse and suddenly made a girlfriend for life? If so what's your story?

[Tina G]

Well so far my coming out as a crossdresser to all my life long and recent (past 5 years) friends has gone very well. Two of them their wives have been very supportive and contacted me asking if they could help me out with anything since they know i'm going thru a fun divorce and rebuilding my wardrobe from the ground up. I know not everyone has such a positive story but I am very thankful for the friends i have and feel a lot of weight off myself now from Hiding everything the past 30+ years.

Almost feel silly inside for not telling them sooner because of the support i'm getting..

[AllieSF]

I haven't really come out in the sense of saying "You know me as a male, but I also like being a female once in awhile." My electrologist knows and has gone out with me as Allie and occasionally my CD friends to plays, dinner and ballets. Through her I have met some of her GG friends in both modes, normally female first through one of those activities mentioned above. Since then I have gone out to events with them as a group several times. It is fun and as far as I can tell they accept me, not just tolerate me.

When out dressed I have met many women, their husbands or boyfriends, and their girl friends. Some are quick and short acquaintances and others have blossomed to become activity partners to join up with to go to different events. Can any become lifelong friends? I hope some do because they are really nice. Even if no chance for the long term, they sure make this short term more enjoyable.

[kimdl93]

I have come out to several GG friends. Coming out didn't make us friends....that was already firmly established. Coming out was simply the act, for me, of being true to myself and wanting my friends to know the whole me.in all three cases our friendships have endured, and I think deepened.

It has also changed, in some respects the practical dynamics of our friendships. Now when I meet them for lunch or dinner, I go as a woman. And I find we relate to each other much more like two women would. I love it and wouldn't go back to the old way for anything less than $1 million!

[lostcrow]

After finding this forum and reading a lot of the posts I've been thinking about coming out to one of my GG friends. I already know that show loves drag queens but I'm not sure how she would react to me being one of them. I know it would definitely throw her for a serious loop.

[Tracii G]

Welcome lostcrow a drag queen is a flamboyant female impersonator/ entertainer usually wearing over the top make up etc. Are you one of those?
Hi from just east of you on I 64 pleased to meet you BTW.:).
I have a few GG friends that know all about me and they are very accepting.We go shopping,sometimes out to dinner or just hang out together.
We have our moments where its girl talk about hair or clothes but mostly just friend type discussions.

[Princess29]

I had one but kind of screwed it up. Not sure where things stand with her but she was extremely supportive and accepting. In fact when I asked her if she thought of me as a male friend or a girlfriend, she said "androgynous" which I know was meant as a compliment but it kind of (for want of a better term) wounded my male ego to a small degree. Now she is overcompensating if she sends me messages on facebook starting them off in ways like "buddy" or "dude".

[Marcelle]

Hi Jennifer,

I have come out to several GG friends and work colleagues. We have been friends for some time and after coming out that never changed. It is funny because now I get invited to girl's nights at various houses, shopping trips and other gal group activities (still have not taken them up on the offer to go to clubs though).

What is even funnier is that I am friends with several of their husbands (who also know) so I also get invited to several boy's nights at the same location. One time it was a mix of boy/girl groups at one of my GG friend's house. I was going to go with my wife (me "en boy") but my wife came down with the flu. So I phoned my friend and asked if she would mind if Isha attended. So I spent the night flittering between the two groups and with the exception of one uncomfortable gentleman (I did not know him) all went well. My guy friends joked when I was leaving "do we shake hands or do we hug you?" It was all in good fun.

Hugs

Isha

[carhill2mn]

Yes, I have. At the time, this woman owned a thrift store. I bought a few things from while en femme. One day I went there as my male self and introduced myself to her. She was not totally surprised as she had been very active with "T" people for several years.

She encouraged me to join a local group. She gave me advice as to how to present myself in a feminine way. Eventually our friendship grew to be very important to both of us. We have dinner, lunch, drinks, go to movies and plays, etc.. I have met some of her family and many of her friends in a wide variety of situations. She considers me to be one of her women friends and treats me as one. This friendship is approaching twenty years!

[Jodi]

There a couple of dozen gg,s out there that know about the femme side of me. Those that I consider friends were friends before they knew about me. The others found out about me through my shopping or at the salon where I get my nails done.

I have been out on dates with some of them (as a guy). I have socialized with some of them as Jodi--going out to dinner, concerts, shopping. GG's can be so much fun to be with when I'm dressed.

Jodi

[Beverley Sims]

No I had three girlfriends dress me and then made me go "out" with them. :)

Boy did I resist that for a moment. :)

[sanderlay]

Other than family members I have many friends of both sexes. Some of these are GG women who know who I am and why I do it. A few of them are close friends and are sounding boards for me when I need an honest opinion or have an issue.

[Nadine Spirit]

I came out to one of my GG friends after we had been friends for quite some time. The reveal, to both her and her husband went very well and I think cemented our friendship for life. My openness and honesty changed their relationship a lot as it caused her husband to reveal to her that he is actually bisexual and has been for most of his life. That is something he always felt weird for and didn't want to tell his wife. But my honesty inspired him and ended up bringing the two of them more closely together. It was beautiful.

