So this whole admirer thing...

[JenniferYager]

How many girls here have admirers, and if so what sort of relationship do you have with them?

[mechamoose]

Flirty boys are flirty.

I saw all kinds of that at my last TG event.

[Rogina B]

Mine worship the ground that I stand on! Then they buy me anything my heart desires! And to pay them back for doing so, I ....

[ambigendrous]

I have an admirer - she's my wonderful wife, and I love her more than life itself! As reported elsewhere, i just bought myself a nice dress for my birthday and was wearing it when she came home from her weekly bingo game. When she came through the front door she excitedly told me about winning $125 and then smiled and said "That's a pretty dress - you look good!"

[Kate Simmons]

Why not get your own and find out? :)

[Marcelle]

Hi Jennifer,

I am with ambigendrous on this one . . . my wife is my sole admirer and our relationship is one of love and friendship.

Hugs

Isha

[mechamoose]

my wife is my sole admirer and our relationship is one of love and friendship.

What you have with her is precious, but I strongly doubt that she is your only admirer.

- MM

[Karren H]

I have a few.... mainly on FaceBook.... But one locally. I have had lunch with a few times... he's nice and we have a few things professionally in common.... They weren't dates....... just lunch..

[Sally24]

A have a few online and in real time. If they stay polite we have nice conversations but that's all.

[Audrey34]

I have a few admirers on another site. Some are very flirty (which I'm still trying to get used to) but they've all been polite and treated me like a lady.
-Audrey

[~Joanne~]

I have none that I know of and would like to keep it that way.

[Launa]

I have had a few of them try and talk to me but I keep the conversations neutral. Once they start trying to get friendly I let them know in a hurry that I don't need any kind of companionship.

[Alice Torn]

I have one, now, but he is 4 or 5 hours away south of me. He is a pretty honest, decent man, form the photo, and emailing we have done. I send him lots of videos and pics of Alice, and he loves them, especially my silky long legs! We have an agreement, that some things i will not take part in. If i can ever afford the gasoline, we are going to meet downstate.

[Lorileah]

I admire Karren... sorry....that didn't sound right

Admirers are sort of like eating lobster. The first little bit is good and then you feel like you are going to throw up. All I can recommend is be in control of yourself. Admirers are not usually as nice as they start out. First they don't want to be with you except for certain things. they can't be seen in public with you, they promise to buy you things but realize they usually have a joint checking account. Which brings up the next point, whatchoogonnado wneh his wife finds out?

All in all I would rather have a puppy

[Beverley Sims]

I had an admirer once, to shake him I had to disappear off the face of the earth.

[PaulaQ]

My encounters with admirers have been awful. Creepy, frightening, emotionally damaging. The best date I've ever had with a man, by far, was with a guy who had no car, money, and the emotional capacity of an artichoke. He was only animated when he discussed his celiac disease. We didn't sleep together, and by the end I was glad of it. I went out alone for pie after I dropped him off at home.

He didn't threaten me, molest me, creep on me, nor did I get angry texts from his wife. So as awful if a date as he was, 'gluten boy' was a step up from my other experiences.

I'm done with men - nothing I've experienced so far is anything I'd care to repeat.

[natcrys]

Plenty of them.. through Flickr, Facebook, Reddit and YouTube. I could probably compile a whole book with all their lines and promises and stuff.

- They all promise that they are looking for something long-term.

- They all say that they're going to spoil me and make me feel like a woman (whatever that means :p )

- They all want to dress me up.. asking me for an Amazon wish list.

- They all want to send me money through PayPal or GoFundMe so that I appear on the webcam.

Seriously.. what are they thinking?

[Lynn Marie]

Actually I'm an admirer! I have a ton of CD girlfriends here in the Northwest. We visit at clubs, in each other's homes, in local restaurants, club meetings, and conferences. We're all admirers of the very best kind. If you're a close friend I have no qualms taking you out for a special date for your birthday, etc. It's so much fun, I can be your perfect gentleman or the classy older lady on your arm! Welcome to the new world.

