Michelle789
06-05-2014, 11:28 PM
Femme Week
I lived full-time as a woman for 9.5 days, from the night of May 23 until June 1. It was a very lovely week, and I really enjoyed being myself for a whole 9.5 consecutive days. I went to church (twice), a Memorial Day picnic, celebrated my birthday, saw my therapist dressed as my authentic self for the first time, ate Thai food and Indian food with friends, went to a support group in Torrance, saw a TG Play called "Lovely Bouquet of Flowers", went to a meditation garden, experienced a scary scene with a female neighbor who sexually harassed me, nearly watched a friend get into a fight with an angry man over a parking spot, and drove the 101, 405, 5, 14, and 110 freeways. I drove to Newhall to pay rent. I grocery shopped, clothes shopped, and ran errands. I experienced a disappointment with a couple of people I thought were my friends who were catfighting.
It was a really great week. I had experienced some anxiety when out, mostly fear over being sir'ed or sexually assaulted.
Sexually Harassed by a Toxic Female Neighbor
Wait I got sexually harassed, by a girl lol (on Thursday, May 29, 2014 at 2:30 am). This girl is a toxic energy girl who knows me as a guy, and I think she clocked me walking out of my car, since she knows it was my car and my parking spot. But otherwise, it was a great week. It had ups and downs like any real life week, but I still was happy to be living as my authentic self.
Back to Work, as a, ugh, guy
I dreaded going back to work on Monday, June 2, dressed as a guy. I had difficulty sleeping on Sunday, Monday, and Tuesday night. I have been feeling lots of anxiety all week, to the point of where my body has been shaking. I thought the shaking might be partially sleep deprivation driven, but I slept a full 8.5 hours last night, and guess what I still felt the anxiety and shaking all day today. I'm currently dressed as myself and feel way better now. I'm able to get work done, but I'm freakin' feel like I want to jump out of my body all week.
Like I said before I had some stressful moments during femme week, including two scary incidents, a betrayal, and sitting in L.A. traffic, yay!!! So I feel like my feelings are more gender related than anything else.
My Sudden Weight Loss
I lost 50 pounds between the last two years. Between January and May, I gained 5 pounds. I ate more sweets than I normally eat. I was also fighting myself extensively during these 5 months, and was stressing out over male privilege. I posted a lot on this issue, even to the point of getting a few people angry here. I realized I was fighting myself the whole time, and using male privilege as a designated issue to fight myself. Actually I think male privilege is connected to fighting myself.
I finally stopped fighting myself (for the most part) on the night of May 17. I lost one pound almost instantaneously.
I lost 3 pounds over the week that I was living fully en femme. This is considering that I ate two birthday cakes, a couple of candy bars, a diet coke every day, French toast, gigantic fudge brownie at Norms at midnight, and In N Out burger on Friday at 11pm. You know how usually people splurge over holidays and gain 3 pounds, right? In spite of splurging last week, I lost 3 pounds.
So I switched from candy binges to normal holiday splurging, and I lost 3 pounds. Go figure. I'd say I increased sugar consumption slightly, and decreased caffeine consumption slightly, over femme week from my normal consumption.
It has me wondering if being my authentic self actually affected my metabolism.
No Longer Fighting Myself
I for the most part am not fighting myself, although I still have some sort of battle in my head, but not as deeply as before. I think I'm more concerned as to how I'm going to fit into girl world, and into the world in general.
I think I still haven't fully let go of my male persona, albeit a weak one, yet. But I think I'm more accepting of myself than I was a few weeks ago, and am getting really stressed by having to live as a guy.
Discussion Questions
Anyways, I just wanted to share what's going on in my life. Also, has anyone experienced any of the things that I did?
1. Gaining weight from fighting yourself?
2. Losing weight from stopping fighting yourself?
3. Losing weight from living a full week as your authentic self?
4. Letting go of your male persona in phases rather than all at once?
5. Feeling lots of anxiety, difficulty sleeping, or like your body is shaking or wants to shake after living an extended time as your a woman, and then having to switch back to guy mode for work or family?
