How Brave Are You ?

[Michelle-Leigh]

How many of you have dressed in women's clothes and gone out without wig or makeup ? Like going to the store in a mini-skirt and blouse with your normal drab face...... I love to do this from time to time, and it gets an occasional chuckle ! Actually, my first outing was to a gas station while wearing a dress, I pumped gas in broad daylight with a drab face........

[CrossJess]

Nothing wrong with that hun :) good on you for doing so, for me though all the time hun :) with the hot weather here at the moment all I put on is womans denim short shorts and a croptop tshirt and my pumps or wedge shoes, I'm constantly dressed in woman's clothes while still looking like a guy lol feminine guy at that lol so it's just a way of life for me I gave up wearing mans clothes when I was 10, I'm not sure I would wear a dress as i don't really like them that much I have a thin figure so I like to wear what shows off my flat tummy and smooth legs the most and I absolute adore denim short shorts or mini skirts .

[Beverley Sims]

I was with a bunch of friends and did this as a joke when I was about eighteen.
Yes it was a hoot then and I only did that once.

I was then encouraged by the girls in the group to dress sensibly as I looked good and it was more fun to have a guy with them that others thought was a girl.
Partial dressing was not bravery but I think full dressing and doing it solo is. :)

[alexmarie]

I have done the opposite. I have gone to my hairdresser an had my shoulder lenght hair curled in womens style put on some lipstick and then whent shopping at walmart. Only comment was from the cashier she liked my curls.

[CarlaWestin]

This is one of my favorite things. Out and about, usually with very, eh-hem, exaggerated breasts. But, hey, it's my party and I'll have big boobies if I want to.

OK Carla, don't post a picture. No! No!

Oh, damn.

[noeleena]

Hi;

Well i do it all the time, though im different and my dress is also different,

I dress in Edwardian clothes of the 1900 = 14 and with our group at many outings , next.
I wear our garb of 1400 - 1700's. and that is over seas as well so im seen by many 100's of people.

my normal day wear is long skirts tops sun hat or a turbin style head wear. no makeup much the same as you see in my avatar - photo.

My facial features are quite male and there;s no way I pass as a normal female or will I blend in as a woman,
I don't wear wigs as I got headaches though will ...only... for our Edwardian group. as they like me to do that,

I do wear a uniform for our Brass Band that im a member of and theres many other details about myself that dressers would not do while dressed as they or others have said its ether all or not at all in dressing and being like a woman, im also in the public eye a lot as well,

at the moment im a member of two Australian Brass bands that covers 6 weeks,

...noeleena...

[sayhi2dd]

Carla, I love the picture, thanks for sharing, I admire you so I'm sure you get some stares.. bravo

[GeminaRenee]

I did this once, to go to Sephora for a makeover. Just about a month ago, in fact. Everything below the neck was en femme, plus the earrings. But I left the house with no makeup, and worse - no wig. My wig had to be back ordered and hadn't come in in time for my Sephora adventure. I was pretty apprehensive about the notion, but I told my worries to take a hike, and walked out the door anyway.

Like most things I get apprehensive about when cross-dressed, it turned out to be no big deal. The short hair just made me look really butch, and now that I think about it, I'm not sure that I'd be any more or less believable in my wig. Funny how that works.

(:

[UNDERDRESSER]

I think of myself as a skirt wearer, not a crossdresser, so this is what I do, or, to be more precise, working towards doing.

I am slowly getting myself used to the feeling of letting myself be seen thus. Wore a skirt to a small party the other night at our place, did get changed after a while, as it got too cool. Basically, female clothing below the waist.

[Kate Simmons]

Fine if that is what you want to do. I don't know that it's necessarily brave, just a personal choice. I wouldn't see any point to that myself unless I was transitioning.:)

[Tracii G]

You are free to do as you wish is the way I look at it.
Most all my clothes are womens so I guess I do that everyday.

[Sallee]

Its nice to see a lot of you go out and wear what you feel like wearing and the heck with everyone else. Good for you guys. thats not my style at all I like full make up and nice fem clothing. To each his own. Enjoy life and have fun

[Rita C.]

I went in to a fast food place with a pair of pantie hose, short shorts, 3 in. heels and a tube top. The hambuger was great. The cook even had to come take a look. I love the look on peoples face, I'm going to be me and if thay cant handle it then don't look. Come on lets show the world that we like being girls too.

[Lorileah]

A few years ago I did that, driving back from the mountains, skort and knit top and heels. Got gas and food no one cared.

[Desirae]

I'm not out, YET, but I can't imagine seeing myself going out and about in that manner, dressed, but with no female emulation done to my face whatsoever. At least an attempt at it, even if it is a rudimentary attempt and not even a good one at that. I may never be a "passable" (I'm REALLY starting to hate that word) CD, but cannot see myself only going halfway with the process. I have no problem how others present themselves and if presenting that way feels right to you, I say go for it. I just can't see myself doing it.

