melissaK
07-04-2014, 05:50 AM
Its 3:00 am. I'm awake. Caffeine? Sensitivity to my OTC allergy meds? Or? FB, email, some online news, I surfed my way here. I take that as a sign that underneath my insomnia is the same old stuff. GD has shown signs of escaping containment.
As some of you recall, I don't come here often anymore, I have been doing a pretty good job of living in the middle* - on HT, out to closest friends and family only, and I found a middle ground with my wonderful wife. But, I am here at the forum nonetheless. Am I slipping into some denial based behaviors again? Some part of me trying to sneak back into the completely straight life? That always triggers GD. And like R. Dean Taylor sang about Indiana, "Lord I can't go back there."
So, living in the middle means balancing my HT so I have female traits and keep male sexual function. I have been doing this balancing act for years, and it is always tricky. If I blast all my T away, I have no GD, but then my wife is unhappy as I have no interest in traditional male role sexual encounters. And lately, I have been doing the opposite, cutting the anti-T and trying to keep more sexual function. Yes yes, I know all about cake and eating it too, like I said it's a balancing act.
When it's civil hour I will talk this out with my wife, she is a partner in this and we have a year old pact to talk EVERYTHING out. As many of you know, we lead secret lives until we come fully out, and then our revelations destroy the trust our spouses once had in us, and that paradigm was true for my wife and I. Total honesty and joint decision making is the only way we can think to keep our relationship working post coming out.
So I suppose the whole point of this post is to say what all the TS here know, and to confirm what all the TS literature says, you will likely get relief from GD with HT. Do less than full HT and you will likely get less than full relief from GD.
OK, self run therapy session done. I'm going back to bed I think. :)
(*Oh, I know some think the middle is a foolish place to try to be, but I remind such naysayers that per the language of the SOC, "The SOC are intended to be flexible in order to meet the diverse health care needs of transsexual, transgender, and gender non-conforming people. . . .individual health professionals and programs may modify them.")
As some of you recall, I don't come here often anymore, I have been doing a pretty good job of living in the middle* - on HT, out to closest friends and family only, and I found a middle ground with my wonderful wife. But, I am here at the forum nonetheless. Am I slipping into some denial based behaviors again? Some part of me trying to sneak back into the completely straight life? That always triggers GD. And like R. Dean Taylor sang about Indiana, "Lord I can't go back there."
So, living in the middle means balancing my HT so I have female traits and keep male sexual function. I have been doing this balancing act for years, and it is always tricky. If I blast all my T away, I have no GD, but then my wife is unhappy as I have no interest in traditional male role sexual encounters. And lately, I have been doing the opposite, cutting the anti-T and trying to keep more sexual function. Yes yes, I know all about cake and eating it too, like I said it's a balancing act.
When it's civil hour I will talk this out with my wife, she is a partner in this and we have a year old pact to talk EVERYTHING out. As many of you know, we lead secret lives until we come fully out, and then our revelations destroy the trust our spouses once had in us, and that paradigm was true for my wife and I. Total honesty and joint decision making is the only way we can think to keep our relationship working post coming out.
So I suppose the whole point of this post is to say what all the TS here know, and to confirm what all the TS literature says, you will likely get relief from GD with HT. Do less than full HT and you will likely get less than full relief from GD.
OK, self run therapy session done. I'm going back to bed I think. :)
(*Oh, I know some think the middle is a foolish place to try to be, but I remind such naysayers that per the language of the SOC, "The SOC are intended to be flexible in order to meet the diverse health care needs of transsexual, transgender, and gender non-conforming people. . . .individual health professionals and programs may modify them.")