CD'ers who go out dressed EnFemme while looking like a male

[sissystephanie]

How many M to F CD'ers go out in public dressed EnFemme, but looking like the male they really are? I have been doing it for years since my dear wife passed away. Among other things, she was a cosmetologist and did my make up and hair so I could be Stephanie. When she passed away I decided to dress EnFemme but not wear make up or a wig. I wear skirts or skorts, a feminine top, and feminine shoes. But I definitely look like the man that I really am. Even so, I get compliments on my outfits, and sometimes get asked where I bought a particular skirt or top. The thing is, most people don't pay attention to what you are wearing unless it is really eye catching! I don't wear clothes like that, and since I certainly don't look like Stephanie without makeup and a wig, I don't wear a dress out in public! I actually think it is kind of fun to go out like I do now. Skirts are fun to wear, especially when you have pretty lingerie under them! Which I always do!!

So how many of you do the same?

[Melissa73]

ok, i for one go out (late at night) and definitely dont pass! im basically a man in ladies clothes.... But i feel good about it, and dont need to change!

[Stephanie Voorhees]

If I went out dressed, this would apply. I don't pass, nor could I ever, so I don't bother trying to. I even have a beard. I just like the look and feel of women's clothes.

[heatherdress]

I do go out "Heather-lite" with female shoes or boots, female jeans, light make up (eyeliner), bra, some jewelry.

[JusRosCD49]

Stephanie,
I probably don't pass but would like to...

[weyburn]

my goodness Stephanie......Your story and mine are so similar and when I tell people why I do it,because I want to see the world a little bit like my late wife did people sometimes get tears in their eyes.I am certainly not passable but don't care as I just feel so good when I do it
I think you have an absolute brilliant post.Thank you

[Wildaboutheels]

JUST shorts and heels for 14 years now. And a shirt of course. Everywhere except work and a Funeral. [And anything within 4 inches of the knee ain't shorts...they're longs]

NEVER had anything remotely resembling a problem. Unless one wants to consider "educating" teenage girls an issue. [and it only happens when there are usually 3 or more in a group] SOMEone has to "educate" them or they will remain forever clueless.

I wear what I want and I treat people right and I'll bet you do exactly the same?

It's not complicated, really it's not.

I have worn a skirt a few times but it's strictly part of a Halloween "outfit". And dresses have zero appeal so have never had one on.

[docrobbysherry]

I don't pass when I'm out dressed as myself or Sherry. However, there's a marked difference in folk's reactions to her and me!

Me, they chuckle or openly laff. With Sherry? They quickly look away and they usually aren't laffing!

[UNDERDRESSER]

I am starting to go out in a skirt, but I wouldn't call it "en femme." I sometimes wear hosiery as well. I'm not into heels. Tops are sweaters or t-shirts, though I am interested in an Indian style tunic. I would like to get am Indian style tunic that is a bit longer, just below the knee, and pair that with some opaque stockings or thigh highs. You could call that a "man dress" I suppose. For me the difference is that I pick styles that aren't really exaggerating the "female figure" that I don't have. I do like to show off the legs. I would use a "modern" kilt, if they weren't so expensive, I don't really get why one can be considered a kilt, and thus male, whereas the other is a skirt, and supposedly reserved for women.

[Richelle]

Almost every day I am out what could be considered enfemme light. Women's paints/shorts and top with jewelry. I also have my nails done in bright designs but no make up or breast forms. I never experience a problem and often do get compliments from women in stores and restaurants.

Richelle

[sally38]

i go out dressed to the best look i can only to gay clubs

[mechamoose]

I go out in girl clothes every day, sometimes pants, sometimes skirts.. some makeup, painted nails on hands & feet, sandals (now that it is warm).

My furry arms & beard and my figure leave no doubt as to my chromosome set. I have not gotten any comments. Now, having said that, I have seen folks who *wanted* to say something, but held their tongue.

- MM

[Tracii G]

Been dressing that way for so long its normal now.
No problem from the public.

