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AmyGaleRT
06-04-2014, 02:48 AM
I've had occasion to give a few more people from my male life the knowledge that I am Amy. In at least one case, it's had an unexpected bonus!

Firstly, two of my brothers now know. D. is about three years younger than me, and C. is about five years younger. D. is gay, and married to another man, which they did during the "window" of time in California between when it was first made legal and the passage of Prop. 8. (I actually DJ'd their wedding, in my male aspect.) He, as I expected, didn't have any issue with it.

Neither did C., who is married to a GG. C. pointed out a couple of things: first of all, he, though not a CD himself, has crossdressed for Halloween at work on several occasions. He's even been a witch himself; he and a GG coworker did Dorothy and the Wicked Witch of the West one year. Second, after I explained to him the origin of my full femme name, he remarked that he was sure there had been someone related to my maternal grandmother who was named "Ruth," which would mean that even that part of my name is fully consistent with my feminine heritage. The real surprise came when I received a package from him not too long thereafter...a new purse, from Kate Spade New York:

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He said I needed a designer purse. What a thoughtful gift! :)

Finally, I also had occasion to tell my manager, K., which mostly started off with "Remember last Halloween? That wasn't entirely an act..." She is quite open-minded, and sees it as just being "me," no matter what gender I present as or what name I use. It may be useful to have someone at work "in the know," in case something happens...which I don't think it will, but never hurts to be sure.

I'm not exactly completely opening up to everyone...but my comfort level has improved to an extent.

- Amy

Katey888
06-04-2014, 03:05 AM
Amy, I wouldn't have guessed for a minute that you were, in any way at all, uncomfortable... :)

That's a great experience and how thoughtful of your brother to buy you a gift.... And a tasteful one at that! :cheer:

Thanks for sharing those positive progressions... a great example of how slow and steady works... :)

Katey x

Persephone
06-04-2014, 03:08 AM
Congratulations, Amy!

So glad to hear that these conversations went well! And what a lovely handbag! You have a thoughtful and generous brother!

Hugs,
Persephone.

Julie Denier
06-04-2014, 03:41 AM
It's so great that you have that kind of support, sis! And I feel privileged to have seen the new purse in person ;)

KaceyR
06-04-2014, 03:54 AM
Aw. Why can't I have siblings who buy me gifts?? Dang it mom! All your fault! :) (no brothers or sisters:))
Seriously, it's great to be able to be out to friends and family and get their support. congrats!

AmyGaleRT
06-04-2014, 04:02 AM
Katey, there are still some people I'm not comfortable with telling. The big one is my father, and my stepmother since there'd be no way of keeping it from him if she knew. Also, though everyone at my office has seen Amy last Halloween (and, Deus volent, will see her again this coming one), I'm not exactly wanting to advertise that I'm Amy quite a bit more often than just once a year! :)

In some cases, I, or my fiancee, have put people "in the know" just so I don't have to be excessively careful around them...in case she's talking with them online and I speak using Amy-voice and they hear it over her mic, for instance.

Likewise, I keep many details of my male life quiet from those people that know me as Amy. A few people know the number to my iPhone, which is the same one I use as both of my selves; I have a ringtone set on their contact information that tells me to answer as Amy if possible, or "take a message" if not. :) Even fewer know my male name, even if only my given name.

- Amy

Lizzy66
06-04-2014, 04:38 AM
Congrats Amy, What wonderful couple of bother you have there. I to have a brother who is gay, and living in Cal.

BLUE ORCHID
06-04-2014, 08:30 PM
Hi Amy I'm so happy for you .

kimdl93
06-04-2014, 08:36 PM
Glad to hear that two of your brothers are supportive, as well as your supervisor at work. You're taking a rational approach to coming out. It's your life and you are entitled to bring people into the loop at your chosen speed. Sure a little might slip out unexpectedly, but you can handle that too.

Beverley Sims
06-06-2014, 03:45 AM
Amy,
It looks like you are broadening your horizons.
I see some big changes in your future. :)
I am sure you will keep us posted.
I only charge a dollar for fortune telling.

Kate Simmons
06-06-2014, 04:32 AM
Bev is correct although I tell fortunes for free. ;):battingeyelashes::)