Could use some positive thoughts / energy / praryers / etc.

[PaulaQ]

My partner, who's also in transition, is in the hospital now because of complications of diabetes. Her blood sugar hit >700. 100 is normal. It's a miracle she didn't go into a coma - I think she came close to it. She's doing better, but she needs surgery to deal with cellulitis she's developed from the extremely high blood sugar levels.

My fear is that the cellulitis may ultimately make it difficult or impossible for her to have SRS - just because of where and how it has affected her.

I'm really scared for her long term.

Obviously I'm concerned that she could decide it was OK to simply ignore her physical condition - she knew about this sometime ago, chose to ignore it, and did not inform me of it. (I'm not as concerned about not being informed as I am about her ignoring a very serious health condition, and ignoring the device of her physician.)

Anyway, positive thoughts appreciated - I'm really worried.

[Julie Denier]

We'll all keep you both in our thoughts and prayers ...

[kimdl93]

700 is incredibly high. The positives are that she's getting proper care for the moment and now your alert to the extent of her self neglect. This is not at all uncommon among diabetics. Living according to the dietary restrictions and medication routines is admittedly a pain. But the damage is cumulative. Neglect today exacts a real cost down the road. So, once she's out do what you can to encourage her compliance. She is not only risking her ability to pursue SRS, she's putting her life, limbs and vision in jeopardy.

[Lea]

Thoughts and prayers for both of you.

[Cheryl123]

I am so sorry to hear about your partner, Paula, and I will certainly hold both of you in my thoughts and prayers. My wife died from diabetis a few years back. It's a vicious and relentless killer. She worked in a hospital so she should have known better. Your partner needs to make a choice right now about whether she's going to live or die. Perhaps some tough love on your part will help her. She must control her diet or there's no hope. The cellulitis is caused by too much sugar in her blood. Control the sugar and you control the infections. SRS won't be possible unless she controls the diebetes. But the real issue is not the SRS but whether she will be able to live a long and healthy life. Please take care, both of you. .

[dreamer_2.0]

Sending good thoughts your way!

[Michelle789]

Pollyanna is sending good thoughts your way

[Leah Lynn]

I'll add a prayer, Paula. I'm much too aware of what unchecked diabetes can do; it took my wife of 38 years.

Hugs and prayers,

Leah

[MeganHenry]

Positive thoughts and prayers!

[PaulaQ]

Thanks everyone - surgery for her tomorrow. So worried that once they start cutting on a diabetic that it just never stops. :(

[princessheather86]

I am really sorry to hear that, Paula. :( I hope everything works out okay and will be thinking of you.

[Chickhe]

I hope it all works out. It is important to listen to the doctor and sometimes you need to remind the people you love to do so.

[MsVal]

The hits just keep on coming.

Oh, dear Paula; you're my poster child for preserving in the face of adversity, and here it comes again. I have no first or second experience with diabetes, but from what others have said, your partner is in great danger. This may be a good time to redirect some of your perseverance into helping/encouraging/even demanding that she get ahead of this risky behavior. Until then, you and she are in my prayers.

Best wishes
MsVal

[CarlaWestin]

Paula, my thoughts are with you and your beloved. My wife also deals with diabetes which means I have to deal with it. I feel your concern and hope for the best.

[Starling]

Diabetes is a bitch. Good luck to you both, Paula.

:) Lallie

[PaulaQ]

Thanks everyone. She got through surgery today OK. Hopefully they'll have an easier time getting her blood sugar under control now. I'm thinking she'll need insulin. The oral meds haven't worked so well thus far.

[Megan Thomas]

Paula, it is possible to recover from uncontrolled diabetes to a controlled state and SRS is quite possible eventually. Her BMI and weight will affect her chances of surgery as much as her blood glucose levels. I had uncontrolled (undiagnosed) diabetes for about 8 years before I got treatment. UK scales are different, but my blood glucose was off the scale and yet here I am 6 years later going through SRS. My blood glucose level is now "excellent" and if I wasn't already diabetic I'd not register as diabetic with my current level.

Don't give up hope but do reinforce good diabetic control. It's very hard to adjust to but it's achievable and so beneficial. Also, be aware many diabetic meds can cause weight gain so even more of a reason to control her diet.

Hope everything now turns a corner for you both and she can progress as desired.

[docrobbysherry]

Paula, I'm worried about your partner and u as well. R U prepared to take on a "mother hen" role? And, will your SO accept u in that role?

Sometimes things like this r symptoms of undiagnosed diseased thots rather than a particular medical condition!

[samantha rogers]

Paula -I just saw this thread...I am so sorry...best hopes, prayers and lots of love, honey.
Hugs

[Barbara Ella]

Paula, I am so very sorry for you both to have to go through this. I was diagnosed as diabetic about 10 years ago, and it was a sudden onset. Within a three day period my sugar levels elevated to 635. Totally normal up to that point. I must take insulin, but with exercise and diet, life is normal. There is hope for your partner. If she hadn't been ignoring it for too long, she can get through this, and with those levels, there is no way for her to ignore it, so I am hoping the 700 level was just the last reading.

Yes dear, you will have to become a mother hen as shots, diet, and exercise will be a necessity, and most likely be up to you to make sure she does them all as per doctor's orders.

You both are in my prayers dear.

Hugs,
Barbara

[PaulaQ]

I am happy to help her with this, I'm diabetic myself, and have had it under control since 2001. I have made it clear to her that:
1. She has to own this
2. Work with a therapist to figure out why suicide by neglect seemed like a swell idea.

These are not negotiable.

[Melissa18]

Hi paula,
My thoughts, prayers, praying that your partner will be alright,
All my best hon,
Hugs ,
Adelaide

[trisha kobichenko]

you and your partner are in my prayers

[Donna Joanne]

You both are in my prayers Paula. Never have had diabetes, but did develop deep tissue cellulitis in my lower right leg back in 2004. Was in MI driving OTR, 600 miles from home. Laying in a hospital bed listening to the physicians talking about the possibility of amputation scared me to death. Through HIS grace and some very high powered medication, both me and my leg survived, but it did put an end to my OTR career, and led me to seek weight loss surgery in 2008. My weight has dropped from 390 to 240, and need to lose another 40 but have to get off my lazy booty to make it happen.

So I know where you two are, and praying for your well being and her recovery. GOD bless you!

[Dana M]

Paula,
I hope you partner gets better. You hang in there. Things will work out. My thoughts are with you.

[Michelle M]

Paula,
I wish good health for both of you. You will be in my thoughts.
Michelle

[PaulaQ]

She gets out of the hospital today. I hope she'll take this seriously.

[Michelle789]

I'm happy to hear that she's going home today. I hope she feels better and starts taking better care of herself.