Can You Relate? Am I Transsexual?

[Tina_Someday]

I like to see if anybody has been in the same situation as me or if somebody can give me their opinion on this. I think I may be a Transsexual. This is all basiclly sexual in nature. I find myself looking at woman when I am out and thinking wow she is hot. I don't think I look at guys and think like this wow they are hot but I did notice the other day a guy who would be considered good looking walked past me and I remember looking at himbut not thinking to myself wow he is hot although I knew there was some reason I was looking at him. When I am alone and being sexual in private the thought of a woman does not do it for me. I also am think vaginas are kind of gross looking. Now in when I am alone being sexual I have to think of a man to get off. Now the thought of me as a guy and another guy having sex together does not really do it for me. I think that I am a woman doing this hot guy is when I really get turned on. I read in these forums somebody said that when they are making love to their wife that they like to think of themselves as a woman, and another person came along and said that their therapist told them that if when you are having sex and you are pretending in your head that you are the female 50 percent of the time that you should have that looked in to. So does anybody else feel this way? Is this Transsexualism? Thanks

[Ibuki_Warpetal]

I could be wrong but I don't think that's considered transexualism.

I think it's a flag saying that maybe you are on that road or have a high risk of becoming transexual or going through with gender reassigment surgery, but it is by no means anything other than confused feelings at this point.

What you need to do is sort out what kind of future you want, right now.

Are you just going to think about it forever (like me) and not worry about any dramatic life altering adjustments, or are you going to follow your gut that happens to only appear during those certain times?

Think about what your current physical being is worth to you and you should realize what you are.

[Rachel_740]

Tina,

What I read here is simply a slightly confused sexuality. As Gracie said, I would read this as you tending to being bi.

Rach

[Maria D]

Don't look to other people to decide 'what you are'. You are who you are, just 'be', whatever that is, and don't worry about what it is.

A quick example: A TS lady recently posted on another forum that her GIC was withdrawing treatment, as she didn't fit their profile of a TS. That is to say, she had short hair, wore jeans and wasn't 'feminine'.

Who the hell are they to decide what someone is? Who are we? Who DOES decide? That's right, you, and only you. If you are that way, fine, I won't judge or label you for that.

Um...

I appear to have ranted...

Sorry.

Take care

Maria
xxx

[joanlynn28]

I have similar feelings about my sexuality too. I fantasized about being penetrated vaginally while having sex with my now seperated wife. I shared these feelings with her after she found out that I was a crossdresser. The reasoning for crossdressing was that I told her I wanted to know how I would look as a woman. This did not go well with her, she is all upset now thinking that I want a sex change and she cannot deal with that. Deep inside I do want to go through with HRT and SRS. I have it all planned out in my head what I would do if my wife was not in the picture. Unfortunately I now have that chance to decide if this is what I want to do with my life from here on out. I have been to an inpatient treatment facility to try and figure this out. I need to go to a gender disorder specialist now to find the answers to all of these unanswered questions I have about myself. What I have found is that I am not alone.

[Gilded Graper]

I think the lable for you is m2b or m33, or just joking.

You can say your TG or just create a lable and definition that is you.
Don't let me force you into a m2? or Tx...

But it's pretty clear you are not TS, as of today.
I've known many who became post-op 2 years after comming out as
hetero male CD's.

[joanlynn28]

I can relate to some of these feelings. I saw on another posting last week about the imagining that I am a female while I am having sex with my wife. I do not believe this makes me a homosexual at all. To me it is myself wanting to experience everything that a woman does. I think about what it is like to bring a new life into this world. And what does it feel like to have a baby suckle off your breasts. These are things that a man can never do, I guess what I am is jealous of women for being able to do things that I cannot do.

[Gilded Graper]

I guess what I am is jealous of women
That reminds me of a 18yr classmate who often talked about how girls go wild when kissed on the neck and how boys didn't.
This was when we were alone in a safe place.
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He was sort of fixated on what foreplay and sex felt like to a girl.

I wonder if he's now a post op?

[deeasheville]

I could be wrong but I don't think that's considered transexualism.

I think it's a flag saying that maybe you are on that road or have a high risk of becoming transexual or going through with gender reassigment surgery, but it is by no means anything other than confused feelings at this point.

What you need to do is sort out what kind of future you want, right now.

Are you just going to think about it forever (like me) and not worry about any dramatic life altering adjustments, or are you going to follow your gut that happens to only appear during those certain times?

Think about what your current physical being is worth to you and you should realize what you are.

:angry: I don't like labels, because they are so easy to apply and so damned hard to get rid of. If they are wrong you could spend years trying to live up to them and cause tons of problems for yourself, or the person you give it to.

With that said, I could be wrong but fantasizeing about what sex would be like as the oposite could be transgenderism. This is all basiclly sexual in nature.

Looking at a woman and thinking wow she is hot, is normal male thinking.

A transvestite will look at the same woman and say "where did she get that dress and how can I get it to look that good on me" ?

A transexual would think how lucky they would be if only they could look so nice and be able to go and do anything without others thinking they're strange. This is basiclly not sexual in nature.

"When I am alone and being sexual in private the thought of a woman does not do it for me.I also am think vaginas are kind of gross looking."
You must ask yourself;Does that thing between my leggs repel me more ?

"Now in when I am alone being sexual I have to think of a man to get off. Now the thought of me as a guy and another guy having sex together does not really do it for me. I think that I am a woman doing this hot guy is when I really get turned on." Do you want to be a woman or just do what they can do ?
I read in these forums somebody said that when they are making love to their wife that they like to think of themselves as a woman, and another person came along and said that their therapist told them that if when you are having sex and you are pretending in your head that you are the female 50 percent of the time that you should have that looked in to. So does anybody else feel this way? Is this Transsexualism? Thanks
You have about a 50/50 chance here Transgender or Transexual.

What you need to do is sort out what kind of future you want, with a therapistright now.
The future can be a true hell if you let it pull you down, so don't let it.:thumbsup:

Good luck and loads of sweet dreams.;)