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JenniferZ2009
06-16-2014, 02:08 AM
So I have been transitioning for about 4-5 years now and have been on estrogen for 4 and had an orchi over 2 years ago. When I started out transitioning I was 200 pounds at 5' 11". I had a large beard but I had that lasered off with around 9 sessions total covering my full face. I had laser on my legs, chest everywhere. My occupation in the tech industry allowed me some advantages. I studied the skin care and makeup books. I new the whole routine that the system says one must follow to look beautiful. I ended up passing very very well. I think the extra fat helped out too. I got 2 new jobs since transitioning (i'm a contractor now) and no one had ever mis-gendered me.

I got real sick and had a stomach tear that tore through an artery. I almost died that night. I developed really bad IBS that night and my stomahc rebooted and every food i at afected my stomach different that it had before that night. Everything I ate made me sick so I ate nothing I have been loosing weight ever since in a significant steady manor over the last 2 years. I am now down to about 159 after a really bad month and a half long bad bad cold I got from a friend who had come back from India. It is also just at this point two years later that I am able to eat again and I am so skinny I feel emaciated. I get mis-gendered on a regular basis now. For a long time I did not have access to stores to get new cloths and the slow weight lose and baggy cloths and lack of a large mirror hide the lose from myself. I just went cloth shopping and am a size 5/6 pants and a size small top. I also was/have been going to some gender questioning and almost detransitioned (may still). Maybe that was causing the mis-gendering, I was very angry about being trans.

I pass so well but I have to wear fake hair. I have a $15000 hairpiece that is real human hair adn it is getting old and I have to have haircuts constantly to keep it it same length. I have male pattern baldnes and thinning hair. It is not too bad and could surive without a hairpiece but it is not very flattering. I am mor angy about that than anything. I so so so want to look like a cisgendered female... more so I want to be a female. I know that I am one if I feel like one and am finally letting myself feel like one (mental issues from childhood was messing things up in my head) but I want to have been born with a female body. That hurts me so much.

I practically have a females body but my hair is totally jacked up and it is classic my life. I succeed at anything I try but I can never fully succeed because something always happens either by my stupidity or Murphys law proves itself yet again. That is really the only reason I want to de-transition when I actually think about it. So now I want to continue with transition and have it be the best transition for me to make be happy and I run into something. I have so little fat on my body that my face now shows off my male features more and face seams hollow to me. If I don't wear makeup I get misgendered real bad (and sometimes if I do wear makeup). I also want to go back up to the higher dose of estrogen my doctor had me on that was working quite well before I got scared and drop my dosage down. But I might be broke for the next month and have to wait to go back on the higher dose. I so don't want to wait, I want to do this now!

That is were I am right now in my transition. Not sure what I aim to get from this post and sorry for the long rant but I needed to talk to someone like me. All my friends who are trans live so far away and I don't have a car anymore. I could probably start messaging them or something. I have a girlfriend who is trans and my boyfriend is cool with me being trans (we are in a poly relationship) but they are not the same. I cant go to my old support group due to it being so far away so I am trying to get back on here again now that I kinda know what I am doing my life again. Therapy has been a real good thing for me. It is midnight here and I am so tired. If you have a comment let me know and I welcome any input.

Jennifer

MssHyde
06-16-2014, 10:09 AM
Jennifer
my heart really goes out to you, hair really means so much to a woman I'm very sorry for that too.. I dealt with Lyme disease for 7 years. I was loosing my crown and glory, I wanted to die rather then loose my loved hair..

I know your on a really no going back path.. I'm thinking your best move is keep being the woman you feel you are.. people tend to gain weight when they worry less.. please try not to let it eat at you most things come to pass.. (you will get by it)

focus on the good if you can, it will get better.. your health will come back..

hugs Cheyenne

JenniferZ2009
06-21-2014, 12:16 AM
Thanks Cheyenne

Sorry to hear about the Lyme disease. I have been much happier now that I'm presenting as female with my full mind and body again so I do agree with you that continuing on that course sounds the best. Its a bit like what happened when I first started transitioning. My sister said I stopped being the person she didn't like I instead became a woman who cared deeply about herself and was motivated to better myself.

Jorja
06-21-2014, 08:14 AM
We hardly ever hear of it but there are many women (GGs) that have lost or are losing their hair for one reason or another. Just this past Monday night on the show America's Got Talent there was a woman who had lost her hair to Alopecia. She wore a wig. She hated it but was fine with it. It didn't make her any less of a woman. Get used to it and be happy for what you do have.

Kimberly Kael
06-21-2014, 10:13 AM
So true, Jorja! Women are under constant barrages of social messages setting unachievable expectations. Everyone falls short of the supposed ideal, so its important to learn to be proud of who we are instead of worrying about who we are not. easier siad than done, of course, which is why a lot of women do spend a lot of time obsessing over our imperfections.

Occasionally there are medical breakthroughs available. For those with alopecia there's hope (http://news.yale.edu/2014/06/19/hairless-man-arthritis-drug-spurs-hair-growth-lots-it).