hypnosis

[Giselle(Oshawa)]

my compulsion to dress is reaching the point that I fear my marriage breaking up
and/or me taking my own life.
has anyone known of it one can be hypnotized to take away their compulsion to
crossdress?
any serious reply's would be welcome.

Love and Peace

Giselle Reeves

[Alice Torn]

It may help. It is sad, but all too often, we get pink fogged into troubles. I can understand .

[Katey888]

Giselle,

May be good for breaking objectionable habits or irrational fears, but I doubt that hypnosis will help anything as deep as what we seem to experience... If you're feeling that bad about things then a counsellor/ therapist would be a better place to start in my experience - and quickly!

I see you've said before you have a supportive spouse... Has something changed with you that you could or might want, to talk about...?

:hugs:

Katey x

[Beverley Sims]

For hypnosis to work in anything, it requires a compatible and accepting subject.
Dressing may have some strong compulsion against the idea to quit.
I would suggest at the stage you are in see a therapist and try to slow down your advances in dressing.

Everything in moderation will certainly help.
Do not get yourself so wound up that it becomes a bigger issue in your life.

[Alice Torn]

The trouble with therapists, and hypnotists, is many can't afford them, in this still depressed economy.

[sometimes_miss]

The only therapy that I've heard of that can stop the desire to crossdress, even for a while, is ECT, electro convulsive therapy, aka electric shock treatment. One guess is that it works by destroying memories that contribute to the desire to crossdress, or contribute to gender identity dysphoria. However, this type of treatment does not seem to be selective, and may be just randomly disturbing connections in our brains and so too the memories maintained by those connections. So you can wind up sort of a vegetable with limited thinking capacity, just to try to get rid of the gender identity thing that causes the desire to crossdress. And, eventually those connections in your brain can 'heal', and the original feelings return. Then you need more shock treatments.
The other option is to really examine everything that has happened to you in your life, and note at what age you started to have desires to crossdress and/or gender confusion. Then you MIGHT be able to find the triggering events that started it all. However, not everyone ever finds these things, so it may take many decades.
These opinions are my own, and your mileage may vary.
Good luck.

[BLUE ORCHID]

Hi Giselle, Crossdressing is like the Mafia, You just can't quit.

[Kate Simmons]

I've found for myself that the only real way to "beat" the desire to CD was to make it a conscious choice. Then I controlled the mental/emotional process. :)

[Alice Torn]

The church says to repent of it, and replace it, and seek spiritual power to overcome it, and other things. Part of me wants to stop it, and part of me does it out of a need to escape the grief of being a poor, unwanted aging bachelor, and loving certain looks and clothes that women get to wear, and the wanting to experience the kind of attention, and being desired as they experience, and the feelings dressed up. I am sure hypnosis will have marginal results. Marginal is my guess.

[Rachelakld]

Why not,
I mean for most the desire is initially sub conscious, and we "allow" it to gain more momentum as we get more comfortable in life and less concerned by other peoples responses.
You might be just caging the tiger, but if that's all you need to get through, then it's enough.
You might have to augment it with meditation, or maybe not, depends on you.

I went for 3 session to achieve my goals over 25 years ago, and haven't needed to go back since.
I also used the skill to "pass" a physical check for overseas combat roll (because I hated doing the usual run test, which I always failed - little legs), I didn't get the combat posting but according to the chart, I was the fittest person on the base that year.

[Tinkerbell-GG]

..Land/or me taking my own life.


This is very sad. I would suggest therapy like the others suggested to reach the bottom of all this, as I doubt hypnotherapy is a permanent fix. Maybe there are triggers to your dressing? Are there other stresses in your life/marriage right now?

My only other suggestion, though likely unpopular, would be to quit feeding the beast by reading this forum. No offence meant to anyone, but the reality is there's a lot of fantasy and encouragement here that is harmless if you're in a balanced place in your life. I know other wives who have also noticed this and it will not be helping you if you're trying to tame this beast. You need to avoid crossdressing forums if you want to crossdress less!

Take a break and see a therapist. Good luck x

[Marcelle]

Hi Giselle,

Hypnotherapy is kind of out there in the therapy world and has seen some success with quitting smoking and a few irrational fears. CDing is a bit more deep seated than these things so I doubt it would help much. My bigger concern is the "taking my own life" comment. Sweetie if things have gotten this bad then you really need to seek out professional help as we can only provide you advice not help for these kinds of pervasive thoughts. Regarding your marriage then perhaps you and your wife need to have a talk. I believe from other posts she knows about your CDing but I gather it is now getting a bit more "revved up"? If you talk together and can come to common ground with your dressing (what you can both live with and live without) this might help alleviate some of the stress.

Good luck and hugs

Isha

[Cheryl T]

If things have reached that stage then Why Not??
If you can afford to try it, then do so. Maybe it will work for you.

[Saikotsu]

Hypnosis can be a powerful tool, and in the hands of a professional hypnotherapist, you may see some good results. Like many have said, you sound like you need professional help at this point, so I'd see about scheduling an appointment with a psychiatrist of counselor sooner rather than later.

[shawnsheila]

I agree 100% with Isha,
You should really look for some help and not do anything rash. :( Does your wife know about your CDing? I mean, I think it is a better alternative to be separated from a spouse then to take your own life. That would have a terrible impact to your entire family and friends so please dont do that. I think they would rather have you as you are (woman in a mans body) then to have you do something that rash. Please go seek help or at the very least, find a CD support group close to you sweetie. Stay safe ok?


Hi Giselle,

Hypnotherapy is kind of out there in the therapy world and has seen some success with quitting smoking and a few irrational fears. CDing is a bit more deep seated than these things so I doubt it would help much. My bigger concern is the "taking my own life" comment. Sweetie if things have gotten this bad then you really need to seek out professional help as we can only provide you advice not help for these kinds of pervasive thoughts. Regarding your marriage then perhaps you and your wife need to have a talk. I believe from other posts she knows about your CDing but I gather it is now getting a bit more "revved up"? If you talk together and can come to common ground with your dressing (what you can both live with and live without) this might help alleviate some of the stress.

Good luck and hugs

Isha

[Giselle(Oshawa)]

thank you to all the girl who replied both in the forum and in private messages
my wife is still as supportive as any transperson could hope for , right now it
is more of an internal thing for me and I am doing so soul searching.
I promise my friends here I will not take my own life and am sorry for using
that term, as I am genuine in my post and so don't want to upset any sisters
here who have tried to help me. thanks again and God Bless

Giselle Reeved

[Tracii G]

I'm glad you discarded the idea of taking your own life over this issue.
Contact a GLSO/GLBT chapter in your area and see if they can refer you to a gender therapist that offers a free consultation.

[kimdl93]

I wouldn't put much stock in hypnosis. It's generally believed that it can't make a person do anything that person wouldn't do consciously.

I have a more reliable alternative to offer. Consult with a gender specialist and ask for help in managing compulsive behavior. Compulsive behavior can be treated. Cross dressing may not be. The therapists I have talked to would say that at best you need to learn to fit this need into your life as best you can. Get your partner involved too, so you can work it out together.

[Saikotsu]

I'm frankly surprised so many here put so little stock in it. Having researched and used it myself, I've found it can be very beneficial. That said, I don't want to downplay the importance of finding the right help and working through this with a gender specialist or similar professional, because honestly I think that's the right path for you. Who knows, they might even suggest hypnotherapy. Still, I'm relieved to hear that you're not contemplating suicide. No matter how bad things get, they can always get better.