[suzanne]

Right on Steph! That's the way I do it. Skirt, top, sweater, heels, good to go. No wig, no makeup. I feel fantastic going out this way and have never gotten so much as a negative comment. Sometimes a woman might ask me where I got my shoes.

[Anita Luken]

I don't know why but lately I have been going out in girly top and jeans, bra, flats and light makeup without a wig. I feel so relaxed and comfortable doing it. Most people are still friendly and talkative and I don't think I have offended anyone by doing it. Sometimes I just feel so much better dressed this way but do not understand it at all.

[Katey888]

No... but I admire you for just following your muse... :)

I'm sure you don't mean to offend anyone - and if they are then it's their own problem to deal with the feelings! :hmph:

Isn't it the case that the muggles' reactions (or non-reactions) fall into the following set:
- It's just an old/elderly guy in women's clothes (with due deference to our senior age members :)) - no harm in that
- It's a young guy in girls clothes - a bit weird but typical of younger folk - "wouldn't have happened in our day.."
- It's a middle-aged guy with a beard and women's clothes - perhaps a bit jarring but he's built like a brick khazi so I'm saying nothing even if I thought I wanted to... ;)

And unless - as you rightly say Stephanie - you wear something that really attracts attention, a subtle approach is pretty much acceptable nowadays, particularly in most cosmopolitan places...

It's probably something like a Laura Ashley floral print dress that would really call attention...

Otherwise - enjoy your time out, partially femme... :D

Katey x

[Brenn]

Wore women's jeans, pantyhose and ballet flats to the mall, hardware store and a few other errands. I suppose that counts. Presented fully as a guy.

[StevieTV]

I regularly go out and dress to blend. My sister came over to go garage saling on the weekend. She mentioned for me to change as I was wearing yoga pants. So I did to a sweater and leggings.

[Jason+]

I wear what I want and I treat people right and I'll bet you do exactly the same?

It's not complicated, really it's not.

And for the most part that works out beautifully. I don't wear a wig but my own hair has grown out to shoulder length. The only makeup I wear is nail polish. My hope continues to be that people will remember politeness and consideration as much as the dress I was wearing.

[Maggie O'neal]

Everymorning on my morning walk with the dogs I am wearing panies,nylons,womens jeans , flats ,bra and blouse . No wig or make up. There is no passing for me as I too have a full beard !
I am glad to hear that others still keep their beards. No one has ever said anything other than normal conversation. Maybe over the summer I will try a skirt !

[jenacd]

I go out a lot dressed. I pass and do my own makeup I it took a long time to get that way. Just me !

[CrossJess]

Lol i just dress gay and more so now that summer is here, i wear girls daisy duke denim shorts for my bf as i like to look good for him and visa versa, shows off my girl butt and legs so he says lol but yea i normaly go both genders in how i dress im told i have girly features so i guess thats a good thing, a guy looking girly suits me acording to my bf hmmm ; )

[Tina_gm]

when presenting in more of feminine clothing and perhaps light make up or nail polish.... how is that still presenting fully as a guy or en drab?? I really am not judging or caring even, good for you who do what you want to do. But, doing so it not fully presenting male or en drab. It is mixed gender at best. I do not know why if so much as one thing is done that is not feminine denotes still presenting male, IMO, it's not.

[sissystephanie]

When I go out in public dressed enfemme I am not trying to pass. Without correctly applied makeup and a wig I would have no chance of passing. And I don't care, since I dress to please myself. On cooler days I may wear ladies pants, but most of the time I prefer to wear skirts. When I am out like that all of my apparel, from the skin out, is feminine! But other than my clothes I definitely look like a male! I am not sure how I am presenting, and don't really care!!

[Majella St Gerard]

I never wear a wig unless it's for a costume or for dressing in "drag queen mode". I appear as a man in a dress, if I tried to present or "pass" as a woman I would feel foolish, I can't be what I am not. I like the clothes and the feeling. IMHO I think its dishonest to pass yourself off as something you ain't, but I'm just a CD'er and not TG. I go out in public all the time dressed, and I am clearly a man in women's clothes, I wear light make up and have my nails painted, I carry myself with pride and confidence and no one has messed with me yet. I do get lots of compliments on my outfits and my great legs.