[JennyLynn]

Not sure. I have those who friend me and never here much from. Those who want to be friends, but no pics. Those who message me and vanish.. geesh.. who is to know. I would like a pic and conversation. Just an honest "are we a match as friends" situation.

[jayme357]

Guess I'm lucky. I have an "admirer" who has been my friend for years. He is a gentleman, polite, and yes, even grateful. He keeps asking to take me out although I am not yet comfortable going that far. He treats me with respect and makes me feel like I am valued and cared for.

Can that really be bad?

[Rogina B]

Like some of the other girls have said or alluded to..For me an admirer should be looking at the whole of you,and have admiration for your multi faceted abilities. When you are out to friends,some will become "admirers" and they can be male or female.

[Alice Torn]

Caution should always be taken, in dealing with a stranger, who wants to meet you. I have had some negative experiences with admirers i almost met. I am very cautious and selective now.

[Farrah]

I have one, and she lives with me!..;)

[Alice Torn]

I have to admirers, and they also live with me...2 cats!

[docrobbysherry]

At the club events I go to there r always quite a few "admirers". These r men that dress and look like men. I've had a few dance with me and try to hang around. They aren't a problem for me there.

However, there is a T girl that I've come know pretty well from seeing at various meetings within our local group of T's. She hits on me pretty hard sometimes. But, I've never heard of T's referred to as "admirers" before. So this may not what u mean?

[Eryn]

If you consider the motive of an "admirer" it's plain that one would have to be gay or bi to accommodate their needs. If you aren't, it will quickly turn into a very unsatisfying situation for you both.

I'm glad that I'm pretty much free of that since I don't frequent the club scene or social media.

[JennyLynn]

I think you are lucky and thoughtful.

[Felicia Dee]

I don't -- not that I'm aware of. The idea of them kinda creep me out a bit. Maybe that notion will change at some point when I finally get my talk show! :daydreaming:

[Traceyjo]

I have a few male admirers and enjoy their attention. There is one who is very special to me and we have had a close loving relationship over the internet for 4 years. It will never be anything more because we are both married with faimilies and don't want to change that but there is a deep passion between us. I really value his admiration and love as it makes me feel like a truly desirable woman. Each time I dress I send him photos of my session and he replies with genuinely felt compliments and expressions of his desire to make love to me. He has added so much to my transgender experience , enabling me to experience the love of a man as a real woman would.

[RobynC]

I guess I had an admirer once. I was at a club and at the bar. 3 guys were at the other end of the bar and one kept looking at me when I looked up. I continued enjoying my drink when he came over and stood behind me. I didn't turn around to talk to him I was waiting for him to say something to me. After about 5 mins. I took my drink out to the outside patio, he didn't follow me out there. Was I wrong not to say something to him first? I was just there enjoying my drink, I think if he was interested, he could have sat next to me, or asked if the stool was taken?

[mariehart]

I learned how men work through my experiences with 'admirers'. A couple of times I might have felt better if they'd paid me when they were leaving. At least them I would have got something out of it.:sad:

They're full of chat beforehand and never call afterwards. Typical men:Angry3:

One though was very nice, we had dinner at his place and he was a gentleman and I was really attracted to him. He even called again.

He was of course married!:doh:

A lot of my experiences seem to parallel that of GGs.

Yes admirers; go in with your eyes open.

[Tracii G]

A few here locally I have been out with and they know where they stand as far as sex goes(ain't going to happen LOL).
They are nice guys just lonely.
Online I have a bunch on various sites.

[Ressie]

Only admirers I've had were on chat sites. Some are very smooth talkers and the flattery can be seductive. Actually meeting any of them is very improbable, but not impossible.

[typhoidmary]

I've had a few strangers add me on facebook purely because they like my looks, I tend to get likes for my photos on facebook from the same few people but I rarely interact with any of them. Weirdly though I met my ex, who was the longest and most important relationship I've had, in this way. Kind of wish something that unexpected and crazy would happen again, it's been quite a while, hah.

