Last night

[samantha rogers]

I had fun last night even though I was in drab. Our support group gets inquiries periodically from girls wanting to get out and meet people. One such girl had contacted us a while back and I offered to mentor her. Because she is still not out at home, and because the group usually meets on Saturdays, finding the right time was tough. We had met once in drab for coffee, and we had established that neither was creepy or looking for a hook up. Anyway, she contacted me again and had the freedom to get out last night. I had no opportunity to do so because of my kids and time, so instead I fell back on male mode and donned my sports jacket. I met her in her hotel lobby and escorted her to the very nice seafood restaurant that is right there. She was nervous but had no reason to be as she looked amazing...a very pretty girl...beautiful really and very passable. So we enjoyed a great meal and conversed and I played the part of her escort perfectly, allowing her to just enjoy being a pretty girl out on a "date". It was fun, and I was really glad to be able to help get her out. I also talked to her, without judgement, about the desirability of working on coming out to her wife. And she knows, I am pretty sure, that she wants to do so.
It was really odd being in that situation. Being with another girl but playing the old role I am trying to leave behind was a little strange. I played that part my entire life , of course. But it was just that, an act.
I am now moving steadily beyond that and trying to center my external presentation to match the organic internal identity I am finally setting free.
It was an odd feeling. A little like returning to a place you once lived years before, which is familiar but no longer home.
After dinner, she went back to her room to change before going home while I left to return home myself. I know it was good for her to get out, and I know how much she enjoyed it, because I know that feeling so well myself. I was glad I could help her.
I was really jealous of her shoes though...tee hee.

[Jolene Robertson]

Hi Samantha,

Wow, that was great of you. How many would take time for that? I'm sure you have a friend for life. I'll say it for her THANKS.

Hugs
Jolene

[Rhonda Darling]

Samantha:

What a wonderful gift to your friend. I'll have to remember that and suggest to my Meetup group as a possible way to get newbies comfortable with being out and seen in a comfortable setting. Guy and gal on date draws little attention. Four sisters entering a restaurant or bar WILL draw every eye.

Sounds like the experience was very affirming for you, too -- assuring you that you are on the right path. Very happy for both of you.

Kind regards,
Rhonda

P.S. I'm from Detroit a LONG time ago. Have not been back in years. Intend to get there en femme some day.

[AnneC]

What a very nice thing to do. You are a very nice lady.

[Bryanne]

How absolutely spectacular! I'm certain that you made a very positive impact on your friend. Your story really put a smile on face today. Thank you for being such a wonderful person!

[Katey888]

Sammie - that is a very supportive and generous thing for you to do.... wonderful of you! :cheer:

I've often wondered (if my circumstances were different) whether it would be fun to do that - kind of a 'date' as you say but with none of the onerous expectations of a real male/female date - and you seem to have had a pleasant enough time, even if you did have to act a little... :)

I don't know... there you are getting the best of both worlds - why not stop in the middle? ;) (I know it's not as simple as that - but it's an intriguing thought...)

You Good Girl, you!

Katey x

[michelleddg]

Yo Samantha, nice! Outstanding for your friend, but still good times for you as well as pitching in...Hugs, Michelle

[StephanieCLT]

Samantha,

Amazing gift to your friend! Thank you! It's that kind of love and support that makes this community awesome!

Stephanie

[Jaylyn]

You did a good thing Samantha, I would feel awkward being dressed as a male knowing the girl I am taking out is a male also. Guess that just makes me a guy that enjoys wearing women's clothing.... But hurrah for you doing what you did.

[samantha rogers]

Jaylyn I did not feel awkward at all. Rather, all I felt was that I was having a good time having dinner with a friend and I knew it meant a lot to her. Of course, it helps, I suppose that she was pretty and very passable, but truly it made no difference. I am pretty comfortable in my skin and really do not worry much at all what other people that see me in public may think. I guess that is a sign of progress for me, huh? I had not thought about it, but since you mention it, I will take it as a good thing.
Baby steps...day by day.
Hugs

[Shara]

Samantha, thanks for sharing! A lot of what I've been reading here is dealing with SO and leaves me a little down. But your story is great and up lifting. You rock girl!

Hugs Shara

[samantha rogers]

You are welcome, Shara! :-)
But, honestly, so many people have helped me, some in small ways and some in giant ways...pay it forward, you know?
And, Katey, sweet girl, you are spot on...somewhere in the middle is probably where I belong...the question is where?...still working on finding that. Sigh...
All I really want to do is dance!

[paulaprimo]

that was so awesome of you you samantha. i wish i had a friend like you when i first went out... :)

[Carmen]

Samantha that was such a nice gesture you did for her. Having a companion along really helps build our confidence.
I went on a similar date this year, it was a different and enlightening experience for me.
We were a couple out on a date...we had dinner, drinks and danced!
Bless you for being there for a new sister.

[Marcelle]

Hi Sammie,

Bravo sweetie, BRAVO!:cheer:

That was a wonderful thing you did and a great gift to someone who really needed a friend. I am sure she will look back on this as one of those defining moments in her journey and may repay that kindness back to another soul who needs guidance.

Well done!

Hugs

Isha

[Tracii G]

I have done the same a few times with girls wanting to venture out for the first time.
A very odd feeling but helping others feels good as well.
Kudos to you!!

[Michellegryl]

:)[B]BRAVO, BRAVO SAMANTHA. I am so very proud of you for doing such a wonderful thing for her. I am sure you made what is usually an incredibly stressful experience and made it a natural and relaxed one that allowed her to focus on being herself and enjoying that all important first night out. I have done that before myself but enfem not drab mode. You made my night with this story.:dance:

[kimdl93]

That was really great of you, Sammie. I'm sure she appreciated it. I also suspect you've helped her open Pandora's box. After a nice evening out, it's going to be very hard for her to stay in the closet. Just hope she finds her way to come out to her wife.

[JulesAlton]

Good for you. Well done

[Beverley Sims]

Samantha,
Mentoring as you have described can be a rewarding experience.
You may become the best of girlfriends .