[jjjjohanne]

I have not tried to present female in perhaps 8 years. I only did it then so I could wear clothes. I don't feel like a girl. I just love to dress in nice things.

I don't go out a lot, but when I have most recently, I was normally wearing a skirt, hose, ladies shoes (often heels), and either a blouse or a mens polo shirt. Of course, I prefer to wear a blouse because the idea that it is all women's wear is (for some reason) important. But never do I wear makeup, wig, nor bra. Neither do I carry a purse. That means I need pockets. That is a difficult thing to find!

I present male and am just myself. I suppose people are surprised to see a guy in a skirt, but they sneak a look and otherwise try not to stare. Really, I don't think people always sneak a look. I have said this before here: People react to me similarly to how I react to people with significant tattoos. I look and try to soak it in, but then I treat them normal and lose interest in them.

Here is a picture from my most recent outing. I went swing dancing. 20 somethings will dance with a man in a skirt.

http://joeypress.files.wordpress.com/2014/04/dance3.jpg

Joey

[Paulacder]

I'm out every day in Paula lite or Adrogynous mode. Now that warm weather is here, thin strap tank top, shaved legs, ladies shorts, ladies sneekers, anklet is the dress of the day. And like we always say, NO ONE NOTICES..........

[Butterfly Bill]

I wear both a beard and dresses all the time. Like you, I sometimes get questions about where I got a garment. I find makeup uncomfortable, especially during Okalahoma summers.

[Barbie Anne]

Lately this is my M.O. as well. We just got back from a visit to my wife's dentist and my outfit was ladies levis, a nice silk top Ladies watch and jewelry including earrings and butterfly pendant......men's air jordan slides and pink ankle socks. Dress pretty much exactly the same to walmart or the grocery store. No makeup no wig but I have very long hair that styles well anyway. and I normally only wear makeup for a night out but there's no cd/tg friendly places in this small town.....To tell the truth my androgyne look is pushing the envelope quite a bit here but you know what "they" say about people that can't take a joke lol. Also I'm 6-3 180 and not the type to take being pushed around much. What helps me is my wife is always with me while I'm out and we're usually holding hands. Some people smile genuinely some people sneer. I accept the compliments gracefully and ignore the rest. Life's too short for hate :)

[Alice Torn]

Welcome back Kotter!!..UH... I mean Sissy S!! I have wondered what happened to you! I =t has been a coon's age since you 've been on here! I really wondered what happened to you. I will say to all of you, and Steph, you all got a whole lot more guts than i do! There are people who know me in these parts, that if they saw me in a skirt and top. and no wig or glasses, would report it around to others, and i would be in an embarrassing, nightmare. But, you all do what you do. I don't understand, but do it.

[susan54]

I used to go out more dressed as a guy in a skirt and women's top. Few people even react and those that do give positive feedback. Now go out less and usually as a woman - just because that is the way I do it now - no reason. Those who fear reactions should note that those of us who have done it report no problems.

[CDPheobe]

Well Stephany, I myself would not dare. Your braver than I. Lol

[sissystephanie]

If I lived in a small town I probably would not go out dressed enfemme as I do now. But I live in a fairly large city where few people know me. I have never let my close neighbors see me dressed, and don't intend to. And CDPheobe, if I lived in the LA area I would be out dressed every day. People there sure wouldn't care!

BTW, for those who have commented that they haven't heard from me in some time, the reason was because of my wife's death. Yes, it did happen some years ago, but it has really made a difference in my life. We were married almost 50 years, but had known each other for over 60 years. I will just say bluntly, when she died my life ended!!

[Jennifer S]

I have been mixing my wardrobe more and more. Many of my tops are ladies' and I'll often wear nondescript flats out