I lived full-time as a woman for 9.5 days, from the night of May 23 until June 1. It was a very lovely week, and I really enjoyed being myself for a whole 9.5 consecutive days. I went to church (twice), a Memorial Day picnic, celebrated my birthday, saw my therapist dressed as my authentic self for the first time, ate Thai food and Indian food with friends, went to a support group in Torrance, saw a TG Play called "Lovely Bouquet of Flowers", went to a meditation garden, experienced a scary scene with a female neighbor who sexually harassed me, nearly watched a friend get into a fight with an angry man over a parking spot, and drove the 101, 405, 5, 14, and 110 freeways. I drove to Newhall to pay rent. I grocery shopped, clothes shopped, and ran errands. I experienced a disappointment with a couple of people I thought were my friends who were catfighting.
It was a really great week. I had experienced some anxiety when out, mostly fear over being sir'ed or sexually assaulted.
Sexually Harassed by a Toxic Female Neighbor
Wait I got sexually harassed, by a girl lol (on Thursday, May 29, 2014 at 2:30 am). This girl is a toxic energy girl who knows me as a guy, and I think she clocked me walking out of my car, since she knows it was my car and my parking spot. But otherwise, it was a great week. It had ups and downs like any real life week, but I still was happy to be living as my authentic self.
Back to Work, as a, ugh, guy
I dreaded going back to work on Monday, June 2, dressed as a guy. I had difficulty sleeping on Sunday, Monday, and Tuesday night. I have been feeling lots of anxiety all week, to the point of where my body has been shaking. I thought the shaking might be partially sleep deprivation driven, but I slept a full 8.5 hours last night, and guess what I still felt the anxiety and shaking all day today. I'm currently dressed as myself and feel way better now. I'm able to get work done, but I'm freakin' feel like I want to jump out of my body all week.
Like I said before I had some stressful moments during femme week, including two scary incidents, a betrayal, and sitting in L.A. traffic, yay!!! So I feel like my feelings are more gender related than anything else.
My Sudden Weight Loss
I lost 50 pounds between the last two years. Between January and May, I gained 5 pounds. I ate more sweets than I normally eat. I was also fighting myself extensively during these 5 months, and was stressing out over male privilege. I posted a lot on this issue, even to the point of getting a few people angry here. I realized I was fighting myself the whole time, and using male privilege as a designated issue to fight myself. Actually I think male privilege is connected to fighting myself.
I finally stopped fighting myself (for the most part) on the night of May 17. I lost one pound almost instantaneously.
I lost 3 pounds over the week that I was living fully en femme. This is considering that I ate two birthday cakes, a couple of candy bars, a diet coke every day, French toast, gigantic fudge brownie at Norms at midnight, and In N Out burger on Friday at 11pm. You know how usually people splurge over holidays and gain 3 pounds, right? In spite of splurging last week, I lost 3 pounds.
So I switched from candy binges to normal holiday splurging, and I lost 3 pounds. Go figure. I'd say I increased sugar consumption slightly, and decreased caffeine consumption slightly, over femme week from my normal consumption.
It has me wondering if being my authentic self actually affected my metabolism.
No Longer Fighting Myself
I for the most part am not fighting myself, although I still have some sort of battle in my head, but not as deeply as before. I think I'm more concerned as to how I'm going to fit into girl world, and into the world in general.
I think I still haven't fully let go of my male persona, albeit a weak one, yet. But I think I'm more accepting of myself than I was a few weeks ago, and am getting really stressed by having to live as a guy.
Discussion Questions
Anyways, I just wanted to share what's going on in my life. Also, has anyone experienced any of the things that I did?
1. Gaining weight from fighting yourself?
2. Losing weight from stopping fighting yourself?
3. Losing weight from living a full week as your authentic self?
4. Letting go of your male persona in phases rather than all at once?
5. Feeling lots of anxiety, difficulty sleeping, or like your body is shaking or wants to shake after living an extended time as your a woman, and then having to switch back to guy mode for work or family?