typhoidmary
06-16-2014, 07:53 AM
Hi, first off I want to apologise in advance if I'm rambling or not making much sense... these thoughts have been coming up more and more in my head in the last couple months and I don't really have anyone I feel comfortable talking to IRL about this so I'm hoping I can get some advice here.
I think the biggest thing that makes me think I should do this is, what do I have to lose? I'm basically a full time, out of the closet crossdresser. I get asked quite often whether I'm a transsexual, usually after the other person hears me speak. I've wished I was born a girl for a long time now. More than that though, I'm still young (nearly 24) and as it stands, my life really isn't going anywhere and hasn't been for years. I've been single over a year now with no prospects of that changing anytime soon, none of the relationships I've been in have lasted even that long and they've all been unhappy. I'm pretty much heterosexual and surprisingly enough, women aren't exactly busting my door down to be with someone who looks like a girl. Maybe my sexuality would change? I can find men attractive if they're pretty enough, but in my current state I don't enjoy sex with another guy, it just doesn't work for me. It seems like nothing I'm generally happy with in my life (my music, how I look) would be negatively affected by transitioning, and all the things I'm unhappy with (my gender issues, my love life) would at least be different, and I'm not exactly going to change much by sitting here feeling sorry for myself.
But then, it's all kind of a risk... I don't know everything about what it is to change gender or even close. I do know it takes a long time. I do know that there's a lot of people out there who have a problem with it, and as much as I've developed a thick skin for it, I'm sure the kind of abuse I get in the street is nothing compared to what a lot of transsexuals are put through. There's also my family... I know by and large, they'd be supportive but wearing makeup and women's clothes has never sat right with my dad, and it's been tough trying to keep any form of relationship with him because of that. I don't know if it would really improve my life even if I do feel I'm not who I should have been, or make it worse. at the same time though at least it would be a change.
There's a lot more but I don't want to go on forever about should I or shouldn't I. If anyone has any advice it would be much appreciated, thanks for reading.
I think the biggest thing that makes me think I should do this is, what do I have to lose? I'm basically a full time, out of the closet crossdresser. I get asked quite often whether I'm a transsexual, usually after the other person hears me speak. I've wished I was born a girl for a long time now. More than that though, I'm still young (nearly 24) and as it stands, my life really isn't going anywhere and hasn't been for years. I've been single over a year now with no prospects of that changing anytime soon, none of the relationships I've been in have lasted even that long and they've all been unhappy. I'm pretty much heterosexual and surprisingly enough, women aren't exactly busting my door down to be with someone who looks like a girl. Maybe my sexuality would change? I can find men attractive if they're pretty enough, but in my current state I don't enjoy sex with another guy, it just doesn't work for me. It seems like nothing I'm generally happy with in my life (my music, how I look) would be negatively affected by transitioning, and all the things I'm unhappy with (my gender issues, my love life) would at least be different, and I'm not exactly going to change much by sitting here feeling sorry for myself.
But then, it's all kind of a risk... I don't know everything about what it is to change gender or even close. I do know it takes a long time. I do know that there's a lot of people out there who have a problem with it, and as much as I've developed a thick skin for it, I'm sure the kind of abuse I get in the street is nothing compared to what a lot of transsexuals are put through. There's also my family... I know by and large, they'd be supportive but wearing makeup and women's clothes has never sat right with my dad, and it's been tough trying to keep any form of relationship with him because of that. I don't know if it would really improve my life even if I do feel I'm not who I should have been, or make it worse. at the same time though at least it would be a change.
There's a lot more but I don't want to go on forever about should I or shouldn't I. If anyone has any advice it would be much appreciated, thanks for reading.