Irony

[Danitgirl1]

Hi Gurls
At the risk of being 'political', don't you think it is ironic that with all the discrimination we face, with the fear many of us live with etc...
The threads that attract the most attention tend to be (and this is an entirely unscientific survey), in no particular order about:
Boobs
What toilet should I use/Should I pee standing up or sitting down?
Am I gay if I want to suck/screw/fornicate whatever a man when I am dressed or am I still straight?
What panties do you like?
Should I wear my thong over or under my garter belt straps?

We are so superficial, yet so deep... So concerned with labels, yet so prepared to shrug off the label of 'male' and pull on a lacey thong instead of our boxers.

I for one think this is very cool.

It shows a marked sang froid (I hope I am using that correctly) and an admirable obsession with being PRETTY.
Yay us!!!
:-)

[Tina G]

I agree with you :) I was very happy the other night when i was given a compliment by our waitress saying she wished she had fingernails as nice as mine.. made my evening

Tina

[Desirae]

This is likely because we're not allowed to bring up things political here. Actual, important, current goings on that do need discussing.

[Wildaboutheels]

Irony? No, big views/huge # of replies reflect the "real groupthink" of the majority that water here. Most simply do more lurking than posting and many that water here ONLY post to those type threads you mentioned.

Only the tiniest percentage who post here have ever been "out dressed" and most don't have any desire to. Brad Paisley was right on the money in his song.

No right, wrong, better or worse to any of it. Going out is just one more way to "help" alleviate shame and guilt. [for those that feel it]

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=UE6iAjEv9dQ

[Deedee Skyblue]

I don't agree that these are the threads that attract the most attention. Boobs, yes. But the rest of them are just splinters. The threads I see getting the most attention are the relationship threads.

Deedee

[sterusjon]

I have been lurking here, for the most part, for a couple years now. Early on, I read most everything, since I did not really understand much of what was going on with me. Now, however, I skip over the panty color discussions. I am not interested in that sort of thing. I have concluded that I am moderately GID. I tend to investigate threads that might aide me in presenting in a more feminine manner, more safely and more effectively so I can in some way to some degree experience life as a woman. I have no interest in the voyeurism of a private dressing session and the like. Of the twenty or so threads that come up on the list of recently active ones, I might open four or five of them based on the apparent subject.

I don't want to sound negative about all this. This site has been valuable in helping me to understand myself. Something I did not do for the first 50+ years of my life. It is just that I have moved on. I now know much better what/who I am thanks to the various and sundry threads I have read over these past couple of years.

Thanks are in order to all of you for your help to me, so, THANK YOU, all.

Stephanie

[mechamoose]

Gender identification isn't the same thing as sexual orientation.

Simple. Honest. Full stop.

You feel female as identity... got it. That has nothing to do with what you find sexually exciting.

[Emi_]

Agreed. Most of what goes on on the forums here is fantasy or personal drama.

[Teresa]

Danit,
I don't have a problem with members posting light hearted threads that are just a bit of fun ! Some of the wit from members is a great tonic , Cding isn't all doom and gloom !

The irony and importance of deeper issues are sometimes and surprisingly skipped over by members ! Maybe they take some people down a road they prefer not to travel again, which is perfectly understandable !

[Zylia]

For many of us, this website (and the internet as a whole) is the only place where we can interact with 'likeminded' people about this particular subject. Typical conversations here are about self-indulgence as much as cross-dressing itself.

The big bathroom question is the the perfect amalgamation of all binary (self-)identification issues. The bathroom you pick tells something about how you identify yourself (at that point), how you want to be identified by others and how clear the signage really is at that particular venue.

[Secret Drawer]

No offense to the OP, but nearly all the threads cover relationships, social acceptance, triumphs and failures going out, etc. Not too much about which thong to use? The bathroom question is quite important as we don't need to be arrested or draw unwanted attention for not following an obscure social rule. And yes, there are those am I gay threads as well. Mostly this is a support site and not a porn site so for those interested in getting themselves off, this isn't really the best place for that.
I suppose we all see with slightly different tinted glasses so this very forum is viewed in differing ways by its members.

[Danitgirl1]

Hi Gurls
So this was really meant as a tongue in cheek comment.
I was really going for: 'hey despite all the bs in our lives, we still get to have fun'. I really wasn't trying to diss anyone who has posted on those threads I mentioned and I really wasn't trying to be nasty. Hell I have commented on some of those threads in the past AND I have avidly read the which loo do I use ones as well!

I am sorry if this was misread or offended anyone.
And yes of course being a CD means your life gets very complicated: choosing the right toilet is critical of course, as is choosing JUST the right panty!
But in the cold light of day it is kinda funny too that we obsess over these things that others take for granted. Or is that just me?
And for me that is great! Without humour the world is a very sad place.

So sorry to any and all that were offended. I really value EVERYONE'S input and of course we all walk different roads. Sometimes our road is a double lane highway, other times an overgrown path. When we come to the overgrown paths it is REALLY good to have people here who can help us and see us through these difficult times with advice, a shoulder to cry on etc. This is a great site and I value you all. I will rein in my rather dry humour in future. As soon as someone hands me a shovel so I can dig this hole deeper that is.

Hugs and kisses to ALL of you
Daniella

[samantha rogers]

Gee, late to the party as alaways, ditzy thing that I am...tee hee, but I saw the intended humor, Daniella. I laughed in self recognition. Lol

[Beverley Sims]

Some comments are superficial, some are deep.
That's how it goes.

[Danitgirl1]

Takes on to know one Ms Rogers! :-)

[Danitgirl1]

And some are deeply superficial and others superficially deep... this one is probably just bs
;-)

[Emi_]

Good to couch the criticisms in humor. Don't want to upset anyone who might actually be superficial.

[reb.femme]

......The bathroom you pick tells something about how you identify yourself (at that point), how you want to be identified by others and how clear the signage really is at that particular venue.

Now this made me chuckle Zylia, whilst I'm sat in my lonely hotel room.....and oh so true!

Rebecca