Changing my thinking

[transfeminate]

As I posted in my first thread I have always had a keen interest in women's clothes but I always put it down to wanting my woman to look sexy and attractive like any male but since joinig this forum I have come to realise I was getting the wrong message and in fact I was actually coveting the clothes for myself.
One thing I'm sure of. I could become a woman full time tomorrow and not regret it for a minute. Won't ever happen though but at least I can express myself freely on here and how I feel

[Beverley Sims]

"One thing I'm sure of. I could become a woman full time tomorrow and not regret it for a minute."

I thought like you did once, and then I changed my thinking. :)

[Kate Simmons]

I fully intended on getting a "sex change" upon leaving the Army over 40 years ago. As things worked out, I didn't and was glad as I never would have known my children otherwise. We all have to make choices it seems. We are the only ones who can determine if they are right for us.:)

[Teresa]

I can see the forum is working for you, reading other comments does make you think about you own situation and get it in perspective.
I bought nighties for a GF but she knew we were sharing them !

[Pink Susan]

Interesting Post Transfeminate
I too wanted my last Girlfriend many years ago , to wear clothes I found feminine and sexy . This meant dresses , skirts at all times ,often chosen by me , pastel coloured panties , pantyhose as often as possible , including bed time ..and to her credit she did all that ...often

I too now realise , it was me wanting to wear those exact same clothes ,those pretty pink knickers , pantyhose day and night

Nowadays I do exactly that ...alone

[Deedee Skyblue]

Ladies, once it occurred to me that for years, I spent all my energy trying to get into 'her' panties - and half my desire was based on putting them on.

Deedee

[reb.femme]

I think I'd take my time over the "going full time" bit but only you know you, but the more you dress, the more you'll get to understand you. My ideas can only be appropriate for me, but I'd never let that stand in the way of giving my opinion. :devil:

Rebecca

[Jorja]

One thing I'm sure of. I could become a woman full time tomorrow and not regret it for a minute.

That is exactly what I did. It has been almost 35 years and I still don't regret a thing. :)

[Jane G]

I'm sure most if not all of us change are thinking, as time and cicumstances change.

I thought hard about transition when I left the Navy, I took hormones for a few months, but by then I had a loving family, good friends, good job. So many things, that would have changed, if I had gone through with it. I don't regret my desisions through life, good or bad, the're the choices I've made, to move forward and many of them have included what, I feel, others around me need too.

[Michelle789]

Transfeminate,

Welcome to the forum :) I always used to feel that if I could become a woman full time I would never regret it. I always felt like I really was a girl on the inside, but I had to repress it to others, and even to myself and convince myself that I was a boy, because that's what everyone else told me I was.

I am finding that as I have time to explore my gender, and present out in the real world, that I am becoming more comfortable in doing so. I find a few things I notice.

1. When I am dressed as a woman at home, whether it is surfing the internet, watching TV, listening to music, doing chores, eating, reading, talking on the phone, or participating in this forum, I feel WAY better at home as a woman than ever dressed as a man.

2. I am finding that I used to run away from life and social activities. I ran away partially because I didn't like playing the male role, and majorly because I wanted time at home do dress as my authentic self. And because I felt that I couldn't leave the house dressed as a girl, I needed to horde private time at home to do so. Now that I am able to leave the house dressed as a girl, I am finding that I want to actually live life. I actually enjoy having a social life, and am open to relationships, something I was never open to when trying to be a guy.

I think seeing a gender specialist will benefit you very well. Someone you can talk to about your feelings. She (or he) will help you to greatly understand your feelings, give you writing assignments to ask you how you feel about various things in life with regards to your gender, as well as push you to leave the house more dressed as your authentic self. I think interacting with the real world will give you a great idea of whether or not transition is for you. Interacting with the real world in all situations, be it grocery shopping, the post office, clothes shopping, eating out, socializing, solitary, and at home, will help you to sort it out. This has certainly helped for me.

If you need someone to talk to, please feel free to send me a PM once you get 10 posts :)

[Emi_]

Oh no! We've got another one! Is it something in the water? Is the government responsible for this? Who is doing this to us? LOLOLOL!!!

[Maria 60]

Your not the only one this forum helped. I never wanted to join or do anything on the computer to do with my dressing. Even once that I stubbled upon this site it still took months before I joined, and the strangest thing for me was, the first words I typed in was the very first time I spoke as Maria and it did feel strange but it was amazing. This really is a good clean site compared to some other ones and as much as I do vent here a lot, I also read and always try to give my option even though I am not a expert. And about the full time women thing, I don't know it's kind of OK being 85% man and 15% women I guess.

[Amanda L.]

I fully agree with you Maria. This site has given me the confidence to articulate my 'Amanda' head. I am very much a male and wouldn't be any other way. However I love becoming Amanda and having a voice in this forum. I have read so many intelligent and well written posts that have given me a new confidence and perspective on my crossdressing.

[Jaylyn]

I just love the dressing part and sometimes being Jaylyn fully dressed or as some say all dolled up, but I also love being a male. I love my big family and know they would never accept the change. I got my wife also to dress up the way I wanted to look. She looks hot so I lived many of my working years vicariously through her. At my age and family all scattered and a truly accepting wife I get to be Jaylyn but have just put my priorities in life in the order I feel is best for me. Every one has different circumstances and every ones situation is different. We all have different degrees of dress that satisfy us. I know my thinking has changed as I have gained more maturity and learned what life is all about.

[Teresa]

Maria I have no regrets about joining the forum ! I can't believe how nervous I was, why I don't know ?
I hesitated for some time about my avatar, I won't say I don't care now but it says this is me, I'm a CDer and this is what I look like !
In return I have met some great people and made good friends and most importantly come to terms with my CDing ! Six months ago I never would have thought this could happen !!

[wanda66]

I too had second thoughts about this site , l was so afraid to admit the I actually put on panties and a bra and enjoyed it !! Iam greatfull to all here .Its a better world because we have each other,.

[transfeminate]

I can see that Jorja

[Jillian Kate]

I think I want both. I've always loved women to dress as feminine as possible. But I cant resist putting on a sexy pair of high heels myself.