RachelCross
05-23-2014, 03:18 PM
Hello all,
Confession: I haven't been on the sight for a little while. I have to confess that I had a purge about a month ago and refused to get on the sight or do anything girly. My decision to purge came out of emotion, embarrassment mostly and I was the only one there!! I live out a little bit so walking around my backyard is something I can do without worry (unless a drone flies over or something like that. :) ) Anyway, I was wearing my heels and slipped and fell. Wig, clothes shoes all in disarray and it happened in front of my sliding glass door. I sat on the ground accessing the damage (worse thing was a giant scratch on my shoes!!) I looked up and saw my reflection and all I saw was a man in a dress looking foolish! All the BS society throws at us as men came back and I immediately purged, determined to forever be a manly man. I looked in the mirror and said goodbye to Rachel and that was it, as far as I was concerned. That lasted for about a week, then I saw a woman in an amazing outfit one day, a pair gorgeous heels the next and I had to face myself all over again. I struggle with my femininity because I am married with kids who have no clue that Rachel exists. If I were single I like to believe this would be easier to work through, but I have the expectations of three people I love dearly and would rather die than lose them. However, and dammit that however is always there, when I am only my male self I feel incomplete. On one hand I am lying to my family if I embrace Rachel, on the other I am lying to myself if I think I can live without her. I see that now. Rachel is a part of who I am. She's in my DNA. So, with a new stash I am embracing Rachel again.
Triumph (maybe too strong of a word but oh well):
I did learn a few things. 1. If the urge to purge comes again, store the stuff away for a year first, DON'T THROW IT ALL AWAY!! :) My rule with my drab clothes is, if I don't use it in a year, out it goes. So, if I store it away and a year passes without need of it, THEN throw it all away. 2. During this whole process I decided to approach my look a bit differently and have stumbled upon my look. I have naturally brown hair so that is the wig color I went with without finding anything I adored. This time I went blond and who knew Rachel was a beautiful blond!!! I more than adore it, I love it. I also figured out the right color for lipstick AND I have my eye makeup down pat (major discouragement for me before). To be honest I rarely put on makeup because I couldn't get these things right but now I look forward to it. I never dreamed of posting pics on here but I plan to soon. So, is this a "triumph" I don't know but I have fallen in love with Rachel through this process if that makes any sense at all. I know some of you have no clue about what I went through but I know some have. I felt the need to share this in case someone is struggling.
Kisses,
Rachel
Confession: I haven't been on the sight for a little while. I have to confess that I had a purge about a month ago and refused to get on the sight or do anything girly. My decision to purge came out of emotion, embarrassment mostly and I was the only one there!! I live out a little bit so walking around my backyard is something I can do without worry (unless a drone flies over or something like that. :) ) Anyway, I was wearing my heels and slipped and fell. Wig, clothes shoes all in disarray and it happened in front of my sliding glass door. I sat on the ground accessing the damage (worse thing was a giant scratch on my shoes!!) I looked up and saw my reflection and all I saw was a man in a dress looking foolish! All the BS society throws at us as men came back and I immediately purged, determined to forever be a manly man. I looked in the mirror and said goodbye to Rachel and that was it, as far as I was concerned. That lasted for about a week, then I saw a woman in an amazing outfit one day, a pair gorgeous heels the next and I had to face myself all over again. I struggle with my femininity because I am married with kids who have no clue that Rachel exists. If I were single I like to believe this would be easier to work through, but I have the expectations of three people I love dearly and would rather die than lose them. However, and dammit that however is always there, when I am only my male self I feel incomplete. On one hand I am lying to my family if I embrace Rachel, on the other I am lying to myself if I think I can live without her. I see that now. Rachel is a part of who I am. She's in my DNA. So, with a new stash I am embracing Rachel again.
Triumph (maybe too strong of a word but oh well):
I did learn a few things. 1. If the urge to purge comes again, store the stuff away for a year first, DON'T THROW IT ALL AWAY!! :) My rule with my drab clothes is, if I don't use it in a year, out it goes. So, if I store it away and a year passes without need of it, THEN throw it all away. 2. During this whole process I decided to approach my look a bit differently and have stumbled upon my look. I have naturally brown hair so that is the wig color I went with without finding anything I adored. This time I went blond and who knew Rachel was a beautiful blond!!! I more than adore it, I love it. I also figured out the right color for lipstick AND I have my eye makeup down pat (major discouragement for me before). To be honest I rarely put on makeup because I couldn't get these things right but now I look forward to it. I never dreamed of posting pics on here but I plan to soon. So, is this a "triumph" I don't know but I have fallen in love with Rachel through this process if that makes any sense at all. I know some of you have no clue about what I went through but I know some have. I felt the need to share this in case someone is struggling.
Kisses,
Rachel