[reb.femme]

I can honestly say a big NAH! to that. :eek:

Rebecca

[Tracy Hazel Lee]

Funny indeed, that I consider getting fully dressed up and going out not an issue, no anxiety whatsoever. And I'm not one that gets embarrassed easily, but trying to do what you described would be way over the line for me. Even people that know I dress have never seen me at any stage in between my guy and girl modes... I will not allow it.

On that topic (and I'm not trying to hijack this thread), my absolute biggest fear (maybe even bigger than being recognized by somebody I know) is if somehow my wig came off while I was out in public, or even worse, was pulled off by somebody. That would be absolutely mortifying! I consider the wig to be mandatory and the one item that can instantly destroy my femme image when removed. (unless you're not wearing a wig, obviously)

[JamieTG]

I go out as a male wearing womens clothes all the time although I haven't done it wearing a skirt. I wear girls jeans or shorts, a girls t shirt or sweater, jewelry, and perfume. This is the way I feel comfortable and have never had the desire to go out with wig and makeup and try to blend in.

[Teresa]

Michelle-Leigh,
The best opportunity I get is when walking the dog, I under dress in skirt and Tshirt usually black holdups, when I think it's safe I take off my drab stuff and walk across fields. First I got outed by a full commuter train and then a horse rider ! My threads are still about if you want more detail !

[susan54]

I have done this quite a lot in different parts of Scotland - but in a skirt not a dress - and using a male cross-chest messenger bag, wearing flat or low-heeled women's shoes. Best in summer with bare legs and a long floaty skirt but have also worn a short skirt with thick tights and high-heeled boots in winter. Almost complete lack of reaction from passers-by - I have mostly done it with lots of people around (Prices Street in Edinburgh for example) but have also done it on the beach.

[sarah87]

I actually do this all the time! Due to my life situation i can't shave my body and i am very masculine. I have found over the years that if you go to the right stores, in the right parts of town at the right time that you can pretty much go where ever you want without too much trouble. I have been in walmart, target, tj maxx, dress barn, victoria secret, maurices to name a few. I actually just spent my late lunch wearing women's jeans, top with an obvious bra and hit the semi annual sale at victoria secret. It is fun!

[Rachel_B]

I usually go out dressed without make up and a wig. I keep planning on getting some foundation to try and hide the areas where my facial hair grows and I don't need a wig because my hair length is about mid-shoulder. I wouldn't consider myself passable but have not been treated any differently then GG's

[sarah87]

With over 20 years experience as a guy going out in public in women's clothing looking like a guy i will say that most people will not say anything nor do they care. Most of my experiences have been neutral when meeting other people, they will be pleasant and say hi or just say nothing. I have had some very wonderful experiences that i will always cherish, and I have had a couple of bad ones that i would soon forget. I decided years ago i was tired of hiding and that i wanted to be me, I am still very careful about where i go but i am no longer shuttered up in my house.

[Saepe]

Technically yes, although the look is more punk/androgynous than feminine for me, so although I'm wearing all female clothes I'm not presenting as female or even necessarily CD.

[Majella St Gerard]

That's the only way I go out dressed but I wear make up most times, I'm not trying to fool people into thinking I'm a woman.

[Ginger Jameson]

I've gone halfway before: men's shorts or pants, women's shoes, and earrings. For me it helped increase my confidence for going out fully dressed.

[Emi_]

To each their own, I guess. However, I don't dress just to wear girl stuff. I dress to look my very best and it just so happens that I look my best looking like a woman so I wear makeup and do my hair and all of it when I go out because I want to look my best and not simply be in women's things.

[Eryn]

I don't dress in a way that blatantly tries to confuse people, so no dresses or skirts in male mode. OTOH, I'm quite happy walking the border in clothes that could go either way. Capris, shorts, tops in bright colors, print T-shirts, etc. are my fashion statement in male mode.

[Lillyasia]

I just did it today. I went to the supermarket in womens jeans and tank top. I got a couple of nice smiles by GG's. I think they liked the top.

[Bryanne]

Much braver than I had thought previously!
I went out dressed this weekend for the first time since my teen years, and did not want to go back. I had not been out since I was around 19 years old, and have underdressed for a few months now, but have been very scared and lacking confidence. I think it was my trying to look like I did when a teen, and those days are long gone, honey. New dress from Kohl's, new wig, makeup I was proud of, and off to a meet-up with some locals I have only known online for some time. I was scared at first, but that wore off, and stopping for a bite to eat later on with some of my new friends was very encouraging as well. Was complimented by a few charming souls, and one GG who simply could not get over it, making this the first big step in a grand direction.

[DonnaT]

Yep, been to the gas station. I've also go out on the beach at Ocean City NJ.

[Mgreenva]

I am out of town so I just starting to venture out....still in male mode waiting for my wife to suggest I shave my mustache...I have not been agreeable in the past but mabe she will twist my arm...but I am underdressing and exposing some female attire227571

[suchacutie]

I was about to say that this idea of heading out "partially" dressed is not what Tina is all about. But....then it occurred to me that I have been dressed in male mode wearing woman's jeans, a sweater from VS, a turtleneck, and loafers. It never hit me that I really was not dressed in anything noticeably male, but my interactions with people all day were completely normal.

