wife wents to know y I derss as a woman

[Cindy J Angel]

Hi, need a little help things have not been going well hear at home. I have tryed to keep the TG out of it. But it is hard to do. I dont post a lot but I do get on hear a lot. My wife and I have been having problems. Not all TG, money work I dont got hurt. Who dose what and how.

So problem is I get mam or ladys said to us when we our out. Aver time.. This Friday at home Depot started it for the weekend. (Info I do dress a lot in woman clothes all the time and have my hair style like a woman and I have colered it blonde witch I just love she hates. )

I dont hide it from her all my stuff is in my closet in plain view. So back to friday. I did not here the sales person say it wife did. Can I help u ladys. She gets mad at me for the rest of the week end. She did eaze up on Sunday. But last nignt she ask kindy of out of the blue y do I dress like a woman. I had nothing to say loss for words. She went on to ask if I went to be a woman (witch I do). If I liked man if I wented boobs. Have I ever sort of suicide that cout me off guard. I can say know to that for now

I had the opening to start but I could not take it scared to. Not ready to go this a lone witch will happen if she knew . I not financially able to take care of my self just yet. I am working on it. I have been to a therapist but i stop, we both agree I would transition if I have the financial means.
Its all I thank of how much I went to b a woman aver dam day and how iam going to get there
I have read on here dont take more then u are allowed. I did that for a long time. Keep it In the closet. When I got hurt I had a lot of time to my self . So i started dressing. All in doors, then i had to get out b seen now i do all my stuff as Cindy. Been dressing just about aver day sense.
This has made me think a lot. And I found out I dont went to go dack to guy mode when she gets home. I do take makeup off but clothes and hair are same.
So how do u talk to some one that dos not get it hell I dont get it. She ask if I wented to b her gf or bf well hell I went to b her gf and did tell her that she does not went a gf. Hell she even asked if i would b doing this when iam 90 I said yes. I do think this talk is not over and she will bring it up to night. So any help or insight would ease my mind some.
I know its coming and I could b a lone after and I am all right with that I think.
but now right now what to do what do. Thanks for reading love Cindy

[LeaP]

Cindy, the line that resonates most with me was where you said you had an opening to talk but were scared. That is exactly what you want to focus on the most. What happens to most of us, including me, is that we get defensive. Immediately. It is a lifelong reaction that is triggered when things get too close to home.

Breaking the reaction cycle is very hard. Breaking it when people we are close to you is hardest of all. If you are looking for some practical advice, mine is to respond to your wife that you would like to talk but that you need some time to prepare. Then agree on a time to talk. Set a specific length of time to talk, too, especially at first. Even as short as 15 minutes or a half-hour. That's to keep you from getting overwhelmed. Then make yourself some notes and prepare yourself to be as open as possible. In a nutshell, that means telling yourself you are not going to react or shut down.

[docrobbysherry]

I must disagree with the earlier posts. If your SO really wants to understand about dressing and all of it's complications and variations? Invite her to view this site! Then, if she asks u specific questions about your dressing, answer them if u can. Do NOT think about your answers in advance. Just be honest. Remember, "I don't know", and, "I'm not sure", r legitimate answers! None of us know ALL the answers about why we dress or where we r going with it!

It sounds to me like u have your situation well in hand and only need to straighten everything out with your wife. Either she will agree to allow u Cindy time or not. If not, u sound prepared for the worst should a separation/divorce be necessary.

[Cindy J Angel]

Yes 77 it dose . I have been dressing for a long time all my life to some degree. As I have read on here we do what we need to do most times regardless of the SO law. With in the the last 2 and a half years I have been dressing more as a woman little at a time. To get to were I am at. If we go out I try to dress as closely to a woman as I can get away with no makeup with wife but I have long hair and style it . And I have lost a lot of weight so I do look good. ?...Well we talked some more. She asked y agen I set there for a little and said well it just feels wright. And that was it divorce word came next. Witch I new would. At this time I can not tell her what I should . For her its stop or go. I have been getting away with what I do now because dadt. She thought it for sex. Self .. I dont go out on her so dont ask. Hell stop that over 10 years ago and I told her that

[Starling]

Cindy, contrary to what Sherry said, I really don't advise steering your wife to this site, or any other online transsexual forum, on her own. It's like pushing a non-swimmer into the deep end wearing a lead bikini. I think you need to have your big talk in the presence of a professional, who can keep it from turning into a destructive mess. Even so, it's likely to be terribly painful for both of you to face the facts squarely.

:) Lallie

[kimdl93]

I would suggest that the two of you seek a competent professional counselor. He or she may be better able to help your wife understand the origins of transgenderism and CDing. She may still not like it,but she will know more about it.

[Cindy J Angel]

Thamks girls I know what I need to do but can not . I know we r delt a crap hand but we have to play it as its delt. Agen think love cindy