If you had a functioning time machine?

[Judith96a]

So here's the deal...
Imagine that someone invents a time machine that allows you to journey accurately to any point in tie & space that already exists - you can go back and forth as much as you like so long as you don't go forward beyond the point at which you started (plus whatever time may elapse while you're travelling) - so no sneaking off into the future!
What, in your own life, would you change?
What would you whisper into the ear of your younger self?


In my case :-
At age 12, "ask her, 'another time maybe?'"
At age 15, "don't be shy, never mind what others think, just kiss her"
At age 18, "tell her (about the cross dressing)"

Thoughts?

[Beverley Sims]

I would like to think I may have continued hormone treatment at twenty instead of stopping.

Thinking positively, there is little I would want to change, as I have been happy with my outcome.

Maybe some unwise decisions unrelated to dressing need tweaking.

[Kate Simmons]

Not necessary as if anything were changed, I would not be who I am today. :)

[MssHyde]

I'd say:
1. don't ride the motorcycle March 5 1971..
2. dont marry Joy 1978
3. loose the mustache never let a woman like it.
4. take care of the skin
5. watch out for ticks
6. be a school teacher.
7. know you can look good as a woman
6. don't drive so fast

[Katey888]

Probably around the age of 18...

"Buy Microsoft stock..." :)

The rest would be fine as is with that little nest-egg...

Katey x

[Lacy PJs]

Well, I really like the peignoir sets from the mid sixties so I'd go back there and simply say to myself, "Get a few; they won't be around forever!"

Lacy PJs

[Byron]

:D Hindsight is always 20/20 or whatever the phrase is. :D

There are many minor things I might change in my life. Probably not much though, as it has been said I am who I am today because of these things.

With regards to dressing though I probably tell myself at 18, this is not going to go away and would have embraced it more fully sooner. Also I would not have purged the one and only time I did 4 or 5 years ago, mainly because it was stupid and I lost way to many good cloths in that. But oh well. Can't change the past...yet. ;)

[Teresa]

At the age of ten, tell her not to feel guilty about Cding, it's not going to hurt anyone, don't let it screw up working hard at school because this is your first big break !
At eighteen stop going to the pub at lunch time and giving the girls the runaround, its not going to get you through college!
At twenty eight looking at the derelict shop you intend to turn into a photographic studio, are you sure this is a good idea ?

Sorry this is not Cd orientated nothing I could change about that, it's just how if affected some important points in my life and how it made it more difficult !!

[Bryanne]

Head immediately back to age seventeen, and give myself a clue as to just how wonderful life would be with that lovely girl, and that her acceptance and shaping of who I would have been would bring so much happiness, and that all the rest was just filler. And to go with the original plan for College.

[CrossJess]

Id change nothing about my life ive enjoyed it so far, i have a lovely bf who i love so much and supports me through everything and loves me just the way i am, i have a nice job, a family that im very close with, ok havent got loads of money but im still happy, what more could you want....

The only thing i would use a time machine for would be to go back to the 1950s and tell my dad that hes a fool for starting smoking and it will kill him when hes in his 60s, i so wish i had a time machine i really do :sad:

[Deedee Skyblue]

a couple times in college: go for it...

There's a lot of things I wish I would have done differently, but I doubt that having someone whisper in my ear 'go to wrestling practice' once during my freshman year of college would make a difference. Maybe "get serious about playing volleyball" a lot sooner in my life. I guess the single biggest thing I would change is my career choice - if I could start over, I'd be a high school math or science teacher, and coach volleyball and/or wrestling.

Deedee

[DonnaT]

Christmas Eve, 1970, to clear the ice off the front steps.

[Alice Torn]

If i could, go back to the time i was born, I would have been a stillborn, and not had the hellish family, mental and emotional illness, and poverty life, alone, and misunderstood, with no mate, not friends, and only my toxic family. Yes, i would have died at birth.

One more thing. Maybe instead of being a dead baby, i would have been adapted out, to a healthy couple.

[NavyM2F_WAM]

What an interesting concept.

I would have to tell myself at age 8 to be closer to God (Christian here).
I would have to tell my older self to try to avoid joining the military at all costs.
Just a little farther in the future (from that last point; still in the past :P), I would have to tell myself not to marry Aimee.