[5150 Girl]

Yea, an old friend, who had been carrying a torch for me ever since I did Elvira for Halloween one year. For a while I just thought there was some harmless horseplay between us, then I recently broke out my Elvira outfit for his birthday, and he got overly handsie, and even tried to kiss me, and that's when I realized what was really on his mind. I'm gonna keep a distance for a while.

[Jean Marie]

I guess, I may have a unique prospective on this issue. I am Jean Marie, long time CD, now TG on HRT. I am far from full time so I have a guy side life too. David has been ery fortunate to have 0ver the years several wonderful relationships with gender gifted ladies. It has not been all about sex. I think my own feminine side has given me much more insight and sensitivity then the average guy. I recently lost a 2.5 years wonderful relationship with a beautiful lady. Yhere was no probems between us, but her home situation put too much pressure on her. mI loved her with all my heart, more then anyne ever in my life. I feel I will always love her. I am now casually dating others but vowing to not give my heart away again. So I feel I am not typical.

[Gypsy Sam]

The topic here is most interesting and varied in replies. Startled once when asked by a subject of my interest why I chose to be an admirer. Realizing I fit the description,the acknowledgement to myself that I was more than just enthralled by the pretty female form was a learning experience. Traceyjo's commentary in this thread would be a experience I could live with from both sides of the coin. Just haven't discovered someone to have a close loving relationship over the internet that doesn't disturb a marriage and family. To receive photos and savor the passion between us is exhilarating and subject to ponder. Creative imagination is a wonderful thing.

[Laura28]

Only one for me and i call her my wife. Dont know of any others.

[samantha rogers]

Well, here is my 2 cents on this....and that is about the extent of it. I have only been out a handful of times, so not counting other gurls, I have only encountered one gentleman, so far. To be fair, I have a bisexual nature with a preference for GGs, but this is essentially hypothetical, since I have been exclusive to my wife alone for many years. However, given the right situation I dont have a problem dancing with a man or chatting with one (as long as he is nice, and somewhat attractive) But I dont have an internet presence other than here and one other site, have no online "admirers", and can speak only hypothetically, since when I go home it is to my wife (as long as she will have me...tee hee).
That said, I have yet to be in a situation where I needed to be rude to anyone. I expect that could still happen as I am out more, but I doubt it.

[laciewhite]

i never go out dressed so never meet admirers for real, but i have had many online admirers, both men and cd. have had many offers for dates but always turn them down. i like showing off on webcams though. left many an admirer satisfied with a big stupid grin on his face..

[BLUE ORCHID]

Hi Jen, The only admirer that I have is the lady in the mirror.

[natalie edwards]

As far as I know I don't have any. Not sure how it would feel.

[Andy66]

I admire all you ladies. Youre all beautiful to me. :love:

[GenieGirl]

Ive had a few in person and online via video chats and flickr. Have had a few from admirer group owners on flickr to compliment me....never would have known their were such groups on flickr before but heck there are cd/tg groups afterall so why wouldnt there be. I appreciate the compliments but as a girl who prefers other women...I stick to women only :)

Ginger

[Alice Torn]

I have only met three. and had a second meeting with one. I am open to meeting a true gentleman, who will respect my limits, but such men seen rare. I have had probably a dozen or more near meetings, leaving the guys angry. They kept pushing the envelope of my stated boundries, and i get feeling scared, and not respected at the last minute, and cancel out. They most all want one thing, and it aint apple pie.

[GenieGirl]

Sorry Alice...but i feel like most of them just want a piece of A++....and not to know the other girl on the other side...sorry.

I'm not looking for anything from men period, I'm a lady's girl :)

[laciewhite]

I have a few male admirers and enjoy their attention. There is one who is very special to me and we have had a close loving relationship over the internet for 4 years. It will never be anything more because we are both married with faimilies and don't want to change that but there is a deep passion between us. I really value his admiration and love as it makes me feel like a truly desirable woman. Each time I dress I send him photos of my session and he replies with genuinely felt compliments and expressions of his desire to make love to me. He has added so much to my transgender experience , enabling me to experience the love of a man as a real woman would.

yes i agree with this traceyjo! i have never had any direct sexual contact with a man (i am basically straight and married), but i do have bi-yearnings and sending photos and doing webcams for admirers gives me a real thrill. i always dress and act sexy, which doesn't seem to be encouraged in the 'serious' TG community (which is why i stopped posting pics of myself here) but men (and some other CDs i know) love it and i enjoy the attention and feeling of being desirable to others.