[Adriana Moretti]

most of my girl/friends know what I do....its great, makeup shopping, tips....etc...

[natcrys]

Like a lot of replies here.. most of my GG friends were already good friends for a long time. And after I came out to them.. they all remained good friends.

And yes.. after that.. we do go on shopping trips.. we do go out for drinks.. and they do think of me when they're cleaning out their wardrobes (sometimes very pretty dresses! :D )

[Diane Edwards]

My GG friend Jo was the first I came out to, and that was back when we were in our early teens. It was she who helped me, taught me what I needed to know in order to pass. You might say that she was my 'mother', teaching her 'daughter' what she needed to know to become the woman I so wanted to be.

Most of my other GG friends have known only Diane and never have known 'Dave' or that he exists. I have no plans to tell them that I have not always been the Diane they know.

[Mz Jenna J.]

I have come out recently to 2 of my best GG friends I have known for over 20 years. They are very accepting and are excited about helping me be the best I can be. Both as a cd and as a friend! I couldnt be happier! Maybe I'm lucky? Dont know...but am sooo glad I came out to them.:)

[Sometimes Steffi]

Isha

That was very brave of you. I have to admit that Steffi and my boyself are highly compartmentalized.

Only a handful of people have seen both sides of me, and that's the way I like it, at least now.

[Jenni Yumiko]

Funny, an ex who's been a lifelong friend said she already knew when I came out to her. Absolutely no change in our relationship.
Another one "wants jenni" despite me being married, not happening, so that strained our relationship more so.
Third, said it had no bearing, and now I shop, mani,pedi with her and do girl type things.
Fourth said she kinda had a feeling, and also had no affect on our relationship.

[Nikki A.]

I have a couple of female friends, a co-worker, her MIL and family and my friend who owns a consignment store. My friend and I go shopping for her store as Nikki and my coworker and her MIL have been out together a few times.

[Sarah V]

I am single, so I really do not have any folks to tell unless I want to. I would luv to find/have a GG friend to have and share "girls talk/activities" with" on a regular basis. I do have a married female acquaintance I met on a web dance forum who moved down here who knows about Sarah (her husband is TG also) but they have since moved back up North. I am on fairly good friends terms with a few of the regular adult ladies in my ballet classes but they only know me as a guy, and I don't have any plans to share anything about Sarah with them anytime soon. If I were particularly especially close to one of them, then I believe I would like to do that, but I am so far friends equally with all of them. The only other GG who knows of Sarah is the young esthetician lady who has been waxing me for years now. We have become good friends over time now in the client/hair-dresser sort of way. She has told me she wants to see pic's of Sarah. I just went to a TG gathering in Houston last week, so I am planning to show her some pic's of me from that. Hopefully she will approve of them....I think she will.

[Ann Thomas]

Well, I no longer identify as a CD - I'm full time, on hormones, go by my female name, out at work, out virtually everywhere except to certain family members I don't live anywhere near and rarely see. I'm also not the least bit passable!

What I have found is that I pretty much don't have many male friends any more. I mostly have women for friends. Two things I noticed:

1) Women assume you are gay when they see a guy in women's clothes, so for the most part, if they are the least bit open to it being acceptable, they pretty much 'drop their guard'. By that I mean when there's no guys around, they are far more relaxed and willing to be much more open about themselves and their feelings. I find it amazingly refreshing.

2) The women that have become close friends tend to look out for me. They give me little tips now and then about anything female, and that's very helpful. But the biggest help is for using the bathroom! They will ask if I need to go and escort me in with them to make sure the other women are comfortable (by letting them see how comfortable they are with me). A women's restroom is like a sacred inner sanctum that women go to escape the testosterone laden world, and in general it's lots more peaceful in there, and women seem so much more relaxed. Men fail to see how much stress they put on women by staring at them, and by the comments they make. Women know it and sense it, even if they claim to not care. When away from men, they seem so much more at peace.

I have many stories I could tell now, but those two points above are in common with all of them.

So, I must say I do see a huge difference in the way GG's act around me, and I love it!

Ann

[KaceyR]

Hmm. Thought I replied to the thread earlier.
(Or maybe that's when I dozed off and the ipad fell to the floor :))

Technically, I'm a bit limited on how many GG friends I have. They all know except for one that's a bit rare to meet, one other (lesbian ex coworker) and another coworker. Due to workplace scheme, I'm unsure on telling the coworker and she and the ex coworker talk frequently so I've stalled on her as well.
Otherwise all know, but they're also all married.
So not really anything happening like any girls nights outs.. Bar trips, or any of that. The one did invite me to the women's expo discussed in other threads and we ended up going to that 2x (fri,Sunday). But there's not a lot of real going out to do much. All have their families, and their things to do.

I have found it neat how it is to talk to other GGs and carry on conversations while out and dressed compared to my usual extra quiet guy side. Whether that's due to them being more open/interested in talking or just me escaping from my male hang ups as Kacey and participating more I dunno.

All that sounds neat Ann. Especially the 'help' offered to you. Right now with my limited and unique time (from night shift work sched) I don't see a GG friend group 'expansion' happening anytime soon either. So I'll just continue doing my thing solo.