You know what? Maybe I could go tell myself as a kid to start trying to crossdress and possibly transition earlier. I only started dressing earlier this year. I won't be able to start my transition until either 2016 or 2022 (depending on when I get out of the Navy). :(

[Eryn]

This is an interesting problem, but you really would only get one thing to change. As soon as you changed it your future life would be altered so that all those other occurrences subsequent to the one changed will be different.

The other thing is, despite the bad things that have happened to me, I met and married Mimi. If I had "fixed" a bad event earlier the course of my life would have been altered and I would not have met her. That risk is enough that I wouldn't fiddle with the past even if I had the ability.

[Megan Thomas]

At the age of 10, tell the doctor it's not a phase I'll grow out of eventually!!

[Jorja]

I would head directly for age 16. If I knew then what I know now and had this body back then, the boys wouldn't stand a chance. :)

[BLUE ORCHID]

Hi Judy, I would like to take a book with sports scores and a list of winning lottery numbers back to me in the 60s'

[Marcelle]

Hi Judith . . . I am going to have to get all "Nerdy Girl" here and invoke the "temporal prime directive". Changing history a bad thing . . . Danger Will Robinson, Danger! :devil: One small slip in the past, step on one bug, say the wrong thing and then WAMO . . . apes are running the planet. "It's a mad house a mad house!!!" :eek:

In all seriousness . . . I don't thing I would change one thing. The chain of events put into place in my past brought me to my lovely wife. Now if I could go back to two days ago with the winning lotto numbers . . . that might be worth the risk of a planet run by apes. :)

Hugs

Isha

[Samantha Clark]

That's why we should go to the FUTURE!

[Ineke Vashon]

1963, when I could have bought that nice three bedroom house, surrounded by palmtrees, in Fort Lauderdale for $16,500. No shoveling snow. :yippee:

And at that time I was one young, good looking dude, only needing a dress and a wig to morph into a pretty girl. :c9:

Beam me back to reality, Scotty :bonk:

Ineke

[sometimes_miss]

Now remember, you did ask. And this is not for the faint hearted. Because remember, this was back in the sixties, when there was no DYFS, no one for a kid to go to for help, kids complaining about their older siblings were ignored.

What would you whisper into the ear of your younger self?
In my case, something really simple. I know older siblings routinely push the younger ones around a bit, but my case was way beyond the occasional incident, it was happening several times a day. At 5 I was being routinely being beaten up by my older sister, she would hit me every chance she got, and I was terrified of her. Nothing would stop her, she had my parents wrapped around her finger, there seemed no option, which is what caused so much of my problems when I was a kid, including eventually being shipped out of my house to the care of the guy who eventually molested me. I know it's awful. I know everyone here will think that I'm a terrible person. But I'd tell my 5 year old self to stab my sister in the leg while she was asleep, and then scream that it was for her hitting me all the time, and if she kept hitting me, I'd do it again, and next time I'd kill her. I know my parents would have gone beserk; my dad would have strapped me until I bled for attacking his perfect little daughter; I know I'd probably get shipped off to a psychiatrist. But it would have to be something that dramatic to get her to stop beating me. And to those who will ask, no, my parents wouldn't listen to me, my sister had them convinced I was making it all up. There was no alternative. Remember, you're talking about a 5 year old who ran out of options.

[KaylaRoxx]

For me it would probably be along the lines of "don't drop out of school, partying is fine once in a while, but with all the drugs you're doing you're just going to ruin yourself, oh and that girl that keeps cheating on you? let go. she's not worth it, and she'll make things so much worse for you in the long run."

[Jorja]

1963, when I could have bought that nice three bedroom house, surrounded by palmtrees, in Fort Lauderdale for $16,500. No shoveling snow. :yippee:

Ineke

You do realize that house would be over 50 years old today and falling apart like we are. ;)

[Samantha Clark]

Ok I'll play. I would get the BS instead of the BA degree.

[Sc0rp10N]

Do your homework.
stay in college.
keep the band going.
be very careful with credit cards.
have a few less hobbies so you can finish something once in a while.
paint the unicorn.
let go, arguing is a waste of time, energy and opportunity.

[Tina G]

Get my Diabetes diagnosed earlier.. otherwise i wouldn't change a thing because i wouldn't want to lose my beautiful children and i may never have found this site or let myself be who i have always wanted to be...