[Carrie R]

I've chatted with quite a few admirers online, but I'd never meet anyone in person.

[CarlaWestin]

I never encountered any 'admirers' until I posted the sexy maid profile picture here. That certainly has been a hit! I'm actually quite flattered and don't really know what to make of it.

But, really, don't stop.

[Judith96a]

All in all I would rather have a puppy

Much more sensible. Probably better behaved too!

[Seana Summer]

I have none that I know of and would like to keep it that way.

I second that.........

[ScarlettLox]

Aside from my wife, i dont have any, it might be because i dont really go out into public or post my pics anywere

[Donna June]

I have quite a few and it's fun flirting with them, but it's just online and no more.

[candykowal]

I am pretty use to having admirers, just part of being feminine, I suppose.:battingeyelashes:
Most of my admirers are on social media as I get several out of towners a month wanting to be-friend me.
If I do not know them, whether locally or from a forum, they are not friended by me.
So, if you want to be a friend, you have to state you know me from, CD.com, Chi Chapter, Transformations Message Board, Sisterhouse, etc....

I have met 2 social media friends while I was dress feminine and they were both absolute gentlemen and treated me as a lady.
I think they are mostly curious about the lifestyle and are making their own strides to join the CDing community.
I have several admirers who CD like me and we go shopping, to lunch-ins, and social functions put on by the local LGBT community.
Then, there's the real GG's, as I went to a Lesbian Lounge with a friend a while back...and they are "AWESOME" as I don't have that feedback from my wife who doesn't want to know about some things I do.
I have 2 "smoking buddies" GG friends who are just in awe of my looks and ask me a lot of questions about the lifestyle.:heehee:
They love being girlfriends with Candy and I am sure are very interested in being intimate with me while I am in feminine mode.
One girl has made advances in the womens washroom at a swanky lounge and it was all I could do to behave...I love my wife after all!
The true GG's are the most enjoyable admirers I know, there very special people and I sometimes wish I was single again.
Their incite and advice are truly a gift!:battingeyelashes:

[CrossJess]

Yes I have a few, men mostly and a few girly girls, with my job as a florist i see some nice folks, i do get my fair share of chat ups, i got a regular guy come in and the first time he came in he asked me to make a flower arrangement, the thing is he was cleverly asking me what was my fave flower lol i had no clue what he was doing yet i making something that i liked, when i made it he said " they are for you hot stuff as your always so happy and make me smile when i walk past and see you, your a bit of eye candy too and just what i need before i go to work" lol cant remember when i got quite so red and embarrassed, my staff were on the floor in fits lol but it was lovely that someone can be so kind, he always comes in every saturday to chat and see how am, hes got a gf now so he buys flowers for her, other than that i get general flirts and chat ups from customers but the guy that i just said about is the one i get the most attention from.

Oh and I used to belong to facebook but came off it as there was some pretty weird people on their either asking if I wanted sex with them and other general filth below the belt stuff, also got a flickr account that I have my followers on, only use it to show off my new clothes, have a lot of cds flowing me too and the younger girls seem to follow me because I wear a lot of pink and bits and bobs around my neck and wrists that would give "Clare's Accessories" a run for their money lol I think it appeals to the youngers girls that are in to that stuff so fair play :battingeyelashes:

[karinels]

I get together with a few admirers on occasion. They have all turned out to be decent guys, but from where I met them at there is the possibility of running into a bad apple sometime. Chance one takes. But I admit I have been lucky. Even though they all mostly want the same thing, most do take some time to chat and are sociable enough to not rush off.

[JulesAlton]

A few online but nothing else