[Mgreenva]

I had normal reactions from a lot of people...most didn't seems to care at all

[VanessaReid]

I drove to work last night dressed in a pleated skirt and tank top. Felt good to be out and about dressed even if it was 2am

[Emi_]

Truth is that, with few buy notable exceptions, no one really gives a flying fart about what people around them are doing. Unless you are one of those whose totally out there to get noticed or you just insist on wearing the prom dress to Cracker Barrel you will most likely just be ignored. I am 44 years old, 5'7'', and nearly 300 pounds and no one gives me a second look anywhere I go. Sure there is a lot to be said for dressing like the girls around me and making sure I look my best and that I am confident in myself just as I am, but most people are only focused on what immediately affects them.

Of course, the point of this thread is about those who want to stir up the pot for whatever reason. As I've stated before, I don't personally care to be the "dude in chicks clothes" so i don't do that, but I also find that wearing women's jeans and a t-shirt doesn't get me any extra attention - people aren't out there studying everyone around them to see who's "out of place."

Getting noticed takes work.

[sometimes_miss]

I once read something to the effect of, bravery isn't being scared, it's being scared but doing it anyway. Now then. There's a difference between being brave, and being stupid. When the risks greatly overwhelm the benefits of an action, you really have to stop and think of how much you need to do it. As I have absolutely no wish to be out, nor be stuck with having to deal with the possible ramifications of doing so, going out dressed in female clothes would be stupid, not brave. I've done plenty of brave things in my life, but I don't consider going out in a dress as potentially one of them.

[CarlaWestin]

When the risks greatly overwhelm the benefits of an action, you really have to stop and think of how much you need to do it.
Of course there's a cost/benefit analysis involved. This isn't any kind of willy-nilly mindless activity. The venue and surroundings are chosen very carefully. And the awareness of surroundings is paramount. It's part of the thrill and I believe it speaks to some primal urge.

As I have absolutely no wish to be out, nor be stuck with having to deal with the possible ramifications of doing so, going out dressed in female clothes would be stupid, not brave. I've done plenty of brave things in my life, but I don't consider going out in a dress as potentially one of them.
Hey, it's just exciting and has no correlation with bravery or stupidity. And unlike some other brave/stupid things that some people find oddly necessary, I doubt they'll be scraping me up off the highway and searching for my organ donor card due to a crossdressing miscalculation. This is just harmless fun.

Check this out! (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bPrEzn7m128)

[Marcelle]

For me I do not mix "boy me" and "girl me" I am one or the other . . . sorry it is just the way I roll. :heehee: :)

I know I am not fooling anyone when dressed "en femme" and they will get there eventually (in about 10-15 seconds on contact) but I am not going to make it easy for them either . . . a girl has to have some secrets after all :battingeyelashes:

Hugs

Isha

[Jessy Jamz]

If I'm going out dressed I would always do it fully presenting as female. For me it would just make no sense. To do it half way. I enjoy switching back and forth but I guess I would never blend them together too much. An androgynous look in a hipster/punk sense can be attractive and is something I've done in the past though.

[kimdl93]

Not my thing. I really do not go out with the goal of startling anyone or having an laugh at someone's expense. I go out dressed and made up as presentable female as I can manage, with the hope of not disturbing, disrupting or calling attention to myself. I do this out of respect for others and for myself.

[heatherdress]

I have not done that, don't really want to do that either. I don't think it is bravery - it is personal style choice.

[NatalieGirl]

I do it quite often. But my natural hair is very long and styled and colored very girly.

The only people who notice are usually GGs. Most men could care less what other men wear.

[Keri L]

I just got back from a week long cruise down to Roatan, then Belize City, then Cozumel. I thought about dressing fully en-femme, but it was hot, and it was more about just dressing how I wanted to dress.

So, I had a French manicure and pedicure, and I wore some ladies' tank tops and shorter shorts, not to confuse people or to stir the pot, but because I wanted to express my feminimity.

A couple of nights, I wore my girls jeans and button ups with three quarter length sleaves, a fairly feminine necklace and various bracelets.

Over the whole week, I did not get one negative comment, and I got quite a few smiles and people wanting to engage me in conversation.

I told my gender therapist about it, and she did indicate that that may have confused some people. But, I wanted to see what it was like to express that side of me without the protection of my wig and makeup. In some ways, it has given me more confidence to dress fully en femme and not worry about peoples' reactions. I think I need to explore this more with my therapist.

Best,
Caitlyn

[JamieOH]

That is pretty much the norm for me. I have only worn a wig once or twice. And sometimes do a little lipstick and mascara but usually don't.
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[Tina G]

Today after coming out to all my friends and family two months ago, I took some baby steps and went to my Therapist dressed in just comfortable womens clothing. Nice jeans, a Husker top with lacy shoulders and my wedge open toed sandals with minimal makeup. I walked in and the 2 receptionists greeted me as normal and everything went as normal. I got a few looks but I was doing this to be myself so i just remembered reading other threads with people saying noone really cares unless your going out of your way to gain attention which i wasn't. Felt really good today and even the drive there and back wasn't so hard.

Tina