[KaceyR]

Hmm.
Can think of 3... Age 18 after 'leaving the nest' (well really just before): teach myself sex ed my parents and school wouldn't so I wouldn't deal with so much humiliation and issues for decades after.
And.. 21-22 talk ahead of time about CDing and gender.. To maybe get a better chance to figure myself and change..
And to tell myself not to stick in same job for 30 years wasting my life.

[dee_kay]

Lots of little alterations, but the major one being my worst fear was anybody ever finding out which meant for 20 odd of my first 30 years I pushed almost everyone away who may have possibly mattered to me..... Admitting this side of me to the few close friends who somehow managed not to let me push them away has ended up being the best thing I've ever done and although none have seen me dressed yet (and some probably never will) the acceptance and freedom I feel from them knowing the true me means I feel like a new person.

[alwayshave]

There are a few,

Don't enter the military, go directly to engineering school;
Don't marry until you are at least 35 and comfortable in your own skin; and
Buy that three family house in South Boston in 1990 for $8000 as it would be worth about 1 million today.

[mariehart]

I related this story before but I had a vivid dream once where I did go back in time to my fifteen year old self. It was so vivid it's like an actual memory to me now and I almost felt I did go back.

But I said nothing to my young self. I condemned the poor little creature to go through all the trauma and nonsense that marked my life.

On waking I wondered why but then I heard the sound of my two little boys waking up in their bedroom and I knew why. It was subconscious saying, let go the regrets and get on with your life.

On the other hand I really should have written last weeks Euro lottery numbers into a book I had back then and which I still have. Dam silly mistake that.

On the other hand if my life was like it was twelve years ago before the children. I would have told her how it is. Forget all the silly career aspirations. You are completely unsuited to a career in any form of technical job. Go to college, study art or fashion design or anything like that. Embrace your femininity and transition in your mid twenties. Don't live your life in denial like I did.

Oh and do these lottery numbers on this date.

[Judith96a]

Probably around the age of 18...

"Buy Microsoft stock..." :)

The rest would be fine as is with that little nest-egg...

Katey x

Yes Katey, or BT shares or...!

To everyone else,
OK, I didn't explicitly say "and no whispering lottery numbers etc." but this isn't the Lounge so I was trying to keep it CD / TS related.

As for the temporal prime directive ... Yeah, you got me!

[DonnaT]

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KnGcWVoxftI

[Miss Trudy]

There are probably a lot of them although I do love Katey's response about Microsoft stock but with me it would have been Apple! Truth be told I would go back to December 1991. I was "involved" with a gentleman I cared about deeply as he did for me. He wanted me to come live with him and be his "wife." I was still finding my way so to speak and wasn't ready to take that big a step then. I have many times wondered where would I be today had I taken him up on his offer.

[Tina_gm]

I met both my 1st wife and my current wife at almost the same time, within a month I believe. Current wife was married, but unhappily so. Soooo, I would say that in 1990, I would go back and be a pig and steal my current wife away from her husband. it wouldn't have been hard. Stay as far away from my 1st wife as possible, oh, and tell my current wife, which would also now be my 1st wife after the time travel about my desire for women's clothing early on.

[Sometimes Steffi]

When I was about 12, I had this fantasy. I would go back in time to conception, and switch out that nasty Y chromosome.

But realistically, when I was 14 and cut my knee up skidding my bicycle in gravel, I should have made the doc who stitched me up pick out every single piece of gravel he left in my knee.

And after I left for college at 18, I wish I was comfortable enough to dress fully while I still had hair.

And lastly, to bring the Internet from 2000 back to 1967.

[air_walk]

I would try to teach my teenage self how to understand and effectively deal with emotions and depression. Not sure I could have told it in a way I would have accepted and understood, but it would be worth a try.

-Melissa

[danielletorresani]

I'd tell my young self, age 11 or so not to try on that dress. Not making that first step on the path of being a crossdresser would have saved a ton of headache and complications in my life.

If for some reason I couldn't go back that far, I would have gone back to my 21 year old self and tell myself to live it up and try to live out every single crossdressing fantasy I can think of. Being married now, there's a lot of things I wish I tried. Now if I try those things, it means cheating on my wife. What I wouldn't give to do those things with a clear conscience!!!