It's Just Fun

[sabrinaedwards]

I read with interest the various threads about what caused you to become a crossdresser. While there were some interesting theories, for me it is just plain fun to be able to crossdress. I love being able to go out and blend with the general public. I have had some fun times shopping while dressed, gambling while dressed and going to night club venues that accept crossdressers. I have tried to determine why I participate in this type of activity and I have never been able to come to a successful conclusion. I spend 99% of my life as a male, so I do not think that I identify as a female. It's fun!
Love, Sabrina

[emilie.claire]

That's awesome Sabrina! Do you usually go by yourself or do you go out with friends?

[kimdl93]

But why is it fun for you, but not for any other male? What lead you to try in the first place, and why didn't the same circumstance lead other makes to that same place. As you peel the layers of the onion, it becomes more apparent that there must be some deeper causal factor or factors.

[Tinkerbell-GG]

Kim, the dopamine theory doing the loops here explains why this could become fun for an ordinary male without any deeper gender issues. Dopamine is very, very powerful stuff and can literally re-wire the human brain. We humans are pleasure seekers, after all. And I don't actually find it confusing that a man would find our clothing pleasurable. This part seems obvious - our clothes can be very different and more sensual to men's. Rather than wondering what makes a crossdresser curious about girls clothing, maybe we should ask what makes other men not? Are they the ones fighting a natural instinct? Will we ever know??

Sometimes an onion is just an onion. :)

[Adriana Moretti]

hey sabrina...you are my new best friend....yeah...its just plain fun... we all overthink, and get paranoid, feel guilty etc from time to time....but life is short have fun...gambling while dressed is on my to do list too...sounds like so much fun to be in a casino...

[Alice_2014_B]

That is it summed up in one word, "fun".

[Beverley Sims]

Sabrina,
Don't let the fun side fade, always present yourself tastefully and if you are good, do what I did.
Consider it an art form and something you are successful at.
Nor should you think too deeply about the psychology of it all either.

It takes the "fun" out of it. :)

[Donnagirl]

Yep, it is fun.... No need to psychoanalyse it, fun just describes it perfectly.

[samanthasolo]

We are one in the same that we ALL love to dress. When it all boils down to WHY, what lies beneath is the 1000 different reasons. We can identify as to our own individuality and the vast diversity that sets us apart from others. What drives you is not what drives others, understanding and acceptance does not go hand in hand, and the more we interact with others like ourselves the more we find within ourself.

[cdrachael]

Good on you Sabrina, I'm gonna take a leaf out of your book one day and stop the head thoughts and just have fun. Love dressing so why be ashamed have fun instead. Do enjoy going out to the rubbish bin for fun to see who looks. hehehe

[CarlaWestin]

Yep, just Fun.
And funner than anything else I've found. And it even makes other stuff fun. Shopping (jeans and flats), doing housework (maid dress), bicycle riding (leotard and tights), etc...
I'm not sure it would work for funerals but, nothing makes funerals fun.

[Amanda L.]

Sabrina I think you have hit the nail on the head. I find it fun, enjoyable and sexy but still struggle to come to terms. Maybe its time to just get on with the fun aspect and stop overthinking it. Live for the moment.
Cheers
Amanda

[kimdl93]

Kim, the dopamine theory doing the loops here explains why this could become fun for an ordinary male without any deeper gender issues. Dopamine is very, very powerful stuff and can literally re-wire the human brain. We humans are pleasure seekers, after all. And I don't actually find it confusing that a man would find our clothing pleasurable. This part seems obvious - our clothes can be very different and more sensual to men's. Rather than wondering what makes a crossdresser curious about girls clothing, maybe we should ask what makes other men not? Are they the ones fighting a natural instinct? Will we ever know??

Sometimes an onion is just an onion. :)

I am unpersuaded. That still begs the question as to why that particular person tilted one way and not the other. In the nature nurture debate I remain firmly in the nature camp.

[Katey888]

We are one in the same that we ALL love to dress. When it all boils down to WHY, what lies beneath is the 1000 different reasons. We can identify as to our own individuality and the vast diversity that sets us apart from others. What drives you is not what drives others, understanding and acceptance does not go hand in hand, and the more we interact with others like ourselves the more we find within ourself.
Wow! Sami that is deep thinking and philosophical indeed... Not that I'm saying we shouldn't expect that from our more fashionable members ;), but just that those four lines are a great little summary of what brings us all together here...

And Kim - I do agree with you that there is more to it than just a random happenstance of thrill-seeking... Tinks point about why don't more men do it supports that perspective - if it was a simple action/reward feeling, surely more would be giving it a go...?

But this is a fun thread - so let's leave the analysis for more weighty threads and subjects... All analysis and no fun makes Jack... errrr.. Jill a dull girl... :cheer:

Katey x

[Jaylyn]

You are right it is just a fun, exciting and sometimes sexual thing thing for me to do. For whatever reason I just love the feel and the change I can make myself feel inside is just a fun, exciting way to spend an after noon. My percentage as male may not be as high as yours since I retired because I have been trying to dress more. A guy can't have too much fun. I still love my male time though to take the percentage much higher.

[Renee Elise]

Agreed! It is a lot of fun and sooo relaxing!

[sabrinaedwards]

Crossdressing is a solo activity for me.

[Michelletx34]

Almost always a solo event for me... And I love it! The family is gone from today until Sunday and I cannot wait to get home and turn Michelle on. Days and nights of lace, thongs, bras, and excitement.

[Jillian Kate]

It is fun and what a TURN ON!!! At least for me since I'm still kind of a rookie at it. I dabbled a bit in my younger years with a pair of heels but I really want to take this to a new level.

[okie zoe]

This has been a pretty big week for me just starting out and I have been racking my brain trying to figure out all the "why"s, but at the end of the day when I get off work and into my other clothes it doesn't really seem to matter as much why. Just that I'm alot happier than I was earlier in the day (and not because of my job :))

[BLUE ORCHID]

Hi Sabrina, If it wasn't fun how many of us would be doing this.

[suchacutie]

In my world, many, many more activities provide tremendous levels of fun without the high levels of effort necessary to be effective presenting asa wwoman, the cost involved, and the potential for being ostracized by family, ccoworkers, and friends. It just isn't that simple. I agree that being Tina is terrific. Describing why that is requires some long conversations such as those my wife and I have had over the years.

[Desirae]

I think for many of us, its more than just fun. It's necessary. Going without it for a sustained period of time and we suffer increased anxiety, nervousness, we get cranky, we get knots in our stomachs, we feel some kind of internal loss, our well-being suffers, etc. There can be psychologically induced physical ailments for depriving oneself of something you need.