I told my wife tonight with the "letter"

[lpjamey]

I have spent 3 days writing and rewriting the letter to my wife explaing my dressing up and what I consider my obsession with large breast and bras! I made sure that she knew how much I loved her but this is something I enjoy doing. I must admit that I was scared to death with this whole process but I had to do it now. We have been married for nearly 39 years now and I have made my share of mistakes and wasn't sure how this would go over with her. I will say everything thing went much better then I thought it would but not like I wished it would! In all she is an amazing woman and after all of the years of hiding and lying I feel like the luckiest person on the planet right now! ! Stay tuned in , I cant wait to se where we go from here. I will post more about evening after I have time to process all of what happened.

[amyjacks2014]

^.^

It sounds like she was at least okay with it, if not necessarily thrilled.
Honesty is best. If you are hiding things in this area of your life, she
might think you are hiding other things elsewhere. At this point
however, she now knows. I would take it a bit slow, and let her
include this gradually into the world with you, which will now be the
world with you, and your cross-dressing.


Amy M. Jackson

[baldy1]

I have been married for 41 years and often write letters to my wife telling her how lovely she is and know full well she enjoys receiving letters but after so long of being married i don't think a letter telling of my dressing would be my first choice. Hey that's your way i hope it goes extremely well for your.

Baldy1

[Katey888]

Well done Jamey - I hope it continues to go well... :)

I'm sure you've read lots of similar experiences here and know that emotions and feelings can oscillate wildly in the time following the Big Reveal... so fingers crossed for you both. :hugs:

Katey x

[Marcelle]

Hi there Jamey,

I am so glad to hear you have been able to share this with your wife and things went well. The key thing now is communication. When she is ready to talk more, discuss and don't keep things back when it comes to CDing (there should be no surprises for her). The first step out to our wives is always the hardest and you have just made it. The other steps will soon follow.

Hugs

Isha

[khaleesie]

Good for you lpjamey. While my wife has known for years, I've only recently been able to include her into this part of my life. I thought she was just 'dealing' with it, but it seems that she actually enjoys this part of my life. It's brought us closer and I wish that other's had such understanding and involved significant others.

I hope the best for you and yours.....

[BLUE ORCHID]

Hi Jamey, Ok now the ball is in her court , Just don't overwhelm her with this program.

[MsVal]

What you did took a lot of courage. Now you will need to blend that courage with a great deal of deliberate patience and honesty.

I am sure that you agonized over every word, every comma in that letter, and I am also sure that it comes very short of telling the whole story. There is so much more that you want to say, so much more that you want your wife to understand.

Be very careful not to overwhelm your wife with information. Answer all her questions as honestly as you can, but avoid drowning her in needless detail.

I advise you and anyone else contemplating "The Letter" to consider it only an instrument to break the ice and to begin a long series of heartfelt discussions. Each discussion should include a request for a follow-on discussion to reinforce the open and continuing nature of your talks.

This would also be a very good time to demonstrate your appreciation by being the greatest husband in the world.

Oddly enough, even though she does not fully understand or embrace it, the disclosure of my cross dressing and its subsequent discussions have brought us closer together.

I wish you and your wife great success.

Best wishes
MsVal

[Beverley Sims]

Jamey,
I would consider carefully what you say.

[Mishell]

I'm glad I'm not the only one coming out recently to there SO.. Its really tough and scary but best to be honest. I wish you all the best.