MsVal
06-21-2014, 07:15 AM
In a funny turn of events, crossdressing has brought us closer together than we've been in a very long time.
Many things have been going on in my life and I have been kind of quiet on this forum. These include some interesting things involving crossdressing, including my first reveal.
I have been seeing a therapist for a few months. Elana is helping me to feel a great deal better about myself (less poorly, actually). I am coming to an understanding that I am not the disgusting old man that I thought I was; I am just “me”. I am still not happy with that part of “me”, and my wife is understandably even less enamored with it.
My wife is painfully aware of my crossdressing. She does not like it, but accepts that it is a part of me. She wants to one day be more comfortable with it and even supportive. You may recall that she recently gave me some of her things, bought me makeup, and found a nice wig that she encouraged me to buy. Even so, my wife and I have recently had many uncomfortable, tearful talks.
At my penultimate therapy session, Elana suggested that my wife accompany me to the next one (last Wednesday). She did, and it was quite enlightening. Elana helped us see that there are other issues that had not been addressed; crossdressing was just the one that brought the emotions to the surface. Now that we see them as separate issues, crossdressing is no longer the single huge problem we thought that it was. It’s still an issue, but it’s smaller and more manageable.
As is true of many of us, I am not defined by or limited to crossdressing. There are many other very interesting and worthwhile things I may do alone, or accompanied by my wife of nearly 30 years. Two of those things are volunteering and camping. We have a summer full of both. On our most ambitious contribution this year we will be volunteering while living in a remote campground for nearly six weeks. We have other commitments that are for two weeks and fewer.
While making plans for the summer we discussed how we would handle my dressing. I said that I would simply leave it all behind. I explained that I can’t think of a way to dress privately, I don’t want to hurt her by dressing in front of her, and taking MsVal along would present a frustrating temptation. I felt that it would be better overall to just abstain until October.
My dear wife would have none of that (oh, how I love that woman). She said that she wants me to be happy again, and knows that abstaining for the whole summer would seriously interfere with my happiness. She said that we would have to find a way to bring MsVal into our life, and along on our trips.
She convinced me that it could be helpful to reveal myself dressed. A little at first, perhaps more later, as a way to ‘normalize’ it and potentially become comfortable.
Yesterday was the first time that my wife saw me fully dressed.
She waited in the dining room while I changed into some summery feminine clothing. As I entered from behind, my heart was in my throat. I have read of several other reveals that have gone very badly. Thankfully, it went very well. She complimented the outfit and said that I am fortunate to be able to wear stylish clothes. I sat across the table, ate lunch, had a very normal afternoon conversation, cleared the dishes, and went about my normal daily activities while she went about hers. This went on for several hours until the time we expected our daughter to return home from work. I changed back into guy clothes and tearfully thanked her for being the most wonderful woman I know.
It was as close to a ‘normal’ afternoon as any I can remember.
Words fail me. I cannot express how relieved I feel, how thankful I am, how much I love the wonderful woman that still insists that she loves me.
That was Thursday. Friday was a busy day preparing for a family gathering later today (Saturday). Even though busy, my dear wife was thinking of me and said that I should set aside some time for dressing. I thanked her and declined, saying “That would be unnecessary and greedy. Yesterday was like my birthday and Christmas all at once.”
We are making great progress on the other issues too, and look forward to our time together. In a funny turn of events, crossdressing has brought us closer together than we’ve been in a very long time.
Best wishes
MsVal
Many things have been going on in my life and I have been kind of quiet on this forum. These include some interesting things involving crossdressing, including my first reveal.
I have been seeing a therapist for a few months. Elana is helping me to feel a great deal better about myself (less poorly, actually). I am coming to an understanding that I am not the disgusting old man that I thought I was; I am just “me”. I am still not happy with that part of “me”, and my wife is understandably even less enamored with it.
My wife is painfully aware of my crossdressing. She does not like it, but accepts that it is a part of me. She wants to one day be more comfortable with it and even supportive. You may recall that she recently gave me some of her things, bought me makeup, and found a nice wig that she encouraged me to buy. Even so, my wife and I have recently had many uncomfortable, tearful talks.
At my penultimate therapy session, Elana suggested that my wife accompany me to the next one (last Wednesday). She did, and it was quite enlightening. Elana helped us see that there are other issues that had not been addressed; crossdressing was just the one that brought the emotions to the surface. Now that we see them as separate issues, crossdressing is no longer the single huge problem we thought that it was. It’s still an issue, but it’s smaller and more manageable.
As is true of many of us, I am not defined by or limited to crossdressing. There are many other very interesting and worthwhile things I may do alone, or accompanied by my wife of nearly 30 years. Two of those things are volunteering and camping. We have a summer full of both. On our most ambitious contribution this year we will be volunteering while living in a remote campground for nearly six weeks. We have other commitments that are for two weeks and fewer.
While making plans for the summer we discussed how we would handle my dressing. I said that I would simply leave it all behind. I explained that I can’t think of a way to dress privately, I don’t want to hurt her by dressing in front of her, and taking MsVal along would present a frustrating temptation. I felt that it would be better overall to just abstain until October.
My dear wife would have none of that (oh, how I love that woman). She said that she wants me to be happy again, and knows that abstaining for the whole summer would seriously interfere with my happiness. She said that we would have to find a way to bring MsVal into our life, and along on our trips.
She convinced me that it could be helpful to reveal myself dressed. A little at first, perhaps more later, as a way to ‘normalize’ it and potentially become comfortable.
Yesterday was the first time that my wife saw me fully dressed.
She waited in the dining room while I changed into some summery feminine clothing. As I entered from behind, my heart was in my throat. I have read of several other reveals that have gone very badly. Thankfully, it went very well. She complimented the outfit and said that I am fortunate to be able to wear stylish clothes. I sat across the table, ate lunch, had a very normal afternoon conversation, cleared the dishes, and went about my normal daily activities while she went about hers. This went on for several hours until the time we expected our daughter to return home from work. I changed back into guy clothes and tearfully thanked her for being the most wonderful woman I know.
It was as close to a ‘normal’ afternoon as any I can remember.
Words fail me. I cannot express how relieved I feel, how thankful I am, how much I love the wonderful woman that still insists that she loves me.
That was Thursday. Friday was a busy day preparing for a family gathering later today (Saturday). Even though busy, my dear wife was thinking of me and said that I should set aside some time for dressing. I thanked her and declined, saying “That would be unnecessary and greedy. Yesterday was like my birthday and Christmas all at once.”
We are making great progress on the other issues too, and look forward to our time together. In a funny turn of events, crossdressing has brought us closer together than we’ve been in a very long time.
Best wishes
MsVal